Thoughts on if a guy doesn’t snapchat you back for hours but also hasn’t opened the app since then either?

So I met a guy off tinder like over a month now and we message off and on on snapchat and we’ve hung out about a handful of times. Everything has been going good since the last time we saw each other. But lately he hasn’t been messaging back as often and when he does I don’t get any cute messages like he usually sends just random stuff we usually just send bitmojis clowning around. So I asked him if something was wrong and he says he’s busy helping his dad at his dads house and stuff because his dad broke his back. But sometimes he literally goes as long as 3 hours before he texts me back but he doesn’t even check his snapchat within that time either (he has his maps on so I can see when he last opened the app). So I’m confused if he really is busy for that long to even send one little one minute message or if he’s purposely taking that long to reply back now and not checking the app. Then 4 days goes by and we haven’t planned a day to hangout like he said so I asked him again if something else was wrong and he says he’s helping his dad still and he is possibly looking at buying a house and that he doesn’t think this work at his dads will take all week this time so he hopes he can see me sometime later this week. It’s weird though because I find not texting back 3-4 hours or more something seems off. And also he doesn’t work right now because of the corona virus either.

Do you think he could seriously just be that busy and maybe he’s not sending the cute messages because he’s stressed with being busy or could he be using the busy as an excuse and he’s not that busy and is just becoming uninterested but still says he wants to see me to not make me think he doesn’t want to be together? I don’t know what to think I’m just so confused about all this. Any advice?

TD;LR If a guy is becoming distant in messages and uses an excuse that he’s busy helping his dad would you believe him even if he doesn’t message back for hours like 3+ hours and if he isn’t sending cute messages anymore? Or do you think something else is going on that it’s not all because he’s busy at his dads? But at the same time he said last night he still wanted to see me this week?!



Submitted May 11, 2020 at 11:53PM

So I met a guy off tinder like over a month now and we message off and on on snapchat and we’ve hung out about a handful of times. Everything has been going good since the last time we saw each other. But lately he hasn’t been messaging back as often and when he does I don’t get any cute messages like he usually sends just random stuff we usually just send bitmojis clowning around. So I asked him if something was wrong and he says he’s busy helping his dad at his dads house and stuff because his dad broke his back. But sometimes he literally goes as long as 3 hours before he texts me back but he doesn’t even check his snapchat within that time either (he has his maps on so I can see when he last opened the app). So I’m confused if he really is busy for that long to even send one little one minute message or if he’s purposely taking that long to reply back now and not checking the app. Then 4 days goes by and we haven’t planned a day to hangout like he said so I asked him again if something else was wrong and he says he’s helping his dad still and he is possibly looking at buying a house and that he doesn’t think this work at his dads will take all week this time so he hopes he can see me sometime later this week. It’s weird though because I find not texting back 3-4 hours or more something seems off. And also he doesn’t work right now because of the corona virus either.Do you think he could seriously just be that busy and maybe he’s not sending the cute messages because he’s stressed with being busy or could he be using the busy as an excuse and he’s not that busy and is just becoming uninterested but still says he wants to see me to not make me think he doesn’t want to be together? I don’t know what to think I’m just so confused about all this. Any advice?TD;LR If a guy is becoming distant in messages and uses an excuse that he’s busy helping his dad would you believe him even if he doesn’t message back for hours like 3+ hours and if he isn’t sending cute messages anymore? Or do you think something else is going on that it’s not all because he’s busy at his dads? But at the same time he said last night he still wanted to see me this week?!
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