Can confirm, you're not alone! Literally a day or so ago I asked a similar question along the lines of "What's the word for when you find fictional characters attractive but not real people?" and found out about aegosexuality thanks to some really helpful users. I'm sex-aversed, so I can't say I've had the exact same experience as you when it come to liking fictional characters, but I too never could "see myself with them" so much as I just really like their designs and personalities. I also fantasize about characters and even OCs of mine in relationships, but just emotional bonds and cuddling (and going on adventures/fighting epic monsters because that's always fun :p). Also, I've had a very similar social experience too in terms of male friends, unfortunately... I'm nonbinary (AFAB), but I'm not out to anyone irl, and the only male friends I haven't lost due to them wanting more out of the relationship despite me telling ...

I’m questioning myself. I can find people attractive but have never had the urge or thoughts of having sex with them. I think it could be nice to cuddle or be physically close to someone but sex feels like too much. I’m also pretty selective about who I would want to be in physical contact with for things like hugs. I feel really confused about sex and like I don’t understand it. September 05, 2020 at 11:55PM

i thought you were heypoppy when i first looked at you September 05, 2020 at 11:55PM

Dating and romance gives me so much anxiety. I know I want to, but I don't know if I ever will or even how that would work. September 05, 2020 at 11:54PM

Same, I've only come out to a few friends (and Reddit obviously). I just don't want people's questions and ignorance. September 05, 2020 at 11:53PM

Honestly when people say my beauty is such a waste and that I'm such a tease, I feel very insecure and guilty. It's so easy to forget that my existence's purpose is not just to please other people. I hope I can get to this level of security in my sexuality. September 05, 2020 at 11:51PM

Exactly. I've ever failed to recognize my own reflection at least once due to a mirror being somewhere I didn't expect a mirror to be September 05, 2020 at 11:51PM

According to my parents definition of “asexual”. I am a bacteria. September 05, 2020 at 11:51PM

See, not all people are completely broken. That was genuinely heartwarming and made my evening, thank you for sharing. September 05, 2020 at 11:49PM

Not to toot my own horn but I’m also a relatively attractive ace. It gets tiring turning people down, and people getting offended Some girl tried to get in my pants that I had known for years, and I finally told her I was asexual and she laughed :( Why can’t others accept I don’t want to fuck them without them getting angry, defensive, and mean? September 05, 2020 at 11:47PM

I want to get Q-workshop dice one day! Was really excited when I saw they make ones that glow, too! September 05, 2020 at 11:44PM

u/notsokeesiafterall I think it less about looking "ugly" and more about looking like couch potatoes who have no interest in dressing up, putting on make-up and doing those kinds of things because the only reason people do that is "to incite potential sexual partners". It goes hand in hand with the stereotype that aces are bad at socializing, don't like parties, don't drink alcohol or do drugs, etc. Also, you look stunning thanks for blessing my feed. September 05, 2020 at 11:43PM

please recommend me a lovely gift for my wife. Submitted September 05, 2020 at 11:10PM please recommend me a lovely gift for my wife.

Last night after a happy hour trip to our local brewery, I was very drunk. Skipped lunch and all. My husband sat me down on the couch and put on a sappy chick flick for me (he hates them but picked one out???) while he heated up and served dinner. Also on the couch. That’s all. We’ve been married just over a year but I can’t freaking wait for a lifetime with him. Submitted September 05, 2020 at 11:25PM Last night after a happy hour trip to our local brewery, I was very drunk. Skipped lunch and all. My husband sat me down on the couch and put on a sappy chick flick for me (he hates them but picked one out???) while he heated up and served dinner. Also on the couch.That’s all. We’ve been married just over a year but I can’t freaking wait for a lifetime with him.

Ok everyone, I'm really struggling with this and I need some additional perspective: I'm 39, married since 2018. My wife is def used to a more affluent lifestyle than I am. I make good money, I just prefer to spend it on investments and old cars. When we got married I ended up spending somewhere close to $60k on the wedding, which was way more than I expected, but it's a once in a lifetime thing and it's not like I was hard up for the money anyways. Right before we married we sold both of our houses, (mine was 1600sf and old, hers was a newer 2400sf townhouse) and instead we purchased an older 3,400sf house with a detached 3,000s.f. garage. I've spent the last two years remodeling the house, and the Kitchen and Master bath are all that's left to rehab. This week she hits me with the idea of wanting to move again. She's set her sights on a 6,500s.f. (plus basement) new construction from Toll Brothers with a 5 car garage. Total Price: $2.3m, or nearly 5x t...

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With the pandemic meaning that all the bars and usual spots are closed. Where do you even go to date, anyway? I'm completely lost at sea. Submitted September 05, 2020 at 11:23PM With the pandemic meaning that all the bars and usual spots are closed. Where do you even go to date, anyway? I'm completely lost at sea.

So, I'm a very Type A person. And a little anxious. Things matter to me a lot. My work performance matters, my friend's wellbeing matters, how good the batch of brownies I made for the bake sale at work last weekend matters to me. I'm not a "super chill" person. I'm kinda fierce. I fight hard for causes. When I start dating someone I like to know that they're equally into the idea with positive reinforcement vibes coming from them. This year I've mainly dated similar Type As. It's been kinda nice. They get why the things that matter matter intensely to me. But when things are a bit crappy, having both of us be kinda intense has felt exhausting and destined for trouble. I'm currently engaging in the cusp of getting to know a very type B guy. I find his chill outlook quite refreshing. I've seen him in what would be high stress situations for me just get on with it without a care in the world. It has been a little frustrated at times to hav...

I am 48, male and about to be alone for the first time in about 20 years. I'm scared as hell. When I was single in my early twenties, I was often lonely, but never felt truly hopeless. My first wife left me for another man. I left my second wife for my ex. I thought my ex was the love of my life. She's already moved on emotionally. I recently met a woman on a dating app. We chatted for a while. There was a great deal of chemistry. We met briefly in person, hugged and kissed. She confirmed our date for two nights later. I messaged her later and she replied that it was great to see me. Then she ghosted me. It is beginning to feel like a strong possibility that I will be alone for the rest of my days. I have two wonderful daughters, so I won't be truly alone, and I am eternally grateful for them. However, they will be with their mother most of the time. I do have a job, but no car yet. It appears that I have little women today want. More than dying, I am petrified of bei...

I’ve always been terrible at saying no or setting boundaries. I’ve stuck around in relationships where I wasn’t happy because I didn’t know how to extract myself early on. I’m trying to learn new skills and I’m coming to the internet to ask “how do you turn someone down after a couple of dates?” What do you say? How do you nicely communicate with someone that they’re kind but you’re not feeling it? Do you have a set script? Are there rules around this or some etiquette to follow? I’d be interested in hearing what you’ve said and how people reacted. I figure that saying it two dates in is the right way to go... as opposed to sinking more time and energy into it. I feel bad because he is kind, attractive, and we’ve had several long phone conversations. But I’m not feeling the sexual attraction or a desire to keep the dating going. I feel awful! How do I say it say it? Please share your experience :) help me learn what to say! Submitted September 05, 2020 at 06:37PM I’ve always ...

31/F, rarely attracted to anyone. I can identify when someone is stereotypically attractive, but also, at the same time, have zero attraction toward that person. It has nothing to do with being “too picky” about someone’s appearance (I’m a little overweight and have been out with guys who were average attractiveness and well above average attractiveness), because the men to whom I’ve been attracted have varied. I’ve pretty much been this way my whole life. I’ve had relationships (and was truly attracted to around two of them—when I was younger I would “date” someone I wasn’t that attracted to, but the last time I dated someone I wasn’t that physically attracted to was 2007-2010ish). Just wondering if anyone else has experienced this. Somewhat worried I’m broken, lol. Submitted September 05, 2020 at 10:00PM 31/F, rarely attracted to anyone. I can identify when someone is stereotypically attractive, but also, at the same time, have zero attraction toward that person. It has nothi...

Me(30M) has been single for the last 4 years. I stayed single mainly because I was in a place I didn't wanna live so I didn't wanna get stuck there(I was living in Oklahoma and hated it), so I stayed single until I moved away, and then spent the last year and a half working on myself(I had a transplant, switched jobs, etc) and finally decided back in aprilish that I was ready to find a relationship. So I starting using all the OLD apps, mainly because I don't go to bars or clubs....plus corona, and I talked to a few people but nothing panned out. They were either looking for someone religious, lived further away and didn't wanna make any effort towards the idea of a relationship, or I was just ghosted. In May my uncle passed away, and that's when I got super depressed, and really started looking for a relationship (not a super good combo because I was trying to supplement the sadness with someone else) and ended up being ghosted by someone I was super into which ...

Hi, I am new to the thread and dating in United States. I am a 39 year old woman interested in dating and a long term relationship. I would like to know from you the following: 1) Dating site that you would recommend for me, as I understand I would be competing with women who are half my age, I would like to know my odds 2) How is the dating scenario in United States? Do men prefer never-married women who want to have a family and a later age in their lives? 3) More specifically, how is the dating scenario for women of different ethnicities? I am from India with a promising career. Submitted September 05, 2020 at 07:55PM Hi, I am new to the thread and dating in United States. I am a 39 year old woman interested in dating and a long term relationship. I would like to know from you the following:1) Dating site that you would recommend for me, as I understand I would be competing with women who are half my age, I would like to know my odds2) How is the dating scenario in United ...