Hello guys, I had been texting with a girl, that i see every day at the railway station. We had a nice conversation for 4 or 5 days and then she stopped texting. I wrote after 2 days If everything is ok and she didn’t answer. So after 4 days i wrote to a classmate of her and a friend from me if she knows anything why she doesnt answer(she did not know anything) but then she spoke to her and texted me that shes not interested, i was totally fine with that and didn’t expected anything more. But than the girl actually texted me that shes very sorry that she didnt answer, but that shes not interested at the moment and she really wanted to say me that earlier but didnt know how. So i really want to try to get together with her because she looks perfect and has a pretty nice character we even share some hobbies and interests and i really thought she was interested in me too because she always looked at me etc. . So my question is now should i try it because she said shes not interested at t

I’m starting to worry I don’t feel sexual attraction. I can feel attracted to guys instantly but it’s very rare, and they are usually super hot long hair beards etc. But generally I get to know a guy and all of a sudden they grow on me. I start getting an aroused feeling around them, it feels nice, but it’s not like a ‘fuck me now’ urge. It gives me energy, I flirt and tease but it’s not an instant urge to fuck. I’m confused. Submitted April 10, 2021 at 12:16AM I’m starting to worry I don’t feel sexual attraction.I can feel attracted to guys instantly but it’s very rare, and they are usually super hot long hair beards etc.But generally I get to know a guy and all of a sudden they grow on me. I start getting an aroused feeling around them, it feels nice, but it’s not like a ‘fuck me now’ urge. It gives me energy, I flirt and tease but it’s not an instant urge to fuck. I’m confused.

Beautiful 💜 Thank you 💜 April 09, 2021 at 11:59PM

Ok here’s what I’m guessing, based on what you put: You’re asexual - you have no sexual attraction You’re heteromantic (or homoromantic if you’re male, I kinda assumed you were female based on wording) - you’re romantically attracted to men You have aesthetic attraction to both sexes Making-out is too sexual an act for you. But you don’t seem sex-repulsed, as you might consider having sex with an SO. Again, these are my guesses based on your descriptions, but sexuality I believe is something you need to figure out for yourself. April 09, 2021 at 11:54PM

Ye ye! April 09, 2021 at 11:51PM

A small price to pay for garlic bread April 09, 2021 at 11:49PM

Thanks! :D April 09, 2021 at 11:48PM

Ok then. I wasn’t sure if it was intentional in this image or just a mistake April 09, 2021 at 11:47PM

Thank you for sharing about your experience. I think some closure would be helpful - especially if it can help him to see that he is not the cause or in the wrong. April 09, 2021 at 11:45PM

Uhh where's the video? Just asking for me and like a dozen of my friends who desperately need some way to explain to their therapists IT'S NOT THE F*KING TRAUMA. Cough sputter mutter mutter April 09, 2021 at 11:43PM

This is awesome!! April 09, 2021 at 11:38PM

I'm so happy that he's supportive! Also, that's a snazzy ring. Where can I get one like that? April 09, 2021 at 11:36PM

I feel this really deep down in my soul April 09, 2021 at 11:35PM

While tungsten can't be cut off it can be shattered fairly easily and safely. They don't have to cut off your finger. Please do us and yourself a favor and read more than the tag line next time. April 09, 2021 at 11:33PM

I actually recently told my ex that I'm ace. I broke up with him around 6 months ago when I was really trying to figure things out. It was a bit of a weird conversation and we've both moved on, but it was a nice bit of closure? He said he'd suspected I wasn't telling him something when I broke up with him and I think it helped him to know what it was. I think he'd always felt that he'd done something wrong. I say, if you are thinking about it then go for it. Maybe it won't matter at all, but maybe it'll help at least one of you. April 09, 2021 at 11:32PM

I've been wondering if I should get one, but now I doubt my taste. I had no idea there were cool and unique rings like this. Now I think I should think outside the box. You've inspired me! April 09, 2021 at 11:26PM

I had the same problem for a number of days just about a week or two ago, I’m seventeen and have a REALLY strong desire for a girlfriend, but really none to have sex with them, I just want to cuddle and kiss them. From the sound of it: you’re ace my friend, you’re like me. Edit: I’m sure enough people have answered for you to have figured this out already, but I just got so excited when you described yourself so similarly to me, it’s nice to find someone that feels like you. April 09, 2021 at 11:24PM

That's true... Thank you! April 09, 2021 at 11:24PM

Chin up. You are valid. You never know. Some may be alloromantic asexual. April 09, 2021 at 11:22PM

I kinda felt the same way for a few days after discovering I was ace (except straight male instead of lesbian) April 09, 2021 at 11:18PM

sorry mate i edited my comment just as you posted this lol, i decided i didnt really want to talk about it. but i dont wanna gatekeep so please could you explain why im wrong? im genuinely trying to understand lol, and im sorry if i am actually gatekeeping. but please explain it because you haven't changed my mind yet. like do you not agree with my squirrel analogy? April 09, 2021 at 11:18PM

Take the gatekeeping elsewhere. April 09, 2021 at 11:14PM

I don't wear it that often anyway. April 09, 2021 at 11:08PM