So my boyfriend is 6’3 and I’m 5’0 and we still haven’t had sex. The thing is, I’m scared. I’m scared it’ll hurt because he is so much bigger than me and that his penis is pretty big. Oh we’re both virgins btw. How do I overcome this fear and what should I do to make it more pleasurable for both of us? Submitted April 12, 2020 at 11:46PM So my boyfriend is 6’3 and I’m 5’0 and we still haven’t had sex. The thing is, I’m scared. I’m scared it’ll hurt because he is so much bigger than me and that his penis is pretty big. Oh we’re both virgins btw. How do I overcome this fear and what should I do to make it more pleasurable for both of us?

I’m not the best at expressing myself sexually. Asking for what I want, or even to have sex, is really difficult. It’s not impossible, I just get really anxious and nervous when I do. I think it stems from a fear of rejection, as I’ve had a very bad experience in the past. It may also have something to do with fear of scaring someone away. Does anyone have any tips on how to improve one’s sexual assertiveness? Submitted April 12, 2020 at 11:46PM I’m not the best at expressing myself sexually. Asking for what I want, or even to have sex, is really difficult. It’s not impossible, I just get really anxious and nervous when I do. I think it stems from a fear of rejection, as I’ve had a very bad experience in the past. It may also have something to do with fear of scaring someone away. Does anyone have any tips on how to improve one’s sexual assertiveness?

So I made out a couple of times with my best girl friend since high school, the question is - I fingered her once, do I add her to my body count list or not, cuz my current girlfriend asked me and I ignored it, the question is should I keep it a 9 or the fingering is ALSO added to this number, cuz 10 sounds waaayyy bigger than 9 sadly and idk what to do? Submitted April 12, 2020 at 11:53PM So I made out a couple of times with my best girl friend since high school, the question is - I fingered her once, do I add her to my body count list or not, cuz my current girlfriend asked me and I ignored it, the question is should I keep it a 9 or the fingering is ALSO added to this number, cuz 10 sounds waaayyy bigger than 9 sadly and idk what to do?

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Wondered what positions you all like if you plan to be kissing/sucking your partner’s breasts for an extended time. Submitted April 12, 2020 at 11:58PM Wondered what positions you all like if you plan to be kissing/sucking your partner’s breasts for an extended time.

It’s been a while since I did any anal play, and I’d really like to get some new plugs. I don’t even know where to start, though, because my last set was bought by an ex-boyfriend and lost in the breakup aftermath. My current boyfriend and I are starting to spice things up, and we both love plugs so I’d like to get a new set to use. I’m looking for a vibrating plug with a control he can use wirelessly, and possibly a duo or a trio set to work up to larger sizes as well. I used silicone in the past, and that would be my preference. Also, discreet shipping is a must as I live at home for the time being. Thanks for the help! Submitted April 13, 2020 at 12:01AM It’s been a while since I did any anal play, and I’d really like to get some new plugs. I don’t even know where to start, though, because my last set was bought by an ex-boyfriend and lost in the breakup aftermath. My current boyfriend and I are starting to spice things up, and we both love plugs so I’d like to get a new se...

My partner is smokin' hot and has a lovely, thick penis. We usually don't do much foreplay when we have sex (I'll often suck his dick for a bit but that's about it), but the sex itself is awesome and steamy and he always makes sure I orgasm before he does. I'm always turned on when we go at it but sometimes my vag isn't super wet/open at the beginning due to lack of physical stimulation, which can be an issue given his dimensions. Usually we use a bit of spit as lube, it's a little tight at first, but gets going pretty quick. However, several times now I've experienced vaginal tearing that caused me to bleed onto his dick. It's not super painful (even kind of feels good to get "stretched" like that) but nevertheless super embarrassing for me and I'm sure a total turn off for him. I don't really want to ask him for foreplay because I'm otherwise satisfied without it. It's such a privilege to fuck this guy and I hate that I c...

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So growing up I was always told that oral sex is the BEST THING ever, and is actually better than sex. A “treat” girls do for us when we treat them really good. A reward. Well, I’ve gotten head once. It sucked. No pun intended. Granted she wasn’t that hot, I was tired and sick, and it was a hookup so I was of course nervous and stuff. But the actual pleasure didn’t feel all that good. I was quite sensitive down there, it almost hurt a little when she sucked. Also, blowjobs are so slow. I mean, don’t guys need a lot of tightness, and fast thrusting to come? Blowjobs seen the opposite. Slow, loose and relaxing. Which is fine if it’s just a soothing act of love, however, to get a lot of enjoyment? Maybe I’m missing something. Whenever I watch porn and stuff, some guys can come from head, but most of the time they have to jerk it themselves. Whenever I masturbate I have to tense my legs and go REALLY fast. This could just be me. Blowjobs for sure feel good, but I mean how are they a subst...

I’ll try to keep this somewhat short; Basically, I’ve only been able to finish on my own, and only through clitoral means. Even then, it’s so...uneventful. It feels more like a sigh rather than an actual orgasm. However, when I’m with my boyfriend, especially when he fingers me, it feels so intense and as if I’m going to finish, but I never really get there; it just stays at this plateau for an eternity until eventually he gets tired and it disappears. It’s really frustrating, and I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to :/ Has anyone else had this problem? What made you get over the edge? TLDR: Orgasms when I’m alone feel like a sigh, and with my bf I always get close but never quite get there. Am I broken? Submitted April 13, 2020 at 12:26AM I’ll try to keep this somewhat short; Basically, I’ve only been able to finish on my own, and only through clitoral means. Even then, it’s so...uneventful. It feels more like a sigh rather than an actual orgasm.However, when I’m with my boy...

My hubby and I enjoy playing with you all 😉😉 Submitted April 13, 2020 at 12:27AM My hubby and I enjoy playing with you all 😉😉

30/f. I have a lot of body image issues and due to that I have a lot of trouble getting out there and dating. Unfortunately most probably wouldn’t know as I use to model full time and now just part time as I have another career. It takes me forever to get ready for a date and I’m always nervous due to my appearance . I’ve been told I look like a lot like Mika Kunis but I don’t see it. I try a lot of makeup techniques and prefer to wear body foundation. I prefer to wear it before sex but I’m also nervous that I’ll be judged for that. I see a lot on this forum about how appearance is meaningless and men hate women that wear any makeup or put a lot of effort into their appearance. I’ve spent years being single and focusing on myself. Including therapy but this issue has never improved. I do want to state as I feel like I’m getting old and don’t want to not be a relationship. I still like to put a lot of effort into my appearance as it helps my anxiety & insecurities. Would men be op...

5 weeks of WFH. Almost no interactions with people beside work. I'm 31, single. Few unsuccessful attempts to date in the past. I've never had serious relationships. I'm sporty and outdoorsy, has a good profession but introvert-ish (not to the point that I can't handle people, but I prefer to avoid crowds). And I'm attracted to girls that seem to be way out of my league. I'm not talking about supermodels, but girls who have a good, proportional body and who are intelligent. Girls who appear to be in social groups to which I could never fit. I can't lower my standards because I just feel more comfortable being alone than with someone I'm not attracted to. And I just can't get better enough to fit that other social layer where pretty girls are. I can't change my cat personality. I'm lost. What should I do? Submitted April 12, 2020 at 11:58PM 5 weeks of WFH. Almost no interactions with people beside work.I'm 31, single. Few unsuc...

I (24M) am trying to get back into dating. I go to school full-time and work full-time so my schedule can be kind of unpredictable. Recently, I started talking to a girl in one of my classes and we became friends. Things did not work out (my fault, too clingy among other reasons) and she told me she was not interested in a relationship. This gave me a newfound courage to step back out there and start dating again. The problem is that I don't have a lot of friends and I have very poor dating skills. I can work on that, but I have no idea where to even start dating , especially since my interaction with other students is very limited. Any suggestions on where to start dating or how? Submitted April 12, 2020 at 11:59PM I (24M) am trying to get back into dating. I go to school full-time and work full-time so my schedule can be kind of unpredictable. Recently, I started talking to a girl in one of my classes and we became friends. Things did not work out (my fault, too clingy amo...

So i got more or less recently out of a long term relationship. I fonslly felt like dating again and got tinder. Matched with a girl who looks amazing and has a lot in common with me. So after a few years in a relationship my game got a little rusty. I got her number and we switched from tinder to whatsapp. And now what? I feel like she‘s interested in me but its hard to keep the convo going since i seem a little more interested i guess, also i have no clue how long i should wait before i answer her. Normally i‘d just suggest to go on a date and see if we get along in person, but due to covid-19 thats not possible right now. Any advice on how to do that whole flirt-text-dating thing? Submitted April 13, 2020 at 12:04AM So i got more or less recently out of a long term relationship. I fonslly felt like dating again and got tinder. Matched with a girl who looks amazing and has a lot in common with me. So after a few years in a relationship my game got a little rusty. I got her num...

I don’t think I would want to be born asexual if I could choose. Not because I want to be sexual, but because finding someone to have a relationship would be much easier. Most allos doesn’t want a sexless relationship in today’s society. I kind of see this as a “you’re so lucky you’re gay” like, what? It’s just a stupid comment from people in general but it doesn’t really make me angry. I personally don’t find sex disgusting (or...it changes from time to time) My best friend on the other hand thinks it’s VERY disgusting. I don’t know if I could see myself offering to do it with a partner. But it’s not as if I’d rather die or that I throw up at the thought of it. It’s just a thing that exists that I feel northing about personally. I don’t know this one since I’m a girl. But I know that many asexuals masturbate (not me. I’ve never felt the need to) but for men it can become a medical issue if they don’t. Masturbating doesn’t make you less of an asexual. It’s just something yo...

Sounds like a dickhead April 13, 2020 at 12:12AM

I'm curious how that happened. April 13, 2020 at 12:11AM

I like girls. Just from far away, preferably on the other side of a boardgame. April 13, 2020 at 12:09AM

do people actually struggle with this? April 13, 2020 at 12:08AM

That asexuals can fall in love just like everyone else This is the first time I'm hearing that we shouldn't be included in LGBT because we're generally straight passing. I disagree with asexual being lumped into LGBT for different reasons. I'm just as invisible in the LGBT community as I am with cis/straights, the only difference is who the people who don't see me are having sex with. In my personal experience, a lot of people in the LGBT community are seriously acephobic and I have to pretend to be a sexual person to be tolerated at group meets. The biggest adversity I've faced by far is exactly that--nobody thinks I'm real or valid. Straight/cis people think my asexuality is a mental or physical defect that needs to be fixed. LGBT people also think so, but are more likely to be rude to my face about it. Even religious people who prize virginity and think sex is evil have a problem with asexuality because good girls are supposed to get married and submit...

Send me their contact info. My sexual desire is Cake and I would love if they could make it chocolate cake with strawberries and pink frosting on top. Oo and maybe send a caprisun while they’re at it! April 12, 2020 at 11:54PM

I'm not saying anyone can control it or that there is anything necessarily wrong with it. I just find that being able to control it myself, I recognise the selfishness. Lots of people are selfish for different reasons. I can be selfish financially for example. I can't control that, but it doesn't mean I'm not selfish in that regard. OP even recognises that this is selfish. But love transgresses boundaries and I've managed to support someone financially for a year when they genuinely needed it because of love, despite my boundaries surrounding money. People can't control not being attracted to someone they love if that person gets in an accident. But I'm glad that's not me because I would never put someone through that. I can turn that off because it's so inconsequential in the context of an emotional bond. That doesn't define love as sacrifice. But to me the definition of love includes making that sacrifice if needed. The issue I have with aes...