(39M) I was reading a friend's post today on how to support somebody that has depression, anxiety and bipolar disorder. I was that guy. I was dating (F40) that was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. For nine years I went through everything with her. I read books, articles, joined an online group and spoke with friends about her. I absolutely did everything for her because I loved her unconditionally and still she left me. It's been 2 and a half years since we broke up and I was getting over it until this stupid post brought up all the memories. I want to get back into the dating game, but with the amount of work I put into my last relationship I poured everything into it and still lost her. Now I feel like I want to crawl back into my she'll and never leave. What the hell do I do? Submitted August 18, 2021 at 11:45PM (39M) I was reading a friend's post today on how to support somebody that has depression, anxiety and bipolar disorder. I was that guy. I was dating (...

So I meet this girl working at a shop in a mall near me, we hit it off and we’ve been texting for a few days. We exchange instagrams and I’m casually browsing through her posts and realise she is slightly older than me. I’m 22 and she’s 24 which for some girls is a big turn off. For some added context, I’m financially secure for my age with a very good job, car and my own place. Should I lie about my age and tell her I’m 25 or should I be upfront about it? I have lied about my age in the past but after a few dates once my personality comes through and they realise I’m quite mature for my age they don’t mind Submitted August 18, 2021 at 11:45PM So I meet this girl working at a shop in a mall near me, we hit it off and we’ve been texting for a few days. We exchange instagrams and I’m casually browsing through her posts and realise she is slightly older than me. I’m 22 and she’s 24 which for some girls is a big turn off. For some added context, I’m financially secure for my age wit...

Has anyone a working solution for dating during the pandemic? At first I thought Apps like Tinder or Bumble could be a solution but my experience with them is as shit as always. Are there other platforms that work better? I'm a fat european male(27), I know my chances are almost non existent but still. Submitted August 19, 2021 at 12:02AM Has anyone a working solution for dating during the pandemic? At first I thought Apps like Tinder or Bumble could be a solution but my experience with them is as shit as always.Are there other platforms that work better?I'm a fat european male(27), I know my chances are almost non existent but still.

I am Male(19) it feels like I can't talk to girls and whenever I try, they just ignore me or think im joking. It has really killed my confidence in myself and my body. Any suggestions? I just can't find any girls to even talk to anymore. Submitted August 19, 2021 at 12:05AM I am Male(19) it feels like I can't talk to girls and whenever I try, they just ignore me or think im joking. It has really killed my confidence in myself and my body. Any suggestions? I just can't find any girls to even talk to anymore.

So I have been dating a girl for a month now (been seeing each other for 2 months) and I think im ready to say the big “i love you”. In terms of actual time it feels so early, but in terms of how i feel i almost NEED to say it. We just went on a trip to the city together and spend so much time together. I couldn’t count the amount of dates, but weve done so much in the past 2 months and its been perfect. This trip made me realize how much i truly like her and when im close to her i feel a pulse in my heart. Since the trip and dropping her off at her house ive felt so shakey like i need to tell her. Shes on my mind every second. Basically im just trying to ask if its too early to ask or not Submitted August 19, 2021 at 12:06AM So I have been dating a girl for a month now (been seeing each other for 2 months) and I think im ready to say the big “i love you”. In terms of actual time it feels so early, but in terms of how i feel i almost NEED to say it. We just went on a trip to the...

I started dating my coworker this month and things have been going pretty well. In a week and a half, I’ll be done with the job and starting school while she is cutting her hours and also starting school. We’ll be attending the same college so I’ll have the chance to see her most days, but I’m worried about the momentum slowing down once we aren’t seeing each other. An easy conversation topic is always what happened at work that day, so now we’re losing that. Also, something I’m insecure about is that since she lost most of her time in school to COVID, she’s going to realize that she wants to explore things with classmates and new friends and that’ll kill things for us. We aren’t exclusive because we’ve only been on a couple dates, but I want it to head in that direction. I’m aware there is nothing I can do in this situation other than talk to her about it, but I also don’t want to come off too strong since I’m not sure how into me she is. Submitted August 19, 2021 at 12:10AM I...

Yesterday I joined a group of students and we had alot of fun. There is a nice girl who smiles at me every time that we have eye contact. I really like that she is also a vegetarian (like me) and she is friendly. So I know her since yesterday and today, I will meet her in the group tomorrow and the day after (which is the last day) What does it mean that she smiles at me so often? How likely does she like me? So I have to ask her out or get her number within 2 days but how? I never asked a girl out in real life. Submitted August 19, 2021 at 12:11AM Yesterday I joined a group of students and we had alot of fun. There is a nice girl who smiles at me every time that we have eye contact. I really like that she is also a vegetarian (like me) and she is friendly.So I know her since yesterday and today, I will meet her in the group tomorrow and the day after (which is the last day)What does it mean that she smiles at me so often? How likely does she like me?So I have to ask her ou...

So to save reading time I won’t go into so much of personal life and will try to keep it simple. I’m 25, I graduated college last year, and am still trying hard to find my “place.” One thing I know about myself, though, is that when it comes to a relationship, I want something very specific and I only kind of found that once. I want to spend my life with a girl who is genuine, honest, serious, and committed. Who doesn’t go out, doesn’t party or drink regularly, isn’t in a “instant pleasure” mindset but who is in a long term fulfillment mindset like me. And who is more of an introvert like me. I had this once for a year and then it fell apart due to personal struggles I had and needed to fix, and I’m still not past that because it was what I wanted and I messed it up. Ever since then I’ve been wrecked mentally because I hate so much of what I see around me. Guys and girls who just party, don’t take things too seriously. Most of the girls in my current environment are either the type ...

Probably what I shoulda done lmao August 19, 2021 at 12:05AM

I would usually do that routinely in the shower every day August 19, 2021 at 12:05AM

I didn't mean to say they aren't! I'd never heard that and I'm very glad to learn it August 19, 2021 at 12:05AM

I want to be supportive, but I’m really confused by the question. You were in a relationship a few days ago, and now say “I never masturbate anymore”? Like, how often were you masturbating? August 19, 2021 at 12:02AM

That's interesting! I'd only heard it's a fear of open spaces, sorry for my mistake! How is a ring too restrictive if you don't mind my asking? August 19, 2021 at 12:01AM

Happy birthday 🎂 August 18, 2021 at 11:56PM

Thank you. I actually appreciate that as someone who does get grossed out by them but has to tolerate them because I'm female. August 18, 2021 at 11:54PM

Can’t have sex period ? I get adults can’t have sex with minors but sex itself being illegal sounds messed up. How would that even be enforced? August 18, 2021 at 11:54PM

Puppies are cute, but when two puppies boop their noses together or lick each other's faces? That's even cuter, because they're acting cute. Same concept. It's not the relationship that's cute, it's the people in the relationship acting cute around each other. August 18, 2021 at 11:53PM

I think the important question is do you feel comfortable with your current therapist? If you have trusted and confided in them this long, perhaps you can share this part of yourself with them also. If you're feeling a great deal of trepidation about sharing this, is it because you think your therapist won't honor this part of you? If that's the case, then it might be time to find a new therapist. As someone else already commented, a therapist will learn about you over time, so it's never too late. That said, I would encourage you to share this part of yourself with your therapist because it is an important part of yourself. Being asexual informs how you look at the world and yourself, and if your therapist knows this then they can be a better therapist for you. Whether you decide to stay with your current therapist or not, tell them or not, I wish you the best as you repair your mental health. Take care of yourself. August 18, 2021 at 11:52PM

How about you let pregnant people end their unwanted pregnancy instead of belittling them by thinking they just need you to take care of them? August 18, 2021 at 11:39PM

My god, I've been misinterpreting ace attorney and ace detective for years. August 18, 2021 at 11:34PM

Wheat bread August 18, 2021 at 11:28PM

is this white, potato or wheat bread? August 18, 2021 at 11:26PM

I feel this way sometimes because I was raised with the notion that 1) liking someone is paramount and cause for abundant cheering and joy for encouragement from friends when you're generally shy, which was a shower of (friend-driven) attention that I ended up hating every time I received it; 2) any show of politeness, kindness, or even fucking shyness toward a guy might be a sign to them that you're into them, thus encouraging them to hit on you back, which was a shower of attention that I desperately wished to avoid; 3) displaying even a hint of capability of finding someone pleasant to behold or be around could be misconstrued as attraction, thus warranting the shower of attention and blistering teasing from friends to whom I spent my life declaring I'm not interested and whom found every reason to prove me "worthy" and "initiated" one day; and 4) I thus grew to absolutely fucking loathe the fact that I could actually find enjoyment in other people...