nah. you just live in a little protective bubble. and also, when sexuality is not being mentioned, im rather outgoing/confident and I actually quite like who I am in general. but that doesnt stop sex culture from making me feel invalid. November 17, 2020 at 12:02AM

im already subbed there lmao November 17, 2020 at 12:02AM

Shit man that sucks but if it's makes anyone feel better you're special and you're not alone so don't take it si hard on yourself for something You can't controle. November 17, 2020 at 12:01AM

Sexism is the reason; because it's "the wife's duty to support the husband" mentality that was/is so pervasive. The wife wasn't allowed to have her own personality, so had to be an extension of the husband. It's good that it's becoming less and less of an issue, but there still some places where the wife is referred to as "Mrs. <husband's name>" instead of her actual name. There are also shitty stereotypes that say an unmarried person must have something wrong with them, ignoring all the moral failings of past married presidents/politicians. November 16, 2020 at 11:56PM

r/Antinatalism would like you to join us November 16, 2020 at 11:56PM

Thats rel, bruh November 16, 2020 at 11:56PM

That sounds like issues with confidence and assertiveness rather than a societal problem actively making your life worse off than your contemporaries November 16, 2020 at 11:55PM

My dad asks if I'm gay, he also tried set me up with this guy who he literally spoke to for about 5 mins about broadband and who turned out to be a scammer posing as a surveyor from that Martin Lewis money saving expert programme. Why are dads like this?? November 16, 2020 at 11:51PM

I'm gonna be honest if your distress with the status quo was enough to bring up how it effects you mentally then you really shouldn't minimize it. If there is no middle ground for you two, then you need to accept that you aren't compatible. I understand that it hurts, but the most important and hard lesson that people need to learn is love is not enough. Your needs will not be met if you continue to engage in unwanted sexual activity and his needs will not be met if you don't. Sometimes it's as simple as that. The complicated part is separating and finding someone who is more compatible. The good news is that now you know what your boundaries are and you can be upfront with any futures partners. Good luck OP I know it doesn't make it any easier, but things will get better. November 16, 2020 at 11:50PM

I submitted an answer, hope it helps. November 16, 2020 at 11:49PM

But what if they try to lire you with promises of good companionship, interesting conversation and garlic bread? November 16, 2020 at 11:47PM

Being ace is not hard TO YOU. and that is fine. but that is not a decision you get to make on everyones behalf. to say that "teenagers are just overreacting" is an extremely ignorant thing to say... in my personal experience, its difficult to live in a world where it is immediately assumed that you experience sexual attraction. something that everyone else around me feels naturally. its difficult to be told "oh dont worry you'll find someone to lose your v card to" when I feel like im fine on my own and never need to do that. its difficult that my friends dont believe the way I am is humanly possible. its difficult to be unable to relate to an experience that is present in many conversations as well as most movies, books, tv shows and even games. and its really fucking difficult when a member of a community that relates to my experiences as an asexual undermines my struggles because they are comfortable with themselves and dont have to face similar strug

Yes, it‘s sad, but it wouldn‘t have worked anyway if you‘re not compatible in that regard, so as much as it sucks, it‘s better to have it now, than try, and have a lot more heartbreak when it doesn‘t work out half a year down the road November 16, 2020 at 11:44PM

Something similar happened to me on StandUpShots. It wasn’t a super aphobic joke but it was one that didn’t sit well with me and I commented that and my comment got downvoted and I was told I was reading too much into it and was too sensitive and that their joke wasn’t even about asexuality even though it used the word asexual in it. I just though they might like feedback on how the ace community would feel about the joke. I unsubbed and deleted my comments because I would rather not think about it. November 16, 2020 at 11:43PM

Yoooooooooooo wait a minute November 16, 2020 at 11:42PM

And then it still depends if the damage is covered by the warranty. November 16, 2020 at 11:40PM

https://i.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/001/320/979/446.jpg People saw this and ran with it November 16, 2020 at 11:40PM

I hate negative ace comments. I left a subreddit I saw negative ace comments on as well. Sorry you had to go through that. I didn’t want to fight with people and I knew they weren’t understanding so I just left. November 16, 2020 at 11:38PM

Hi, I'm a sex-repulsed Ace in a relationship with an allosexual (non-ace) partner! Would be happy to chat about it :) November 16, 2020 at 11:38PM

Heh, I think the same thing every time I see someone mention DMs. November 16, 2020 at 11:36PM

That as well November 16, 2020 at 11:35PM

I know. It was a hard conversation for me to have with my boyfriend too. November 16, 2020 at 11:34PM

FRUSTRATION November 16, 2020 at 11:33PM