I also find myself listening to and liking sexual songs. Idk. They are just catchy. May 04, 2021 at 11:56PM

when they put important plot points in those scenes :/ May 04, 2021 at 11:47PM

I don't think this is an asexuality-specific concern. This video is a wonderful retrospective analysis of the topic although it takes a look at hyperniche gender labels. There is a point at which the function of labels breaks down and everyone is better off advertising and embracing themselves as unique individuals. For instance, if you say to me that you're stargender, what does that mean? I have to interrogate you in order to understand the experience that label failed to describe adequately. I wouldn't call hyperspecificity problematic, but microlabels so abstract or individualized as to have no practical use are by nature useless to the external world and exist only for the edification of their user. I too am uncomfortable when I see people suggesting microlabels to questioning posters since they can easily misguide those questioning their gender/sexuality. When one feels conflicting feelings, searching for a microlabel for that specific combination of turmoils is a

Ugh, yes. Even when I’m completely alone it just makes me SO uncomfortable. Like I want to jump out of my skin. May 04, 2021 at 11:43PM

What should you do? It's not obvious? This person isn't your friend, stop calling them one and cut them out of your life. May 04, 2021 at 11:43PM

I am very sorry for your friend. That is so horrible. Nobody deserves that their boundaries are overstepped in such a gross way. May 04, 2021 at 11:42PM

Yeah, man. The world is a big place. You can’t understand it all. May 04, 2021 at 11:38PM

That's really cool! Good to see your mom is so nice! Moms really are (for some of us) the better parents. May 04, 2021 at 11:38PM

That's awesome, my mom says the same thing! I thank her sometimes for being so awesome after seeing all the terrible stories online, and she's like "it's your life, it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks anyway!" like she can't imagine other parents not accepting their children just for their dumb beliefs. May 04, 2021 at 11:35PM

Yea lol I kinda used "Haha maybe I am asexual" as a joke to my friends when I didn't even know that it was a legit thing Nomosexual has gotta cool factor to it tho lol May 04, 2021 at 11:32PM

Personally me neither, but we all have different experiences idk. May 04, 2021 at 11:31PM

If I was 100% accepted in society and felt 100% valid as I am I would love to be who I am. The only times I wish I wasn't ace is when I want to get rid of all this doubt, erasure and pressure from my family and my friends to be like them. I would never switch to allosexual, but I sure as hell hope I was born allosexual sometimes :( May 04, 2021 at 11:30PM

brazo de mercedes :D May 04, 2021 at 11:29PM

Oh! On my part, I’m sorry if I came across as sounding critical that you excluded aromantics, or made you feel like your point was less valid, about having sex with someone you don’t love or like and the potential of that feeling gross/bad/etc. I guess I was mixing in a bit of frustration wishing that sex wasn’t this thing that was seen as this deeper form of intimacy or unattainable thing (which might be a very acey frustration?), but at the same time, I understand it is quite intimate for many. And you’re right - love can be its own thing, not necessarily romantic love. As an aromantic I still believe in liking and loving people, without needing it to be romantic - so I appreciate that, and thank you for adding that color to it, too. :) May 04, 2021 at 11:27PM

Makes sense. I still just don’t under how one can be attracted to porn but not want to have sex. Just doesn’t click with me. What are you gonna do though. May 04, 2021 at 11:26PM

While there is no need to label yourself, there is also absolutely no problem in labelling yourself! Labels can change later but you gotta go with whatever feels right at the moment and its all good. Porn is normal even if you think you are asexual. Many watch many don't. Maybe its the act that can arouse you or even the story or just generally some genre within it. No right answer. Also libido and sexual attraction are different. Your libido can be influenced by you being sex-averse, maybe the physical act of you doing it might kill the libido I guess. You can definitely get horny too even if you are ace. The only question is (which you can only answer): Have you ever felt sexually attracted to someone? If No, then nothing else matters, you are valid. If you are unsure of what qualifies as attraction that's still okay. Its kind of like a journey of figuring stuff out. What you thought as attraction could be something else or it might not. Heck according to me even if you

She/he since there's no option. I like people to use whichever they feel suits me and I alternate at random when referring to myself. May 04, 2021 at 11:24PM

My way of thinking about it is: Do allos who masturbate to scenes from TV shows ever become able to look at that character again without thinking about the time they masturbated to them? Especially because most shows with sex scenes are live action. It feels like such a personal thing to me that if I were still ace but had a higher sex drive I'd always try other methods to get aroused and porn/erotic stories/sex scenes would be a last resort. May 04, 2021 at 11:20PM

You have to remember that many asexuals, myself included, are confused by the way people are "normally" attracted to others. I believe the confusion goes both ways. May 04, 2021 at 11:18PM

Heck yissss except I never realize I'm coming across as flirting. 😂 When someone points it out I'm like "I was just being awkwardly polite!" May 04, 2021 at 11:13PM

Some allos masturbate to girls smashing bread with their faces. Standards are low. May 04, 2021 at 11:12PM

Because for too many men, there is a need to imagine women in the context of being their own daughter to see them as anything other than a sex object May 04, 2021 at 11:12PM

None of this even matters that he's ace it's just wrong in general May 04, 2021 at 11:12PM