Pretty sure they are :) December 31, 2020 at 11:57PM

Thanks Frog :') December 31, 2020 at 11:55PM

You're welcome December 31, 2020 at 11:53PM

I know my parents will not get it so I'm kind of planning on a sort of "half" coming out. I'm a panro ace and I'm gonna tell them I'm bisexual because I don't want to have to explain labels they don't know only for them to say it's dumb. Plus, I'm not bothered whether they think I'm having sex or not. (I probably won't be tho :))) ) December 31, 2020 at 11:53PM

Cool thanks December 31, 2020 at 11:53PM

It is possible. Someone earlier identified at that. December 31, 2020 at 11:52PM

Thank you so much!!🥰 December 31, 2020 at 11:50PM

Good luck! 💜 December 31, 2020 at 11:49PM

I do not understand how it could offend someone if other people get representation December 31, 2020 at 11:49PM

We do. Because aromanticism is inherently queer. You wouldn't question a heteroromantic bisexual's queerness, because bisexuality is inherently queer. Same thing applies. December 31, 2020 at 11:47PM

Your friend seems like a golden retriever, not 100% sure what’s going on but super excited for it anyway :) December 31, 2020 at 11:46PM

Almost immediately after finding out what it was, every description I read fit me more and more. I was just held back by not knowing what it was. December 31, 2020 at 11:45PM

Setting aside all of the metaphors and conversation about what represents asexuality the best, I am, above all, touched that the Trevor Project has a page dedicated to us asexual people. It's just a huge relief to me! December 31, 2020 at 11:44PM

idk they’re just so rude 😔 December 31, 2020 at 11:43PM

Well ace of spades is the highest card in the deck in many games. They should be happy for you. Lol. 🤷‍♂️ December 31, 2020 at 11:43PM

ikr December 31, 2020 at 11:43PM

There are articles in the wiki and about tabs here. You can read there. In addition, as an allo married to an asexual) this is what I would suggest. Let your partner know what asexual is. You may find they attractive aesthetically or sensually, but you don't have feel sexually attracted to anybody Let them know your feeling towards having sex (sex positive, sex neutral, sex repugnant). How may times a week or month you feel comfortable having sex. For my spouse and I, this was the biggest issue. If you are romantic and you love your partner let them know that. Many allosexuals equate sex with love. They can be different. If you are strong physical touch (kissing, hugging, cuddling, etc) uss those to show your love. Also learn your partner's preferred love language to help show your love (words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, acts of service, physical touch). These will not replace sex though. So hopefully your sexual frequency is compatible for both of you.

on a similar path myself, currently doing parkous between grey ace and bi... CAN I JUST FKN DECIDE December 31, 2020 at 11:36PM

SAM* sorry I mistyped Split attraction model, a person's romantic and sexual orientation, so for me in romantically attracted to any gender, but sexually attracted to noone. Making me biromantic December 31, 2020 at 11:34PM

What is the SAT? December 31, 2020 at 11:32PM

Yeah, I'll give it some time. Really wait till I identify as ace for longer cause even though I'm rather certain I'm ace, I only figured it out 2 weeks ago. So yeah, time would be nice. Though...I rather like PowerPoint presentations XD Hmm, interesting isn't it? Like, I got 2 other aces, 2 bi, 1 pan and 1 gay in my immediate group of friends. You're right, wonder how we all met up like that. I didn't even know they are part of the LGBT community until a year after I hung out with them? The collective force of the LGBT XD Thank you, most people ignore my puns XD December 31, 2020 at 11:30PM

Ugh December 31, 2020 at 11:28PM

What is wrong with some people? December 31, 2020 at 11:25PM

As far as it is for me, the people around me, don't consider that about me which it is pleasant. It definitely must've sucked going through school with that level of concern. December 31, 2020 at 12:02AM

Of course! Keep it up :) it's always nice to see fellow artists heh December 31, 2020 at 12:01AM

Thank you 😊 December 31, 2020 at 12:00AM

Thank you!! December 31, 2020 at 12:00AM

If you have anything in particular you want drawn I can do it for free no worries about commissions December 30, 2020 at 11:59PM

37m here. I feel being asexual as a (cis)man is much more acceptable in culture largely due to men getting more opportunities for self-determination than women in general. As such, it seems less likely that they would have a need to seek out an identity to explicitly identify themselves with. I didn't really look into these communities until my marriage fell apart a while ago and I had to contemplate dating in a hookup culture. In my own journey I wasn't fully self-aware, but like with most things the hardest years were teenage years when I needed to be closer to peers my own age. Honestly I think the hardest moments were when people mistook me for being gay and I bore the brunt of discrimination for that. edit: All that being said, I don't want to come off as minimizing the difficulty not fitting in can cause. I'm also aware many asexuals are discriminated against, but in my own walk I've found people are generally very comfortable interacting with a male cis ne

:) !!! Thank you December 30, 2020 at 11:59PM

That's cute! December 30, 2020 at 11:58PM

asexual and homoromantic guy here yello December 30, 2020 at 11:56PM

Hetero romantic guy here, M26 December 30, 2020 at 11:56PM

Sounds like “ace spike” to me? I’m new here and just spent a bit of time in the FAQ and glossary pages yesterday learning a lot. I’ve experienced what you describe (like literally 4 times in my entire life and I’m 37. They were all pretty memorably unpleasant- I did have sex in one of those instances) and it caused me such massive confusion and self doubt for so many years. Now I know it’s a thing that some asexuals experience. I am also going all med student on this and have a science-ish hypothesis. I think that part of this happening is physical proximity to the other person (like we asexuals aren’t likely going to have an ace-spike from a picture or movie, though you do describe fantasy so my theory doesn’t really work with that) because of a massive spike in THEIR pheromones and their energy. This is why it wears off pretty fast too, I think. Like the other persons pheromones and energy can’t carry the show on its own for a prolonged time. December 30, 2020 at 11:55PM

Yeah, that sounds right. The mental image of someone smiling at a picture of sprinkles is hilarious December 30, 2020 at 11:50PM

I did ballroom dance for 2 years and then on and off for a 3rd year. I loved it. One of my passions. Less fun and more uncomfortable without people I know though. It’s a nice bonding experience if you are doing it with someone you know. I never considered it sexual. I took my bf at the time to a class and he was terrible at it but I appreciate that he came. I also had a friend who was also my dance partner at one point, never evolved into something romantic but I think both of us wanted it to and were too afraid to initiate. I never engage sexy dancing tho. Makes me very uncomfortable. December 30, 2020 at 11:50PM

Among other things. December 30, 2020 at 11:49PM

28M grey ace here, can't work out where I'm located on the aromantic scale though. December 30, 2020 at 11:49PM

As a heteroromantic ace myself, I can say you are completely valid! December 30, 2020 at 11:47PM

Could you please explain how being aromantic feels? Do you love the other person or what sorts of feelings do you have? How does missing the other person feels? Sorry if the question seems dumb, I honestly have no idea about this. December 30, 2020 at 11:46PM

oh dude i've always sucked at redstone, i'm more of a builder myself. what kind of contraptions are you trying to create? December 30, 2020 at 11:44PM

It also is bound by no outside laws! December 30, 2020 at 11:43PM

It took me almost 10 years to love again after my first serious girlfriend. Now with my second one, we broke up almost 2 years ago, and I still haven't even started to move on. She is probably about to get married by now LOL. Not sure how people can move on so quickly, but I'm sure OP will be fine sooner than it usually takes me. December 30, 2020 at 11:42PM

I'd like the dragons without Sauron please December 30, 2020 at 11:40PM

ooo i like this thank you! December 30, 2020 at 11:38PM

You could always wear a black ring on your right middle finger. That's the Ace Ring and a lot of Aces know what it means! December 30, 2020 at 11:38PM

\o/ https://www.reddit.com/r/lgbt/comments/kmgmev/lgbt_support_berd/ December 30, 2020 at 12:05AM

Be proud of who you are, and don’t let them get to you! December 30, 2020 at 12:04AM

Funny usage of this post December 30, 2020 at 12:04AM

I have never had any trauma, my dr checks my blood work every year and everything is in order, and if I could fit in with the rest of society and not feel different every time my mom mentions me dating someone or my dad brings up babies I would not choose to be asexual. Also your comment No one who is ace could possibly imagine the love a sexual person feels. negates your premise that asexualality is a choice. If it was a choice, we would know/could understand that kind of love but choose not to experience it. Sex is not the only way to experience love. It is a form that some people's love takes, it can be an expression of love. And many asexuals enjoy having sex, they simply don't feel the sexual attraction when looking at people. It is inhumane to deprive an individual of sex and love. I don't want sex. Is it inhumane for me to not have something I don't want? It is inhumane to force someone into situations where they're uncomfortable or to do somethi

I can relate so hard to this, I just made a bookmark with the ace flag, my family doesn't even know what asexuality is so I don't think they know how the flag looks like. December 30, 2020 at 12:03AM

original of the bottom post December 30, 2020 at 12:03AM

Right? I also used to dislike it xD My fave colours are green and grey :D accidentally aro~~ December 30, 2020 at 12:00AM

y same December 29, 2020 at 11:59PM

CW: all sorts of LGBT phobia. The timestamp is roughly 39:20 if I fucked that up. Not used to mobile December 29, 2020 at 11:59PM

Queerstionaire ;) couldn't help myself December 29, 2020 at 11:59PM

Do you have any artists? December 29, 2020 at 11:57PM

New Age music works well for me even if it sound sensual to others. I don't like the few music videos that implies sex in it. December 29, 2020 at 11:55PM

That's why I select shows that doesn't show any of that or minimize on that. If I suspect it'll be focused on sex more than I like, I'm out. Mild nudity is eh ok for me, but obvious sex is a nope for me. December 29, 2020 at 11:54PM

r/teenagers is valid December 29, 2020 at 11:53PM

Cries a little. I had one. He got out of the house and ran off a the first floor balcony to land on the concrete below. Then the chooks got him :( December 29, 2020 at 11:53PM

Being gay or bi correlates to being ace... but it’s misinterpreted... they are thinking you’re homoSEXUAL or biSEXUAL when I’m reality you’re actually ace and you can be either homo-romantic or bi-romantic... it’s a classic case of misinformation from people lack the necessary knowledge regarding GSRM people. December 29, 2020 at 11:53PM

Yeah it does, it's just sometimes I end up doing it several times in a day for days on end and I don't really like it tbh December 29, 2020 at 11:52PM

We all are, sorta kinda, allergic to fire? A little is ouchy. Too much is deathy. December 29, 2020 at 11:52PM

I've really tried to like purple since it's in the ace flag and also the colour of feminism but I just don't vibe at all with the MS Paint purple both these communities use December 29, 2020 at 11:50PM

It’s very much not a choice, dude. It’s just the way we are. It’s “inhumane to deprive an individual of sex and love”... unless they just don’t want that. Some people are perfectly happy without sex or sometimes even romance. And as for “no one who is ace could possibly imagine the love a sexual person feels”... uh, how would you know that? Plenty of ace people have healthy romantic relationships without sex. It’s not absolutely necessary for everyone. I don’t have a hormonal imbalance. I haven’t been traumatized. Some people are just born not wanting to fuck, and that’s perfectly fine. If you need sex in a romantic relationship, good for you, that’s cool. But don’t try to tell me that there’s something wrong with me because I don’t. Everyone’s different. To each their own. Live and let live. December 29, 2020 at 11:48PM

It does get better! Sometimes it takes too many years, but it really does. (Does masturbating help you? It calmed down a lot of my - distraction- for a day or two at a time as a teenager. Anonymous toy store for the win.) December 29, 2020 at 11:45PM

Anyone have any feedback about Asexual Cupid? December 29, 2020 at 11:44PM

I can't put into words how happy this drawing makes me December 29, 2020 at 11:42PM

I only called the fact that you're seemingly okay with the comments from the picture gross. The person in the photo said that asexual folks are actually just mentally ill and incapable of feeling love. You clearly don't, cause I layer everything out for you and you still, seemingly willingly, misinterpret what I said to make yourself out to be this helpless victim. I will say one last time: I don't give a SHIT if you think FOR YOUR OWN RELATIONSHIPS that attraction is needed for love, but if you put down others and say they're incapable of feeling love if they don't have sexual attraction then I'm sorry, but you're a piece of shit, plain and simple. You never tried, but alright! ✌ December 29, 2020 at 12:03AM

absoulutely. lgbtqia+ is any grsm minority December 29, 2020 at 12:02AM

Not everyone! I say “attractive” instead of hot, and it’s because I experience aesthetic attraction. It doesn’t mean I find them sexually attractive though. December 29, 2020 at 12:01AM

Even without the generalization, even if he wasn't being a creep and she was actually acting as he described.... Who goes online to complain about a mild annoyance they had with a stranger they just met at a party? Every aspect of his comment is bizarre December 28, 2020 at 11:58PM

I never called anyone ill. You called my view of love “gross” because you don’t experience it. I don’t know how to talk to you. Im sorry, i want to understand but this is making it hard. Have a good one, i wish the best for you. I don’t want to continue the conversation, i tried. ✌️ December 28, 2020 at 11:58PM

https://www.lookhuman.com/design/342036/3600-black-md This website has a lot of pride stuff, but I logically had to pick the dumbest one. Hope you find something to your taste! December 28, 2020 at 11:55PM

Oddly enough it's mostly an internal thing. I'm not out as ace because i don't really see any reason to explain my sexuality to others so I think my paranoia that I'm "performing" is more about me feeling like I'm tricking myself. I don't really care what people think of my sexuality but I do want to have an accurate perception of what i want and be true to myself, so when I feel like I'm performing for others it bothers me on an internal level because i only want to act for myself, if that makes sense. The concern is less with others perception and more with me feeling like I'm lying to myself December 28, 2020 at 11:54PM

Big time. Took a friend calling it out, research and introspection. I just thought I was late bloomer/broken. December 28, 2020 at 11:53PM

Turns out I’m demi, but it’s fun commenting aego stuff in normal subreddits. People get strangely upset. December 28, 2020 at 11:53PM

Omg I love your cat so much!! December 28, 2020 at 11:52PM

It's like you're not even reading what I said. Your view of love is gross if it discounts someone else's. If your view of love is that the ONLY way you can love someone is if you're sexually attracted to them, and if your view is that people are ill if they aren't attracted to people in that way, then yeah, it's gross. Now if your view only applies to you, then I don't think anyone gives a shit, but if you apply it to other people then you're a piece of shit. Don't use big words you don't understand, youre the one arguing in bad faith, you came into this discussion never intending to actually learn anything. Okay, then you admit you don't have to want sex with someone to love them. There are different kinds of love: romantic, platonic, familial. Sex is separate from those. If you can feel sexual desire outside of love then you can feel love outside of sex. It's like you're intentionally misunderstanding me so you can act like you&

I will call this one... Oliver. December 28, 2020 at 11:49PM

As a fellow male ace cat dad with a glorious sense of humor, I really, really want that hoodie. Any chance you could link it? Also, great post December 28, 2020 at 11:45PM

I'm sorry but this is still a generalization. Low libido allo people exist. December 28, 2020 at 11:45PM

Well, people annoying the other people used as a reason to dismiss entire groups of people. Story as old as the world. If this isn't bigotry, I'm not sure what is. In any case... I am conscious of how I may come across, because most people don't need to specify they are allos. That part is implied. There aren't many reasons when you can share your position on ace-allo spectrum naturally aтв to give opinion on something from ace-specific point o view, you kind of have to say clearly you're asexual or it wouldn't make any sense. But then you also keep in mind, that for most people asexual is just string of sounds, it doesn't click into their minds, so you're into uncofortable position: over-explain or mention it multiple times when you think it's relevant, or just mention it only once in a while and see them forget it about alltogether, because most allo people don't find this condition fascinating or noteworthy. December 28, 2020 at 1

I know just the name December 28, 2020 at 11:41PM

Really?! I think your face looks really symmetrical, and your hair line is super straight on your forehead (Someone did a great job - I love your hair), and I don't want this to sound demeaning from a lady older than you but your nose is absolutely adorable. Also the glasses fit your face perfectly. December 28, 2020 at 11:40PM

5/4? libido depends on the moon cycle and how the planets are aligned I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️ December 28, 2020 at 11:39PM

A agreed about the other comments, i feel like you are arguing in bad faith at this point. You just called my view of love “gross” thats not an argument, thats the same tactic as homophobia, or transphobia. My mother and my SO get different love. Thats a ridiculous comparison and i think u know that. Maybe u can clarify what u mean, but generally I can’t accept your response at all, it’s childish December 28, 2020 at 11:37PM

7/4? December 28, 2020 at 11:36PM

Definitely talk about your concerns with her. Figure out her boundaries and how much, if any, sex she wants to/is willing to have and compare that against how much sex you need to have in a relationship to feel fulfilled or if having sex with a partner who isn't sexuallyattracted to you is something you're comfortable with. From there you too can see if there are any reasonable compromises thst can be made for both if you to be happy. December 28, 2020 at 11:35PM

The punchline was so much better than I was expecting December 28, 2020 at 11:35PM

I hate that I can’t tell you how many times guys have said “oh once you try it you’ll love it, it just isn’t the same/you just need to meet the right guy” I always say “well you know you should try anal” and when they say they don’t like it I go “well scientifically men get better orgasms when you mess with the prostate, don’t worry you just haven’t met the right man yet, once you try it you’ll love it” December 28, 2020 at 11:35PM

It’s beautiful December 28, 2020 at 12:03AM

Come on, that’s disingenuous and you know it. I really dislike this sort of snobby, holier than thou, us vs them posts. December 28, 2020 at 12:00AM

Is this an asexual yandere? December 27, 2020 at 11:58PM

When I was in college there were a lot of people that wanted cuddle-buddies and would prefer a partner that did not want things to progress beyond that point. I was honest with my partners and told them about my expectations and limits. It made the relationships I was in very rewarding for both of us. It also helped take the sting out of rejection, they were not looking for that type of relationship. People appreciate when you are up front about an issue like this. December 27, 2020 at 11:56PM

No, it’s bad etiquette. Brigading shouldn’t be encouraged, which is all something like this does. December 27, 2020 at 11:53PM

there’s a pretty unnecessary rift that doesn’t need to be there December 27, 2020 at 11:49PM

I couldn’t agree more December 27, 2020 at 11:49PM

Oh hell yeah, I love a good massage. I don’t get them often because I only go to places I trust and am familiar with and they’re generally quite pricey (for very good reason, oh the stories I could tell you!), but when I get a really good massage and the therapist listens to me about how I like it done... seriously, it’s one of my favourite things in the world. December 27, 2020 at 11:48PM

i can totally relate! every once in a while i'll try my hand at tinder but i just feel so different from all the other lesbians on there December 27, 2020 at 11:47PM

Just randomly found it idk wasn’t really looking for it lol December 27, 2020 at 11:47PM

This isn't really the outside perspective you might be looking for because I am aro, but that sounds aro to me. December 27, 2020 at 11:42PM

Wow yeah, no idea why asexuals wouldn't come out to them December 27, 2020 at 11:41PM

(sorry, not stating this in the earlier comment.) There's a thing called Angeosexuality on the a-spec, (also called aegosexuality) that sorta sounds like you're describing. It means a person who might fantasize and masturbate, but doesn't desire to do anything themselves. It's like watching a sport you enjoy, but wouldn't want to play. Here's the fandom wiki link. If you like that word, you can use it. Or keep looking. Or just call yourself ace. Whatever makes you feel comfortable. Hope things are going better. Have a good day. December 27, 2020 at 11:40PM

Why are you searching out years old posts about aphobia? December 27, 2020 at 11:40PM

I like any non sexual complement really. Tbh I’ve never really seen compliments as sexual. December 27, 2020 at 11:38PM

LMAO December 27, 2020 at 11:37PM

If being child free isn’t something you talk about, then your parents can let themselves believe you might change your mind. But, affirming it with your sexuality confronts that assumption. I wouldn’t be surprised in the least if that’s a big part of why they don’t want to hear about it. December 27, 2020 at 11:36PM

It sounds like you might be ace! The only qualifier to be ace is to not experience sexual attraction, which sounds on par with what you wrote. Liking/disliking sex doesn’t discredit or validate your ace-y-ness one way or another, so whether your feel arousal or not, you may still be ace. And you’re totally normal! Everyone experiences a spectrum of attraction (or lack thereof) and arousal in their own way, and there’s absolutely nothing weird or wrong with the things you feel. December 27, 2020 at 11:35PM

Fair enough December 27, 2020 at 11:33PM

Ace guy here, you're not alone! I think the driving factor in the imbalance is cultural rather than physical - guys are encouraged far less to interrogate their emotions, and it is far harder as a guy to come out. I know these factors prevented me from understanding myself for years, so it's not difficult to think that a lot of other guys have similar experiences. December 27, 2020 at 11:30PM