I think we need several October 06, 2021 at 12:37AM

Wow real shitty of you to imply being a lesbian is a bad thing October 06, 2021 at 12:37AM

What is it like being a wizard? October 06, 2021 at 12:37AM

Is anyone bringing cake? Cuz I can bring some cake. October 06, 2021 at 12:36AM

I really appreciate that you are doing this research, as these topics are severely under-studied. I am not within your target demographic, but I hope your research goes well. As another comment pointed out, it is important not to assume that all asexuals never have sex. It may be true for some, but not others. October 06, 2021 at 12:36AM

lost my virginity last night and honestly it was entirely enjoyable. i know not everyone has a good experience their first time but for me personally it was truly like no big deal and didn’t hurt at all. {so if you’re nervous ab your first time honestly just be real w the person n communicate well about what you want and like.} howeverrrr i have a super addictive personality and am kind of already setting up dates for casual sex. (bc i want sex..am depressed..and also just curious) how can i avoid an upcoming month of likely mistakes?¿ while also not depriving myself. advice appreciated Submitted October 06, 2021 at 12:09AM lost my virginity last night and honestly it was entirely enjoyable. i know not everyone has a good experience their first time but for me personally it was truly like no big deal and didn’t hurt at all. {so if you’re nervous ab your first time honestly just be real w the person n communicate well about what you want and like.}howeverrrr i have a super addic...

I’m hoping this isn’t too obscure to get help on, because I’m at a total loss for why this is happening. Any advice or input is super appreciated. To start off, I am wildly sexually attracted to my boyfriend of two years. I also have an extremely high sex drive, if I could have sex all day then I likely would. I think about having sex with my boyfriend constantly 24/7, including whenever I masturbate. I rarely watch porn, but when I do, I specifically imagine it’s him in the videos, even going as far as to find videos of men that have the same look, physique, and size as him. The problem is, I literally cannot bring myself to masturbate to actual photos of him. I never realized that this was a problem until he sent me a sexy photo of himself today and I really enjoyed it… for all of 5 seconds. I can’t quite put my finger on why it makes me so uncomfortable to even try getting off to it. I think I almost feel embarrassed? I’ve never had this happen with porn or sexy pictures of peop...

Hello, So I had sex with someone that I know. He used a condom. Fast forward two months and almost two weeks, and I got an anonymous text message that said this: “This is an important message about your health. Through an anonymous notification service, one of your sexual partners wants to let you know that you may have been exposed to chlamydia and crabs (pubic lice). Since you may not have any symptoms, we recommend getting tested. For more information, including how to find a free clinic, please visit  https://tellyourpartner.org/info If you feel you are getting this text as a form of harassment, please text back REPORT.” So what would you have done? Also how should one appropriately bring the subject up to the partner? By no means are we serious or even together but we are friendly with each other. Also what STI tests should one get? Submitted October 06, 2021 at 12:37AM Hello,So I had sex with someone that I know. He used a condom. Fast forward two months and almost...

So my girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. She's always had a low libido which is understandable and I was okay with it. Maybe once or twice a week we would have sex. It slowly started declining over a few months until it just stopped. We recently bought a house and ever since she has acted like she just don't find me attractive anymore. We sleep nude and she started pushing me away and trying to get away from be when I try to be big spoon she don't mind but she refuses me to. Now we've started sleeping with different blankets. We've talked about this all the time and all she says is I'm sorry I'm just not in the mood anymore. She's going to the doctor and maybe a psychiatrist because she thinks it's some kind of mental block. I don't know what else to do. Anytime I'm in the mood I feel ashamed because I feel like I'm invading in her privacy. What should I do that I haven't already done? Submitted October 06, 2021...

because of some on going health issues my doctor has told me that it would be extremely dangerous for both me and the baby if i were to get pregnant right now and has therefore instructed me to be on at least 2 birth control methods. for the same reason, my body cannot tolerate synthetic hormones; so i guess my only option would be the copper iud. i’ve only recently started dating, but with my health issues i really cannot afford to get pregnant so i think it’s better to be safe and to go ahead and get this stuff sorted out. i’m kinda nervous about getting it cus i’ve heard in some horror stories but i’d like to know what the average experience is like. also what could i use along with the iud that would make it more effective? Submitted October 06, 2021 at 12:57AM because of some on going health issues my doctor has told me that it would be extremely dangerous for both me and the baby if i were to get pregnant right now and has therefore instructed me to be on at least 2 birt...

I matched with a girl on tinder and things escalated quickly… lol. Anyway, I explained to her last night that before we meet up I’d like to be honest & up front by telling her I’m looking for things to be more casual. She saw my message but didn’t reply, & this afternoon I decided to follow up, saying: “i was looking forward to getting to know you & making a new friend, but I take it you’re no longer interested. you seem like a sweet girl and I hope you find what you’re looking for. Best of luck” To my surprise, she just forgot to reply lol. She apologized, said she’s cool with things being casual, and said she’s enjoying talking to me, which was good to hear. My question is, was the follow up message the wrong move? Submitted October 06, 2021 at 12:01AM I matched with a girl on tinder and things escalated quickly… lol. Anyway, I explained to her last night that before we meet up I’d like to be honest & up front by telling her I’m looking for things to be more...

So, my (22f) coworker (25m) asked me to go out with him last weekend and I thought we had a great time. We spent the day going to a museum then we met up with some of his friends to chill for a bit before I left. He was very sweet the whole day, and he kept mentioning other things he'd like us to do together (more museums, roller blading, etc). He had even suggested maybe we do something within the next couple of days. After the date I initiated the first text and we texted back and forth for a couple of days (both of us making convo) before it seemed to tapper off and he was the last one to text. I have since seen him at work and he seemed pretty friendly with me for the most part, but I haven't heard from him text wise or on snapchat either. I haven't initiated because I did the last time and I want to make sure he's putting in effort as well. Does he maybe not want anything more than friendship with me? I know that he told me he used to hang out with another one of ...

I met this girl a couple of months ago and felt instant attraction. Beautiful, smart, funny, but humble and shy all at the same time. After working up the courage to ask her out, she politely declined. So being a guy this is something I’m obviously familiar with. The problem is I see her all the time as we work next to one another. She’s still just as friendly as ever, and in fact we hang out more now than before. When she originally declined going out with me I kept my cool. I knew I’d still see her, plus I liked her regardless. The problem is my feelings have only increased as I’ve gotten to know her. Also she flirts but it’s yet to go anywhere. I don’t know if I can keep this up. One part of me wants to keep my distance, while another longs for the chance or what if. Do I make a move again? Tell her I can’t be just friends? Or do I keep up the appearances, like now, but still knowing deep down I really want more. Submitted October 06, 2021 at 12:05AM I met this girl a cou...

So just a little back round I’m a 19 year old guy and in college, also am clueless in the whole dating world (never had a girlfriend). I have a small group of close friends and in public I really have never been one to just talk to people. I’ve always been very shy and just reserved I guess would be the way to say it. So recently I met a really awesome girl in one of my classes the other day and I think she might be in to me, I’m gonna break down everything that happened and someone please tell me if she might like me and how to possibly move this along. So the very 1st day of class she was the first one that caught my eye, we made eye contact periodically throughout the duration of the class, I didn’t think much of it at first but I’ve slowly developed a crush. Fast forward 3 weeks later we get assigned a project and are given the option to work in pairs, instantly I knew what I had to do but instead of me even approaching her she waved me over to work with her. The whole class we ...

I [27F] recently went on a first date with someone [also 27F] and it went really well but she mentioned that she didn’t get the COVID vaccine and didn’t plan to (something about a spike protein?). I didn’t want to press too much about it on a first date (we were talking politics too and it was just a lot to get into over wine and pizza) but I can’t stop thinking about it now. She said she’s not anti-vax, just anti-covid-vax, but as someone with multiple immunocompromised friends, I have been very pro-covid-vax (and also I’ve seen and heard stories about how bad covid is and want to protect myself too). Does this seem like a major issue, esp if it’s kinda going against my morals? Is it worth trying to bridge the subject at this point? And how? I’m afraid to talk to my friends about this cause I feel like they will just tell me to end things but I don’t really want to over something that is a kind of nuanced issue. Thanks! Submitted October 06, 2021 at 12:15AM I [27F] recently wen...

I didn’t realize that being horny wasn’t just really wanting romance October 05, 2021 at 11:22PM

Exhibit C was my entire life until I learned about different attraction types. "I just like her too much to risk damaging our friendship!" When my friend dryly reminded me that you could seek out sex WITHOUT trying to first become friends I was confused. "But why would.... I.... Do that?" October 05, 2021 at 11:20PM

I had a girl grind on me in highschool. I promptly pushed her off and accidentally knocked her over. I did not want or ask for that Welp. October 05, 2021 at 11:19PM

Make a movie October 05, 2021 at 11:18PM

I went to Mazatlan for my 27th birthday. A friend there drug me to a strip club cuz "You have to go to a strip club for your birthday!" and bought me a lap dance. I was so uncomfortable the entire time, the performer just sat on my lap and we talked about their life. 2 kids, was going to school to become a nurse. Tipped them 200 pesos and they cried because most people don't tip at all and make them do a lot worse. (If you don't know, strip clubs in Mexico are more like brothels.) October 05, 2021 at 11:17PM