Honestly, I can't make any judgements from this. Do you think she felt sexual attraction to you in the beginning of the relationship? This could be a lot of things. The best thing you could do probably is figure out what you want out of this relationship and if you're OK with being in a sex-less relationship. If no sex isn't a deal breaker for you, then tell her that. She may feel safer in being honest about her feelings then. February 18, 2021 at 11:58PM

Imagine you had a friend who ate nothing but potatoes. Now imagine you've been eating potatoes, same as them, for an entire year because of the pandemic. They're fine with it. You've managed so far. But you hear that a chef friend of yours is making a 10 course meal with all your favorite foods. You might want to go visit your chef friend and eat at their place. Your potato eating friend would be confused at why you would risk COVID to get some steak, but you understand. "Why don't you just keep eating potatoes?" they would ask. "You don't NEED anything else." "But steak is really tasty!" you might say. Nobody NEEDS to get laid to survive. But for non-ace people, sex is enjoyable enough to justify the risk. February 18, 2021 at 11:57PM

Yea, sick airplanes vs icky gross time February 18, 2021 at 11:56PM

This is asexual behaviour? I thought it was just plain common sense February 18, 2021 at 11:55PM

It’s so comforting being around animals because they can actually be more loving than humans Sure wild animals in particular can be dangerous if you tick them off or startle them, but let them warm up to you and see that you’re not a threat, and it’s such a great feeling to have an animal be comfortable around you simply because they like you as a living, breathing species instead of just for your body and the sexual gratification they want from you February 18, 2021 at 11:54PM

As a straight, sexually active person; this girl is more than likely CRAZIER THAN FUCK and supremely desperate. I would definitely rather play with legos than deal with someone like this lol. February 18, 2021 at 11:51PM

Check the sub and you’ll understand lol February 18, 2021 at 11:51PM

As an ace person, you generally need to be VERY straightforward in telling people that you're absolutely ace. People just don't seem to take it seriously, you might still be viewed sexually (to some degree) but if the person is worth your time, they'll respect your orientation and won't push for anything. When that's made abundantly clear, you might find someone you click with really well as a friend and romantic partner but I think it'll be much more difficult to do that when people aren't 100% aware of your ace-ness. February 18, 2021 at 11:48PM

You might want to post it in r/aromantic February 18, 2021 at 11:47PM

I represent the gays in this situation we would also gladly except Lego over sex February 18, 2021 at 11:42PM

It's an unfortunate fact that if you ask a large number of people for advice, some bad advice is inevitable. It's unavoidable. Does this mean that someone should never ask advice, which is what it sounds like Triiippiiie was suggesting? Because it's "your life"? Frankly, telling someone to never get advice is bad advice. That's a fact. Instead, it's important to have discernment about advice. It's important to have perspective about advice. And it's absolutely critical to realize that when you get advice, the people giving advice never ever fully understand the situation. Advice is a useful tool that needs to be used wisely. It can chop your leg off. February 18, 2021 at 11:41PM

That sounds awesome, I can't believe this actually exists! February 18, 2021 at 11:39PM

But have you considered they merry-go-round? Also fun if you have a friend to spin you. And less likely to end up with someone kicked in the face. February 18, 2021 at 11:37PM

It might come as a shock, but you probably know yourself better than I know you, "cxolka". lol I'm glad that I was able to help give some perspective. The numbers on the list are far from fixed points. They are just there to give markers to help you find yourself in the chaos. February 18, 2021 at 11:37PM

Understand that she may not have a clear answer for you, and she may only find one through trying to be intimate with you. February 18, 2021 at 11:35PM

I need to do this with my ace of spades! I've been carrying an ace of spades in my wallet for like 15 years. Long before I even knew that I was Ace. It started out as a reference to this song Motörhead – Ace Of Spades . Hmmmm.... Now that I think about it, I was even going by the name "Ace" for a short time before I knew. Foreshadowing at it's finest. 😅😅 February 18, 2021 at 11:35PM

I'm demisexual, so I get to see both sides. Before I have an emotional connection with someone, I function like an asexual. After, I function with full sexual attraction. I have found myself in situations with beautiful women that I considered beautiful, but had no urge to have sex with. I had no desire to kiss them or take them to my bed, even though they were flirting with me and in a bed right in front of me. I've also had women who seemed "nice looking" to me who became extremely appealing after I formed the connection. It was hard to look at them without wanting to touch or caress or kiss them. When I looked at them, sometimes my breathing changed and I got twitchy and restless. Even just touching their shoulder felt different. To most people, they were less attractive than the ones I wasn't interested in. But to me, they were far more attractive and desirable. Admittedly, I'm an emotional person and different people have different experiences, but t...

Thanks! The inspiration was coming out! February 18, 2021 at 11:30PM

It's a simple fact that in general, most people think every healthy relationship is weird. That's because most societies these days encourage and promote unhealthy relationships. Asexual is just "more weird", because "weird" just means "different". So, yes. All asexuals are exceptional because they are unusual, therefore exceptions. Yup. There's a ridiculous but popular notion that "most" means "all". "Most people want...." therefore "all people want". "On average, men/women prefer..." Such a flagrant abuse of studies and statistics. February 18, 2021 at 11:27PM

Completely agree. February 18, 2021 at 11:26PM

yeah i get that sex is one of basic animal functions but humans put wayyy to much focus on it, like there are no other things in life except sleep, digestion, respiration and fucking. Looking at stats.... not so many people get the pleasure. Thats my point, it doesn't feel as good as it is portrayed. therefore is just overrated February 18, 2021 at 11:25PM

My problem is when people give legitimately bad advice, like "dump your therapist". So... any time someone's therapist says something they don't like, they should ditch them and find a new one? That totally ignores any potential problems that could use fixing. February 18, 2021 at 11:22PM

You win today February 18, 2021 at 11:20PM