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Why are people so ashamed of sex?

Earlier today I came across a post where a male was asking how to go about coitus without his roommate knowing. He stated he was shy, and to him sex was very personal. His fear of what his roommate thought was stopping him from participating in the best sex years of his life. I gave him some advice. And was rather surprised of all the downvotes. In summary it was to live his life to the fullest and to stop allowing his brain to over think. Sex is natural and beautiful. And not to miss what he is naturally attracted to over fears of being reprimanded by his roommate. Sex is natural. Why are we so ashamed? And why do so many people still view it as taboo? Submitted November 25, 2019 at 12:01AM Earlier today I came across a post where a male was asking how to go about coitus without his roommate knowing. He stated he was shy, and to him sex was very personal. His fear of what his roommate thought was stopping him from participating in the best sex years of his life.I gave him som...

Making a g-spot vibrator work...

Hi everyone, i hope this post belongs here. A few weeks ago I(19f) bought a g-spot vibrator. After trying it out i can say that for clit stimulation this toy is amazing but i can't seem to enjoy it when using it vaginally. Any advice/experience on how to make it more pleasureable vaginally? Submitted November 25, 2019 at 12:08AM Hi everyone, i hope this post belongs here.A few weeks ago I(19f) bought a g-spot vibrator. After trying it out i can say that for clit stimulation this toy is amazing but i can't seem to enjoy it when using it vaginally.Any advice/experience on how to make it more pleasureable vaginally?

My girlfriend is about to roll while having sex with me

My girlfriend wants to try MDMA later this week while having sex with me. I want to be prepared for it and I wanted to know if there is any stuff that i need to know before I do it...Like is it ok for her to give me a BJ while on Molly?Is it also okay if we have anal sex? Any other suggestions will be greatly appreciated. Submitted November 25, 2019 at 12:10AM My girlfriend wants to try MDMA later this week while having sex with me. I want to be prepared for it and I wanted to know if there is any stuff that i need to know before I do it...Like is it ok for her to give me a BJ while on Molly?Is it also okay if we have anal sex? Any other suggestions will be greatly appreciated.

My [23F] friend's [25M] girlfriend [22F] doesn't want me to talk to him or see him. He wants me to.

Weird title, sorry. I'll call the friend V, and his girlfriend M. V and I aren't very close; we used to be much closer, but then drifted apart over drama in our group of friends. This was before V and M met. Recently (meaning over the last year or so) we reconnected because of circumstances, we don't really hang out but we see each other regularly in class and chat often. I feel like I should specify this because I don't want to seem insincere - there was some ambiguity between me and V at the time, I think we both definitely considered dating the other, but it never happened. This was about 4/5 years ago. I had a little crush, but I was also 18, you know how it is. I wouldn't talk to M as much. I thought it was normal, I knew him and he was in my class, she wasn't and we never even were really introduced. Some time later I found out she was saying I was antagonising her and "excluding" her. I was really baffled. It's not like she had ever sho...

I (20M) got drunk and flirted with one of my best friends (19F)

Me and my friend went to a pub the other night and both got quite drunk. Everything was fine until I was obviously flirting with her, the problem being she has an on again and off again boyfriend (21M). After awhile I realised my mistake and told her I should of flirted because she's sorta with the guy (who's also my friend). I messaged the guy to apologise and explain what happend and he took it well enough. I just feel like I can't talk to my friend (the 19F one) anymore out of respect for their relationship. I don't feel any feelings towards her normally and I still want to be friends and she seemed open to it but I feel too awkward to talk to her. I'm really not sure what to do, any advice? TL:DR- I flirted with my friend after being drunk and now feel really bad about it. Submitted November 24, 2019 at 11:08PM Me and my friend went to a pub the other night and both got quite drunk. Everything was fine until I was obviously flirting with her, the problem...

My (26f) friends (40F/M) are judging my boyfriend (28m) for not spending much on Christmas gifts

This is partly ranting, partly asking for support. My boyfriend and I are celebrating our first Christmas together and I couldn’t be more excited. We’re in a long distance relationship so travel is already expensive over the holidays, and we recently had a conversation about us each being a little tight on money so we’re not going all out on Christmas gifts. We settled on under $100 for each other. I’m so excited about the idea of him giving me anything that I don’t care how flashy or expensive it is. Anything he put thought into thinking about me will make me feel special. I have any idea of one thing he bought me. It’s sentimental and I will appreciate it. But my friends laughed when I told them. It probably only cost $15. They’re like “hopefully that’s not what it is”. They’re almost suggesting he’s a shitty boyfriend that’s undervaluing me. And they keeps suggesting I get him things way out of my price range. It’s really hurting my feelings because these cheap gifts we’re gett...

How do I (19f) cope with my friend getting a boyfriend and me dealing with extreme feelings of loneliness, while still wanting to be super excited for her in this moment

My friend group is kind of strange and none of us have had a real boyfriend we’ve all hooked up with and had things with lots of guys but each of seemed to relate in the whole actual relationship issue. Lately I have been super suicidal and depressed and essentially just in the worst place of my life ( I have borderline personality disorder and ptsd) and I’m just terrified 24/7 but I’m working on it and am starting therapy. But i feel awful because my friend is essentially having things get so bright for her. Don’t get me wrong I don’t want her to be unhappy at all, my post is about how I can internally deal with myself. Externally I have supported and expressed my enthusiasm for her I would never tell her it makes me feel this way because it’s unfair and just not rational. I guess what I’m asking is how do I not let my interal mental illness and like suicidal drives to not be effected by this news. At first I was a little okay but like now a million horrible things are racing throu...

Girlfriend wants to take a break, but giving me the choice on how I think we should do it.

tl;dr - Feeling a bit either trapped or confused here. Girlfriend and I are having trouble and she came to me crying, asshe feels like she needs some time to figure out what she needs to do and who she is, and therefore she wants to take a break. We live together, so she gives me the following options of either fully splitting up for a long period of time or halfway splitting up for a potentially shorter period of time: ​ A. We take a break by her sleeping in different rooms, and she says she would be fine with me seeing other people to see if I find anything out by doing so (ie, happier with someone else), with the hopes that maybe we find out that we do want to start up being in a relationship together again, or not. ​ B. We take a break by her moving out (my place, but filled with both of our stuff), in which case she says that it would be a longer term situation because she hates the concept of having all of her stuff/life split between her mother's house (where she would ...

I [F19] hate my ex [M17] but can't avoid him and it's causing me distress

I [F19] broke up with my ex [M17] about 6 months ago and since then have felt overwhelming annoyance and I guess hatred for him. I won't go into detail on that, but my question is this; Because of how I feel about him I obviously never want to speak to, see or even think about him. However it's really difficult as we are part of the same group of friends and so I can't avoid him. I want to block him on every form of social media, but if I do this, I either leave behind all my friends (one of whom is my best friend) or I make things awkward with our group. I don't know what to do cause I love my friends, but he makes everything horrible, at least on my part. These friends don't really like him that much either, but no one wants to be the one who says something. It also doesn't help that the friend group was originally his and I joined them last before dating him. This makes me feel like I should just cut ties with them even if it'll break my heart losing ...

I (45F) am going through a divorce and I have been staying at my best friend (44F) house and I have a crush on her husband (45M).

This is my second marriage that ends because of cheating ( both of them cheated on me and were assholes) . I found out 2 months ago and we decided to divorce . The whole situation was kinda messy as we have a kid together but I don't want to talk about it. Me and my best friend have known each other for 30 years we have always been close and she offered me to stay with my kid at her house ( they have a free room) until the divorce ends and I get back on my feet. I have been living with them for the last month and they have the perfect marriage. I am wondering what I did wrong in my past 2 marriages . They have been together for 25 years , they built their own bussiness and are very rich , they have 4 kids , both of them are good looking and they have a great sex life ( from what my best friend told me ) . I can't stop feeling jealous about them and it makes me feel even more miserable and that I never acomplished anything in my life. In this month I developed some feelings f...

GF moved out and I want to win her back

TLDR: GF moved out after finding messages of me chatting (sexting, with no nudes) with random online women. Me (M28) and her (F29) have been together for 4 years. We have always had a great connection. We’ve gotten each other on a very intimate level. Or so I thought. I had started to have frustrations (I know it’s her body, and I don’t own it or have right to it). During this frustration I started to chat with random women on the internet, but also one not so random woman I had a non sexual fling in Turkey 5 years ago. This was sexting essentially, without nudes as that crossed some line in my mind at the time. So she found out. And moved out while I was at work more 6 weeks ago. I know I messed up and violated her trust by not fully communicating. She has not ruled out ever getting back together. She asked for space. And besides a few romantic gestures I’ve been fairly good at that. I know I hurt her. But what have others in my or a similar scenario done? I love her and am willing ...

Me (38f) with red flags...trust him (40m) or run for the hills?

Married 8 years. Right after we got married (ie on our honeymoon) I used his phone one morning and saw a dating app. I was shocked and downloaded it on my own phone and found his profile. It was very incomplete but his picture was there. I confronted him and he said it was stupid, he made a profile one night a year prior when we had a big argument but he never used it and forgot about it. And then he deleted it in front of me. Ok, moving on. ​ 4 years ago I noticed a piece of paper in his jeans while doing laundry. It had a woman's name on it with a number to text. I asked him about that one. He said he's never contacted her but one night when he was at a strip club for a buddy's bachelor party, this stripper slipped him her number and said she'd be available for an "arrangement". He says he just never threw the paper away. I wasn't sure about that.....he does always tip very very well (everywhere with everyone) so I thought maybe she thought she could...

My Brother doesn’t want me in his life anymore

tl;dr: brother fallen out with entire family, wants nothing to with me anymore I’m going to have to go back a few years in order for people to understand completely what’s happened. My brother and mum really didn’t get along, they would fight all the time, screaming and yelling at each other almost everyday. They were unable to see how they were aggravating each other so it just go worse and worse as the years went by, eventually progressing to my brother becoming quite aggressive and violent where he would push my mum over, punch holes in walls, destroy furniture and break a door of its frame. Part of his behaviour was due to drugs and alcohol which made him hot tempered, however when he wasn’t drunk or high he was still unpleasant to my mum nonetheless. Understandably my mum felt she couldn’t love with him anymore and she was frightened of him so she asked him to leave. This is where my dad comes in. My parents divorced when I was very young and my dad hadn’t been the most proac...

I was asked out but don’t know if I like them anymore

Ok so some explaining on my situation, so I used to like this guy (15m) that I hung out with nearly every day for the past 5 or so years but, over the summer he moved away so I had kind of moved on from him and there was this other guy (16m) in one of my classes (who ironically has the same name as the other guy) who I have come to like and I think he might like me too because I always catch him looking at me and one day he walked me to my class and talked with me even though his class was in the opposite direction. So yes now I like this guy but last night I got a text from the first guy asking if I want to go on a date to see a movie or something because he misses me, but I don’t like him as much anymore and I have no idea what to do. I kind of want to go with the guy that asked me out but I just don’t feel that I like him as much as I used to because I like this new guy now. What should I do? TL;DR: Someone I used to like asked me out but I like someone else now but don’t want to ...

My (27f) complicated and at times abusive relationship with father (58m). Is it possible to get closure without cutting contact?

I always had a complicated relationship with my dad when I was growing up. His behaviour was pretty volatile and unpredictable - he would be in a good mood one minute and then would switch, often without warning or apparent reason, v Jekyll and Hyde. His bad moods were characterised by the same patterns of behaviour: nasty, sarcastic and belittling comments, sometimes days of silent treatment, control/withholding of food or money, angry and often scary outbursts, very occasional violence (e.g. he hit me once in the face, would occasionally throw things at me like books or chairs, but would more often threaten violence and go as if to throw something to scare me, for example). He would switch back almost as unpredictably and then would make jokes about his behaviour (but never apologise) and we would all laugh along out of relief that he was being ‘normal’ again (my mum and my sister included, who both experienced the same things). As an adult I have been in at least one abusive relat...

How do I get in a relationship?

Tldr: 21 male never been in relationship. Wondering how to meet people/ show that I want a relationship. More importantly how can it come organically. Hi, I’m a 21 y o male and I’ve never been in a relationship before. I’ve hooked up a lot but have never actually had anything substantial. It’s not a matter of looks either. Not to be a dick but I feel like it’s relevant to mention that I’m good looking, blue eyes, fit, maybe a little on the shorter side but average height and consistently rated around a 9. I’m often told I’m “very attractive”. But I don’t think looks are important at all. I tend to be much more attracted to people emotionally it just tends to matter to other people so I thought I’d say it. The longest “relationship” I’ve had was a month and I thought she was very pretty and didn’t care what she looked like but objectively I guess she wasn’t super attractive. After a couple of weeks she got really insecure and thought I was going to cheat or something. I really reall...

Does this mean he (29) only wants sex with me (29F)

I had gone on a coffee date with guy who texted me the following about 2 hours after our date: Him - It was nice to meet you. Sorry I had to leave early Me - No worries :) It was nice to meet you too Him - I was going to ask if you wanted a kiss before you left but you turned around fast Me - Oh that's sweet, but even that's too fast for me. I don't do anything sexually until official. I'm into long term too. Not into flings and FWBs Him - Gotcha Was he being rude with me? Or was I? TLDR: Guy texted about 2 hours after our date saying he wanted to kiss me but I had quickly left. However, I didn't even think he was interested in person. Based on the above text, was he being rude as in only wanting sex? Submitted November 24, 2019 at 11:47PM I had gone on a coffee date with guy who texted me the following about 2 hours after our date:Him - It was nice to meet you. Sorry I had to leave earlyMe - No worries :) It was nice to meet you tooHim - I was going ...

My (19F) boyfriend (21M) doesn't like me being friends with my ex (20M)

Sorry if this is a bit all over the place, I'm new to this! So the title somewhat speaks for itself, but the thing is my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6ish months now and he has never straight up said that he doesn't like my ex, it's more the things he says when my ex gets brought up in conversations and the way he acts that makes me think that. He always jokes around when my ex sends me a message etc about things like "oh better reply to your boyfriend so he won't get worried" or "if you tell him im being mean, I'm sure he'll come to your rescue in a heartbeat" and to me its all good fun and I don't mind the jokes, I think they're kinda funny every once in a while to be honest, but sometimes he goes too far or goes on about it for too long and it gets really frustrating, plus I'm more worried about if they're more than just jokes to my boyfriend. My boyfriend has seen the dynamic between me and my ex and know...

Ex of 10 years/Rebound(?)/Failed Friendship

I have a friend who I've known for a long time. We immediately clicked, however, we were both in very serious relationships with other people so we never crossed any lines, although we both admitted to having feelings for each other. I've been single for about...five months and he broke up with his ex about two months it was a decade long relationship. About one month ago we were drinking and we started to kiss. Since then our friendship has drastically changed. He said he couldn't commit to me (but he wasn't rejecting me) because he needed time to grieve his past relationship. Here's where it gets fucked up. I'm fine with being just friends. He was the best male friend I ever had, however, since we crossed these lines he's been more distant, and withdrawn from me. We don't communicate the way we used to. He's in his head more as well, he says he has a lot of guilt and sometimes he's gone as far as to say he wished he had never met me. But when...

My (54M) son (22M) and his wife (20F) treat me with no respect and I am at my wits end

First off let me start by saying I love my son and have done as much to help him out in life as I can. It started when he lost his scholarship, and went downhill from there. He met a girl and got her pregnant, so they got married. Fine. Her parents kicked her out at 18 over this and an unrelated misdemeanor charge, and they had no place to go so we offered to let them stay, rent free. Baby and all. I really tried to believe this was a wake up call and that they were going to button up. I let my daughter in law call me on a first name basis because I wanted to believe that my son and her were equal adults and they just had a rough beginning to adult life. It's now been over a year and it feels like freeloading. These are not equal adults, these are children and they behave like it. I don't see any serious plans for them moving out. I have enough problems of my own, MS being a huge one. I've been annoyed for a while now, especially that they act like equals here when I pay...

Weird situation with a girl [33/F] overstepping some of my boundaries [32/M] - should I have handled this differently?

Yes, I know this is a long post about someone I chatted with online for a week. Apologies in advance, it was just a strange situation and I did start to feel a little attached. Met a girl online recently - she lives very far away, but it's a city I go to semi-regularly for work. I'm going to be there in a couple weeks. Sparks started to fly and we decided to hang out when I visit. She mentioned that while she didn't want to commit to having sex, she said she'd probably want to with me (which I totally understood, I wanted to make sure that attraction was there in person as well!) It was a solid week of texting, messaging, phone calls, most of which I really enjoyed and she seemed to as well, but it all kind of went awry the other night. She's a very chatty person, one of those types where every other sentence is joking or teasing of some sort - and I like a good sense of humor and that kind of personality but it was so much that I often couldn't tell when s...

Being friends with an ex?

TL:DR Ex wants to remains friends but I’m confused on what to do? So me (24/m) and my gf (26/f) broke up like yesterday and it’s something we were trying to work on and in the end she just didn’t us working out. A couple days ago we talked and she had mentioned us being friends, cause we started out as great friends before anything, and she thought we could go back to being that way. That’s something I’ve never done before normally for me once a relationship ends it ends but this time I feel so lost because I really don’t want to lose her out of my life. At the same time I ask myself, will I ever get over her or be happy this way?” I think what makes me happy about it is the fact that we will still be in each other’s lives but she even made it clear it would be only be a friendship. As much I don’t want to lose her I don’t see myself being a friend to her. I know myself and I’ll never get over her and I’ll always carry that “what if” thought. I’m so confused because how can I just go...

My mom won't stop farting and doesn't acknowledge it

To get straight to the point, my mom farts a lot. Like, really loudly, and about half the time also very smelly. Really loudly though. Wet farts. All the fucking time. In mid-conversation, whether or not she is the one speaking, doesn't matter if we are all eating or out for our meal, or at a bar as a family, or in the car, out shopping etc etc. The problem is is that at first we would be like "uhm...?" (because she never said excuse me; just pretended like it never happened) but that was about 10 years ago... 10. Long. Years. Over the years, we have gotten more and more aggressive and/or visibly disgusting with our "MOM!!"-ing. She may fart, we say "mom!" She continues to fart, we say "Mom!!!" She continues, we say "MOM!!!!" Most of the time she will ignore us, despite us saying it 3 times during one fart and her continuing to speak... The other times she will laugh at us. And guess what? Her laughing makes the fart come out even ...