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I don’t understand why people ghost others it’s so disrespectful

Like if you don’t want to talk to someone anymore as hard as the conversation will be you should just have it. Like I thought this person liked me like I liked them and clearly they don’t ... Whenever I asked to see him he’d say he’s busy . All the time, and never made plans for us.. I want to call him out and be like if you don’t want to talk then say it cause just ignoring and then not ever making plans anymore hurts, when you knew I was looking for something serious . But I don’t know if that’s a good idea. I’m just hurt and I feel like I’m never going to find the right person ... I just try so hard for people , as trying to be in a relationship and also just in friendships and I feel like I get no where ... I just wish a man would come along and want to be with me, want to see me. Make plans for us and stick to them and not cancel... I’m 23F I get I’m young but still .. it hurts so much to have someone make you feel special and then they just stop talking to you . I myself

Is my perception or idea of relationships with women skewed?

Ok so let me give you guys a little background about me. i’m in my mid 20s. i came from a well off family so i’m financially secure, have dealt with addiction and legal troubles all my adult life. no education really just working jobs remodels or lawn care. and i finally got my life together sort of. sober and about to have a house and working a steady job. but i’m in a new area and don’t have many opportunities to meet women my age. on top of that all my relationships previously have been with girls who aren’t the best influences. they liked drugs and partying and weren’t very reliable but they were fun. and now that i’m living life the right way i guess i feel like i couldn’t attract a women who is sober and has her life together and is pretty. i guess because i don’t think they exist or they won’t be as fun? i feel like once a girl knew my past and how i fucked up so bad even while having all the opportunity in the world they just wouldn’t want to be with me. i probably have low se

Is she into me, based off of this last dm?

So basically me and this girl have been talking for nearly a month and I just want to know if you guys think she’s into me, I’d be cool if she was. She has sent various pics and videos of herself trying to be all cute and stuff (like with her tongue out and whatever girls do to be cute). But on this last dm it seems like something might have gone (slightly) wrong. Or am I over thinking it? This is our convo Her: after talking about school) “Sorry for the rant ahhaah.” Me: it’s ok, it’s fun talking to you Her: “haha, same to you? (Haha) ofc! <3” So I’m just a bit worried on if she is still interested bc when I said it’s fun talking to her, the first part of the dm said, “haha, same to you?” With a question mark. Does this mean she thinks I’m boring? But at the same time a few days ago she seemed to be interested when she was sending cute selfies, and videos of herself and asking me questions in her videos. And my main goal is to keep her interested until COVID has chilled out a

COVID has made things tough, so I need help

So I am a college freshman and am living in dorms this year. There is this very cute girl that lives on my floor and I really want to talk to her. I don't have a consistent way of seeing her, it's just occasionally in the halls but quite rare. How should I go about talking to her? Should I just add her snap?(a lot of people wrote theirs on the board in the common area) and just hit her up? Or just hope i get lucky in the hallway to see her and just approach her? With covid as a factor, I don't know what's really the appropriate in-person approach. Submitted November 02, 2020 at 08:21PM So I am a college freshman and am living in dorms this year. There is this very cute girl that lives on my floor and I really want to talk to her. I don't have a consistent way of seeing her, it's just occasionally in the halls but quite rare. How should I go about talking to her? Should I just add her snap?(a lot of people wrote theirs on the board in the common area) and

26M just starting dating not experience at all, need advice on how to get started

Hi All, I am 26M guy who is just getting started with dating. I feel like I am at a good point to get started with dating at this point in life (I am a software engineer and was more focused on career up to now), so tbh I am not experienced at all with girls, but I had the following questions: How do I explain my lack of sexual experience on dates and is it best to be honest about the fact that I am a virgin? Tbh I am more reserved and nerdy (the stereotypical software engineer), and dating isnt natural for me, any books people recommend to read? How do I get over shyness on dates? Is it unattractive if I ask to take things slow, tbh sexual stuff makes me nervous What are the best dating apps? I am a really skinny guy (5'7' 125 lbs), is that unattractive? Thank you! Submitted November 02, 2020 at 09:18PM Hi All,I am 26M guy who is just getting started with dating. I feel like I am at a good point to get started with dating at this point in life (I am a software

Started to like someone i’ve rejected in the past. We are both dating other people now

Hey dudes and girls. Really shitty situation here F, 21 So, there is this dude (M, 20) who’s been my friend for more than two years. Year and a half ago, he has confessed his feelings for me, and I rejected him, since I didn’t feel the same and just didn’t want anything of that sort back then. We still remained friends, even though it was really hard for him to get over. A few months after that, I started dating my other friend (M, 21) (who was his close friend as well), and it has been going really well for a year. However, lately, I started feeling really uneasy as I started realizing that I was slowly falling in love with that other dude that I have rejected. I have been trying to suppress this feeling, but recently it has just become impossible. I cannot keep lying to myself and my current bf anymore. I realize that staying in this relationship is making me feel progressively worse and worse, and that everything about it was a mistake. I really don’t know what to do right now. I

Where do I go from here?

So I’m at University and have met this really good looking girl. We initially met eachother at a bar together in a group of 6, since then I’ve been out for a bite to eat with herself and her flatmates - and then proceeded to meet up with her flat on Halloween night after she invited me. Today I went on a run with her, and she wants to carry on running with me every other day. The thing is, she is out of my league (big time) and is fairly dry when it comes to messaging; and yet she’d like to carry on going on runs with me etc.. Is there a definitive way to know whether I’m being friend zoned or not? The U.K. is going into lockdown on Thursday, so I can’t exactly ask her out on a date to a restaurant or anything. TLDR ~ I’m very attracted to this girl, but am unsure about her feelings towards myself. She has invited me out and wants to go running with me, but is quite dry when messaging. What do I do? I don’t want to just be her ‘running buddy’. TLDR+ ~ I’m 19 and haven’t been in a re

He asked me to leave at midnight after sex

I have now been on four great dates with a guy I met on Hinge - slept with him after the third and stayed the night. Everything seemed to be going well - we had lots in common and great chemistry. He had been very keen to set up the fourth date after the third, and had booked a nice bar and restaurant for us. The date went pretty well, and I ended up back at his place. After having sex, however, he suddenly announced at half past midnight he wanted to go to a party, and abruptly got up and started getting dressed. He didn’t ask me whether I wanted to join - it was clear this was my cue to leave. I ended up leaving in a cab, but felt pretty disappointed about how the night had turned out, and a little offended. I wouldn’t have cared if he had mentioned earlier in the night that he had a party to go to, but bringing me back to his place without any mention of the party, and then heading out again without me in the middle of the night made me feel used. Am I being unreasonable for fe

Sexually attracted to toxic masculinity and assholes, emotionally attracted to the opposite

If I could fix it I would, so that’s why I’m asking for advice. I’m a female in my mid 20’s, and all of the men I like/daydream about/imagine are a certain type of toxic masculinity, overtly alpha and mainly assholes. I’m very sexually attracted to men like that, and that’s who I generally go for, even when I don’t want to because it never works out, they end up being very mean and controlling, and it’s a very negative dating relationship. I also can’t connect emotionally with them. I can only connect emotionally to men who are pretty much the opposite, genuine and kind and quiet and introverted, I guess. Not very outwardly dominant in an in your face kind of way. These men open up a whole new world for me, and I feel like if I can actually get past this strong desire to date men who are assholes because I’m attracted to them, everything I’m actually looking for will be in someone more along the lines of the second type I described, and I could actually genuinely connect with someone

Leading people on in the pandemic M21

The title is a bit click baity cause hell i want people to weigh in and advice me. Sorry for leading you guys on lmao. Being single is killing me right now. I live alone at university and I'm under a lot of stress. Saying that, I dont want a relationship. My last two relationships were intense, I rebounded from one to the next and they both lasted about 2 and a half years. So I haven't really been single since I was 15. I think it stunted my personal development; im now trying to explore my pansexuality, but I've had some pretty odd experiences with grindr and obviously being pansexual (I think) my sexuality goes in a lot of different directions, so that is not a solution for exploration. The UK has just announced its going in to a second full blown lockdown, so no going out to pubs, there's already been no clubbing this whole time, just no opportunity to meet people casually. I dont like dating apps in general, sure at first it was fun to develop my text game as I n

I need some help on this cute girl

So. Im 19, and work at this restaurant chain, and with covid etc we let other coworkers from other locations, work with us(not on a regular bases) 2 days ago, 2 girls worked for a day with us, 1 of them was amazing, looked super cute. Had a really nice personality, she is really nice(she is 19 too) We had multible nice eye contact moments, laughed a lot, she started calling me funny names(might be a common thing so idk) We had kinda the same study directions(do not go to the same college(she lives 50 km away) After work me a other coworker and the 2 girls just decided to go to McDonald's after work We took 1 car (the car of the girls) We had great time, music on the radio etc Me and the other coworker knew the city a bit so we gave directions of were to go Pointing left or right etc, all of that. I pointed straight, but because i cant see through the front seats(the really nice girl sat in front of me in the front passager seat) And i unintentionaly touched hear hair etc She

Should I talk to him if he doesn't talk to me?

Or should I just wait or move on? Like he never replied to my message XD I can't believe I worry like this when I like someone. It's been 3 days since we don't talk. Submitted November 02, 2020 at 11:47PM Or should I just wait or move on?Like he never replied to my message XD I can't believe I worry like this when I like someone.It's been 3 days since we don't talk.

Letting him sort his life out first and reinitiating contact after?

There's this guy (25) I (f, 24) met on thursday through mutual friends. We're both from Vancouver and immediately started talking about the city and so on. He comes across as quite extraverted and confident. Couldn't take his eyes off me all evening and obviously had an eye out for me when we were mingling seperately (birthday outdoors with limited number of people, we all had masks on), we had long conversations and he made several efforts to provoke another conversation. He stayed until the end and started opening up a bit more emotionally towards me. There just was a spark, he flirted alot and we never ran out of dialogue as we were sharing our passions and points of view. Asked me for my number and made me sushi on sunday at his place. After a really lively date, he brought up his intentions. Apparently he had broken up with his gf of 6 years just two months ago and said he couldn't commit rn, but was happy to hook up (also confessed about how much of a mess his li

How to get good tinder pics during lockdown?

I have very few good pics of myself, and was wondering if anyone had any creative ideas on how I could get some decent ones? Submitted November 02, 2020 at 11:48PM I have very few good pics of myself, and was wondering if anyone had any creative ideas on how I could get some decent ones?

2 months into the relationship and we haven’t had sex. We almost but something happened 👀

So I’ve been talking to my(28m) gf(25f) for 5 months without seeing each other (covid era) and 2 months ago we decided to have a date at her house (because of covid) and getting into a serious relationship. We met at work and we had a crush on each other without knowing and then we started talking. Anyways, we have 2 months into the relationship and we haven’t had sex, we kiss passionately and we even have had foreplay m, she did a bj and I gave her oral sex too. However, at the time she told me to pentrate her she felt nervous and we couldn’t continue and she apologized and of course I told her it was ok and that I will wait until she feels more comfortable and secure. Things didn’t get weird because I totally understands this may happen and she is not insecure of herself at all. Does it really count as a bad sign? Is this normal to happen? This is the second time that happens to me with someone but the first time with someone as my girlfriend. Submitted November 02, 2020 at 11:4

Moving communication off-app

So I (33F) am on several dating apps and I frequently get asked to move communication off the app to text or something else (e.g., Snapchat, which I don't have or IG, which I barely use). I generally don't like to move off-app until after at least the first date. I talk to a lot of people in the apps and, statistically, I know that probably 90% of them I won't meet more than once irl ( if we get that far), so frankly I just don't really feel like it's worth it to move to texting before I actually meet someone. But it seems like people often are turned off/annoyed by this or see it as a sign of disinterest (I always say I'm happy to continue talking in-app). I don't really plan on changing my stance on this, but I am wondering what other people's opinions are about this issue and how you navigate it. Is it some kind of red flag if someone wants to keep communication to the app? If so, is there some way to alleviate those concerns (other than moving of

HELP QUICK

Hey all- Quick backstory, I'm 25M, lost a huge amount of weight, as a consequence still a virgin, pretty much never done anything. Been on the apps, and talking to this girl(25F) for a little while I really like. Get along, have a lot in common, similar backgrounds, etc... We were planning to hang out tonight for the first time. This afternoon, she ended up at a friends house, now getting completely wasted. But- she still wants to come over, sexy texting keeps going, and it sounds like this is happening. What do I do? How do I not completely humiliate myself, or is that a lost cause....... Submitted November 02, 2020 at 11:53PM Hey all-Quick backstory, I'm 25M, lost a huge amount of weight, as a consequence still a virgin, pretty much never done anything. Been on the apps, and talking to this girl(25F) for a little while I really like. Get along, have a lot in common, similar backgrounds, etc... We were planning to hang out tonight for the first time. This afternoon, sh

I've come to the conclusion that short women don't like short men

More short women convey their liking for tall men. In fact, I don't think I've ever seen a short woman with a guy that is also short in over a year. Literally all the short women I see are with much taller men and some even reject short men (that are still taller) because they aren't tall enough. I've heard of more reasons for short women to go after and like tall men rather than short men. There are no reasons or support for women to like short men, but everytime a short woman likes a tall man there are hordes of people that back it up. Typical society Submitted November 02, 2020 at 11:53PM More short women convey their liking for tall men. In fact, I don't think I've ever seen a short woman with a guy that is also short in over a year. Literally all the short women I see are with much taller men and some even reject short men (that are still taller) because they aren't tall enough. I've heard of more reasons for short women to go after and like

How to get abundance mindset when you literally don’t have abundance due to your physical traits?

29 M here. I’ve got a great job, my own place, car, good friends, traveled the world, cool hobbies etc. I also know I am great in social settings and easy to talk to. but I am 5’5 so women don’t really take interest in me much. Whenever I actually find someone I like and we end up going out or talking and then it ends, I get extremely anxious and depressed because I don’t have abundance of dates. I also have standards and don’t settle for people I am not attracted to, but they aren’t crazy standards. It’s easy for people to not take things too seriously or get upset when things don’t work out when they can easily get more dates. How do I deal with this? I’m afraid I’ll be alone forever but also just afraid at how badly I get affected when I do date and things don’t work out. Submitted November 02, 2020 at 11:54PM 29 M here. I’ve got a great job, my own place, car, good friends, traveled the world, cool hobbies etc. I also know I am great in social settings and easy to talk to.

She made the first move but next day she told me i m not her type!

So i went out with some girls the other day for a few drinks. Because of corona we continued at the place of one of them(we were 2 guys and 3 girls at the flat). All was going fine we had some more drinks we danced etc. In a moment one of the girls started to get more intimate like trying to teach me a dance touching me with her back while dancing etc and then suddenly she grabbed me and kiss me(she made the move).I then took her hand and we went at one of the rooms where again she kissed me fast and put her leg between my legs 🤣. After just about 40 seconds she left me,took her friend and said that they must go and that was it. After a few days i saw her at another party i was drunk and didn't talk much to her (i almost got in a fight that day with another person at the party but that's another story and not related i hope?). The following day i got a text saying i m sorry but i wanted to let you know that you are not my type! Wtf! What happened and she changed her mind?

(27M) How do I tell women that I enjoy sex and want to experience new things sexually?

To sum it up quickly. I was in a long term relationship and used to very regular sex. I am now dating and am not getting sexually pleased like I am used to and I want to express that to the women I am meeting without sounding like a complete fuck boy. It’s 2020, I’m a guy who loves having sex it is a fun activity. I want new and more sexual experiences because that’s what I believe at 27 is something that I won’t be able to do in the future. What should I be saying/doing to let these people know what Im interested in without coming across the wrong way? First time poster here😅 Submitted November 03, 2020 at 12:03AM To sum it up quickly. I was in a long term relationship and used to very regular sex. I am now dating and am not getting sexually pleased like I am used to and I want to express that to the women I am meeting without sounding like a complete fuck boy.It’s 2020, I’m a guy who loves having sex it is a fun activity. I want new and more sexual experiences because that

Am I a coward for this?

So I (17m) met this female that I was attracted to at this party a few weeks ago. At the party I didn’t really get any one-one conversations with her because we were in a group setting. But at the end of the night right before she left, she was sitting by herself for like 2 minutes and I could’ve told her my intentions right then but I just couldn’t get myself to do it. She ended up leaving, and a few days later I messaged her on social media and told her my desire for her. But i can’t help but feeling weak about it, I feel like I really should’ve done it in person. Am I overthinking this? Or was this cowardly of me? Submitted November 03, 2020 at 12:05AM So I (17m) met this female that I was attracted to at this party a few weeks ago. At the party I didn’t really get any one-one conversations with her because we were in a group setting. But at the end of the night right before she left, she was sitting by herself for like 2 minutes and I could’ve told her my intentions right th

I feel worried about dating help

hi i am men 18, yesterday night just had an amazing date with the woman we met on Instagram, she laughed a lot, then she wanted to hug & hold my hand, but she was very quiet, what i am not is she rarely ask back, only me keep asking huh ... the problem is not there, the problem is how to overcome the worry that she will be taken by another man? she is very beautiful, like to travel & she has lots of friends and he asked my friend, my friend is also always joking about my crush, I'm jealous haha Thank you all Submitted November 03, 2020 at 12:16AM hi i am men 18, yesterday night just had an amazing date with the woman we met on Instagram, she laughed a lot, then she wanted to hug & hold my hand, but she was very quiet, what i am not is she rarely ask back, only me keep asking huh ...the problem is not there, the problem is how to overcome the worry that she will be taken by another man? she is very beautiful, like to travel & she has lots of friendsand he a