Letting him sort his life out first and reinitiating contact after?

There's this guy (25) I (f, 24) met on thursday through mutual friends. We're both from Vancouver and immediately started talking about the city and so on. He comes across as quite extraverted and confident. Couldn't take his eyes off me all evening and obviously had an eye out for me when we were mingling seperately (birthday outdoors with limited number of people, we all had masks on), we had long conversations and he made several efforts to provoke another conversation. He stayed until the end and started opening up a bit more emotionally towards me. There just was a spark, he flirted alot and we never ran out of dialogue as we were sharing our passions and points of view. Asked me for my number and made me sushi on sunday at his place. After a really lively date, he brought up his intentions. Apparently he had broken up with his gf of 6 years just two months ago and said he couldn't commit rn, but was happy to hook up (also confessed about how much of a mess his life is atm and how he's still healing from the heartbreak). Still told me I was a beautiful, warm and smart woman after all he'd just confessed to me and I didn't deserve to be in this mess. I had wanted to figure out what he was looking for in our anyways, so I told him I wasn't interested in hookups. He apologized several times and I could tell he really meant it. We handled the situation very politely and respectfully. I left and wished him all the best with no intention of calling again.

Now, I really enjoyed talking to this man and would like to meet him again once he's over his ex. Rn he's clearly not available and I respect that. I'm currently working on myself and seeing other people (as far as it's possible due to corona) for walks, I also use a dating app. Do you think I'd have a chance of moving on from the sphere of potential rebounds if I give him space for say half a year? If I still haven't found someone I'd like to be in a relationship with, I'd love to meet him on neutral ground.

Submitted November 02, 2020 at 11:48PM

There's this guy (25) I (f, 24) met on thursday through mutual friends. We're both from Vancouver and immediately started talking about the city and so on. He comes across as quite extraverted and confident. Couldn't take his eyes off me all evening and obviously had an eye out for me when we were mingling seperately (birthday outdoors with limited number of people, we all had masks on), we had long conversations and he made several efforts to provoke another conversation. He stayed until the end and started opening up a bit more emotionally towards me. There just was a spark, he flirted alot and we never ran out of dialogue as we were sharing our passions and points of view. Asked me for my number and made me sushi on sunday at his place. After a really lively date, he brought up his intentions. Apparently he had broken up with his gf of 6 years just two months ago and said he couldn't commit rn, but was happy to hook up (also confessed about how much of a mess his life is atm and how he's still healing from the heartbreak). Still told me I was a beautiful, warm and smart woman after all he'd just confessed to me and I didn't deserve to be in this mess. I had wanted to figure out what he was looking for in our anyways, so I told him I wasn't interested in hookups. He apologized several times and I could tell he really meant it. We handled the situation very politely and respectfully. I left and wished him all the best with no intention of calling again.Now, I really enjoyed talking to this man and would like to meet him again once he's over his ex. Rn he's clearly not available and I respect that. I'm currently working on myself and seeing other people (as far as it's possible due to corona) for walks, I also use a dating app. Do you think I'd have a chance of moving on from the sphere of potential rebounds if I give him space for say half a year? If I still haven't found someone I'd like to be in a relationship with, I'd love to meet him on neutral ground.