I can’t forget my latest crush. I recently deleted her of IG since I kept obsessing and need to move on.... sent a Dm that I still think about her and deleted her, to take care and that no reply was needed. But she did reply extensive, which surprised me nicely. But She was like; what are you trying to say (with this) darling? . It was clear what I said in my message, but responded that I wanted her back in my life to get to know each other since the reason for the break was not accurate anymore. But after reading my dm, she went silence now for 3 days. Could she still be thinking what she wants or should I forget about it? Submitted November 01, 2020 at 12:09AM I can’t forget my latest crush. I recently deleted her of IG since I kept obsessing and need to move on.... sent a Dm that I still think about her and deleted her, to take care and that no reply was needed. But she did reply extensive, which surprised me nicely. But She was like; what are you trying to say (with this) da

It isn’t illegal per se like they won’t put you to jail for being gay(as far as I know), but they won’t recognise gay marriages and all that. I’ve heard of pride parades happing but I’ve never seen one myself. I had to purposely look it up to find out we had pride parades at all. Sh*ttyness asides, personally I’ve been seeing more and more lesbians around. Don’t know if I’m just more aware or they’re starting to come out, but I see a lot of women just being a couple in public. Also Hong Kong will be hosting the 2022 gay games (also had to look that up lol) I’m really excited to see it happen. TL;dr it’s pretty bad but there’s some good stuff happening. I’d say there’s not enough action from the government but that’s probably their last concern right now. November 01, 2020 at 12:05AM

I experience pretty bad sex repulsion and I haven't had sexual trauma either. But what I find odd is that I wasn't sex repulsed until I actually had sex. Up until then I was actually looking forward to having sexual relationships. I've been in two relationships and kept hoping in both that I would grow to enjoy it but I wasn't successful. I'm not sure where the repulsion comes from. I wonder if there's some deep subconscious shit going on where the repulsion is just another way to prevent close relationships (I also suffer from Avoidant Personality Disorder so I have a long history of pushing people away). I feel sad because I don't want to be like this. I tend to have a lot of FOMO. Sometimes I think about wanting to at least try for another relationship, but my brain goes immediately to how much it took to get into a place where I didn't gag during sex (or even kissing). I'm just gonna have to accept that I will forever find intimacy gross.

or the f word freedom November 01, 2020 at 12:00AM

You might be biromantic demisexual. October 31, 2020 at 11:51PM

you're right and I'd add that it comes from insecurity. Insecure people and insecure societies. October 31, 2020 at 11:51PM

And aphobic people generalize asexuals, there are some asexuals like me that would have sex only to have kids for example. October 31, 2020 at 11:47PM

Any specifics? October 31, 2020 at 11:43PM

More like not fucking proud hehe October 31, 2020 at 11:42PM

Not to my knowledge. If you masturbate, try doing it less often, as it can raise libido a bit. But don't decrease it so much that you get sexually frustrated, as that will only make things worse. There seems to be a lot less research out there on lowering libido than on raising it, presumably due to lack of interest, but I understand your frustration. While I don't hate having a libido, I sure wish it wasn't so damn high. October 31, 2020 at 11:41PM

I see what you did there 👀 October 31, 2020 at 11:38PM

Its so dumb. Especially when its entire strangers who act weird about it? Like ma’am I will literally never see you again why are you mad October 31, 2020 at 11:38PM

Alright! You never know! And happy Halloween! October 31, 2020 at 11:33PM

Ive been going through it often for a while now lol. Its hard to choose because of the lack of social interaction right now, but im fairly sure the answer is yes. Still thinking though! October 31, 2020 at 11:32PM

Congrats!! 😊 October 31, 2020 at 11:28PM

Holy shit. Same here. Like I no longer felt the need to be horny. That’s so weird lol October 31, 2020 at 11:28PM

Hey, I suffer very similar issues, I think it is best you seek professional help, therapist or psychiatrist.. It helped me a lot, although I still struggle. October 31, 2020 at 11:21PM

Fuck yeah! Heteromantic aces are queer as fuck and i love all of you as a non heteromantic ace! If someone won't make space for you i will shove them out of theirs :). October 31, 2020 at 11:19PM

I think the one of the first things that tipped me off was when my classmates, friends, and sister were having crushes left and right and I would wonder when was I going to like someone? Then I hit high school and the topic of who is or isn't hot would come up in conversations, and my response was always along the lines of, what is 'hot' and is there a universally hot person I can compare these people to? And I could never come up with any kind of answer for "what's your type?" As for things that could have helped: if someone had told me I might never like anyone and that's ok. And knowing what squishes (platonic crushes) were would have been VERY helpful. October 31, 2020 at 11:19PM

Take your time! This FAQ/about section is a good resource for education on asexuality and the spectrum. October 31, 2020 at 11:17PM

Ive been thinking about it more over it, but no verdict yet October 31, 2020 at 11:17PM

Ugh, yes. I'm at that age - and worse, I'm married - so I constantly get asked when I'm going to have kids. When I tell them I'm probably not, they get all shocked and upset, like I just told them I hate puppies or something October 31, 2020 at 11:12PM

Just noticed your reply. This US supreme court judge makes the Supreme Court very leaned to conservative with the new amount. She is very anti lgbt+ and is a catholic extremist (People of Prayer group). I am religious but she will take our rights away and she doesn't represent my faith at all! If you look into her story, it is wild. Edit: people of praise group October 31, 2020 at 11:08PM