Two things: first, I would be very very careful with comparing yourself to someone who may or may not be asexual. Your grandfather - and your grandmother, for that matter - may not appreciate your assessment of his sexuality when it gets back to him. It could damage your relationship with them and your family if they're not prepared to accept your sexuality and could put your grandfather in an awkward position if it's something he's never wanted to vocalize. Second, if you do decide you will be happier being true to yourself regardless of the fact that your family may not accept/believe you fully, keep in mind it will probably be an awkward conversation. I'm generally sex-repulsed and have found that coming out as asexual is always 100% uncomfortable for me. Most of those experiences have come from people asking me very personal, inappropriate, and specific questions about my sex life, how I am in the bedroom, whether I've tried it, with who, whether I can masturb

Yeah! Every type of love is meant! :-) June 19, 2021 at 12:03AM

Ok I had that feeling anyways June 18, 2021 at 11:59PM

indeed your name looks familiar! I did not think you got enough credit on tumblr but I waited too long to consider and try to do something about that. I am called "bimshwel" on all applicable web-sites, including the three you mentioned! June 18, 2021 at 11:57PM

They're not interested in you. June 18, 2021 at 11:54PM

YES EXACTLY!!! June 18, 2021 at 11:53PM

This is so sweet!!!! June 18, 2021 at 11:53PM

I agree , I’ll find some videos or make a little paragraph explaining it June 18, 2021 at 11:50PM

Hmm , maybe I’ll go one by one , explaining how it is. This is soo much harder than other sexualities , cos you have to explain why and how June 18, 2021 at 11:49PM

Bi-ace gang! Really noice background there June 18, 2021 at 11:49PM

My metaphor is like being colorblind, but yours works better I think. June 18, 2021 at 11:48PM

I was gonna say the same thing. And people do get weird about “really!? You can’t smell this!?” when I say I can’t smell June 18, 2021 at 11:48PM

Best explanation I've gotten so far thank you June 18, 2021 at 11:48PM

I think I’ll just live with myself , my identity is based off who I am June 18, 2021 at 11:47PM

Soo accurate June 18, 2021 at 11:47PM

I carve lgbt rings, and donate 10% (20 during pride month) to lgbt focused charities and causes. I got the first request for an Ace ring, and it came out fairly decent. June 18, 2021 at 11:45PM

Same! It’s cool to see multiple people with uncommon similarities as you. June 18, 2021 at 11:43PM

Yeah I agree with the arousal vs attraction. The clothing thing kind of reminded me of how a lot of what arouses me has to do with the kind of porn I viewed when I was young and developed those connections. Like whenever I look at the stuff I started with it checks all the boxes of stuff that gets me aroused. And even then its entirely different than the things I find aesthetically attractive. Arousal is entirely just my body equating certain features to the dopamine from climaxing. June 18, 2021 at 11:42PM

You do not fulfill at least one of the following conditions: * heterosexual * heteroromantic * cisgender Fulfilling none, one, or two is queer; fulfilling all three is not queer. In other words, to be queer, you must be a minority in at least one of the following: gender identity, sexual orientation, romantic orientation You are asexual. You do not fulfill “heterosexual.” You are a sexual orientation minority. You qualify as “queer.” However, you do not have to call yourself that. June 18, 2021 at 11:41PM

There’s a word for these knitted or crocheted stuffed creatures: amigurumi. June 18, 2021 at 11:38PM

Exactly, so really it’s not being het-het and/or not cis June 18, 2021 at 11:36PM

Write >!SPOILER!< to hide text, replacing SPOILER with whatever text you don’t want people to see unless they click it first. Might be useful for that trigger warning. There’s a lot of ways people “test the waters” for how safe it will be to come out, which helps them make their decision. Pretending to ask about what “a friend I know” should do or what they’d think of a friend who did something is a common excuse to use when you’re really asking about yourself but don’t want to admit it, but it’s used so often because sometimes people really are asking on how to advise their friend or what they think of the friend. It does have a risk of you getting called on this strategy, and a lot of people will recognize you’re really talking about yourself but play along. Search “come out” on this subreddit. You’ll find a lot of advice for people who aren’t sure if they should come out or not. June 18, 2021 at 11:28PM

thank you! June 18, 2021 at 11:28PM