I had pretty much exactly the same experience, OP. Ready for fireworks and...nothing. Other than the awareness of dry skin touching dry skin lol. As I've grown older (thirteen years older...) I've realized that I am MEGA ROMANTIC and also VERY PARTICULAR about kisses. I've only really enjoyed kissing my current partner (who is allo) but it's not an all the time thing. Sometimes it feels nice, like advanced cuddling, and other times it's gross, like having a dog lick your face. We've learned to roll with it. I wish you the best of luck! It can be hard to navigate what the heck is going on with yourself let alone experiences with other people, but you're not alone. December 09, 2021 at 12:46AM

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Allo cis male here. After chatting with a number of allos and aces, I think there are two parts to it. The first part is an involuntary physiological response that I imperfectly describe as a slight rush, slight increase in heartbeat or skipping a heartbeat, butterflies, and a generalized craving feeling. The second part is a transition to explicit sexual thoughts. For some this always or almost always happens immediately. Others sometimes do and sometimes don’t have immediate explicit sexual thoughts but may have them later when they recall the visual image of the person they were attracted to and re-experience the feelings they had at the time. Besides the sometimes delayed explicit sexual thoughts, the other reason I think it is two parts is because I learned that some aces sometimes experience the physiological response without ever transitioning to explicit sexual thoughts while other aces experience neither. December 09, 2021 at 12:30AM

We just recently started officially dating and I have never been this into or easily flustered around anyone. I grew up w crippling shyness that i worked past as I got older but i guess now as an adult it translates into hiding behind my damn hands because i want to kiss him and i dont even know why it happens. Im normally very forthright and im able to just push past it but im like a deer in the headlights in the sexiest and most awesome way possible,,, EXCEPT that i cant fucking look at my own boyfriend bc the tension is so much and i just wanna kiss him but my brain whips my head around every now and then and i cant fuckin DO IT!!!! He really likes being able to make me so flustered and im really enjoying how compatible we are but we are both finding it hard to manage cause it seems to happen at the worst times for both of us. God he makes me feel like im having a crush for the first time and i swear i could throw up from nervousness i like him so much. Ugh Has anyone else had thi...

We've been together six years, 2 children (still babies) . Im at a time where im too busy for romance, the babies and work have most of my attention. As for my girl, we work together at toyota, 12 hour shifts, and our sex life is just GARBAGE. If i could enphasize GARBAGE more i would. Im 26 sex is still kinda a priority i guess ; definetely something i think about all day/night. Prior to this she slept with another man and some of her family and my so called friends knew. I knew the guy she was boning. We WERE NOT TOGETHER but she did still sleep in my bed, and live at my house, say i love you ect ect.BOOM one day the beans get spilled, pandora was out the box, big arguments blah blah blah you guys know what im talking about. Side note: she has cancer forming in her cervix so unprotected sex was highly NOT recomended by her doctor. Because of this we dont do raw sex , in which I LOVE. And of course they do it that way. The Aftermath- We got back together its working out , i gu...

So, I'm going to try my best to make a long story short...I've been working with this guy for the past 2 months. We get along. We laugh. Good banter. There is definitely some natural chemistry between us. Everyone in our office has commented on our chemistry as well. However, he has literally made no effort to hangout/talk/anything on the off days when we don't work with each other. After 2 months of wondering if he was interested or not, I decided to shoot my shot. I asked him out to dinner and drinks. He immediately agreed. We went to eat, then proceeded to the bar to grab a couple drinks. I ended up drinking way more than I should've. Things escalated and we hooked up (Which I never intended on happening. Dang you vodka!) The worst part about it is we had to work with each other the entire next day. Which was slightly awkward, especially when you're trying to survive an awful hangover on top of dealing with a guilty conscious. But we still were able to talk and ...

So at first she put in alot of effort in seeing me, texting me etc. Then after about a month I rarely heard from her and she cancelled on me, decided not to initiate anything anymore, then she sent me a message two weeks later. At this point I already realized that I actually wasn't okay with dating her anymore if there is no possibility of a relationship, so I texted her exactly that. I am just confused as to what she was looking for exactly, as we would hold hands, make out and always kiss goodbye. Which doesn't seem really far from a relationship for me. Submitted December 09, 2021 at 12:13AM So at first she put in alot of effort in seeing me, texting me etc. Then after about a month I rarely heard from her and she cancelled on me, decided not to initiate anything anymore, then she sent me a message two weeks later. At this point I already realized that I actually wasn't okay with dating her anymore if there is no possibility of a relationship, so I texted her exa...

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