We talked for a bit last week and he told me he was going to visit his family for the weekend but when he got back he’d love to meet up in person. This was a week ago and I haven’t heard from him. I haven’t really liked ANYONE on a dating app in a while and I feel like this guy and I have tons in common. Would it seem desperate if I reached out to remind him about meeting in person? If not, how should I do it? Submitted August 06, 2020 at 11:53PM We talked for a bit last week and he told me he was going to visit his family for the weekend but when he got back he’d love to meet up in person. This was a week ago and I haven’t heard from him.I haven’t really liked ANYONE on a dating app in a while and I feel like this guy and I have tons in common. Would it seem desperate if I reached out to remind him about meeting in person?If not, how should I do it?

I (m50) have been w/ 6 women (yes only 6) and am getting closer to a (f48) whose had more partners than me. Not sure how many but from conversations I’d guess 30+, could be more. I feel insecure and inadequate but I do like this person, I’m just not comfortable being inexperienced and somewhat naive. My last partner (8+years ago) was a lying sociopath and really crushed my self esteem so I’m trying to deal with that too. I’m seeing a therapist to work through everything from that. I’d like to hear from both men and women to see if this could work or would she be disappointed. I’d be fine keeping this a friendship if that’s how it ends up. Thanks Submitted August 06, 2020 at 11:54PM I (m50) have been w/ 6 women (yes only 6) and am getting closer to a (f48) whose had more partners than me. Not sure how many but from conversations I’d guess 30+, could be more.I feel insecure and inadequate but I do like this person, I’m just not comfortable being inexperienced and somewhat naive....

Ive had guys invite me over to their place. Not on the first date but usually at least on the third date. I agree if I get the sense that he is not just looking for a hookup. Sometimes its nice staying in cooking and watching a movie, especially with covid and things being closed. I used to let guys know that im not looking to hookup if they invited me over but recently stopped doing this. I realize accepting to go over to someone’s place should not automatically mean I want sex. And thankfully the couple of guys ive seen have not made any uninvited moves on me and have been very respectful, not even bringing up sex at all. So I guess the point of this post is I appreciate that and to let people know you shouldn’t automatically assume someone wants sex just because they agree to come over. Always be respectful to each other :) Submitted August 06, 2020 at 11:58PM Ive had guys invite me over to their place. Not on the first date but usually at least on the third date. I agree if...

I am a 27 female, usually I am told I am beautiful by both men and women (though I am not arrogant about it and even get very self conscious – I don't think I am better than anyone else). I have friends and hobbies, I am in shape. I have been struggling with dating my whole life and have done many things to work on myself including reading a lot of self-help and dating books, self love etc. Initially I was always just myself. I was shy, but if I liked a guy I would send a text, I would try to flirt. If we had a date I would try to make it fun for both of us. Sometimes I delayed sex, other times I let myself get lost in the passion and "went with the flow" and acted cool about it. And in return I have been ghosted, seen as a booty call, friend zoned, and (usually) never even approached. After consuming all this information, I am so overwhelmed and sick of the different “rules” or “suggestions” that just seem so contradictory to me. ​ Don’t respond or be too availabl...

My (32f) husband (32m) has been a drug addict for 4 years now. I am not a drug user and find it to be hurting our relationship immensely. He stays down in his basement office pretty much 24/7 and RARELY comes to bed. When he does, there is no intimacy. He is a very sweet, caring person who claims to love me with all of his heart. He says I'm the most important person in his life and without me there is nothing to live for. He threatened to do all of his drugs and kill himself if I left him. Obviously this is a toxic situation and he needs help. However, he refuses to get it, saying when he was forced Into rehab by his family it was the most traumatic thing that has ever happend to him and he vowed to get off drugs on his own terms and not be forced the next time. He has promised to get off drugs but hasn't. We have been fighting for 3 weeks now about his lying, hiding, and new found friendship with his new female drug dealer that I am not all about. I'm sure nothing is go...

TL&DR: I don't know if I should move cross country or not, and my feelings are complicated by a new relationship. I (32/f) am currently on the West Coast living at my parents’ condo near the beach, working remotely for my postdoc that I just began. Currently they are not asking me to pay rent, because I have been unemployed since handing in my thesis in March, and they stay at the condo for about a week at a time (they primarily live about 2 hours away). When I was offered my postdoc position in late March, the world was a very different place and my contract stipulated that I move cross country to the East Coast by the end of August. I arranged to move to the East Coast and move into an apartment with a future roommate for mid August. This was on the premise of the office re-opening, which we have just been notified this week is not happening until further notice. Before this notice, the reopening was tenuous and staff would only be allowed to come in one day a week and not ...

I'm a 23 y/o male and broke off my first ever relationship of 4 years not even 5 months ago. I've been VERY emotionally invested in this relationship. But we had a lot of issues during the last year and still forced it into being even though it became completely dysfunctional. Then one day, 5 months ago, I sort of felt a snap after she did something minorly stupid and just stopped talking to her completely. A few weeks down the line I wasn't being able to picture myself as the person I was even a few months ago. It felt like a different person. I've tried a few days to reminisce about her and our relationship but couldn't remember much so I didn't give it much thought. Tonight, I've been trying really hard to think about what she was like and how our experiences were in the last 4 years and I was really surprised to discover I have no memory of anything. I don't remember what she was like, her personality, her voice, emotions I might've felt towards...

I have had a pretty rough time of sorting things out lately. My siblings and I are very close. We come from a traditional Indian family, which can lead to generational misunderstandings. I feel so bad because my sister has had so many curveballs thrown at her in 2021 for this wedding, and now I'm adding to it by not being there to support. This wedding quickly became the parents' weddings, as both sets of parents are controlling guests, schedule, rituals,etc. If the wedding was in the hands of my sister and her fiance, I know they would stick up for myself and my partner. Backtracking a bit- my partner and I got married in late 2019 without the blessing of my parents. They haven't made any progress in understanding and coming to terms with having a gay child. I came out almost 2 1/2 years ago now. My partner's family has been accepting of us and it's a night and day difference. I had to make a decision of standing up for my marriage/relationship or being there to...

Not sure if I’m overreacting but my gf (going out together for 6 months) is just acting kinda strange the past 2 or 3 days, meaning over text she’s a lot more distant and unresponsive as usual and kinda straight forward w replies. She had her profile picture as us two and then changed it yesterday (super Gen Z issue I’m aware) so yeh idk this post may be naive or a waste of time but thought I’d share just cuz I’m slightly concerned as we have never fought and haven’t had any bad altercations that have lead to this behaviour recently. Anyway if u have any thoughts I’ll appreciate it, but if u think I’m just being dumb and overreacting then I’ll respect that too. Tl;dr gf is acting kinda strange and I’m simply curious. Submitted August 07, 2020 at 12:06AM Not sure if I’m overreacting but my gf (going out together for 6 months) is just acting kinda strange the past 2 or 3 days, meaning over text she’s a lot more distant and unresponsive as usual and kinda straight forward w replies...

So I am a 16 year old boy who lives with his nearly 13 yr old sister and single mother. Basically my sister and I are first generation Americans (mother is an immigrant from Somalia) so its normal to be in a wild household. The thing is my little sister is very spoiled. Ever since she was 1 yrs old, my mother has babied her so much and she basically acts like acts like a brat. She is also very controlling. The way my little sister is controlling is that she has found a way to control my mother and I by just yelling. I am literally not allowed to sit in the living room, eat at the dining table, or basically anything or else she will yell at me. My mother does absolutely nothing about it and doesn't care. My sister is very very manipulative so my mom only believes her. Whenever I tell her about it, she guilt trips me and tells me "I hAvE rAiSeD yOu My EnTiRe LiFe So HoW dArE yOu SpEaK tHaT wAy To Me?". My sister has given me severe depression. I have been locked up in m...

Hello, I want to start by saying I (F18) have been with my boyfriend (M18) for about 2 years. I know we are very young, but I do love him a lot and I would appreciate if any advice given could refrain from involving our age. When I first met my boyfriend, I also met one of his good friends. I’ll call my boyfriend Joe and his good friend Lucy for the sake of keeping their names private. I could tell that Lucy had feelings for Joe when I first met him and was a little intimidated because I wasn’t sure which of us he had feelings for. I saw they had cuddled during this time but done nothing more. Shortly after, I found out that a couple years ago they briefly dated before Joe broke up with her because he felt they were better off as friends. They stayed friends since then but it was clear to me and all of Joes friends that her feelings for him had remained the same. When we started dating, I became pretty close with Lucy as well. Despite her being an ex, I trusted Joe and I also trust...

I (32F) used to be a laid-back, (semi) relaxed person. Friends could make fun of me and I'd laugh along, no harm done. In recent years I've noticed myself becoming more uptight and defensive. It's gotten to the point where the tiniest criticism (even if said in a joking manner) upsets me. I don't know what is causing this change, and I hate this new part of me. It's putting strain on relationships, specifically with my husband (32M), because I'm constantly feeling hurt, and he's constantly left baffled. Has anyone experienced this or have any advice on how to relax a bit? Tl;dr I've gotten more and more uptight over the years and don't know how to relax. Submitted August 07, 2020 at 12:16AM I (32F) used to be a laid-back, (semi) relaxed person. Friends could make fun of me and I'd laugh along, no harm done. In recent years I've noticed myself becoming more uptight and defensive. It's gotten to the point where the tiniest criticis...

I 've had no luck with dating for a while now. I think it's mainly because I been working overnight for almost 3 yrs. now and rarely see people during the day. I was thinking of getting a new job during the day and will get into a med program in 1 yr. Also, I have considered the fact that maybe I am boring and I try not to be a pushover the way I was in my twenties. I have been buying self-help books to help me socially. I think you can tell that if I need that Im a shy and introverted person and hate that I am. I wish I could be more extroverted and I am trying but it's mentally exhausting. Physically I'm slim and tall, but not out of shape, and I look young for my age. I consider my self to be an average looking guy. I'm no Brad Pitt. I did have a thing for a woman on the dayshift who turned out to be married and I couldn't even have a conversation with because she brushed me off. Just my luck. I would laugh but I really did like her physically and when she...

I'm a 5'10 woman and every tall man I go after rejects me and says i'm not short enough. Also most of the men that approach me that have balls are shorter than me. They also make better lovers and put in more effort. Most tall guys are more comfortable approaching short women rather than tall. I would kindly say man up and approach a tall woman. Tall women shouldn't have to approach you. Submitted August 07, 2020 at 12:00AM I'm a 5'10 woman and every tall man I go after rejects me and says i'm not short enough. Also most of the men that approach me that have balls are shorter than me. They also make better lovers and put in more effort. Most tall guys are more comfortable approaching short women rather than tall. I would kindly say man up and approach a tall woman. Tall women shouldn't have to approach you.

I will say now that this is a long read. I split it up into 3 labeled parts: part 1 focuses on the backstory, part 2 focuses on some self-reflection of our relationship, part 3 focuses on where I am now. My thoughts are very jumbled but.....If you actually take the time to read through all of it, I would appreciate any advice or opinions you have. Part 1: Backstory A year and a half ago, I met this girl over xbox that I really didn't think much of. We had played for like a week and then never really talked again until 7 months later when she invited me to her xbox party and we started playing regularly together. After a few months of flirting we had become pretty close. We knew a lot about each other and even though we both were pretty obvious with the flirting neither of us admitted it. For context she was 18/f and in highschool and I was 20/m and a third year college student. She lived in New York and I live in Indiana. My family has more money than hers (not that that was imp...