So, as the title says I’m on birth control and my boyfriend and I have not used condoms for awhile now. (Almost 2 years maybe) We are on vacation at my family’s lake house and he asked me to grab him a pair of socks from his suitcase. I looked in there to grab them and I found a roll of condoms. I am not sure what to think, as like I said before, we do not use condoms. He promises me that they are old and he didn’t know they were in there. I want to trust him and believe him, but it makes me feel like he was taking them on his trips out of town. I don’t know what to think and I just feel so confused. We are not in an open relationship. TL;DR: I (29F) found condoms in boyfriend’s (29M) suitcase. We do not use them. I’m unsure what to think Submitted July 06, 2019 at 12:13AM So, as the title says I’m on birth control and my boyfriend and I have not used condoms for awhile now. (Almost 2 years maybe) We are on vacation at my family’s lake house and he asked me to grab him a pair o...

I've have been with my boyfriend for two years and six months now. Overall, the relationship has been well; especially now, it's actually been doing better than ever. We love eachother, we're comfortable with one another, we hardly ever have any big fights etc. But seven months ago he broke up with me because he was having doubts if he wanted to be with me. We broke up for less than a month ( I believe ) and we got back together because he got over his doubts. Now fast foward to now, seven months from when that occurred, and he's having doubts again. He told himself, and me, thst if he had doubts again he'd end it for good because he didn't want to put either of us through that constantly. I'm at a loss. I thought things were good and I personally think doubts are normal in relationships--he says they aren't and that it just means something is wrong. Should I just let this relationship go and move on or try and work it out because its normal? tl;dr ...

Trigger warning: baby death My cousin's toddler drowned in a family member's swimming pool. I'm not incredibly close to this cousin, I don't even have his phone number. I do have his address and talk to his mom some. I haven't directly heard from any of these people, for obvious reasons. I feel like I need to do something, and I don't have any idea what is appropriate in this situation. I was thinking a gift card to eat out, but who cares about that. I was thinking a big box gift card? A check to cover some expenses? Flowers? I feel like I have to say something or do something, but I have no idea what to do. Submitted July 06, 2019 at 12:16AM Trigger warning: baby deathMy cousin's toddler drowned in a family member's swimming pool. I'm not incredibly close to this cousin, I don't even have his phone number. I do have his address and talk to his mom some. I haven't directly heard from any of these people, for obvious reasons.I feel li...

We were together for 2 years. I have been communicating my needs so transparently to my boyfriend for all this time, specifically about the dead bedroom for the past year in total. Its destroyed my confidence in myself. I always did a full exercise to ensure I give him excuses before my anger and frustration builds up to a point where I lash out on some things.. Not a healthy solution, but was impossible for me to help it. I was agonizing over the pain and the constant rejection. I see how other people look at me, I receive a lot of attention but not from the person I want. I am only 28 and he is only 29. Having sex 2 times a month is NOT normal when we see each other 14 days a month. I have tiptoed around this conversation by doing this exercise: Is there something stressing you at work/home/friends/our relationship? Is there anything you fantasize about or want to try that you are too shy to tell me? Any fetishes? I am willing to try anything The weed and alcohol must have an ef...

First of all I want to say that I don’t know if this is the place to ask these questions, especially since I’m quite young (I’m a 16 year old male) compared to the rest of you. Anyway, here we go. There is a girl (16 year old as well) from class that I’ve had a crush on for about 1-2 years, we have been friends for around 3 years. I’ve always thought she didn’t like me more than a friend since I’ve never got any hints from her. I’ve never stopped like her even though I’ve told my self I’ve got to stop thinking about her an instead focus on other stuff since she doesn’t like me the same way anyway. Today was my lucky day I guess. One of her closest friends told me this: “You know, you should meet L*** because you have been her crush for almost 2 years.” First thing I didn’t believe her friend a bit since dreams never come true, but after talking to her she told me that it’s true. Her friend is not the type to lie, especially not to damage anyone. So basically I now know that my crush...

The Bible is in many cases for a life lived without sex. It praises those who decide to live in celibacy but also says that if you switch to whores instead you should find a wife. In this way every Christian (aro-)ace has a little bonus. Also the whole marriage and erotic thing doesn't exist in heaven, it's sole purpose is for offspring. Every marriage is "until death takes us apart". July 06, 2019 at 12:21AM

Mate that's about 6 times as many as in Denmark if I mathed right July 06, 2019 at 12:19AM

Green would be a dream... but red would be VERY practical. July 06, 2019 at 12:18AM

Awe - Lots of us struggle with socialization; sometimes you just have to power through the awkwardness the first couple of times you talk with someone. I’ll share a little secret with you; most people are so caught up in how they present themselves to the world (and not looking awkward themselves) they don’t really notice what you’re doing - Just showing up and stringing a few coherent words together is 80% of the battle LOL Don’t overthink it, do what feels natural & comfortable, enjoy yourself, and there will be someone out there that likes what they see. July 06, 2019 at 12:18AM

I like the goth version of the flag that was posted here a while ago. It removed the white, and made it purple + blackscale. July 06, 2019 at 12:16AM

Hey reddit, I would love your opinion on the situation I've gotten myself in. ​ Two months ago, I met a guy on tinder while in an open relationship. I'm a female in my late 20s for reference. A few months ago, the spark with my (then) long-term boyfriend had fizzled a bit and we decided to go on a few dates, with all parties fully in the know about the circumstances. I ended up really liking the one guy I met on Tinder, which is so unexpected and unusual for me. I usually don't develop feelings for most guys, including dates I've gone on in the past. This has since motivated me to end my current relationship, which is actively happening but kind of slow because we have to find different places to live. ​ The tinder guy and I had originally met up with short-term FWB expectations. He was leaving to go back to his home country for the summer and we had a month. He also had a difficult breakup a few months before and wasn't interested in dating anyone. During this...

I'm 25M, just got back into dating since September. A bunch of first dates and a few second dates all from OLD. Some good, some okay. Only a few I felt a connection with but they friendzoned me, ghosted or weren't feeling it. I'm getting better, I have moves I didn't have in September. ​ I usually see one girl at a time, mainly because I found it hard to get another girl on a date (I was trying and talking to other girls but it just wasn't happening) ​ Anyway I slid in a girls DMs a few weeks ago and we connected over DM so I asked her out and she said she definitely wants to but was busy, and the following week would suit her better. So I organised it for next Wednesday night just to put it in the middle, I honestly just want to see her ASAP to see if we have a connection. Is a Wednesday night date weird? She told me any night works for her (I asked her what night works best for her). This girl is my favourite based on looks and common interests. ​ There...

I was in a 3 year relationship in college that was kind of on/off. She ended up cheating on me twice, and even though it took me a while, I really do believe I'm over it. It'd never work between us, and I don't want anything to do with her. I had one girl interested in me since then, but I wasn't interested so that went nowhere. I'm curious about trying dating again after I saw my brother find a great girl on a dating app (after 6 months of weirdos and disappointment). I don't even know where to start though. I've got low self esteem and some social anxiety, so meeting people out in the open seems too difficult. but dating apps seem like a losing proposition too. I'm inevitably going to get friendzoned/rejected on these apps if I do them, and I don't know how I'd handle it. I like to think I could handle it because I know it happens to mostly everyone, but the idea of spending money and time on dates with someone and having it go nowhere make...

Okay I don't know what's special about me but in every class atleast 1 girl notices me and whispers to her friend that I'm cute. Now I'm in summer school, no I'm not dumb or anything but this girl compliments me alot to her seating partner who I also talk too. But the thing is I know that compliments can only go so far and despite most girls who start off with saying that I'm cute end up crushing on me, I still feel my chances are low with her because she's like 2 ft taller... and idk if you guys can understand where I'm coming from but I've always went to a school full of white girls and have always wished for like someone like me (brown), and there are two of those I found in summer school. The tall one is really, really hot and there's another girl who's abit smaller than me whos really, really cute and I feel like I might have a better chance with her but she's taking a gr 10 course in summer school when I'm only in gr 10 though ...

Is there such thing as saying too much ? "Did you drink with edwardo last night" "They only had a 6 pack of modelos and nothing but tequila but I just had a couple modelos" "Oh ok just a couple?" "Yea but then James brought cocaine and I was like 'i dont want any'" "Omg good. I'm glad you didn't you know about my cousin who OD'd." "Yea but then Chris and Danny were like 'just this once' and I was like naw man ' I only drink sometimes nothing more you know that' and then grabbed my arms and head and pulled me to the table and held a dollar to my nose and forced me to snort a line." "Wtf why did you snort you should have blew it all over the place" "Well yea but those are my friends and that's like a couple 100 bucks. So then I tried it and I guess being under the influence I did some more. But I didn't drink after that. " "What if We had sex this mor...

Hi I msged a girl calling her cute and asking to hang out and she said yh, I then asked her when she was free and complimented her art and she replied 'thanks you ahah' Wtf do I do? Submitted July 06, 2019 at 12:17AM Hi I msged a girl calling her cute and asking to hang out and she said yh, I then asked her when she was free and complimented her art and she replied 'thanks you ahah'Wtf do I do?

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It wasn't so much that I felt there was enough there to declare him definitely-allo, as that I didn't think there was enough there to declare him definitely-ace. Which honestly seemed to be where the conversation was going. But to me, it seemed ambiguous, and like it might have been good for OP to have a few other possibilities pointed out. July 06, 2019 at 12:09AM

I mean I don’t think anyone should be told what they are. That’s why providing the definitions and allowing them to label themselves as it fits for them. Anyways, I just felt like it was a strong judgement on the first read. I can’t really tell on re-reading it if you edited the original reply or not or if I just read it in a certain tone though. July 06, 2019 at 12:08AM

Ah that's right, the recent survey didn't really distinguish between aspec and full-ace people for the purpose of that question. That could make a difference. July 06, 2019 at 12:04AM

Okay. The way I read it initially felt like you were placing him in that category when there was nothing in his post to indicate that he experiences sexual attraction. Masturbating to soft core porn doesn’t have anything to do with sexual attraction. July 06, 2019 at 12:04AM

Been dating someone for about four months and we’ve been hitting it off and spending a lot of time together. We also live similar lifestyles. Turns out her roommate is leaving next year to get her own place, so we talked about moving in together after her semester ends in December. One of the main reasons I agreed to it is so she didn’t have to live in a crappy part of town because it’s all she can afford alone. But then I realized that’s not too great of a reason to move in with someone — especially since I already had a bad experience living with an ex. But I don’t think I’m ready for it yet. I’ve been living alone for 4 1/2 years and I’m not ready to share a space with someone. And I think even 9 months (that’s how long it would be in December) into a relationship is kind of a gamble. Obviously it’s always scary and huge decision, but curious as to how some of you knew it was the right time or not; also, what were some of he other motives you all had for moving in? Submitted ...