I'm not the asexual one in the relationship. January 16, 2021 at 12:03AM

i think i became resentful bc i felt so broken since I wasn’t doing the things every other girl was doing, but i knew that it was bc of something i couldn’t change about myself. so everyone else was just ignorant to me. Which is partially true, but there’s also no need for me to feel resentful for that bc i’ve never told anyone and most ppl know absolutely nothing about asexuality. So i’m glad i’m self aware in that and catch myself. I’m sex positive bc I think everyone should be able to do what they want safely and consensually. Plus those old, traditional views on sex can sometimes be harmful and misogynistic. But at the same time i’m so sex-repulsed that i just don’t understand it, so sometimes i feel ingenuine. i wish i had grown up like you did.... thank you so much for responding!! January 16, 2021 at 12:03AM

Maybe we've been seeing different movies but what I've noticed is sexual movies are usually considered dirty and "clean" romance movies that just end in French kissing and fountains are more glorified. I feel like you being asexual can't really grasp what desire feels like for us because believe me it's not about ego or media. Even in societies with heavily regulated media sex is still abound and practiced regularly amongst the unmarried (if necessary in secret). January 16, 2021 at 12:01AM

Oh okay. January 15, 2021 at 11:58PM

I think most people agree that a Simp is an individual that provides support (usually in a monetary fashion) to a woman with the hopes that the woman will recognize them. The simp does this solely because the woman is attractive. In addition the simp also knows that they have no chance romantically or sexually with the woman and persists anyway for the slight amount of female attention. January 15, 2021 at 11:58PM

I’m sorry to say but that answer definitely sounds like a sexual trauma response. Just look at the language you’ve used - you’d force yourself. Something you might find useful, rather than trying to reason out why you should do something you don’t want to do, is to consider the person you’d be doing it with. The hypothetical man. You’d be with him because you liked him, right? Because he was decent, trustworthy and you were in some sense attracted to him. I’m assuming this because why would you force yourself to have sex with someone lesser than these traits? Now this fair, attractive man sleeps with you, assuming you’re enthusiastically consenting when you are not. How would he feel, knowing what you’d done? How would he feel about you? How would he feel about himself, knowing what you’d used him to do, even to the point of potential trauma? It’s never going to be anything good, right? Which is why two people both happily consenting is important. Having sex with a man for any othe

right it’s so freaking confusing! honestly makes me glad i’m ace bc i can imagine how stressful it is to go through that sexual awakening thing when all you hear is that it’s “wrong” but also that’s what you have to do. it stresses ME out and i don’t even have sex. i think it’s easier now to avoid that kind of talk though since we’ve progressed so much January 15, 2021 at 11:53PM

Validation approved! :D January 15, 2021 at 11:44PM

Oh it's a bit weird where I'm from because many people here call themselves simps and don't think it's bad to be called one January 15, 2021 at 11:38PM

I, nor most in the world, would consider that a rude gesture. You can obviously tell the intent is not to be rude to anybody. I don’t think a tiny gesture so insignificant is worth complaining about January 15, 2021 at 11:38PM

UrbanDictionary(dot)com if you really want to know the definition. I don't think most people like referring to themselves as simps or that they are simping. I know I wouldn't. January 15, 2021 at 11:36PM

Yesss I’m exactly like this I feel so valid January 15, 2021 at 11:32PM

Whenever I tell people I'm asexual I have to explain it and then they tell me it isn't real or they just don't take it seriously and end up expecting more anyway. January 15, 2021 at 11:30PM

Agreed. January 15, 2021 at 11:29PM

I agree 100%! I also find it irritating when I see other aces sex shaming people. We need to treat others the way we want to be treated. January 15, 2021 at 11:29PM

My mom in a nutshell January 15, 2021 at 11:27PM

yea i agree but the test probably isnt that in depth January 15, 2021 at 11:25PM

Yeah fr January 15, 2021 at 11:24PM

Yes. But it missed the point. Liking sex doesn't make me allo January 15, 2021 at 11:24PM

Probably both. I mean, I wouldn't be with anyone I'm not attracted to (in whatever way), but at the same time, I think that if I like someone enough, I might force myself to try sex even if changes are that I will hate it and it will traumatize me even more. I'd be open to trying just because I'm not 1000% sure that I'm against having sex, though I'm pretty certain about being ace. January 15, 2021 at 11:23PM

Yeah and then there are those toxic people like “you’re too hot for that 😩” January 15, 2021 at 11:21PM

gonna borrow the way you typed it 🏃🏽‍♀️✨ January 15, 2021 at 11:21PM

Meaning if you put fem and answered yes to the male attraction options itd give you the hetero result January 15, 2021 at 11:20PM