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/u/patricktercot on David Jay - Overcoming the Fear of Loneliness While Ace

Not that I know of, but he’s the founder of AVEN so I’m sure there’s plenty from him on there. He has a TED talk as well that is very good, and he was in a documentary on asexuality I saw a while back. June 23, 2020 at 11:57PM

/u/Jen_Dash on “Gay is an umbrella term.”

I also didnt spend the last decade wondering why TF I was like other teens. Why didnt I wanna have sex why didnt I like the boys that liked me? Why I felt bad for not having sex with my BF at the time? Why I was called Dyke and told I probably have a strap on cause Im a tomboy? Why no one seemed to understand me? Why I didnt understand myself? Why I wonder now why did I push all my feelings down why was I made to feel like I had to have sex? why was I told to get married? why I look at my past fantasies of a man and see they were super unachievable June 23, 2020 at 11:57PM

/u/antarctic- on My new ace decals came in I am obsessed

those are nice, good design on them what does the barbell one say? June 23, 2020 at 11:51PM

/u/Jen_Dash on “Gay is an umbrella term.”

I guess I didnt explain mu situation, we have sex cause he wants to not cause I want to. my situation is more complicated cause Im definetly not hetero. I havent spent the last 3 years trying to figure out why I didnt want to be with a man to just say Im heterosexual cause that I am not. I may be in a relationship with a man but that doesnt mean that Im not gay cause simply put you dont know the situation. You dont know why I am still with him or what our relationship is like or the struggle I go through wanting to be myself and not understanding how I can love him but still be gay. Not understanding how I love looking at woman but dont want sex. Cause Im not heterosexual, I dont have sexual attraction but I have asthetic and thats ok. Its not ok to be told what I am cause you dont know me. June 23, 2020 at 11:50PM

/u/Datas_Cat on My new ace decals came in I am obsessed

Holy banana I need a tea one, hot damn June 23, 2020 at 11:50PM

/u/Melisanotaku on Convo I had with one if my friends

Women do get turned on. But it is usually not as simple as looking at an image of a hot naked person or something. It usually takes a bit of time and lead up beforehand. Of course every woman is different. But like, it is not "instant boner" for most women. And generally, for women, finding something that "turns you on" helps with masterbation and the like, because as I said, it isn't instant and takes a lot of lead up for a few of us. Asexual people can still have sex and masterbate, so being turned on is good for that. But damn, masterbation can be a chore for ladies sometimes hahaha. We have to be in the mood for it, or else it just doesn't happen. In general. June 23, 2020 at 11:50PM

/u/DEMON212 on Do you identify as queer?

I'm 32, I was told all my life that queer was an offensive word towards gay men. 3 weeks ago I found out what I was and saw other aro ace's use it to describe themselves, but I'm so self conscious about calling myself queer as I feel I'm being offensive after a life time of being told never to say it. So for now I don't. But I need educating on the word TBH and how it applies to us, do I need to be non binary? If so and this is probably the stupidest question ever, how do I know if I'm non binary? I am male and I feel like a guy I suppose, so I figure I'm just a male aro ace? If so should I avoid the label of queer? Can you tell I'm a neurotic mess BTW? 😓 June 23, 2020 at 11:48PM

/u/Cthulhupuff on My new ace decals came in I am obsessed

Boba, yum! June 23, 2020 at 11:45PM

/u/spongbarbara on David Jay - Overcoming the Fear of Loneliness While Ace

Really great words and advice. I could also listen to this guy talk for hours. Does he have an Instagram? June 23, 2020 at 11:42PM

/u/MiniDotRAR on Got an ace new Xbox controller

You will really have an ace up your sleeve in competitive games now. You could say you would "ace the matches". June 23, 2020 at 11:38PM

/u/AbundantChemical on Guess I'm getting only A's

Well agnostic is basically saying you don't know, and then atheism is saying It is not any of the gods that have been created by humans, so naturally both combined is not knowing but rejecting the created ones. June 23, 2020 at 11:36PM

/u/mamadiehard on Can't stop thinking this every time people arks "how can you have kids then?"

I'm just waiting for this question to be asked when I come out to my family (I'm already married and have a kid). But my parents are gonna be like "but you have a kid?..." lol! June 23, 2020 at 11:35PM

/u/Noob0112 on Are there apps for making ace friends? Like Tinder but friends?

Join this Discord server https://disboard.org/server/702503863801872496 It's small and chill, we're always looking for new members! June 23, 2020 at 11:35PM

/u/Misterwuss on Convo I had with one if my friends

Every movie has to have a madatory 10 minute food fight scene, any and all movies found breaching this rule shall be thrown to the dogs. The dogs don't do much, but there's so many of them you can't really well away from them without hurting them which just makes you a monster. June 23, 2020 at 11:34PM

/u/Baaraa88 on I’m ACE, so please don’t get mad when I ask this, but why is there such a need to tell your family/friends about your sexual preferences?

It’s pretty much an open secret in my family. They can’t NOT know, I have a massive ace flag hanging above my bed that I’ve told them is the ace flag. If anybody in my family asks if I have a boyfriend or whatever, I tell them no and that I’m not interested, and if they ask why then I tell them I’m ace. It hasn’t been a problem with anybody thus far. June 23, 2020 at 11:29PM

/u/DEMON212 on Is Sex-Favorable Asexual Aromantic a thing?

Look up Aegosexuality as well, as you've pretty much just described my thoughts towards masturbation. Sadly I rely on porn though as I don't have the kind of brain that can visualise thoughts in my head. Sidebar. The Justin Long Podcast went into this the other day I didn't realise just how many types of brain visualisation exist. It was fascinating but yet another thing I feel I've drew the short straw on in life 😹 But while I cannot visualise I have to sell myself a fantasy to enjoy it. So I use a toy so it's easier to remove myself from the process, as to me using my hand feels clinical and I literally feel nothing when I'm done. I dislike other males being involved too as that doesn't help me one bit. And porn made by women tends to have a story which helps me greatly. Also it tends to be a lot more ethical too. As I already feel seedy watching but I feel horrid when I find out a company treats the stars like shit. And like yourself it's the a...

/u/S-Furret65 on That went about as well as could be expected :/

Not what I meant! Lol June 23, 2020 at 11:23PM

/u/19thcenturyharlot on What are your guy's ages on this?

I'm sorry I'm dying about the fact that you lumped every age over 30 into one fucking category lmfaoooooo June 23, 2020 at 11:21PM

Husbands are meant to be cuddled, accepted and nurtured for who they are: not changed, nagged and stink eyed... finally learned my lesson. Have you?

Looking at his sweet blue eyes and cute blond head. Yup I accept him for who he is... dang that feels good. Submitted June 23, 2020 at 11:49PM Looking at his sweet blue eyes and cute blond head. Yup I accept him for who he is... dang that feels good.

Why does my wife not give me credit for going to a physically demanding job and getting up at 3am everyday to go to said job?

I work in the frozen food stocking department at a big name store, I get up at 3am and go straight into very physical heavy labor in a -7 degree freezer For 8 hours a day. She goes to to work at a job where she is the cook for about 100 ppl and meets/ exceeds all expectations, I don’t Submitted June 23, 2020 at 11:49PM I work in the frozen food stocking department at a big name store, I get up at 3am and go straight into very physical heavy labor in a -7 degree freezer For 8 hours a day. She goes to to work at a job where she is the cook for about 100 ppl and meets/ exceeds all expectations, I don’t

Resentment moving forward

How do you deal with resentment and at what point do you call a quits for things you can’t seem to get over from the past and current struggles? A little background. I’ve been with my husband for 6 years, married 2 years. I’m 28f, he’s 30m. I have a lot of pent up resentment towards him. I can admit, I’ve put his feelings before mine a lot. I believe I ignored a lot of red flags in the beginning and I blame myself. He is a very nice man and great father, but I feel like I’ve just put so much in and am not getting much out. A big part of me is still trying because of our sons (2 & 3yrs) and me having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that things may not pan out how I always imagined. Our trust was broken early on. Even after me disclosing I was cheated on in my previous relationship. I saw inappropriate messages and pictures in his phone (not snooping btw). I decided to snoop after and saw more. He has been caught in really stupid lies, and others that had more of an impa...

wow he's so well educated

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Typical nice guy story...guy lives with, and pines over girl...why cant she be his...her bf doesn't deserve her...omg she kicked him out so now he must die...oooops...didn't work, hit at least I gained the enlightenment that God doesn't exist. Lol...

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