I met someone at work pretty recently and we've been getting on well. This is at work so I haven't been going out of my way to meet frequently and make it a distraction from the day to day job (I know this is important and pretty sensitive). So we've met a few times, just the two of us (including lunch and coffee). And it is at a point where we are sometimes spending more than 3-4 hours after work talking in the coffee room about things unrelated to work (multiple times), and they are asking me if I am going to department gatherings before confirming they are going. To me these are all good signs that they might be interested... The only thing I have been quite sensitive to, is that I cannot tell if she is into it by her texting habits. I will say we text much, much less infrequently than I normally would with anyone. But I am quite happy with that given I prefer face to face interactions. But they are quite "short" and blunt by text (this could be a language th...

First thing, I'm new in this plataform, so I published this thread on a another sub before and the moderaters of it took it down bc it didnt belong there. However, someone told me about this sub :) Hey, so, last summer I received the opportunity to participate in an exchange and I was nervous and excited about it, the problem was that my boyfriend (im in an year long relationship) was really mad about it, he wouldnt even talk straight to me. But well, I told my mom and she was happy for me and when he knew that my mom was going to support me, he pretended that he did to, so, instead of mad, he wanted to show me that he was sad and that he was going to miss me. Honestly, I believe that he was going to miss me, but I know that he was doing everything he could just to make me feel bad and almost ashamed of myself (he did make me feel like that, but that was not a new; after a few months dating I saw myself in an unhealthy relationship ). His performance lasted till the end of the...

I’ll try to make this short. My roommate has been stealing my panties. I noticed some of my underwear going missing and was suspicious she was stealing it at first, but didn’t want to confront her until I had actual proof they were mine. I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt that possibly we just had.... multiple of the same exact pair? I don’t know. Anyway, confirmed she had a few of my panties, including my nicer lingerie, none of this she mentioned that she “borrowed” from me. I confronted her about this, asking if she had been taking them. She said she was so sorry, she just did it because she hasn’t been doing her laundry and needed underwear. What?! Super weird and invasive in my opinion. I told her underwear drawer was off limits and to never take them again. She agreed. Months later, today, I walk past her bedroom and peep some of my panties on her bed. Newer ones I had noticed gone missing as of lately. I go in to investigate, and sure enough they’re my fucking panti...

Throwaway because she knows my main account. I've always been a bit of a sensitive soul. I don't want to say snowflake, because I don't think I am. My family has always had a gentle teasing, nudging style of humor. Both my parents senses of humor is a bit warped, and mine and my sister's are as well. Not as warped, but a bit warped regardless. That said, we all gently tease each other. I lost a hubcap on the car that my parents bought for me and my sister to share. We've been talking about whether or not to replace it. My dad made the comment that I should I replace it since I lost it. I made the joke that my sister could replace them if it comes time while she has the car. My dad responded back with "you lost it, you replace it" and I thought I was making a quip to a quip. My mom thinks I took that the wrong way and took it way far afield and we have been at odds for the past 6 hours. I don't think I did anything wrong, but we haven't been commu...

I've begun to notice that my bf never asks me 'What about you?' and 'How about you?' kinds of questions and it makes the relationship feel so one sided. I feel like a lot of the relationship is one sided other than this. He always wants me to ask him questions when we have nothing else to talk about and he won't try to ask me the things back. I'd say most things in the relationship are like this. I got him a Christmas gift three times as expensive (he got me food/snacks and didn't wrap it) and doesn't even care that I tried harder than him. He's just 'thankful' for me I guess. He's definitely into me because he always wants to talk and do stuff 24/7. I feel like a lot of this is to do with his ADHD but he doesn't acknowledge that it affects the relationship. He thinks he has it perfectly under control even though everything has to revolve around him. Is this just his ADHD? Or is this just a bad relationship? TL;DR; My boyfriend...

Hello, I have made a post before about how I think I am falling out of love with my current partner. We have been together a long time (more than 10 years). I started being less "interested" in him a couple months ago. I started going out more and spending more time with friends (either IRL or chatting on Instagram/Messenger) because I found anything my SO said annoying or meaningless. I reject his kisses and cuddles because I don't feel like it. Thing is, I do like him as a person. We tried talking, but he's bad at communication and I am kind of a mess right now, so I didn't know how to convey my feelings correctly. There is no one else. I'm just in a weird lull where I think I might have settled for him. He is my first serious relationship. I'm scared I missed out on something... But if I'm happy, all this shouldn't matter, right? I can't help feeling guilty about everything, but at the same time I'm not sure I'm truly happy. There...

I just got word that my cousin is going to ask me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding next week. I love my cousin and we were very close growing up. We grew into two different people and have almost nothing in common, but I still love her, truly like her fiance, and support her marriage. I really really don't want to be a bridesmaid in her wedding though. For starters I live across the country from my whole family. I work for an airline and fly for free (space available lol) but still it takes time to get over there. My schedule is generally very flexible but her wedding is 3 days before Christmas in 2020. The holidays are a very busy season for my profession. I cannot request days off in advance and have to hope I can move my off days around. Generally it's possible to get the days off I want (like this year I took off for Christmas) but I never know for sure. I will only have my December scheduled finalized on November 25th. It is very stressful that I will not know if i hav...

Hey, This is my first Reddit post, so please let me know if there's anything I'm missing here. ​ For a while (a few months) I was flirtatious back and forth with the dude in question, who failed to make a move for some time. Eventually, I initiated a conversation with him, and we really hit it off. We began to share all kind of personal details and I felt immensely comfortable doing so with him. He always knew what to say, and it was going really well. Sex was great, and we were talking all the time over text. He seemed smitten with me, and I was falling fast. I am not the type to jump into things AT ALL, but I really felt a connection to this guy I haven't felt in a very long time. ​ This continued for about a month, until we were having sex and I asked him to get a little rough. He obliged, it was great. Until he began to choke me. I freaked out--I screamed, and immediately felt foolish. He stopped right away, but I could tell he was very put off. We also could not c...

My main question to this subreddit is how did you know you’d fallen out of love with your s/o? How did you deal with that realization? I’m mostly curious about how people got to the conclusion, especially if you’d been dating your s/o for over two years. I’ve been having doubts about my (22f) own relationship with my partner of almost 3.5 years (23f) and I’m not sure if it’s that I’ve fallen out of love or if I just have to be a better girlfriend. There’s that phrase about how love isn’t just something that happens, it’s something you work for everyday. I know I’m not the most self aware so it could be me dragging my feet or I’ve genuinely fallen out of love but I don’t know. We met when we were both in a bad place, mentally, and we helped drag each other out of that. I felt like I was stumbling around and falling back then, but now I feel like I can stand firmly on my two feet thanks to her and the growth we went through. She’s the second person I’ve dated seriously (by contrast, ...

Ive been with my GF since October 2018. She lives in a different city 1.5 hours from me. We both have children from previous relationships, I really don’t like her oldest [5F] and she is relatively intolerant of my only child [6F] as she is quite sensitive- in both good and bad ways. This is our first Christmas period spent together with and without kids. My parents think she’s great, her parents and relatives think I’m great. We have made plans for me to move to her city as she owns her home and my daughter and ex are in that same city whereas I’m renting in my city. Great, except this time spent together has made me realise that I’m not in love with her and never will be. I know what I need to do, tell her and break it off ASAP but I need to hear some advice and if anyone has gone through a similar situation. TLDR; Realised that I’m not in love with my GF and never will be, need to break it off ASAP. Submitted December 28, 2019 at 12:11AM Ive been with my GF since October 201...

tdlr: I'm still not over my last partner for 10 months now (we never had a real relationship), struggling with self esteem since she got a new boyfriend Hey guys, First of all, I truly appreciate you're gonna take the time right now to read the story below. The story below may sound like a one in a dozen generic heartbreak story for you. And it is for me too. But..I would really appreciate if you/you guys would help me with my current situation. My apologies for the bad English grammar already. Long story short: I've been seeing this girl for over a year and we eventually our 'relationship' never worked out. I guess I really loved her, and she loved me too, but..we had a lot of fights/just mismatch I guess. Thus we never had a real relationship, because something was missing from her end. In the end she broke up with me and supported me through the breakup as well. This was in the beginning of March this year. I was fucking devastated. Never had it that bad wit...

So just before Christmas unfortunately me and my girlfriend broke up, im still madly in love with her and the thought of her going to another man just sickens me and makes me really sad. We split up because of arguments and we decided together that we should split up but remain good friends. Seeing that we have remained friends we text each other everyday and reply to each other almost instantly. the conversations are still okay but ive told her i still love her but she replies "its best for both of us to be apart as we was not happy arguing all the time", which is true. Another bit to the story is as well we went out the other night. i went with my mates and she went with her friends and we went to the same night club (Only really one in my small town), and i began dancing with a different girl nothing sexual just a looking at each other and dancing however my EX saw and ran in between us and started talking to the girl and distracting her. I took this as she was jealous,...

I'll post the original here. TL;DR: I've decided I want my boyfriend to move out of my family's house and I don't know how to tell him because he seems too sensitive and emotionally dependent on me. ​ After being sick for a few days "our" bedroom got really messy because I wasn't cleaning. During my cleaning rampage I blurted out "this isn't working for me." He then got out of bed and helped me finish cleaning without saying a word. The next day I talked to him about how necessary it is to keep his stuff organized, and actually throw things away instead of leaving garbage everywhere. He said he would try harder. ​ Today while he was gone at work, I went on an almost 2 hour walk on trails with my dog, got coffee, did errands, cleaned and organized the house, and did some yoga. I haven't felt this great in a long time, and I feel like I can get back into my original mindset. ​ Then he just came home and I wasn't happy to see him...

Hello, I (30) have been married to my wife (29) for a few years. I am still quite keen on other women. I love my wife, but I like sexual variety. I notice that almost all men feel this way. In addition, I have already had bisexual experiences and find transvestites sexy. Often I find myself chatting with trannies and women and rarely (for fun) talking to women while drinking. Lately I also paid a little bit of money when they sent me photos (cam pages). i often play with the idea to meet women, trannies, boys. But I don't want to cheat on my wife, so I satisfy my lust by masturbation. Talking to my wife about it is certainly not possible for cultural reasons. So I would like to know if you have any tips or if anyone has had similar experiences? Tl;dr... I am married but still very keen on sexual activities with other people. I cannot talk about this with my wife. Therefore I would like to ask you for tips. Submitted December 28, 2019 at 12:19AM Hello,I (30) have been ma...

We had a great connection. We both share the same interests, he seemed super into me, and gave me a really, really tight hug at the end of the night. I sensed a little bit of insecurity or fear of rejection from his end, though, so after a couple of days I asked him out because I wanted to show my interest. I know how cautious I can appear during dates. I suggested a day, and he said it likely won’t work but he’ll “let me know” if things change. I told him it’s fine, I had other things come up and wished for him to enjoy his time off (is that petty, by the way?). I don’t know what went wrong. Really liked this guy and want to know if there’s any way I can get him interested again. I’ve been on several dates up to now, and didn’t feel the connection that I did with this one. Anyone ever been in a similar situation? Submitted December 27, 2019 at 11:50PM We had a great connection. We both share the same interests, he seemed super into me, and gave me a really, really tight hug...

So I've been not looking but I've put myself out there hoping to find someone and I can't I either get lead on or I get rejected and I don't know if I'm doing something wrong or if I look bad which I know I'm not the best looking but I'm decent so what is it? I kinda feel like giving up on even trying to date if all its gonna be is getting let down which is fine but I just wanna know why cause I'm very curious. thank you in advance if this post goes against guidelines feel free to delete ^ ^ TLDR: I can't find someone for the past few years and it's frustrating what am i doing wrong? Submitted December 27, 2019 at 11:51PM So I've been not looking but I've put myself out there hoping to find someone and I can't I either get lead on or I get rejected and I don't know if I'm doing something wrong or if I look bad which I know I'm not the best looking but I'm decent so what is it? I kinda feel like giving up on eve...

I'm (F 29) recently out of a long term, emotionally abusive relationship and am about three months single. I started seeing this guy about a month ago, wasn't looking for anything serious but have started feeling a real connection with him. We hit it off pretty immediately, and have been seeing each other consistently for the last little while. He's wonderful, completely different from my ex in the most positive of ways, super emotionally available and shares a lot of similar traumas and relationship history as I do. We have had some good, open conversations about both of our history (relationship and familial) and he has been really mindful to not push me or pressurize where we are heading. I've been open with him after we both shared that we were super into one another, saying that I didn't want to rush into relationship territory before I was ready. He understood and has continued to show me that he is understanding of my situation and that he's not going an...

I (M22) asked my female friend to hangout the day after Christmas for coffee. Some backstory: We've know each other for a year, we're in the same BSN program. We got split up from our classes after I took the summer off, so she's a semester ahead of me. Since then, we haven't really talked much other than small talk when we run into each other at school or her sending me study material for the future courses. I liked this girl but never pursued anything, and my other mutual female friend told me she took a liking to me (which I noticed), but she was in a long distance relationship that she was open about, no boundaries were ever crossed between her and I. Fast forward to this winter break she starts messaging me out of the blue. She subtly mentions she's been talking to another guy and that they went to this nearby town because she said she was homesick (ok wtf why are you telling me this) because this town is like her hometown. I catch on that she's not in th...

I met my crush through a dating app, he’s German. We’ve been talking for 5 months now. He’s always been there for me when I needed his help and advice on things. If I ask him a question he’ll always answer me. But I’m always the one initiating the conversations. He’s been giving me short responses and showing no interests to continue the conversations recently. His answers are normally: yes, no, cute, hahaha, etc. I’m so confused and upset because I’m trying my best to keep the conversation going. But when he texts me, there are always emojis like 😘❤️ involved, I’m confused? We face timed maybe about 15 times, but I’m always the one who wants to call first. We would talk around one and half hour every time. He’s met pretty much all my close friends on FaceTime, but I’ve never seen his friends or anything. I’ve met him once in real life. I flew to Germany to see him and we spent a day together. He ruffles my hair a lot, casually touches my arms and legs, he even laid his head on my sh...

I see posts from time to time with the guy saying "this girl is always flirting with me, she's always trying to talk to me, I catch her staring at me" but I've literally never felt this way ever. I've never had a girl come up to me out of the blue. I've never been approached by a girl. I've never been invited to anything by anyone at school that wasn't a close friend. I'm only 20 years old. My highschool life was uneventful. I'm lucky I've forced myself to talk to people, otherwise I would have definitely been that quiet kid that nobody even remembers. All my life I've felt invisible, especially to girls. If I'm not going out of my way to talk to someone, they will never talk to me. I've went weeks, even months without reaching out to anyone and I've recieved little to no texts from anyone reaching out to me. I know this sounds like a lot of self pity and self loathing, but I'm not trying to do that. How the fuck do ...

So I go to the gym and notice this gorgeous shorter girl giving me looks almost EVERYTIME I go. I notice her staring at me and we lock eyes. Now, I’m 6’0 135 pounds so skinny but not unhealthy skinny. I can do cardio very nicely and I’m just getting into bulking up and eating a lot throughout the day(3500-4000 calories) I just think this girl is too good for me:( she’s about 5’4 and just perfect Submitted December 28, 2019 at 12:06AM So I go to the gym and notice this gorgeous shorter girl giving me looks almost EVERYTIME I go. I notice her staring at me and we lock eyes. Now, I’m 6’0 135 pounds so skinny but not unhealthy skinny. I can do cardio very nicely and I’m just getting into bulking up and eating a lot throughout the day(3500-4000 calories) I just think this girl is too good for me:( she’s about 5’4 and just perfect

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Some context: I'm a 19yr old in college, and haven't ever had a girlfriend. I asked multiple girls to go study or go do homework, and that's worked out ok. But I have never worked up the courage to ask any of them out to dinner, or anything besides homework/studying. The problem is that I have social anxiety and fear being heavily embarrassed in front of others. In my head, after the girl tells me NO, she'll tell all of her friends that I thought I even had a chance with her, and then about everyone on campus will know. So what actually goes through a women's head, and what do you do after rejecting a guy? Submitted December 28, 2019 at 12:15AM Some context: I'm a 19yr old in college, and haven't ever had a girlfriend. I asked multiple girls to go study or go do homework, and that's worked out ok. But I have never worked up the courage to ask any of them out to dinner, or anything besides homework/studying. The problem is that I have social anxie...