How to stop being invisible?

I see posts from time to time with the guy saying "this girl is always flirting with me, she's always trying to talk to me, I catch her staring at me" but I've literally never felt this way ever. I've never had a girl come up to me out of the blue. I've never been approached by a girl. I've never been invited to anything by anyone at school that wasn't a close friend.

I'm only 20 years old. My highschool life was uneventful. I'm lucky I've forced myself to talk to people, otherwise I would have definitely been that quiet kid that nobody even remembers.

All my life I've felt invisible, especially to girls. If I'm not going out of my way to talk to someone, they will never talk to me. I've went weeks, even months without reaching out to anyone and I've recieved little to no texts from anyone reaching out to me.

I know this sounds like a lot of self pity and self loathing, but I'm not trying to do that. How the fuck do I change this? I don't want to be invisible. By no means do I want to be the center of attention, but I just want someone to fucking care about me and actually reach out to me for once. I could die and nobody would think twice until someone discovers my body.

I do try to socialize. I have friends I talk to a lot, my friends care about me and I care about them, but it really feels like I'm going to live a super uneventful life and die without experiencing the things I want.



Submitted December 27, 2019 at 11:56PM

I see posts from time to time with the guy saying "this girl is always flirting with me, she's always trying to talk to me, I catch her staring at me" but I've literally never felt this way ever. I've never had a girl come up to me out of the blue. I've never been approached by a girl. I've never been invited to anything by anyone at school that wasn't a close friend.I'm only 20 years old. My highschool life was uneventful. I'm lucky I've forced myself to talk to people, otherwise I would have definitely been that quiet kid that nobody even remembers.All my life I've felt invisible, especially to girls. If I'm not going out of my way to talk to someone, they will never talk to me. I've went weeks, even months without reaching out to anyone and I've recieved little to no texts from anyone reaching out to me.I know this sounds like a lot of self pity and self loathing, but I'm not trying to do that. How the fuck do I change this? I don't want to be invisible. By no means do I want to be the center of attention, but I just want someone to fucking care about me and actually reach out to me for once. I could die and nobody would think twice until someone discovers my body.I do try to socialize. I have friends I talk to a lot, my friends care about me and I care about them, but it really feels like I'm going to live a super uneventful life and die without experiencing the things I want.
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