Me (M19) and my mom are at an impasse

Throwaway because she knows my main account.

I've always been a bit of a sensitive soul. I don't want to say snowflake, because I don't think I am. My family has always had a gentle teasing, nudging style of humor. Both my parents senses of humor is a bit warped, and mine and my sister's are as well. Not as warped, but a bit warped regardless. That said, we all gently tease each other. I lost a hubcap on the car that my parents bought for me and my sister to share. We've been talking about whether or not to replace it. My dad made the comment that I should I replace it since I lost it. I made the joke that my sister could replace them if it comes time while she has the car. My dad responded back with "you lost it, you replace it" and I thought I was making a quip to a quip. My mom thinks I took that the wrong way and took it way far afield and we have been at odds for the past 6 hours. I don't think I did anything wrong, but we haven't been communicating well today.

So with that backstory, did I take it out of context and go too far, and how can I continue to communicate without taking things too far? I'm open to any suggestions.

TL;DR- My mom thinks I took a joke too far. I'm convinced it was quips in equal light, and we haven't been communicating clearly today, less at all. I need help communicating with her.



Submitted December 28, 2019 at 12:03AM

Throwaway because she knows my main account.I've always been a bit of a sensitive soul. I don't want to say snowflake, because I don't think I am. My family has always had a gentle teasing, nudging style of humor. Both my parents senses of humor is a bit warped, and mine and my sister's are as well. Not as warped, but a bit warped regardless. That said, we all gently tease each other. I lost a hubcap on the car that my parents bought for me and my sister to share. We've been talking about whether or not to replace it. My dad made the comment that I should I replace it since I lost it. I made the joke that my sister could replace them if it comes time while she has the car. My dad responded back with "you lost it, you replace it" and I thought I was making a quip to a quip. My mom thinks I took that the wrong way and took it way far afield and we have been at odds for the past 6 hours. I don't think I did anything wrong, but we haven't been communicating well today.So with that backstory, did I take it out of context and go too far, and how can I continue to communicate without taking things too far? I'm open to any suggestions.TL;DR- My mom thinks I took a joke too far. I'm convinced it was quips in equal light, and we haven't been communicating clearly today, less at all. I need help communicating with her.
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