Okay, so there are a lot of posts about kegels on here so I apologize in advance for another one. Basically, i get the general concept. Squeeze pelvic floor muscles and they will strengthen over time. Great! But whenever I try, I then have to pee much more often than normal. I already feel like I have to pee a lot, but it almost doubles when i do kegels on a regular basis. I'm female btw and the motion im doing to practice kegels is the same motion of holding your pee in. Is this normal or am I just doing it wrong? Does anyone have any tips? Submitted November 11, 2019 at 11:14PM Okay, so there are a lot of posts about kegels on here so I apologize in advance for another one. Basically, i get the general concept. Squeeze pelvic floor muscles and they will strengthen over time. Great! But whenever I try, I then have to pee much more often than normal. I already feel like I have to pee a lot, but it almost doubles when i do kegels on a regular basis. I'm female btw and the...

I always pride myself in giving great blow jobs but this weekend the unfortunate happened......i met up with a guy from tinder and we got belligerent drunk. I went down on him but was so drunk i threw up acid/spit in the middle of it 🤦 he went immediately soft and the awkwardness kicked in. I'll never see him again and don't care to i just can't stop beating myself over it. Has this happened to anyone else and how tf do i get over it?! 😅😔 Submitted November 11, 2019 at 11:14PM I always pride myself in giving great blow jobs but this weekend the unfortunate happened......i met up with a guy from tinder and we got belligerent drunk. I went down on him but was so drunk i threw up acid/spit in the middle of it 🤦 he went immediately soft and the awkwardness kicked in. I'll never see him again and don't care to i just can't stop beating myself over it. Has this happened to anyone else and how tf do i get over it?! 😅😔

I have a longer penis, just shy of 8 inches, but my girth is only 5 inches. My girlfriend now has a vagina that feels a bit on the wider side, when we were having sex the other day I put 2 fingers in with my penis and she went wild. Should I get a cock sleave or does that just scream "I'm insecure about my penis" Submitted November 11, 2019 at 11:16PM I have a longer penis, just shy of 8 inches, but my girth is only 5 inches. My girlfriend now has a vagina that feels a bit on the wider side, when we were having sex the other day I put 2 fingers in with my penis and she went wild. Should I get a cock sleave or does that just scream "I'm insecure about my penis"

I (F25) recently feel like sex is not worth it. My husband's (M30) 7 inch dick hurts almost every time the first few seconds. After sex too I often feel some soreness or burning even if we lubricate well and he doesn't hit my cervix. It's not vaginismus or yeast or anything, just a big dick. During sex I can only come up to 3 times and it takes more physical exertion and prep (shaving, washing, brushing, flossing). When I masturbate I can just do it spontaneously and enjoy 10-12 orgasms without putting much work into it and with 0 pain and without spending time on foreplay. I feel like if you add prep, coordinating, foreplay and cleanup, sex takes 3 hours and isn't worth it. Also, my breasts and nipples are too sensitive and I dislike when they are touched too much. I literally want to throw up when my nipples are stimulated because it feels instantly like overstimulation. I hate myself. Why can't I be normal and enjoy sex with my husband. Also, he's vanilla ...

I talked to my bf and he said he would find it hot if I was dominate during sex. I’m all for it. But I feel awkward because I don’t know what to say or what to do. Any tips? Submitted November 11, 2019 at 11:21PM I talked to my bf and he said he would find it hot if I was dominate during sex. I’m all for it. But I feel awkward because I don’t know what to say or what to do. Any tips?

So i recently got a girlfriend and we instantly started talking dirty to each other Personally i have always been a little crazy about sex, and ive been really looking forward for my first time, Me and my girlfriend are sort of planning a time to have sex, we dont have a date yet but we already have protection Even though ive been waiting to have sex really badly, i have a really weird gut feeling, like constant nervousness, we dont want anyone we know to find out cause we want this to be more of a personal thing Im not sure if its just because i’ve never done it before or what, if we get the opportunity, we are gonna have sex, it just feels really weird currently and i dont know if thats normal Submitted November 11, 2019 at 11:33PM So i recently got a girlfriend and we instantly started talking dirty to each otherPersonally i have always been a little crazy about sex, and ive been really looking forward for my first time, Me and my girlfriend are sort of planning a time to ...

Here’s a story to make you laugh on this dreary Monday. As you all know, it’s the time of year where the coconut oil hardens. I had a chunk of coconut oil that wouldn’t melt between my hands so I put it between my downstairs lips and that shit melted like butter in a frying pan. It didn’t feel bad, it didn’t feel good. Just thought I’d share to make you all giggle....or be inspired. Submitted November 11, 2019 at 11:35PM Here’s a story to make you laugh on this dreary Monday. As you all know, it’s the time of year where the coconut oil hardens. I had a chunk of coconut oil that wouldn’t melt between my hands so I put it between my downstairs lips and that shit melted like butter in a frying pan. It didn’t feel bad, it didn’t feel good. Just thought I’d share to make you all giggle....or be inspired.

It’s been so long since I’ve been with a guy and I have no clue what to do. I don’t see the night going past foreplay but I’d love some advice Submitted November 11, 2019 at 11:36PM It’s been so long since I’ve been with a guy and I have no clue what to do. I don’t see the night going past foreplay but I’d love some advice

So I recently hooked up with my kids father. I regret doing it. I now feel really depressed and have a lot of anxiety. My kids father has a girlfriend whom I can’t stand. However he calls me all the time and actually comes over a lot. We live about 300 - 400 feet away from each other. He tells me he loves me while she is sitting right there however I never respond to him when he says that. Well recently he has been calling me a awful lot lately. Last weekend he came over and the kids were not here he tried rubbing on my butt I sat up and told him no. So he then goes to put his hands down my shirt twice. I informed him it was not going to happen. Well on 11/6 he called me at 3:51 am his girlfriend just left for work and he tells me to unlock the door. Stupid me unlocks the door we basically had sex and he left and went to work and I got up to get ready for work. He still kept calling me a lot. I haven’t messed with him in about 6 years and it now has me really depressed. My birthday ...

Is it an instant decision? Does the quality of the photo matter, is it a "first impression is the only impression" type of thing? Do you ever change your minds after meeting in person? If so... what would change your minds? Have you ever said "no" to someone and then months later gotten to know them better and it changed to a true "yes", or was having sex with them at that point a mistake? Just curious about the whole deal. Submitted November 11, 2019 at 11:54PM Is it an instant decision?Does the quality of the photo matter, is it a "first impression is the only impression" type of thing?Do you ever change your minds after meeting in person? If so... what would change your minds?Have you ever said "no" to someone and then months later gotten to know them better and it changed to a true "yes", or was having sex with them at that point a mistake?Just curious about the whole deal.

So I (M26) posted this awhile ago and promised and update. Here is that update. https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/d203n3/about_to_drop_400_and_commit_to_18_hours_of_round/ It's been a great but weird couple months, and that's mostly because I've now traveled for sex twice and not to where I originally intended. If you ever think of doing something at longer distances, maybe you can learn from my experiences. First off, my original trip from LA and Washington DC was cancelled. The girl I spoke to on travels eventually became uneasy at the idea of a relative stranger flying to her and staying at her apartment. By that time, I had already bought the ticket and I'll admit I was very disappointed for no sex (and being out a lot of money). She told me that the idea of flying to her was exciting while she was still on the high of vacation, but once real life set in she became anxious at the idea. At the end of the day, it didn't work out. But the idea of traveling ...

I'm a man and have been married for 10 years. My wife has a low, or even no, libido (in my opinion). I'm really wondering, what is considered to be normal healthy libido for a woman in her 20's and 30's? How often do you think about sex? How often do you initiate sex? How often do you masturbate? What is your kink level? How adventurous are you? Submitted November 11, 2019 at 11:59PM I'm a man and have been married for 10 years. My wife has a low, or even no, libido (in my opinion). I'm really wondering, what is considered to be normal healthy libido for a woman in her 20's and 30's?How often do you think about sex?How often do you initiate sex?How often do you masturbate?What is your kink level?How adventurous are you?

TLDR: I ruined the morning after by being super cold and shy because of my stupid insecurities. So I let this incredible guy leave without asking his phone number. I feel like I lost a huge opportunity. We met at a bar and had great chemistry since the first second we interacted. We made each other laugh and clearly we felt extremely attracted towards each other so we decided to go to my place. I said bye to my friends and left with the guy. On the way and once at my place everything went well! I cannot believe I had awesome sex with the hottest guy and the nicest smile I’ve seen in my life. The night was long, and filled with lust. Then we woke up and had a great time again in the early morning. Later that morning, I woke up before him, got dressed and started to clean up my place. What an idiot! I should have been there when he woke up! I should have made coffee! I should have talked to him more! I should have asked more questions! I swear I can be charming, funny, interesting.. ...

Earlier in my sexual experiences I had a few partner ask about anal and I was too scared ( weirded out) to try it. Even with saying no, they proceeded to try. Sometimes successful. I thought it was so strange to be into at the time. Flip to 2019: Now I want to try anal and need a butt plug to practice. Any reccomendations to start? Submitted November 12, 2019 at 12:06AM Earlier in my sexual experiences I had a few partner ask about anal and I was too scared ( weirded out) to try it. Even with saying no, they proceeded to try. Sometimes successful. I thought it was so strange to be into at the time.Flip to 2019: Now I want to try anal and need a butt plug to practice.Any reccomendations to start?

I have no clue where this came from, but I recently began thinking about crossdressing. Like wearing skirts, and dresses, and thongs, and stockings. Thing is, I'm a dude, 29. I'm (mostly) straight. I'm not even remotely feminine. I'm bald, I'm hairy, I've got a bit of a gut, and a beard. So it'd be something I'd have to keep indoors but yeah. I don't even know where to begin honestly. Is it wrong to have this fetish? I don't mean in the classic sense of "this is taboo so its wrong", but I feel doing this in a strictly sexual sense could be a bit derogatory to those who are trans (for example). Submitted November 12, 2019 at 12:14AM I have no clue where this came from, but I recently began thinking about crossdressing. Like wearing skirts, and dresses, and thongs, and stockings.Thing is, I'm a dude, 29. I'm (mostly) straight. I'm not even remotely feminine. I'm bald, I'm hairy, I've got a bit of a gut, an...

During very good rough sex, the guy I was with told me "swallow this" and came in my mouth to which I obliged. It really turned me on, and although he is a FWB, no other guys really do that with me. How can I get them to be more like that without making it seem forced or awkward. It needs to be heat of the moment. Submitted November 12, 2019 at 12:19AM During very good rough sex, the guy I was with told me "swallow this" and came in my mouth to which I obliged. It really turned me on, and although he is a FWB, no other guys really do that with me.How can I get them to be more like that without making it seem forced or awkward. It needs to be heat of the moment.

Same, I'm just pointing out that this: 90% of the time, outside of Jehovah's Witnesses, it's Catholics and Christians is not applicable everywhere in the world, so context matters. November 12, 2019 at 12:18AM

I'd argue one or two generations of helpless dying out elderly humans would result in less overall suffering compaired to constantly bring into existence new generations to help the previous generations elderly, repeatedly, for thousands of years. .... No? That's like saying if your car is not running properly its best to keep the old parts. Or like saying our bodies shouldn't produce new skin cells.... Everything is made to replace itself. That's the law of nature, hell, the universe. Nothing is constant, so assuming that keeping allowing the elderly to maintain everything in hopes that it prevents suffering is just flawed. Literally, my country is the prime example of this logic failing. We are behind on everything because people are still stuck in the past. But let's humor your idea. Say no one has kids from 2020 onward. What will that do? Everyone will just grow old with no one new to replace them. Hard labor can no longer be done, technology will be slowed...

sex is overrated November 12, 2019 at 12:13AM

My wife has a lot on her plate. Being in the military, I travel a lot. For her- between being in school full time and raising our son, her day is a constant balancing act of schedules and needs from our family and her academics. I'm fantastic when I am home because it's as easy as me stepping in to take some of the workload from her and help around the house so she can focus on herself. However, I always feel like me "trying to help" just frustrates her more when we're talking on the phone because I'm constantly trying to find the right thing to say. I find it hard to share my day with her at times too because she feels jealous. I still get weekends off when I travel so there are oppurtunities to explore new areas but she's stuck at home in the chaos of trying to keep the home together and she does a kickass job at it, too. I don't know what to do for her with all of this distance between us at times. Submitted November 12, 2019 at 12:11AM My wi...

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People don't accept atheism as valid. I have had people tell me I am lying about being an atheist and that I secretly believe. Or that being an atheist means I have no morals. November 12, 2019 at 12:03AM

doing sexual things is similar to hugging, cuddling, kissing, holding hands I'm ace and this is how I described my thoughts on sex before I came out. Not saying you're ace for sure, that is for you to decide if you want/like the label. I relate a lot. I'd advocate for checking out the resources in the sidebar of this sub, a lot of people worked hard on the FAQs and guides, they're super helpful. Do some more research, because no matter what people might tell you, it won't matter unless you decide for yourself. Happy searching! November 12, 2019 at 12:00AM