Sex feels not worth it?

I (F25) recently feel like sex is not worth it. My husband's (M30) 7 inch dick hurts almost every time the first few seconds. After sex too I often feel some soreness or burning even if we lubricate well and he doesn't hit my cervix. It's not vaginismus or yeast or anything, just a big dick. During sex I can only come up to 3 times and it takes more physical exertion and prep (shaving, washing, brushing, flossing). When I masturbate I can just do it spontaneously and enjoy 10-12 orgasms without putting much work into it and with 0 pain and without spending time on foreplay. I feel like if you add prep, coordinating, foreplay and cleanup, sex takes 3 hours and isn't worth it.

Also, my breasts and nipples are too sensitive and I dislike when they are touched too much. I literally want to throw up when my nipples are stimulated because it feels instantly like overstimulation. I hate myself. Why can't I be normal and enjoy sex with my husband.

Also, he's vanilla whereas I'm into rough/BDSM/forced orgasms, but with his dick I don't even wanna try any of that anyway because it'll hurt. No anal ever since I met him, though we sometimes put a butt plug in. I can't properly suck his dick because it's too thick, but i insist on sucking often because I enjoy it and sometimes suck to completion. I'd almost rather just give him bjs rather than have sex. I'm tired of pretending to be enjoying myself (especially in the beginning when there's discomfort) to not ruin the mood.

Sex feels like too much work and discomfort and makes me feel discouraged. Often after having my first orgasm with him I feel too sensitive everywhere and it just makes me wanna throw up when we keep going, but I am able to come again. I have a pretty high libido, especially when ovulating. I dress up in his favorite sexy outfits for sex, but don't really enjoy it. It makes me want to cry and feel like the worst wife. We met in 2016 and married in April 2017. Everything else is perfect and we're extremely happy and physically affectionate.



Submitted November 11, 2019 at 11:16PM

I (F25) recently feel like sex is not worth it. My husband's (M30) 7 inch dick hurts almost every time the first few seconds. After sex too I often feel some soreness or burning even if we lubricate well and he doesn't hit my cervix. It's not vaginismus or yeast or anything, just a big dick. During sex I can only come up to 3 times and it takes more physical exertion and prep (shaving, washing, brushing, flossing). When I masturbate I can just do it spontaneously and enjoy 10-12 orgasms without putting much work into it and with 0 pain and without spending time on foreplay. I feel like if you add prep, coordinating, foreplay and cleanup, sex takes 3 hours and isn't worth it.Also, my breasts and nipples are too sensitive and I dislike when they are touched too much. I literally want to throw up when my nipples are stimulated because it feels instantly like overstimulation. I hate myself. Why can't I be normal and enjoy sex with my husband.Also, he's vanilla whereas I'm into rough/BDSM/forced orgasms, but with his dick I don't even wanna try any of that anyway because it'll hurt. No anal ever since I met him, though we sometimes put a butt plug in. I can't properly suck his dick because it's too thick, but i insist on sucking often because I enjoy it and sometimes suck to completion. I'd almost rather just give him bjs rather than have sex. I'm tired of pretending to be enjoying myself (especially in the beginning when there's discomfort) to not ruin the mood.Sex feels like too much work and discomfort and makes me feel discouraged. Often after having my first orgasm with him I feel too sensitive everywhere and it just makes me wanna throw up when we keep going, but I am able to come again. I have a pretty high libido, especially when ovulating. I dress up in his favorite sexy outfits for sex, but don't really enjoy it. It makes me want to cry and feel like the worst wife. We met in 2016 and married in April 2017. Everything else is perfect and we're extremely happy and physically affectionate.
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