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Advice with someone I’ve been seeing.

Hello all you lovely randomers, I’m looking for some advice about a girl I’ve been seeing and I’m hoping an unbiased opinion from the internet might be able to help. So here’s the story. I’m a M28 and I’ve been talking to this F25 everyday since 1st January via messenger apps. We knew of each other already but hadn’t ever met up before or spoke in years. We get along really well when chatting and talk all the time. I don’t think there’s been a day since we started talking that we’ve not spoken to each other. We’ve met up roughly about 10 or more times at the moment but all of those occasions it’s just been for a walk round a park due to COVID restrictions. Nothings happened between us other than a few kisses again due to COVID. But we have talked about spending the night together etc exchanged flirty messages. She works a lot and doesn’t get a lot of free time which I understand makes it difficult to meet up. But I’ve recently discovered that there could potentially be another guy ...

Trying to just get a date

I’m (20m dfw) in the past month I’ve made plans for 5 dates with different people and actually went on 0 of them. We always make the plans and then the day or night before they go ghost or they change their mind on what their looking for. I really just want to be around someone else and have a good time and I can’t even get that Submitted April 23, 2021 at 11:49PM I’m (20m dfw) in the past month I’ve made plans for 5 dates with different people and actually went on 0 of them. We always make the plans and then the day or night before they go ghost or they change their mind on what their looking for. I really just want to be around someone else and have a good time and I can’t even get that

How do you approach women in the gym?

So at my gym there is a pretty woman who is very focused while training and has earphones. I've had the opportunity to every now and then say "hey how are you?" and into my own training. she does got my attention and i just don't find a way to approach, maybe say something here and there so that could lead to having a space and time where we could talk more. any advice? Submitted April 23, 2021 at 11:51PM So at my gym there is a pretty woman who is very focused while training and has earphones. I've had the opportunity to every now and then say "hey how are you?" and into my own training. she does got my attention and i just don't find a way to approach, maybe say something here and there so that could lead to having a space and time where we could talk more. any advice?

Is it okay to say “I love you” at this point?

I am 22F dating a 25M. We met back in October and were dating/hooking up pretty casually from Nov-Jan. We “broke up” mid January because from my end it didn’t really seem like he was at a place in his life to be seeing someone. From then til about early/mid March we did not speak at all. Back in March, he reached out to me asking to hang out and I was a bit reluctant, but I said yes. Had an amazing night with him and we’ve been seeing each other much more formally since then. We both have introduced each other to the others immediate family and his siblings have told me how happy they are that I’m with him and that I make him very happy. He is a very loving guy and is never afraid to be affectionate towards me. Pretty much BF/GF at this point. About one week ago, I picked him up from a family function because he was very drunk and could not drive home. On the car ride, he was rambling and told me he loved me. I asked him to repeat himself just to make sure I heard him correctly, and...

Texting A Flaky Guy?

For reference, I am a 21 yo female and he is a 20 yo male. He ghosted for a week due to a legitimate reason—I honestly was not expecting to hear from him and was okay with that because he was going through. He messaged me 2 days ago basically saying he’s getting help and was ready to try talking again. So, we talk and it’s always been the type of messaging where it’s inconsistent. It’s starting to bother me, which maybe that’s not justified, but I feel like it’s just weird because he is being inconsistent and also has not bothered to call me. I mentioned to him today that he seemed really busy, and he just said he works a lot. THEN he brought up that he “lost” his dog so he was stressed out. An hour later he found his dog. In general, I feel like he’s not interested, but if he wanted sex wouldn’t he be pushing for a date/call? Submitted April 23, 2021 at 11:56PM For reference, I am a 21 yo female and he is a 20 yo male. He ghosted for a week due to a legitimate reason—I honest...

To those with depression, did a relationship take the pain away?

I do not encourage dating someone just to make yourself happy by any means. But whenever I’ve had a partner it’s like the pain was practically gone. However, most of my relationships have been extremely short-lived and I’ve never made it past the honeymoon stage, which could explain why. I really want to stop looking at being in a relationship as an escape route from feeling miserable inside. Submitted April 24, 2021 at 12:08AM I do not encourage dating someone just to make yourself happy by any means. But whenever I’ve had a partner it’s like the pain was practically gone. However, most of my relationships have been extremely short-lived and I’ve never made it past the honeymoon stage, which could explain why. I really want to stop looking at being in a relationship as an escape route from feeling miserable inside.

I haven't had a match in two weeks.

22M I'm not really sure how to take this. Im working on myself, getting in shape and I try my best to keep the conversation interesting but I guess I haven't gotten anything and its getting heavy. Im not really sure whats so wrong with me that I cant date anyone. Submitted April 24, 2021 at 12:09AM 22M I'm not really sure how to take this. Im working on myself, getting in shape and I try my best to keep the conversation interesting but I guess I haven't gotten anything and its getting heavy.Im not really sure whats so wrong with me that I cant date anyone.

My mom asked if I’m goin to prom😂😂😂

My mom just asked if im goin to senior prom😂😂😂 😂 yea sure the loser guy who has never had a reciprocated romantic interest in his life is goin to go to prom hilarious And before y’all give me that “oh just go by yourself” or sum other bs just save it man it’s over I already know y’all jus gon be like “man you’re young there’s still time” again man just save it das all y’all could ever say who cares if I’m young I’m old enough to at least had a first kiss anything bro it’s over man it’s obvious I’ve no girls I don’t even have friends anymore either my closest friend ik for a few years never even wants to hang out or nun no more every time I ask em “hey wanna play ball or something” it’s always “imma be with my girl” not only did I lose a friend but I’m just reminded of something I just can’t get man When does the pain end when Submitted April 24, 2021 at 12:10AM My mom just asked if im goin to senior prom😂😂😂😂 yea sure the loser guy who has never had a reciprocated roma...

/u/no_this_is_pattycake on Am I the only one who skips all the sex scenes lol

I’m honestly fine with them when I’m watching alone (although they can feel pretty useless and gratuitous) but I HATE them when I’m with others. I watched the entirety of Game Of Thrones with my mom, that was a challenge! April 24, 2021 at 12:03AM

/u/ImAnAsexual on Just wanted to see how you guys are doing :)

Thanks for asking! I'm doing ok April 24, 2021 at 12:02AM

/u/PlatRoy on If you can have sex without love, why can’t you have love without sex?

But the greeks developed different names for love. And there are different forms of love without sex. You can love your friends, but most likely you're not gonna have sex with them. I've always loved fiercely, no matter what, but that doesn't mean I've felt the desire to go to bone town. Of course, in the context of your conversation with your mom, I suppose she's just narrowing the focus to just love and sex between people in a relationship, which probably baffles her since she probably grew up when sex was a chore women had to do and liking it or not wasn't necessarily a choice. I hope your mom loves you as her child, and can come around to realize that your happiness isn't the same as her own. And she should respect that ✌🏻 April 23, 2021 at 11:59PM

/u/Pyntdvypr on asexual vibes ngl

Shaved Parmesan or BUST April 23, 2021 at 11:36PM

/u/TraptorKai on Am I the only one who skips all the sex scenes lol

Youre not even the only one to post this meme in the last week April 23, 2021 at 11:20PM

/u/Narcosia on Found on r/nothowgirlswork

"Wouldn't you be freaked out if a gay guy came up to you on the street and claimed he could make you gay? Exactly." I also saw the thread and tried to tell this asshole as much. But he basically just replied "lol calm down I'm just messing with her". Like ??? I don't even know what to tell someone like that at this point. April 23, 2021 at 11:16PM

/u/PlatRoy on I'm not a fan of wearing rings so I got this :)

It's sorta funny cause I used to wear a celtic knot for happiness with a spade charm attached to it. I think necklaces are the way to go 😉 April 23, 2021 at 11:16PM

/u/PlatRoy on I'm not a fan of wearing rings so I got this :)

It's sorta funny cause I used to wear a celtic knot for happiness with a spade charm attached to it. I think necklaces are the way to go 😉 April 23, 2021 at 11:16PM

/u/Noisegarden135 on Just wanted to see how you guys are doing :)

Thank you!! :) April 23, 2021 at 11:11PM

/u/NotANilfgaardianSpy on Found on r/nothowgirlswork

And sell their organs on EBay April 23, 2021 at 11:10PM

/u/Variance__ on Found on r/nothowgirlswork

Even easier: tell them you have those score cards from the olympics and you use figuring skating scoring rules (i.e., you give a score after each attempted move). If empathy doesn’t work, the potential for ego damage should. “I’m sorry, but I can’t even tell what you were trying just now. That’s going to be a 0. You’re going to have to pull something really impressive to make up for that blunder.” April 23, 2021 at 11:09PM

/u/Damakorus on Just wanted to see how you guys are doing :)

Well, I dont know if I'm asexual yet or not. But it's always nice to meet someone who is. And I'm doing fine thanks for asking. We're getting a lovely thunderstorm where I'm from, which'll make some good atmosphere for gaming. I had a fun day of avoiding a very specific unpleasant person. Other than that just a normal school day . April 23, 2021 at 11:09PM

/u/Ace_Glorfindel on Just wanted to see how you guys are doing :)

Congrats on that gpa! April 23, 2021 at 11:09PM

/u/Ace_Glorfindel on Just wanted to see how you guys are doing :)

If anybody here says you’re too young to know, they’re not real allies! I’m doing OK, but I’m kind of stressed with finals. I’m in my senior year of high school and there’s so much to do! It’s times like these that I’m glad I don’t have to worry about dating. Thank you so much for reaching out, this post is such a sunny blob of positivity on Reddit! April 23, 2021 at 11:08PM

/u/confused_middleager on If you can have sex without love, why can’t you have love without sex?

She thinks that a marriage/relationship won’t last without sex, and a guy won’t want to be with me if we don’t have sex. This is a very traditional way of thinking that is considered to be rather misogynistic in western society now. In cultures that are super patriarchal and women are not empowered, the primary perceived value of women is to have babys and tend to the family's needs. Saying that a man won't want to be with you without sex is to suggest that you have nothing else of interest and value to offer the man. It's not so common a way of thinking these days, at least in the West, and it's kind of offensive to even suggest it. What do your opinions about important topics or your educational status or your ability to create positive change in the world have to do with sex? Nothing! The things that make you who you are, and so the things that your partner presumably truly loves, have nothing at all to do with body parts weirdly mashed up against each other. I...