Advice with someone I’ve been seeing.

Hello all you lovely randomers,

I’m looking for some advice about a girl I’ve been seeing and I’m hoping an unbiased opinion from the internet might be able to help.

So here’s the story. I’m a M28 and I’ve been talking to this F25 everyday since 1st January via messenger apps. We knew of each other already but hadn’t ever met up before or spoke in years. We get along really well when chatting and talk all the time. I don’t think there’s been a day since we started talking that we’ve not spoken to each other.

We’ve met up roughly about 10 or more times at the moment but all of those occasions it’s just been for a walk round a park due to COVID restrictions. Nothings happened between us other than a few kisses again due to COVID. But we have talked about spending the night together etc exchanged flirty messages. She works a lot and doesn’t get a lot of free time which I understand makes it difficult to meet up. But I’ve recently discovered that there could potentially be another guy on the scene.

I don’t know if we’re classed as dating or not or what the hell we’re even calling ‘this’. He’s a golf instructor and last week she decide to go for a golfing lesson with him. I’m not going to lie it made me very jealous that she gets so little free time and decided to go golfing with him, which is a sport she’s never previously shown any interest in to me. She did tell me she was going and didn’t keep it a secret so I’m not sure if they’re just friends or not. But being a bloke myself I’ve got a good understanding of why you’d invite a single girl for a golf lesson.

Also this week I’ve been waiting for her to let me know when she’s free to meet up and nothing she was free in the evenings but never asked to meet up. But continued to chat to me everyday on messenger as normal. Now she’s told me tomorrow after she’s finished work she’s off golfing again. Is she just stringing me along as abit of texting entertainment throughout the day/evening? When we do meet up shes never in a rush to leave, but she never asks me to meet up it’s always me. I’ve left it before and not asked and 2 weeks have gone past before I’ve decided to ask again.

Any advice recommendations will be welcome or if you need any more info speak up thanks.



Submitted April 23, 2021 at 03:33PM

Hello all you lovely randomers,I’m looking for some advice about a girl I’ve been seeing and I’m hoping an unbiased opinion from the internet might be able to help.So here’s the story. I’m a M28 and I’ve been talking to this F25 everyday since 1st January via messenger apps. We knew of each other already but hadn’t ever met up before or spoke in years. We get along really well when chatting and talk all the time. I don’t think there’s been a day since we started talking that we’ve not spoken to each other.We’ve met up roughly about 10 or more times at the moment but all of those occasions it’s just been for a walk round a park due to COVID restrictions. Nothings happened between us other than a few kisses again due to COVID. But we have talked about spending the night together etc exchanged flirty messages. She works a lot and doesn’t get a lot of free time which I understand makes it difficult to meet up. But I’ve recently discovered that there could potentially be another guy on the scene.I don’t know if we’re classed as dating or not or what the hell we’re even calling ‘this’. He’s a golf instructor and last week she decide to go for a golfing lesson with him. I’m not going to lie it made me very jealous that she gets so little free time and decided to go golfing with him, which is a sport she’s never previously shown any interest in to me. She did tell me she was going and didn’t keep it a secret so I’m not sure if they’re just friends or not. But being a bloke myself I’ve got a good understanding of why you’d invite a single girl for a golf lesson.Also this week I’ve been waiting for her to let me know when she’s free to meet up and nothing she was free in the evenings but never asked to meet up. But continued to chat to me everyday on messenger as normal. Now she’s told me tomorrow after she’s finished work she’s off golfing again. Is she just stringing me along as abit of texting entertainment throughout the day/evening? When we do meet up shes never in a rush to leave, but she never asks me to meet up it’s always me. I’ve left it before and not asked and 2 weeks have gone past before I’ve decided to ask again.Any advice recommendations will be welcome or if you need any more info speak up thanks.
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