It’s been almost 5 months since I left home to be in the navy, which has been a dream of mine since I was a child. When we met I told her straight up that this is what I wanted, and that after being eligible again to join after not being able to when I was 19 yrs old due to an ACL injury, I was not going back. We’ve been together for about a year, but ever since I left it’s been hard for her. She’s already suffering from your typical depression and anxiety, and the loneliness has been stressing her out. While I’m in A school, I was able to get an apartment for her to stay close to base while I’m in school, so that I can visit her on weekends that aren’t duty days. While FaceTiming, she’s constantly talking about how sad she is, and how I left her all alone. The last time we were able to spend time was when I graduated, and while together she asked if we could be in an open relationship, which I 100% disagreed. At first it freaked me out, but after time passed I returned calm and compe...

Please tell me I'm not the only one. I mean I could go on and on about what a great husband he uis but somedays...i.e. weekends he just annoys me. Submitted May 27, 2019 at 04:35AM Please tell me I'm not the only one. I mean I could go on and on about what a great husband he uis but somedays...i.e. weekends he just annoys me.

I really like reading and learning new things. My wife doesn't focus on this as much. She's got a good job and just doesn't feel the need or desire to read after a long day. I kind of want our days to have less screen time and more time with each other, or with books out, playing music, stuff that brings us a closer together...interested to hear what ya'll think Submitted May 27, 2019 at 05:08AM I really like reading and learning new things. My wife doesn't focus on this as much. She's got a good job and just doesn't feel the need or desire to read after a long day. I kind of want our days to have less screen time and more time with each other, or with books out, playing music, stuff that brings us a closer together...interested to hear what ya'll think

My husband [34M] and I [25F] are in a long distance relationship for now while waiting for my papers for relocation and be with him. There are arguments we are having such as, us having too much communication. (As he complained) he would send me pics and text me most of the time which I don't ask him much anymore. I still thank him for doing the effort. We don't Skype at all since he said texting is already a lot of work. We have disagreements and he doesn't like it. It quite pisses me off because it's just natural to have disagreements in a relationship. Also,misunderstandings that doesn't even have to make it as a big deal but he's making such a big deal out of it. I feel like I'm stuck in a situation. I love him above anything but then makes me feel the "hate" at the same time cause I always make it up to him. I always do many things for him despite of our problems. He does try to work it out but he just feels like a bachelor (single attitud...

Sigh....not sure where to begin. My husband always thinks I'm cheating on him. He knows I have had more of a dating past than him and will use that as "leverage." I've offered he can see my phone, Facebook, whatever he needs to. We have a security system on the house and he can see when I come and go. Everything he's asked of me, I've done. When we first met I did have some exes on my page and he asked me to delete them so I did. I have not one make friend. He's come and had lunch with me a few times at work and I've offered to introduce him to coworkers if he really feels the need. The thing is, the ex right before him did the same things. As it turned out....he was cheating on me. So now, I think my husband is projecting on me. I'm seeing signs that would indicate cheating. He stopped wanting to be intimate with me. He all the sudden is trying to lose weight. The entire time we've been together he hasn't cared about weight. And here...

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TL;DR m23 seeks advice on next move to make after a rare spot of romantic success with 40something lady. I had an epic night on Friday when at a friends birthday party. I'm usually more antisocial but the whole party was so drunk and merry, I was actually quite on form. Since the start of the night I had been bantering with one of the "Grown Ups" at the party. She must've been around mid-40s, but she knew how to have fun and we spent a long time joking around over cigarettes, and gradually becoming more flirty. Anyone who knows me would confirm that the flirting stressed me the F out! I can always hold conversations but I struggle to flirt because hey rejection isn't fun. Soon though the flirting became a bit more overt, and I became a lot more stressed. The alcohol was obviously helping, but never enough to convince me to shoot my shot at my friends-moms-friend, because in my mind I'd probably been misreading all the signs anyway. Until a bit later we were ...

We're barely holding hands. She wants to see if we're emotionally compatible. This is too many right? Or am I over thinking? Thoughts? F33 M31 Submitted May 26, 2019 at 08:01AM We're barely holding hands. She wants to see if we're emotionally compatible. This is too many right? Or am I over thinking? Thoughts? F33 M31

So I posted the other day that I was going on a date that I was really excited about.. a picnic overlooking the city lights with a guy I was in my best friends wedding with a few years ago. Thanks for well wishes Reddit strangers. I updated that thread that the date went really well. We talked for awhile (actually he did most of the talking and then apologised for it later). We kissed and fooled around for an hour or so - it got heated quickly. He got the last train home at 11.30pm and text me that night and has text the last few days as well. Felt pretty good about it. Then tonight he just tells me he doesn't see a romantic relationship with me. He caught up with a friend and thought about it. Said he's not confident that he can see a future with me. It just seems a bit strange considering we had a really great night, he seemed keen and then boom out of nowhere, not keen. Just needing a bit of care and reassurance right now. I feel like this isn't an uncommon occurrence...

I'm dating a woman who's very socially outgoing. I'm comfortable around her and do talk a decent amount when it matters but overall I'm pretty quiet. Whenever I'm around her friends I get even more quiet. I hate coming off standoffish but I literally just don't know what to say sometimes so I simply don't say anything. Women would this hinder the relationship from moving forward? Submitted May 26, 2019 at 02:06PM I'm dating a woman who's very socially outgoing. I'm comfortable around her and do talk a decent amount when it matters but overall I'm pretty quiet. Whenever I'm around her friends I get even more quiet. I hate coming off standoffish but I literally just don't know what to say sometimes so I simply don't say anything.Women would this hinder the relationship from moving forward?

The good: we can have ‘hard’ conversations without the other being offended or defensive, J took ownership of areas where he should have communicated more or better The areas for improvement: overall communication, my own personal insecurity and ability to move on. He was traveling for work and so was I. When we were finally back home, I reached out and said I wanted to see him but understood if he was busy with work (high pressure career, and he’s in a major funk about where he wants to go career wise - this has only come up the last week). He declined and said he had a work reception. Later found out it was a reception for a scholarship a friend invited him to, while not necessarily work, also not necessarily turning me down to have beers w a friend, and we also both deserve time with just our friends. Since he declined, I didn’t reach out Friday. When we were texting asking what the other was doing, he said he was grabbing drinks with a coworker hoping to get advice, so then I r...

ouch. yeah, that sucks. but surely there are others out there so just hang in there lol May 27, 2019 at 07:03AM

That's, uh, super disturbing that they would put that there. May 27, 2019 at 07:02AM

Yeah boss May 27, 2019 at 06:57AM

Why not both? May 27, 2019 at 06:51AM

I'd stick with ace, thanks. I don't want to have emotions clouding the stony face that is the hourglass of logic. May 27, 2019 at 06:40AM

that seems like a funny response to me. especially if he's usually sarcastic. but if it's bothering you, and you do consider him a friend... just ask him "uh, so, what did you mean by that?" ... communication is important for all kinds of relationships, you know. May 27, 2019 at 06:27AM

The idea that someone is lucky to get into those pants disgusts me. Why is this world so weirddddd 🙈🙈🙈 May 27, 2019 at 06:18AM

It is I, a teenacer May 27, 2019 at 06:13AM

From where I'm seeing this, it's really quite saddening that we Aces need to feel this way due to society's heavy emphasis on everything being sexual. 😔 Get a new hobby or maybe write. Wishing you all the best. May 27, 2019 at 06:04AM

Whattttt I'm gonna go see if my Target has these ASAP May 27, 2019 at 05:59AM

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So far we have u/DragonsAndKittens , u/bluegamerz2121 , myself and possibly u/Rin_the_wizard . May 27, 2019 at 05:55AM

I'm so happy to be ace/aro. All these bullsh*t I don't have to deal with or even try to understand haha. I think if you let your partner have that kind of power over you... it's sad. If you play into it, you're responsible too. It's a mistake and it's dangerous because it can seriously isolate people. Meh, their issue ;) I can only recommend people to have a bit of everything rather than to have one person be their entire world. Stay in touch with your family, have friends, have some solo time. Don't be someone's person, be your own self. May 27, 2019 at 05:54AM

It's normal to feel pressured but what you need to remember is yourself. No matter how difficult it might be, being left out and all, be true to yourself, don't succumb to society's standards of what you need to be 'cause that'll be a disservice to your own person. May 27, 2019 at 05:51AM

That sound illegal May 27, 2019 at 05:49AM

I'm here May 27, 2019 at 05:47AM

have never had actually good lasagna ... still better than sex (disclaimer: I'm a sex-positive ace & food junkie) May 27, 2019 at 05:44AM

me...maybe. Not sure about the second half. May 27, 2019 at 05:39AM

At least one. May 27, 2019 at 05:38AM

My family says that when I discover sex I will be hetero. I just don't want to tell them that I've tried it before and I felt bored. Wow, it must be hard restraining yourself from pointing out solid proof that discredits them. But yeah, they probably wouldn't take that very well either, for different reasons... May 27, 2019 at 05:34AM

same, but they were all over my mentions because they were answering to my tweet. I tried to inform and even linked AVEN but it's useless. 😔✊ May 27, 2019 at 05:25AM

Oh I hate people who think that some group of people should not be part of the LGBTQ community. I don't really care when people are ignorant/rude online (I either ignore their post, or if I am in a bad mood report it to mods.) May 27, 2019 at 05:23AM

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Very suprising. Mine has a pride section but I'd bet against finding one of these. May 27, 2019 at 05:21AM

Yep! Which is good for the students of the future because we are all studying to be teachers!! May 27, 2019 at 05:19AM

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When I was 16 my parents went through my desk, found snacks and stuff they didn't want me to have, and while I was trying to stop them my mom told my dad to hold me down. He put his hands on my neck and somehow put some pressure there, I don't know how; at some point I started feeling like I couldn't breathe. I told him that I couldn't breathe as it started happening. My mom asked him if he was squeezing/pushing and he said something like "no, I'm not using any pressure at all." Eventually he stopped and I could breathe again. There weren't marks or anything. Later on I looked up strangling and it seemed like there's no way I could be experiencing trouble breathing from strangling unless it was a lot more painful or a lot more pressure. So I figured it was probably just anxiety that made it hard for me to breathe, and my dad was probably right about not using much pressure. But sometimes I look back and think, what if he actually was stranglin...

Hey, I was just talking with my good friend and she send me a pic of her boyfriend and he seemed to have lost a lot of weight and I told her and I think she is mad at me... Like I was being mean toward her boyfriend but it just surprised me! He was always skinny, but like fit skinny. But in the pic, he seems to have lost weight... What should I do? Apologize? I feel bad but at the same time, maybe he is going through something. Actually, he has feeling not good those last weeks (her boyfriend) and now he is doing Ramadan... I guess it could explain the weight loss. But at the same time, I don't want her to feel like I judge her boyfriend. I feel bad about that. What do you think I should do? TL;DR : My best friend send me a pic of her and a pic of her boyfriend and I told her that her boyfriend seemed to have lost a lot of weight. She told that I was overreacting. I feel bad. What should I do? Submitted May 27, 2019 at 05:18AM Hey, I was just talking with my good friend an...

Like the title says, I've known this guy for a good 10 years, since late childhood. We met online (and later on, a few times in person!) and used to talk every day over text and video calls. We've been through a lot, and were very close. He probably knows more about me than most of my family. For the past couple years I have heard less and less from him. We both just recently got out of college, and I figured that once the schoolwork was over with then we would both have some more time to catch up, but no-go. Every time we make plans to have a phone call, something else comes up: "sorry, I fell asleep," "sorry, someone invited me to a movie," "sorry, I don't feel like talking after all." He has EDS and a host of related degenerative conditions that genuinely make him very tired, and has also recently been diagnosed with autism. I want to be supportive of the times that he is able to be out and about irl, and also understanding of the times wh...

So I’v been dating my boyfriend for 3 months already (been seeing each other FWB relationship since October 2018). I’d say, objectively, he’s a pretty attractive (very attractive to me ;)), funny, and fit guy. However, I feel like on some level he’s a bit out of my league even though I’d like to say I’m not bad myself. So here’s the problem : I can’t help but feel insecure when he’s overly friendly to girls who are not his close friends at parties, and I’ve noticed that he does check attractive girls out (not obviously though or in a condescending manner) whenever we pass by them in the streets. Idk how to get over this. He was cheated on in his last relationship and I was in an emotionally abusive relationship (both ways) in my last one. So for the past 10 months I’ve been trying so hard working on myself to be a better person and to provide a nurturing relationship for us both. I don’t want to seem crazy and bring this issue up to him because I think it’s just a me problem. I don’t...

So, they started talking and that grew into getting closer. The problem is guy is into her but seems like he is unable to handle my friend’s emotions like being a little jealous, waiting for his messages etc. They met recently and spent good 5-6 hours together. He was very loving, and caring. According to my friend he still is! On the contrary my friend’s feelings are increasing day by day! She felt a little jealous of something and expressed that he is sleeping early while she waits for his messages. In response, he says, “I don’t want you to get hurt. I don’t want you to feel bad. I am fine and I will handle the pressure but I don’t want you to go through this. I am tired so I fall asleep!” She cried in front of me for the first time because she was scared and she was not happy with her growing emotions. I guess, she is also expecting the guy to be not-so-cool with her being normal. What I see is that she wants to be cool if he is not talking or use her head too much when he is ...

We (Five Males, aged 24-25) had all been good friends for about 8 years after we met through our first job out of school. We all got chummy and became drinking buddies from the age of 17 onward. We used to hang out fairly frequently however we all started getting full-time jobs and partners so we'd hang out every fortnight or so. Super normal and we were all aware that's just part of growing up. I had moved interstate for a job in September last year, however I had been back every couple of months to see family/weddings/graduations and always made a conscious effort to grab lunch/dinner/beers with the guys as I still wanted and needed them in my life. It was super busy fitting everyone in but at the time I thought it was worth it. My birthday rolls around and I heard nothing. Wasn't expecting any grand gestures or surprises, but to not even receive a quick text message hurt a lot. These guys were my closest friends and I made them my number one priority whenever I flew b...

Hello! I am a 32 year old female. Divorced from a serial cheater and abuser (in every way) for almost two years now. I haven't dated *at all* since the split. I'm over being jaded and bitter, and I finally feel "ready." (I took this whole time to do therapy and learn to "love myself" - sounds lame, but it worked!). I even forgave my ex, and we are co-parenting well. I have primary custody, and he gets every other weekend, when he bothers. I can honestly say that I feel better than ever and am ready to date again. I've been very lonely lately. However, my ex has had at least 6 "girlfriends" he has introduced my daughter to in the time since our divorce - which is his prerogative (no spending the night allowed, but no other rules about introducing partners)- but our daughter [3yo] really gets upset about meeting his new girlfriends. She says her dad "doesn't pay attention" to her when she visits him. I have been hit on a ton ac...

So 3 weeks ago my boyfriend of almost a year decides he wants to leave me. His reasoning was that he wasn't happy with how our relationship was going. I tried to get him to give me another chance but he was certain he was done. I knew I was hard to get along with for a fair bit of the relationship. I started fights, I was nasty to him and didn't show a lot of affection. I truly understand his reasoning for leaving me. But he did love me and despite my inability to show it, I loved him with all of my heart. After the breakup I tried to accept it and move on, and it was absolute hell for a few days but I was steadily improving. I did not attempt to contact him in any way, and it lasted that way up until Friday night about 10 days later he drunkenly tries to call me. We were both out the following day for a football game and after having drinks he finally approaches me later on. He pours his heart out to me saying he loved me, wanted me in his life and I was the best thing that e...

Hello Reddit, I hate asking you guys stuff but I was just curious if any of you had been through this type of thing. My (29f) girlfriend started randomly picking fights with me to remove one of her friends (27f) from Facebook who had added me (28m). This friend of hers was someone who was with a guy for several years and ended up breaking up with him. She would always wishwash back and forth between wanting to be with me and not wanting to be with me due to how far apart we live (an hour and a half). For the record, I work full-time and have been driving out there everytime I've had a couple days off for nearly a year. She also has kids (hers, not mine) which I have looked after, I've given her money to pay her rent because she was on EI for the longest while before working again for the summer and I've messaged her or called her pretty much every day since she'd get mad at me when I didn't. Additionally when I wasnt looking after her kids I was driving her bro...

So, I'm a pretty sexual person. I'm not a nymphomaniac or anything but I like sex and it's pretty important to me in a relationship. I'm in long distance relationship with a nonbinary person from the Netherlands (I live in America). It's only been going for about a month but I really like them. We have so much in common and talking to them is so fun. The only problem is that they don't want sex. They're not asexual, we talked about fictional characters that we'd each want to have sex with. And they said they're not averse to it. But at least as of now, they don't want to sext, share nudes, or do sexual RP. And it sucks. Of course, I know that it's an awful thing to pressure or guilt someone into having sex. So my question is if I should just keep going with them and hopefully they'll feel comfortable enough to be intimate with me, or if I should break up with them and find someone who can satisfy my needs. I don't really want to be...

So I've liked this girl for quite a while, we text alot every day and I've gotten to know her very personally but we barely talk to each other in person because she's always with her friends and I feel shy and awkward if I approach her while she's hanging out with her friends and I feel like it's messed up for me to come talk to her while she's hanging out and talking to her friends. I really wanna start talking to her more because she told my friend I'm weird for texting her alot but not talking to her in person but she's always with her friends and it just terrifies me and makes me shy going to her friend group and doing something stupid or thinking they expect me to make them laugh or just be better. TL;DR: I get shy and awkward when approaching my crush friend group and I feel it's messed up for me to talk to her while she's with her friends Submitted May 27, 2019 at 05:33AM So I've liked this girl for quite a while, we text alot...

Tl;dr my ex girlfriend is bisexual and I didn’t know. She slept with the girl I’m currently talking to coincidentally. This is by far the most bizarre fucking story I think I’ve ever had in my existence. So I’m a 22 y/o male. A straight male that likes women. I dated this girl a few years ago and it was a long relationship. About 2 years. Now I’m talking to this new girl and she told me she’s bisexual. I thought to myself that’s nice, whatever, don’t really care. She then told me she’s slept with about 10 women and only 2 men because she feels like lesbian sex isn’t “real penetration,” so she just sleeps casually with women, and only goes on serious relationships with men. Once again, I didn’t really care, it’s her life not mine. I then asked her what her best sexual experience was. She told me it was with a girl she used to work with from chik fil a back when she was in college. I thought wow that’s nice what was her name? She responded with my exes full name. I was shocked and as...

A few years ago I dated this guy, and the relationship was pretty serious for us being that young. Anyways, during that time, I gave him a very creative, customized gift. Technically a friend helped me brainstorm the idea but I created the gift. Now, interestingly, I have never seen anyone else create this gift. I use websites like Pinterest and Etsy a lot and I have never seen anything like it. It's very original. Without going into too much detail, I will say it incorporates lots of inside jokes and personal memories. Anyways that guy and I are long broken up. I live somewhere new and am dating someone new. This guy is amazing. Our relationship is very strong and I'm hoping we last long term. I am considering reusing this gift idea for his birthday. Obviously, it would still be customized to him and to our relationship. And yet, I worry that reusing the idea would be cheap and disrespectful. And I'm worried, what if seeing the gift around his house is just a reminder of...

I'm a 22 year old man and I've been in a relationship with this 19 year old woman for 9mos now. Recently I've wanted to sexually experiment with the same sex, but I don't know how to especially since she has made it clear that if I did so she strongly considers this cheating. I love this woman in all ways, so if there is no way that I can do this without it being considered infidelity then I simply won't. TL;DR in a relationship with a woman (I'm a man), want to sexually experiment, though conflicted, unsure how to or even if I should Submitted May 27, 2019 at 05:46AM I'm a 22 year old man and I've been in a relationship with this 19 year old woman for 9mos now. Recently I've wanted to sexually experiment with the same sex, but I don't know how to especially since she has made it clear that if I did so she strongly considers this cheating. I love this woman in all ways, so if there is no way that I can do this without it being considered ...

This is my 1st post, go easy on me! My (33F) husband (41M), is a great guy and I love him dearly, we have 19 month old twins (T1 AND T2). Our relationship is great and we don't really have any issues, but this one issue is big and it's growing. My husband's brother died when they where kids and as a result my MIL coddled the shit out of him, as a result he has massive childish tantrums and anger issues (I've sent him for anger management and it has kind of helped) for eg: Yesterday a.m he was holding T1 and they grabbed a cap off the rack and tried to put it on his head, but they managed to scratch his eye a little (very slightly red, watering for 10mins) his response was to drop the baby roughly, start SCREAMING in pain, swearing loudly and SOBBING. He has similar reactions to any physical injury, i.e if it's his eye: he has sensitive eyes, if it's his leg he has an old injury, if it's his back he has a bad back, literally cries over every injury no matt...

On mobile and grammar is bad, sorry in advance. So my boyfriend (M18) and I (F17) (dating for around 1 year) have been having a rough patch lately. Mainly me. Our schedules have changed and we dont see or talk to eachother as often. When we are together it's just physical touch, and although it feels nice to be close, it doesnt show me how he appreciates me, or how much he cares for me. He knows words mean much more to me but why does he not try to use them more than his touch? Now on my end, im very insecure, so that may play on why I would prefer words over physicality. Deep down I know he loves me, but theres always that creeping thought that he's only with me out of pity, or because im all he can find. When I express this to him he says he loves me and other things, but it's only said when I bring it up so it feels like he was forced to show appreciation. How do I help myself become more confident so I dont have to rely on his words to make me feel like I am enough? ...

Hey guys. I’ve been digging around this subreddit, and googling, but I’m not having much luck. I guess I’m needed some advice on what to do? Last weekend, my family and my boyfriend and I all went a few hours away for a family wedding. It was quite rainy, and due to us being on a lake, the cabin where my sister(21), boyfriend and I were staying was quite infested with bugs. We hung out with my brother on the first night, but apparently there was some Pre-wedding party that we weren’t told about until a half hour before, so we decided to just stay indoors and play some party games on my boyfriend’s XBox. No big deal, or so I thought... So the wedding day comes. We try and find places to eat, but because we’re in such a small town, nothing takes cards or opens until noon. My boyfriend wasn’t feeling well (which he often doesn’t) so he was cranky since we all woke up. We ended up driving about a half hour to another town just to eat and get gas. My sister and my boyfriend’s were kind o...