Pretty insecure in my (20F) relationship with my bf(23M)

So I’v been dating my boyfriend for 3 months already (been seeing each other FWB relationship since October 2018). I’d say, objectively, he’s a pretty attractive (very attractive to me ;)), funny, and fit guy. However, I feel like on some level he’s a bit out of my league even though I’d like to say I’m not bad myself. So here’s the problem : I can’t help but feel insecure when he’s overly friendly to girls who are not his close friends at parties, and I’ve noticed that he does check attractive girls out (not obviously though or in a condescending manner) whenever we pass by them in the streets.

Idk how to get over this. He was cheated on in his last relationship and I was in an emotionally abusive relationship (both ways) in my last one. So for the past 10 months I’ve been trying so hard working on myself to be a better person and to provide a nurturing relationship for us both. I don’t want to seem crazy and bring this issue up to him because I think it’s just a me problem. I don’t think he’s doing anything wrong. I think it’s normal for people to look at attractive people (I know I look at attractive guys twice) but I just can’t help but be insecure and shitty about myself when he does it. It’s to the point where my mood gets ruined for a short while whenever I catch him doing it. I then think that he can do better than me and get insecure about my relationship. This then leads to me thinking that maybe I’m still not ready for a relationship if I’m this jealous of pretty girls.

How do I get over this self confidence issue? I used to think that I was confident and attractive but now I’m not too sure. Is there a problem with us that I’m not seeing? Am I placing too much self worth and value in my relationship? Is this normal??

tl;dr my boyfriend checks out attractive girls from time to time and I get super insecure that I don’t feel like I should be in a relationship. Thanks in advance :) Edit: a word

Submitted May 27, 2019 at 05:25AM

So I’v been dating my boyfriend for 3 months already (been seeing each other FWB relationship since October 2018). I’d say, objectively, he’s a pretty attractive (very attractive to me ;)), funny, and fit guy. However, I feel like on some level he’s a bit out of my league even though I’d like to say I’m not bad myself. So here’s the problem : I can’t help but feel insecure when he’s overly friendly to girls who are not his close friends at parties, and I’ve noticed that he does check attractive girls out (not obviously though or in a condescending manner) whenever we pass by them in the streets.Idk how to get over this. He was cheated on in his last relationship and I was in an emotionally abusive relationship (both ways) in my last one. So for the past 10 months I’ve been trying so hard working on myself to be a better person and to provide a nurturing relationship for us both. I don’t want to seem crazy and bring this issue up to him because I think it’s just a me problem. I don’t think he’s doing anything wrong. I think it’s normal for people to look at attractive people (I know I look at attractive guys twice) but I just can’t help but be insecure and shitty about myself when he does it. It’s to the point where my mood gets ruined for a short while whenever I catch him doing it. I then think that he can do better than me and get insecure about my relationship. This then leads to me thinking that maybe I’m still not ready for a relationship if I’m this jealous of pretty girls.How do I get over this self confidence issue? I used to think that I was confident and attractive but now I’m not too sure. Is there a problem with us that I’m not seeing? Am I placing too much self worth and value in my relationship? Is this normal??tl;dr my boyfriend checks out attractive girls from time to time and I get super insecure that I don’t feel like I should be in a relationship. Thanks in advance :) Edit: a word