Falling in Love

I think falling in love is a pretty unique thing. And once it happens I don’t think you can ever fall out of love. No matter what you do or try to do, that feeling will never go away. You can mask it with friendship or try to eliminate it root and stem by going no contact. You can even try to deny it through space and time. But you can never fall out of love. Those who claim to have “fallen” out of love, I would argue never really fell in love to begin with. For example, I love my wife. We’ve been together for 20 years. I know all of her ins and outs and we have a wonder life. Our sex life is great, we have common goals and plans. We are raising two beautiful children. All of the tell tale signs point to a match made in heaven. Except one thing, I know I’m not in love with her. If I’m honest with myself, we never really fell in love. This love grew over time and is strong and is a foundation for a great life. But falling in love comes once in a lifetime and I know she and I didn’t fall in love. There are lots of kinds of love in this world and perhaps the kind I’m describing is unhealthy or perhaps it’s an illusion without the growth part.....but I feel it nonetheless. I’ve tried everything I can to deny its existence, but I’m stuck with it the rest of my life. Maybe life’s made to be pragmatic and these notions are meant to be ignored and denied....but my very being screams it to be true. I have accepted that a life having felt it, even if for a moment, is infinitely better than never having felt it at all....even if it means living the rest of my life living on the outside looking in.

Submitted May 26, 2019 at 01:46PM

I think falling in love is a pretty unique thing. And once it happens I don’t think you can ever fall out of love. No matter what you do or try to do, that feeling will never go away. You can mask it with friendship or try to eliminate it root and stem by going no contact. You can even try to deny it through space and time. But you can never fall out of love. Those who claim to have “fallen” out of love, I would argue never really fell in love to begin with. For example, I love my wife. We’ve been together for 20 years. I know all of her ins and outs and we have a wonder life. Our sex life is great, we have common goals and plans. We are raising two beautiful children. All of the tell tale signs point to a match made in heaven. Except one thing, I know I’m not in love with her. If I’m honest with myself, we never really fell in love. This love grew over time and is strong and is a foundation for a great life. But falling in love comes once in a lifetime and I know she and I didn’t fall in love. There are lots of kinds of love in this world and perhaps the kind I’m describing is unhealthy or perhaps it’s an illusion without the growth part.....but I feel it nonetheless. I’ve tried everything I can to deny its existence, but I’m stuck with it the rest of my life. Maybe life’s made to be pragmatic and these notions are meant to be ignored and denied....but my very being screams it to be true. I have accepted that a life having felt it, even if for a moment, is infinitely better than never having felt it at all....even if it means living the rest of my life living on the outside looking in.