I've been hooking up w a lot of people recently (mostly guys, open to girls but too scared to approach after 3 years of serious relationships w men) and I've found that most guys I hookup with are selfish and horrible in bed. How do I find/vet someone as a decent hookup before I go home with them and have to suffer through bad sex or telling someone I'm not in the mood and leaving? I go to a big party school, go out 1-2 times a week, and find a lot of hookups on tinder mostly. I exude a lot of confidence (I think) and tend to be really forward and ask guys for their numbers if I think they're cute, but I'm maybe a 6/10 so that might be blocking my success (body isn't super nice rn bc I've gained some weight so I'm at the higher end of a normal BMI but working on it and still dressing to show a classy amount of skin while wearing flattering things). I think I give off a lot of confidence but some guys might see me being forward as desperate? Anyways, I ...

I’m a female in my early twenties, so I’m not coming from years of experience but I’ve noticed a pattern of this miscommunication. I’ve been victim of my fair share of sexual trauma and negative experiences. I’m in therapy and it’s been very helpful for unraveling a lot of suppressed issues and undoing mindsets that hurt myself and my relationships. That being said, I broke up with my last long term partner last year because we had no sex life and it turned into a very volatile thing for both of us. I was the one with the lower libido. When we first got together we had sex all the time, and I liked it for the novelty of it but I couldn’t say it was very intimate or emotionally fulfilling, but if you asked him he’d disagree. Life got hard for both of us and that made my sex drive deplete, but it became more of a fixation for him. He started watching more porn and sex became even less about a mutual experience but as a vice for him. This ruined my desire to have sex with him. He resen...

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For some backstory I am a junior in highschool, In middle school and early on in highschool i was seen as the "weird kid" cause I had some major anxiety and depression problems, since then ive got alot of that under control and I have a big circle of friends and I would like to think im pretty likeable. Back to the main issue, ive havent been on a date since middle school (and even then i was super akward and just dmed girls to go to the movies), i have no issue making friends with girls but i have no idea how to take it the extra step into a relationship and that really bothers me. My previous method was becoming really close then just confessing how i feel (any guy know how that works lol) and that just lead to alot of sadness. Any help would be appreciated. Submitted February 12, 2020 at 11:12PM For some backstory I am a junior in highschool, In middle school and early on in highschool i was seen as the "weird kid" cause I had some major anxiety and depres...

Hey all, So here’s my situation: I’ve been talking to this girl for around 3 weeks or so (since mid-January). I have no idea what I should do for Valentine’s Day. We’re not dating, and frankly, I’m not 100% sure how she feels about me. I get mixed signals from her; things go very well with her when I see her in person, but I’m hard-pressed for a response from her in conversation over text/snapchat. I usually write it off as her being busy, since she works and is involved in numerous things on our college campus. Also, a few of my friends who know her say she’s “weird” or unpredictable over text/snapchat. It just seems like she’d show more interest in me or want to talk to me more than just face-to-face. However, if it’s worth noting, she has mentioned in conversation with me that “she is seeing me” to her friend(s). I plan on bringing up how I feel and the signals I’m picking up on to her next time we’re together. Based off the mixed signals and the amount of time we’ve been talking...

I would think that people tend to date with those in their league. I'm not sure though. I'm not going to say anything more because this is a sensitive question. Submitted February 13, 2020 at 12:02AM I would think that people tend to date with those in their league. I'm not sure though. I'm not going to say anything more because this is a sensitive question.

Not 1 lady has dated me, even for a 1 night stand in 35yrs. I've tried EVERYTHING, EVERYWHERE. Now Im 57 and afraid, in 2020, Im too old. Does this mean I have to be alone until "that time" comes? Is there any one here, female of course!, that would date a OLD guy, or is it only a world for under 40yo people now??? Am I too OLD, numerically?? Why is the age number the number 1, most important, instant dealbreaker now days?? HELP!!!!!! I have been AND am so lonely. I miss a girls company. ❤😿 Submitted February 13, 2020 at 12:12AM Not 1 lady has dated me, even for a 1 night stand in 35yrs. I've tried EVERYTHING, EVERYWHERE. Now Im 57 and afraid, in 2020, Im too old. Does this mean I have to be alone until "that time" comes? Is there any one here, female of course!, that would date a OLD guy, or is it only a world for under 40yo people now??? Am I too OLD, numerically?? Why is the age number the number 1, most important, instant dealbreaker now days?? H...

I’m relatively new to dating/trying to get to know people in a more involved way. I fair pretty well with talking to people in person. Online, mainly Snapchat, I’m fairly good at talking to my friends, but I don’t really know how to create a more casual conversation like feel on Snapchat with people I don’t know, especially girls. I recently was at a party and met a girl that I am attracted to. We talked a bit and it seems like she likes me, as a person at least, maybe not as a potential date. But we seemed to talk just fine. I want to talk to her more and potentially go on a date or something, but this is not my area of expertise. My friends tell me to just have a normal conversation with her, but I don’t know how to start one well. In the past, I’ve tried, but I usually flop it because I just don’t present anything to actually start a real conversation. How do I go about creating a conversation, that doesn’t feel extremely forced or awkward, and potentially getting to lead it into...

We’ve been together for a year and a half, and he’s recently gotten very busy at work. Usually a few days a month it gets really busy and he ends up working a 10-12 hour day, but because of circumstances out of his control, he’s been working these types of days consistently since the beginning of the new year. He’s a pretty solitary person to begin with but it’s starting to make me feel really stressed. We currently live about an hour apart, and since before Christmas we’ve only seen each other every two weeks. I’m too nervous to tell him that I need more attention during this time period. I get a couple of texts throughout the day, I know he can’t text much but it’s honestly starting to affect my own mood. He’s closing off, sad, and going to bed as soon as he gets home; we barely get to connect. Is this something I bring up, or let it pass when things settle again at work? TLDR boyfriend is stressed and withdrawing. Do I bother bringing it up? Submitted February 12, 2020 at 11:0...

There is this cute girl I am thinking of starting to date, I know shes interested in me and I do find her cute but... shes a little chubby. I feel like she would be absolutely gorgeous if she was able to lose some weight. As someone who was pretty fat myself and lost weight to look how I look now. I feel super confident and feel very good about myself. Is it fair for me to date someone but already have plans to change their habits. I don't think i'd continue dating her if she didn't workout with me tho tbh... nothing against fat people but I just want to be around those who are active and fit. (Its what I find attractive). Submitted February 12, 2020 at 11:06PM There is this cute girl I am thinking of starting to date, I know shes interested in me and I do find her cute but... shes a little chubby. I feel like she would be absolutely gorgeous if she was able to lose some weight. As someone who was pretty fat myself and lost weight to look how I look now. I feel super...

When I asked her if I was 20 would she date me, she said she would definitely give me a shot, and she has not unmatched me. What should I do? Does this mean she is struggling between keeping up with her only dating 2 years over rule and wanting to have a relationship with myself? Submitted February 12, 2020 at 11:06PM When I asked her if I was 20 would she date me, she said she would definitely give me a shot, and she has not unmatched me. What should I do?Does this mean she is struggling between keeping up with her only dating 2 years over rule and wanting to have a relationship with myself?

In short, I'm seeing this wonderful girl and it might turn serious soon but I'm not sure how to navigate this relationsship as I have never dated anyone with kids before and I get that the kids will take priority (as they should). What should I be aware of? What tips can you give? Edit to include ages: both in our mid to late twenties. Submitted February 12, 2020 at 11:50PM In short, I'm seeing this wonderful girl and it might turn serious soon but I'm not sure how to navigate this relationsship as I have never dated anyone with kids before and I get that the kids will take priority (as they should).What should I be aware of? What tips can you give?Edit to include ages: both in our mid to late twenties.

I'm in middle school and there this guy who I used to like last year, right now i'm trying to get over my crush on him but all of my friends and his best friend say they like me. Another thing they say is that were dating or that he has asked me out multiple times but I just didn't get the hint. Me and this guy are friends or dating I don't even know anymore. I'm just going say were friends even after there have been videos of him saying he likes me I still don't believe it cause of some stuff that happened last year. And his best friend say I should talk to him more cause right now we haven't been talking as much as we used to cause I don't want to bother him. Also is it wrong to hug a guy that is just a friend cause his best friend said that I shouldn't hug this other guy when I barely talk to my crush. How do I know if he asked me out? Also how do I know if he actually likes me? My depression gets in the way of me believing if anyone likes me. ...

I (M27) have been on 3 dates with this girl (F24) and we've really hit it off. We text pretty much everyday most of the day. It's feels like this could be going somewhere but I don't want to screw it up to early by asking her out for valentines day. Do you think only 3 dates in is to early to be spending valentines day together? Wasn't planning on making it a big romantic night, more so enjoying each other's company. What do you all think? Submitted February 13, 2020 at 12:00AM I (M27) have been on 3 dates with this girl (F24) and we've really hit it off. We text pretty much everyday most of the day. It's feels like this could be going somewhere but I don't want to screw it up to early by asking her out for valentines day. Do you think only 3 dates in is to early to be spending valentines day together? Wasn't planning on making it a big romantic night, more so enjoying each other's company. What do you all think?

Hey there. I’m a 25 yr old guy, 5’6, 911 EMT and paramedic student. I’m pretty outdoorsy and go lots of places with my dog(Siberian husky). I haven’t been in an actual relationship in over 2 years now. I’ve dated plenty, but am done with online dating after meeting people ranging from girls not over their exes to an actual mentally ill woman that I got a restraining order against. Needless to say, I’m done with online dating. I honestly feel pretty confident in who I am. I can cook, am pretty physically active, train MMA and my job is exciting to most. I love my own company, and do a lot of stuff alone. I just have a hard time in the actual meeting of people. What can I do to be more social? Submitted February 13, 2020 at 12:00AM Hey there. I’m a 25 yr old guy, 5’6, 911 EMT and paramedic student. I’m pretty outdoorsy and go lots of places with my dog(Siberian husky).I haven’t been in an actual relationship in over 2 years now. I’ve dated plenty, but am done with online dating a...

So I(23F) went to only 2 dates with this guy (25M) but we talked for like 2 months. He was super handsome but suoer narcisstic. I remember beung horribly concious of myself and him being moody and wanting attention. I would always reply fast, double text etc. I ended up distancing myself because of the encounters with him and i felt we didnt match. BUT he was so handsome i would think he is way out of my league and i would always find myself stalking his instagram. I started datung this other amazing guy after and i am still currently dating him. It has been a YEAR and i can't get over those dates. If he comments on my stories i get butterflies. He msgd me a minth or two ago saying shit like i ghosted and him and everything. (Whereas it was him) I rememeber someone telling me he could be a narcissric sociopath so o didnt care what he was saying i was just happy i was talking to him. The instant he saw i had his attention, he stopped talking. I am niw moving this country and probab...

I use Bumble often and I noticed something different happening in that I'm not attracting any matches at all anymore. I'm a tall, 6'0" good looking guy (in my opinion) with brown hair and I was hoping to come here to see it from a female's perspective on if my profiles summary has anything to do with it! I can list my 3 profile prompts too if that makes any difference. Here it is: "Name is Ryan. Exploring work options and transitioning to a new job. Attending a part-time software engineering immersion program through a coding bootcamp. World traveler. ✈ Traveled to 11 countries. Hardcore and emo music. Sarcastic af could probably match your sass would recommend 13/10" I think "exploring work options and transitioning to a new job" could have part to do with it because I'm from Philadelphia and sometimes that's seen as "you're just starting to get your shit together" which isn't true. Submitted February 13, 2020...

I'll try and keep this brief, I (F21) like this girl (20) I know. She is housemates with one of my friends. He has confirmed for me that she's also into girls. She's told him that she would sleep with me. We text daily. She even left her house while ill the other night because she wanted to meet me after a night out with my friends, she then invited me to stay over since I live just out of town. I met one of her friends when we all went out for drinks and her friend said that she hasn't stopped talking about me and saying lovely things. I asked her if she wants to grab a drink on the weekend and she said yes and she's looking forward to it. I'm kind of afraid she might see it as just a friend thing though. I haven't dated a girl since I was 16 and I don't really count it as a proper relationship. I'm so bad at talking to and asking out girls so I need help. Submitted February 13, 2020 at 12:04AM I'll try and keep this brief, I (F21) like t...

So I've know this guy I've been sleeping with this guy for about 2 years is has been nothing more than that. But he just confessed his feelings for me like 2 weeks ago, and I told him the feeling was mutual. But he literally never texts me, never tries to spend time with me. I know he's not busy cause he's friends with my brother and they are just playing videos games online all day soo??.. I'm honesly confused if he even likes me at all? Is he just saying he likes me for sex?.. idk? Submitted February 13, 2020 at 12:04AM So I've know this guy I've been sleeping with this guy for about 2 years is has been nothing more than that. But he just confessed his feelings for me like 2 weeks ago, and I told him the feeling was mutual. But he literally never texts me, never tries to spend time with me. I know he's not busy cause he's friends with my brother and they are just playing videos games online all day soo??.. I'm honesly confused if he even...

I suppose this is more of a vent if anything because I need to get it off my chest and my best friend is busy at the moment l and my other friend doesn't give the best advice (sorry), so here we are. So I've been talking to this for around 3 months now, met him at volunteering in the beginning of November. We hit it off really well, and before he had to leave he asked for my snapchat. So we exchange our @'s, and our friendship took off from there. We have only hanged out once so far (last weekend) because school and parents and he lives 30 minutes away and yadayada. We had a really good time though, cuddled, petted his dogs, and hung out with another one of his friends (I also fell down the stairs twice but anyway). Lots of things have happened, we've already talked about us being something but both agree we should wait until we hang out more before anything official happens. We also roleplayed once or twice (in a sexual way and he ended up uhhh finishing) but it hasn...

Probably the worst “relationship” situation... • become best friends with a girl that has a boyfriend • after a year I get a crush on her • at some point stuff get intimate (not sex but still) • causes her boyfriend to break up with her • we two start dating, lasts about a month - im really in love by that time • after that she is still in love with her ex, they get back together • me being totally heartbroken, depressed af for 2 months but still missed her even tho i hated her for it • after 3 months she texts me, saying they broke up again - this time because “thanks to me, she realised he didnt give her what she wanted”, wants to hang out after few weeks of casual(cold) chating • im like “ok i quess we can talk” being kinda happy cuz i didnt have to think of losing the clostest person ive had for like 2 past years of my life • we have sex • she tells me she never loved me but that it wasnt just the sex, that she felt something but not love • tells me she also sleeps with her fitne...

Okay, i need some help.. we have been best friends for 8-9 years now, and im starting to want more from the friendship.. Im a man, she's a woman.. I am terrified off losing her, and we have been talking about it and i have been joking about it to like see her reaction and stuff, and she always shuts the idea down as soon as i bring it up... please help.. Submitted February 13, 2020 at 12:07AM Okay, i need some help.. we have been best friends for 8-9 years now, and im starting to want more from the friendship.. Im a man, she's a woman.. I am terrified off losing her, and we have been talking about it and i have been joking about it to like see her reaction and stuff, and she always shuts the idea down as soon as i bring it up... please help..

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