I tend to go soft within 30-40 seconds if I stop touching when standing, sometimes even less. Elections seem stronger/longer lasting when sitting or lying, also noticed when I go from lying down to standing my erection seems to go down. Is this out of the ordinary? Bit anxious about having sex again and not staying hard. Submitted September 09, 2019 at 11:44PM I tend to go soft within 30-40 seconds if I stop touching when standing, sometimes even less. Elections seem stronger/longer lasting when sitting or lying, also noticed when I go from lying down to standing my erection seems to go down.Is this out of the ordinary? Bit anxious about having sex again and not staying hard.

Using my secondary account as this is quite embarrassing. I'm 23 M and never even kissed anyone. I started dating earlier this year. I'm not really ashamed about my situation, but it's something that I've woken up to over the past year or so. I was looking at various statistics on this topic, and it seems I'm about 5 years past the average age to lose one's V card in most western, English speaking countries, in fact in all the countries surveyed, I'm past the average age. By age 25, <5 or 10% of people remain virgins. Surely the number of religious people is a lot higher than 5%. In many countries, the average age for marriage seems to be in the 25-33 or so range. Some of these countries (>90% of the population) are devoutly religious. This got me thinking: what about young adults who are religious and unmarried? It seems like there is a lot of sinning going on out there! I was having an awkward discussion about this with my mum, and she laughed at me...

My girlfriend has more experience than me because she is my first and I am not her first. Anyways, I’m looking for new things to try with her. Here is what we’ve tried: Doggy style, missionary, her riding me. We have done it in light, in dark, listening to music (very interesting experience), and in a car. Obviously she has given me blowjobs. Here is what we plan to try: Shower Sex. Me eating her out. Possibly anal. What are some more things we can try? One thing I don’t wanna do is make a sex tape because she made one with her ex and the thought of it bothers me so I’m not really comfortable making one at the moment. Other than that, pretty open to any suggestions. Thanks! Submitted September 09, 2019 at 11:49PM My girlfriend has more experience than me because she is my first and I am not her first. Anyways, I’m looking for new things to try with her.Here is what we’ve tried: Doggy style, missionary, her riding me. We have done it in light, in dark, listening to music (very...

I'm not kidding when I say he's amazing. I've never been treated so well and had such a thoughtful, sweet, devoted partner who I trust. He respects my need for space and time with my friends and helps when I'm sick and with my animals, we get along so well, he encourages me, never yells or acts aggressive, isn't manipulative or sneaky, extremely intelligent and driven, compassionate, attractive, treats me with the most respect I've ever had, and he's my absolute best friend. He also deals with my mental health issues and never makes me feel bad about being bipolar or having panic attacks (I've been assaulted twice and take ptsd meds). This is super important to me. We met around 8 months post divorce from my only real adult relationship of 12 years (17-29) with a man who was 10 years older and abusive. I did the whole tinder dating thing for a bit, had fun, learned more about what I liked and didn't like, etc... Fun but got old. Met current guy,...

I have been doing a lot of work and self improvement the past few years. I attracted a lot of toxic people to my life and cut them out. I even cut out some toxic family as well. I live with my bf who is very warm, loving and amazing. I have nothing but positivity and fun when around him and wish I had friends who valued the same things him and I do. I live in a big city and work often but still enjoy going out sometimes. My boyfriend is an introvert and doesn’t really go out which I don’t mind. I guess I am in a weird part in my life where I am not sure how to begin making new friends. I feel mentally healthier cutting out everyone who gave me negativity and I hope to attract people to my life who are like minded now that I am becoming more comfortable in my shoes. Has anyone ever started over with making new friends? Any tips? TLDR; Growing as a person, anyone have advice on making new friend circles? Submitted September 09, 2019 at 11:20PM I have been doing a lot of work and ...

This will be a throw away because my boyboyfriend is an avid redditor. We started dating back in September and we hit a lot of obstacles. I met him and really enjoyed speaking to him, and his personality. I thought he was quirky, sweet, and intelligent. As the relationship progressed , I was openly affectionate and had no problem with showing that I liked him. He was polite and nice, but never open initially with me. Would never tell me I looked nice, wouldn't compliment much either. The first time, after we had sex, somehow weight came about. I made some joke that I would end up obese if I ate all the food that I wanted. He then told me, as i was naked that he wouldn't find me sexually attractive if I gained weight. Because I had bulimia in the past, this bothered me a lot. We spoke about it and moved on. Then there began this sequence of off hand comments. We were walking in a park, and this thicker walked by , and he made a snide remark. Then another conversation came up s...

My gf(22f) and I (24m) is at a hard stop. It’s been about 4months since we Been talking but we recently had a heated argument and she took it to heart she told me to leave her alone forever blocked me on messages and also on social media. I wasn’t Inlove but I truly liked her for who she was. She was everything I wanted in a female and now I’m so hurt. It’s only been a day but living without her is hard. I did everything for her, whatever she needed I was there for her and now I feel so stupid, used, foolish. I was just playing my part for the person I cared about. How to deal with this pain reddit???? TL;DR my heart hurts, it feels like I’ve been used idk what to do Submitted September 09, 2019 at 11:30PM My gf(22f) and I (24m) is at a hard stop. It’s been about 4months since we Been talking but we recently had a heated argument and she took it to heart she told me to leave her alone forever blocked me on messages and also on social media. I wasn’t Inlove but I truly liked her...

TL;DR at the bottom Hey guys & gals. I mainly want to get this off my chest and ask for your opinion on the situation. So I work nights as security in a hotel and this girl - let's call her "Jenny" - is a receptionist, morning shift: when she arrives, I leave as I'm done with my own shift (11PM - 7AM). We had been saying hello to each other every morning at work and I could see she was attracted to me. Sure enough, after a few weeks she got my FB contact from a colleague and initiated conversation. From then on, she's been texting me everyday as soon as she wakes up, before she goes to sleep, and basically all day here and there. We had never actually talked much in person because when my shift is over, at 7 AM, I'm pretty tired and try to leave ASAP, but she told me she was attracted to me, and she seemed alright from the FB chats we had. So we scheduled a casual "date" for the day after tomorrow. Yesterday she comes into work about 30 mi...

Hey guys, So as the title says me and my bf of 7 years ended it yesterday. And the reason was that my parents wouldn't agree for the wedding. We were an intercultural, intersect couple. And where we come from parents approval is very important and such weddings are sadly not common at all. This all just seems like a big mistake. We were perfect together. We were physically Around each other for 4 years and then we moved countries. Then after another 1.5 years we moved to the same country. Things were always so good. He was my best friend and we went through everything together. He gave me all the happiness I ever wanted. We had a healthy and happy relationship. My world literally revolved around him. But all of a sudden towards the end he started getting major anxiety and depressive episodes because he was paranoid we won't end up together because of my family and he made a decision that he couldn't live with the fear anymore. He's going through alot of other very str...

Me (18M) and my Girlfriend (17F) of 8 months broke up two weeks ago on good terms & said she still would like to get back together but over time. She broke up with me as she has a lot going on in her life currently as she suffers from chronic fatigue syndrome which has caused her to fall majorly behind in her final year of high school. I understand the circumstances of why she broke up with me because she thinks it would just be unfair on me.Me and my girlfriend never had a single argument or anything we enjoyed spending time with one another and it was the best relationship I have ever had. We worked so well with one another and everything was perfect. I see the reasoning behind everything but now as we have been broken up for two weeks, how do I keep her still in my life at an easy pace where we may possibly get back together. And I know some of you will say not to wait around for her because it won’t happen and I haven’t been.In the two weeks I have kept myself busy with uni ...

tl;dr: girlfriend has lied in the past about having an inappropriate relationship with someone online, we get over it. present day, she was inappropriately talking a guy and telling me it was just a joke. Back in April, my girlfriend was talking to some random guy (John) on a discord server. If you don't know discord, it's basically like a chatroom. John pinged her saying "I want to have your kids". I didn't think much of it because it's just discord. Then I noticed she how often she would talk to him in the server, and noticed on her snapchat that she was talking to someone with the same name as him. I confronted her about it, and she swore and swore that it was an old friend, and even called him in front of me to confirm it. I believed her about it and we moved on from it. In June, she needed to get her phone checked out, so I helped her out and took her to get it fixed. We are sitting around waiting for it to get fixed, and I notice out of nowhere, she b...

TL;DR: My partner cheated (emotionally, via text) and broke up with me. We got back together. I'm willing to work on things, and so is he, but my family is FURIOUS with him and he's terrified of facing them. How can we improve the family/partner dynamic? Recently my partner broke up with me. He had been talking to another woman for some time, and was in love with her. He wanted to cut things off with me and see where things went with her. We had a fantastic relationship aside from this. We have been through our ups and downs, but we are supportive of each other, and (despite his behaviour), there is a lot of love between us. He said at the time that he hated himself for feeling this way about her, but he didn't think it was fair on ME if he stayed. I disagreed. I didn't think it was fair on me if he left. We fought. I cried. He cried. Things were fucked up for a few weeks. But in the end, we got back together. Things have been tough. I struggle to trust him a lot of...

We've been dating long distance for 8 months and now are back together in person and it's been a super rough adjustment. He has a really hard time expressing his emotions and internalizes everything. Even if he has a problem and I give him advice he can't seem to accept it until he comes to that conclusion on his own. Right now he's on a full time job search and is stressed all the time and it's bringing me down bc idk how to help him and anything I say doesn't seem to affect him at all. I'm trying to be there for him and I can't seem to make him feel better so I feel like a horrible girlfriend but at the same time it's bringing me down because I feel inadequate, unimportant and it's making me not want to hang out with him. How can I help him or at least get over feeling shitty because I can't and am getting frustrated? TLDR: BF won't let me help him and that's bringing me down Submitted September 09, 2019 at 11:47PM We'...

My boyfriend and I have a great relationship but things with his parents have been tricky for awhile. Recently his mom asked me if she can borrow $200 which really confused me because I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year but I’ve known his parents for less time than that. I don’t understand why she is so comfortable asking me for money? I don’t even have a job myself, the money I have is from financial aid so there is no steady income. I felt pressure to say yes because I was being guilt tripped about her other son’s birthday. I ended up saying no because I just don’t feel comfortable with that. I don’t want the issue of money in between me and his parents. Am I wrong for this? Ever since I’ve said no his parents have been avoiding me and yelling at my boyfriend for bringing me to the house. Another thing is that my boyfriends brother (6m) can be super rude to me, for example i bought everyone dinner and this kid yells at me with so much attitude it’s unbelievable “WHERES MY FRI...

My friend who is married (40f) came to visit me (38m) for the last 5 days. Things went mostly great, the instant connection that we felt 8 years ago is still there between us. We went out with friends of mine and everyone commented on how they could see how much we loved each other. The first night together the fireworks went off and we ended up trying to have sex. It didn't go as either of us planned because I'm bigger than she can handle comfortably. We tried again the next night and after a lot of foreplay and lube things went smoother, still a bit painful for her but we both enjoyed it. We spent a lot of time connecting even closer than we were before. We took some road trips, and just enjoyed one another's company. Today she left, in tears, at one point turning around on her 11 hour drive back home to drive back here two hours because she felt heartbroken. I am definitely sad, but we both knew the circumstances when she decided to make this trip. Now we are trying t...

Not in the seance that she's angry at me. It's more like collateral anger. Take today for example. Her father refused to give her any money. She came into my room and yelled at me. She was saying things like "all you people want to take and take I don't care I'll blow this whole place up you are all a bunch of mother-fers". I'm like what are you talking about? Then she started yelling at me about how I owe her cause she looks after my kids, and that I'm a slut, and I never do anything for her. WTF? I don't have any kids. Then I realised she was yelling at her friend Janine, whose kids she does look after. She just pretending that I'm her friend. She gets very specific, while misdirecting her anger. She'll say I'm a dirty skank, I fucked her boyfriend. She's gonna stab me if I'm not careful It's hard to know what to say. I mean to say "I'm not Janine" seems pointless. Her anger is so pointed and real, I might a...

(This is about friendships and not relationships but the principles still stand) I (20f) am a quite reserved and introverted person, and struggle to talk about myself or be the centre of attention in group situations. Apart from my boyfriend, I have no ‘real’ friends. I have many distant friends and acquaintances I’ve made through sports clubs and lectures, but couldn’t say I have a close group of friends as much as I’d like one. Honestly, I think if someone were to describe me it would be ‘polite’. I mostly just laugh and nod along, occasionally saying a word or two or making a little joke but mainly keeping the ‘entertaining responsibility’ to others. It almost feels like my mind goes blank in these situations and I can’t contribute to what is happening. In conversations I am content to just focus on the other person as I feel like I am boring them or they don’t care about what I would have to say. I think this is from growing up in a household that always belittled what I had to ...

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for the past 3-4 months or so- we've had no complications and he's an absolutely lovely person, he met my parents briefly around a month ago and it went really well. I've brought up meeting his parents a couple times and each time he seems really anxious and against it? I know it's not because they're bad people (he's brought up how nice and accepting they are before) so I can't help but think it's because of me? They don't even know I exist because he hasn't told them he's in a relationship with me yet and it causes a lot of problems. We both still live with our parents and a fair distance away from each other so if I want to spend longer amounts of time with him I have to be snuck into his house under the guise that I'm 'just a friend that's staying over', while at mine he is welcome with open arms. It's gotten to the point where I accidentally bumped into his mum as I was leaving ...

I believe my little 4month relationship is over. My girl (22f) and I (24m) have been arguing these past weeks over a lot of foolishness. Yesterday we got into a argument so bad it pretty wild. I tried to apologize to her today but found out I’m blocked on messages and social media and now I’m hurting. My relationship was one of the things that made me smile in life and happy. I believe it’s pretty much over. TL;DR does blocking always mean it’s over? And does “ leave me alone for good” mean exactly that? Submitted September 10, 2019 at 12:02AM I believe my little 4month relationship is over. My girl (22f) and I (24m) have been arguing these past weeks over a lot of foolishness. Yesterday we got into a argument so bad it pretty wild. I tried to apologize to her today but found out I’m blocked on messages and social media and now I’m hurting. My relationship was one of the things that made me smile in life and happy. I believe it’s pretty much over.TL;DR does blocking always mean...

So I (30F) met this person (26M) form the dating app, he is very polite and on so we’ve exchanged our contacts and set a plan to meet. Even though I have never met him, we exchanged a various topics of conv. Yesterdy I was reading a book about “sadness and embracing it” and he said he had a sad moment because of the past relationship and since then it is quite hard for him to start a relationship again Actually it is same for me, (I still don’t know what to do) so I emphasized . Then he went on details. He said he was in a relationship with this girl, he prepared flowers teddy b and a diamond jewerly and went to her home to surprise her, and saw her naked with another guy. And beat this guy so badly. I really did not know what to say so I told him that then he said sorry maybe it was too much. I mean I am not perfect either, I was cheated and my ex went violent with me, still somehow traumatized by it. But when I hear someone being violent no matter what the reason was, it scar...

There’s a lot to unpack here so bare with me. I work for my college as a student lead in a group to set up events for the students and such. My co-workers and such are all friends and genuinely great people, all of them are far better at it than me. Last semester was rough, this group started and at the same time was fighting some not great mental health issues, usually involved me wish I didn’t wake up in the mornings. Cut to this semester. I’m a senior, I’ve sought therapy and medications and for the first time in years I’ve been excited to start school, it been wildly refreshing. Sadly recently I’ve found out some people take issue with me. In the past I was blunt/short with people. I teased at the little things like how someone was always oddly peppy as that’s just how they were. A lot of people felt this to be demeaning, something I can understand. Other find me bossy as “I’m always telling them what to do”, meanwhile I’m just in the office often and can’t do everything myself...

Link to earlier post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/chgk9a/my_23f_boyfriend_25m_of_8_months_feels/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x Even though my earlier post only attracted the attention of about 5 people, I wanted to post an update anyway. I listened to what everyone had been saying and gave myself a cut-off date of about 2-3 weeks to see if things were getting better. However, as most of the commenters suggested would happen, they didn't. In fact, they got worse, since I was filled with so much anxiety in those 2-3 weeks, constantly wanting to know what would happen and filled with so much uncertainty in regards to where we stood. In the end, we broke up, but on amicable terms. Even though he had been the one to initially suggest the idea, by the time the actual break up conversation came around, it felt mutual. He said that at the root of things, he felt like it was mostly just the long distance that made him feel the way he did, and he thinks that ma...

Until 3 months ago i (18M) was very lonely and kind of anti-social, never really had too many friends and barely talked to people. That being said i was genuinely ok with that, there was no depression or anxiety and i accepted that i was like that. This changed when i was playing a game through Steam and after the match a profile with the photo of a girl (21F) sent me a friend request, i checked the profile thinking it was propably a fake, but for my surprise it wasn't. Turns out whe live in the same city (30 to 35 mins away from each other but still), and being friendless like i was i got very attached to her, she invited me to her discord server and we became friends. Before meeting her i was kind of afraid of starting conversations with people and showing my face, this changed a bit because i now try to start conversations with her when she goes online on discord and even started sending some snapchats to her sometimes. A few weeks after she met another guy (19M) who is much ...