Hi, Basically i’m 21 years old (F) and i’ve never had sex. About 8 months ago i bought some toys including a 6 inch ‘realistic’ dildo. I have tried about 12 times to use it and every time it hurt. The first like 3 times i actually bled over it, but i thought after that the pain would go, but no. I was horny tonight and i tried to use it, i masturbated beforehand and can get 3 fingers in fine, no pain at all (i do have skinny fingers though). I absolutely covered it in lube, but as soon as it goes farther than the head it hurts. And then if i keep going and pressing onto it, it kind of ‘pops’ in but it STINGS whenever this happens. Then i can ride a little and generally get the whole length in. But then, to get it out it often gets stuck at the same point it popped in and it again really hurts. Like i have to pull it out and again it stings quite badly, the pain just is not worth it. Idk what is wrong, it just makes me so scared to have sex because idk how it isn’t going to be painfu

throwaway because I don't want this info on my main. I'm 16F, and I've been masturbating since...idk probably 10 or 11? I've always used pillows which was (and still kinda is) embarrassing to me I guess, but it's the only way I can orgasm. In order to feel more normal I've tried getting off with my hands, it doesn't work. I barley ever feel any pleasure, I don't get very wet, and I can NEVER orgasm. This has been a struggle for me for like 3 years and I just wanna to fix it. I tried a vibrator once, it was a cheap one from Spencer's. It said something to do with the g-spot on the front and it's long. I've only orgasmed with it once, and sometimes I can barley feel anything even from that. What's wrong with me??? Please help I'm really upset about this. Submitted March 30, 2020 at 12:04AM throwaway because I don't want this info on my main. I'm 16F, and I've been masturbating since...idk probably 10 or 11? I've a

For some reason my condoms keep falling off and I'm not sure if I'm not using the right kind or size. I can say that I am uncircumcised and I got a feeling that's part of the reason. any advice? Submitted March 30, 2020 at 12:06AM For some reason my condoms keep falling off and I'm not sure if I'm not using the right kind or size. I can say that I am uncircumcised and I got a feeling that's part of the reason. any advice?

I'm a fairly dominant woman (22F) with a very high sex drive. I enjoy watching light femdom type stuff when I watch porn but nothing too hardcore. My favorite is men jerking off or woman jerking them off which sometimes ends in "post cum torture". I've never tried it with any of my past partners but I've been curious, do men ever enjoy that? I really really get off on my partner's pleasure so someone genuinely screaming "stop" in pain doesnt do it for me. But if they're only saying stop because its intense pleasure rather than pain I can see that being super hot. So I guess I kind of want to know any guys two cents on if it's good or bad usually or what it feels like if you can explain it. ? Submitted March 30, 2020 at 12:13AM I'm a fairly dominant woman (22F) with a very high sex drive. I enjoy watching light femdom type stuff when I watch porn but nothing too hardcore. My favorite is men jerking off or woman jerking them off whic

Looking to buy some good cheap sex toys. Don’t want to spend too much money. Been thinking about ordering from Wish? Any experiences with that? Any recommendations on some places that I can order online for very cheap or affordable? Submitted March 30, 2020 at 12:18AM Looking to buy some good cheap sex toys. Don’t want to spend too much money. Been thinking about ordering from Wish? Any experiences with that? Any recommendations on some places that I can order online for very cheap or affordable?

My (18M) girlfriend (18F) never gets in the sexy mood. She's into the lovey dovey stuff and so am I. But damn it I'm horny a lot and idk what to do, and before anyone starts I love her for her. Not her body, I'm just seeking advice. Submitted March 30, 2020 at 12:24AM My (18M) girlfriend (18F) never gets in the sexy mood. She's into the lovey dovey stuff and so am I. But damn it I'm horny a lot and idk what to do, and before anyone starts I love her for her. Not her body, I'm just seeking advice.

I thought my wife and I would be having a lot of sex during our time together at home, but turns out her vagina is doing its own social distancing. Submitted March 29, 2020 at 11:57PM I thought my wife and I would be having a lot of sex during our time together at home, but turns out her vagina is doing its own social distancing.

Things keep getting worse and worse between me and my soon to be ex wife. Should I remove her from my social media accounts. For current and possible future issues View Poll Submitted March 29, 2020 at 11:58PM Things keep getting worse and worse between me and my soon to be ex wife. Should I remove her from my social media accounts. For current and possible future issuesView Poll

My husband and I have been married for a year and a half, and we are experiencing a bit of a relational dilemma in the midst of COVID-19. My husband is a healthcare worker, and I have health anxiety. A real fun combo in the midst of a pandemic. Anyway, this week, I’ve been with my parents at their cabin, because my husband thought it would be a good idea for me to spend a bit of time with them before I likely cannot see them for a while due to my higher risk of exposure to the virus (he had previously been off work for a couple of weeks so I was in the clear at the time). While I was away, my husband worked his shifts at the hospital. When I called him to come pick me up from my parent’s house yesterday, he told me he had a bit of a cough, so I had to decide whether or not I wanted to risk going home. My husband wanted me to come home, but I decided to stay with my parents so he could monitor his symptoms for another day. This morning he told me his cough is worse but he is feeling fi

We're together since 2013. Some years ago I (27f) confessed my boyfriend (35m) that I'm bisexual ("error" number one, even if it was just because I wanted to be honest). Then we started to talk sexually about other girls (error number two) and how I'd like to do a threesome (it was just fantasy!) and I let him sexting sometimes (massive errors number three and four). Since then all our sexual life revolved around me being bisex and talking about these things... And honestly it was funny initially, but he would talk about this every time we made love and I ended up being jealous and insecure. Now he wants all this back again and I don't want to. Every time he tries to convince me to be like that. Sometimes I caught him sexting with other women and we fought a lot because of this. Now he blames me and tells me that he does it because I initiated it to these sort of things... And he says he doesn't see anything bad in sexting since he doesn't have sex

Ive been with my boyfriend for about 1 year. He is the most wonderful person I’ve ever met. He is so caring, thoughtful and kind. However, some days I felt like he could be a little cold towards me, especially when he was in a bad mood. He never told me why he was in a bad mood. A few days ago my boyfriend was in one of those moods, I asked him what was wrong and for the first time he answered with an implication something was wrong. He usually says “Im fine” or “woke up on the wrong side of the bed” but this time he said “I dont want to talk about it”. After some persistence he told me that his previous relationship was affecting the way he loves me and that he finds it debilitating. It broke my heart. His ex-girlfriend abused him emotionally, I don’t want to get into the details because that is their business but just for some context she did many things to hurt him intentionally. Ostracised him from his family and friends, held him accountable for her own happiness etc. I don’t se

(Hopefully this won’t get long. Also, I’ll be using names of avatar characters for my roommates, only bc I don’t wanna throw their names out on the internet.) Okay so this might get a little complicated. Here’s the short backstory for us living together: About a year and a half ago I was at an all time low, extremely depressed and suicidal and living with my mom in a neighborhood of homophobic/transphobic family. My best friend (24X) from high school, I’m gonna call them 'Toph', suggested I move in with their boyfriend of a year 'Sokka' (34M). 'Sokka' was going through a divorce with his ex-wife and living alone for pretty much the first time. He’s the kind of guy that needs human contact all the time, so he was going crazy and was more than happy to let me stay with him however long I wanted. We actually ended up getting along great. We liked similar shit, I was actually coming out of my room to hang out (I’m a borderline hermit), we talked about personal

Me and gf have been dating for almost 9 months now. Everything is fantastic for the most part, aside from her being somewhat of a flirt. Most of the time it doesn't really bother me, people will be making a bunch of dirty jokes with eachother and she'll join in, whatever. What bothers me is when she randomly out of the blue will tell me about one of her guy friends she would "totally date" if they didnt have xyz problems with them (like they just aren't physically attractive enough, or they wouldn't treat her as good as she says I do, etc), yet she isn't into them at the same time, and then she'll turn around and randomly say something super sexual or flirty to them. Note that some of these guys have feelings for her, which she will either be in complete denial about or will say "well that doesn't matter i dont want them". Am I justified in feeling uncomfortable with her doing that? We've talked about it before and I've told her

So, this needs a lot of backstory. Me and this girl met this summer at a graduation party. It was a terrible time to meet because a week after meeting she went on vacation, and right as she got back, I went on vacation. Right after that, we both had to leave for college, but we had enough time to go on one date type thing. I really thought that it was gonna die out right away because we were both freshmen at different schools (though they were relatively close in distance). However, we continued to speak everyday. It evolved from just snapchatting to also texting all day long. It was pretty clear we were flirting. In October, I invited her to come to my school for a day, and she came. The day was genuinely great; however, I really fucked up when I tried to have a conversation about what we were. Though I don't really get around too much, I was fine continuing to talk without defining anything, but because I was so ill prepared for the conversation that I begun (I know I'm stu

My [22 F] boyfriend [30 M] is the kindest guy I've ever been with. I seriously love him so much. In the almost eight months we've been together, he's not once even said something that has hurt my feelings. He goes out of his way to show me how much he loves me. I'm living with my parents right now and he has his own place, so I stay over at his place twice a week. When I go over, he always cooks for us and goes out of his way to just make us a really nice meal. Cooking is not my forte, so I always voluntarily do the dishes after, just to help out. I was washing his dishes after he made us breakfast this morning, and was washing one of his pans by hand. There was black stuff stuck to the bottom, so I just scrubbed that stuff with a sponge and let everything go down the drain. I then asked him where I should leave it to dry and he turned to me and said "you didn't just pour bacon grease down the sink, did you?" Growing up, I honestly never did dishes, and w

How do you deal with this ? Yo guys, I’m male, 21 y.o. This must be pretty common, but since I haven’t found any answer to this yet, I still wanna ask you about this one. So okay, let’s do it. So I’m dating this girl for 2 years now (she is 20), and I must say she is pretty much what I was looking for. But there is one thing that is bothering me, and I cannot let it go, her fucking EX. You see, I’m that kind of a guy that is very serious about relationships and I never had sex with a girl when I wasn’t sure she is the one for me. With this one however I felt different, felt like things might work out, and they pretty much did, so after half a year of dating I decided that we can actually make it happen. I was a virgin at a time, and of course I had to fucking ask (still regret asking) if she had any sexual partners before. Well she did. Just one. I know, that having sex is normal, but this annoying thought that I had waited and she didn’t is bothering me since then. What makes me fee

My boyfriend is from somewhere where 15% is considered normal for tipping, but 20% or more is normal here. I didn't realize this until I saw his tip last time he paid for dinner (at my favorite restaurant that has amazing service).--thank goodness I had a $5 in my purse to cover the difference. I've been paying ever since to avoid the issue, but he is probably stiffing servers when on his own and I don't want him to estrange all the local wait-staff. How do I let him know he is under-tipping? tl;dr : boyfriend doesn't tip enough, how do I let him know? Submitted March 30, 2020 at 12:07AM My boyfriend is from somewhere where 15% is considered normal for tipping, but 20% or more is normal here. I didn't realize this until I saw his tip last time he paid for dinner (at my favorite restaurant that has amazing service).--thank goodness I had a $5 in my purse to cover the difference.I've been paying ever since to avoid the issue, but he is probably stiffing

Throwaway because my sister reddits, but honestly, the details are specific enough that she might realize it’s me, anyway. My sister has been in a relationship with her significant other for over a year now. There have been some rocky points along the way, but all in all, I thought of it as a solid relationship and one where I was pretty fond of the person she’s dating. However, in the past couple of months, things have taken a turn for the worst, and it’s becoming more and more clear that this person is toxic and unhealthy in various ways. Me and my sister have always been extremely close, and we tell each other everything. I’ve always liked to think that I was someone who was there for her when she needed it, and someone that she comes to when she needs help. This situation is no different— for the past few weeks as the situation has worsened, I’ve been there for her to rant to and vent to when she needed. But here’s where the problems start. Ever since the COVID-19 pandemic, I’v

Title really says it all. The argument started over something totally stupid - a tiktok trend where people post a video including the people they’ve kissed. I made one as a joke - it included two guys I dated a a freshman/sophomore in high school that I am now good friends with, a boy I kissed in 6th grade that I was friends with, and three of my closest female friends that I’ve kissed jokingly for photos etc. It was essentially meant to be a joke with my friends from home who I’m friends with on that social media platform, and was posted privately so only they could see. I mentioned it to my boyfriend thinking he would find it funny as well, since he is also super close friends with some of his exes from early in high school, and often jokes with them about their relationships. But instead he got super upset with me and the argument basically devolved into how my body count is higher than his and it makes him insecure (direct quote: “I know I’m being petty, but being #X doesn’t fee

First and foremost, I hope everybody is healthy and safe during this time. Anyways, I (M18) have been dating my girlfriend (F17) for about 1 year and it seems like she is not putting in any effort towards our relationship. Recently I’ve started to notice that she doesn’t text me first (feels like I’m chasing her) and most of the texts she sends me are 1 one word replies (ok, cool, idk, ig,). I’m trying to start conversation over texts but I can’t start anything if she only is sending me 1 word replies. Is there a right way to start a conversation? Another example of her not putting in any effort would be her not ever asking me to hang out. And in general, we are never hanging out often. (Once every 2 weeks if that) I’m the one who always has to ask if she wants to hang out and when I do, she’ll come up with an excuse to not hang out. She would say her mom won’t let her or she has homework which is completely ok but it feels like she is not making any time for me at all. How can I pl

Hello all! So basically I've had a lot of issues surrounding my boyfriend and his exes. We've been together 2 years, most of this stuff happened in our first year together. Backstory: one of his exes from high school that he was super obsessed and in love with broke up with him, cheated, led him on forever, etc. and it really broke him up. He had to be 5150'd and he was obsessed with her for a while. I'll call her Jasmine. Anyway onto the issues in mostly chronological order. Basically 90% of our fights (there haven't been many) are about his exes. I'll just spell out each one lol. I saw a picture of him and his most recent ex (Jen) on his desk after he made a huge song and dance to our friend about how keeping pictures of your ex means you're not over them, no one should ever do it, etc. This wouldn't bother me usually but his other comments made me feel there was something to it. he said he """forgot""" it was there.

Hello, I met this guy December 2018 and we immediately fell for eachother. I was very shy and a virgin, so it was new to me. We had a physical relationship right away and started to hang out a lot. I really loved and cared for him and was so loyal the only guy in my phone/social media was him. He did a lot to me including stealing my money, gambling with the money that I gave him, cheated on me with a 15 year old girl and went to jail for it, cheated on me multiple times even the night he took my virginity, blocks and unblocks me everytime he gets annoyed by me, etc. There is a lot. In May 2019, I found out he had been seeing this girl long before we met. She is a virgin and they had never done anything physical, it's an emotional relationship. I chose to message her a brief and short message telling her the truth about him. She was so rude to me, blamed me, denied the truth even with picture/video evidence. I didn't know what happened to them after that, but three days late

This is my first ever post on reddit, so please excuse any formatting issues or if this is not relevant to the community. I am also posting this here because my next therapy appointment isn't for over a week and I would like a little advice before then. I (22F) am notoriously bad at communicating how I feel to my boyfriend (25M), and since we are now quarantined together for the foreseeable future it has proven to be a relatively big issue. We have been together for around 2 years. Last night, he and his close friend (F) had a video call and watched movies together. They were having a great time and I kept hearing his laughter coming from his room from where I was at in the living room. He was really happy when they finished their call up. Now, this should generally not be an issue, because I know he would never cheat on me and his friend is a lesbian. But it's an issue for me. Some background on me is that my past two previous relationships ended because both my partners c