I don’t feel like my girlfriend is putting in any effort. Need advice

First and foremost, I hope everybody is healthy and safe during this time.

Anyways, I (M18) have been dating my girlfriend (F17) for about 1 year and it seems like she is not putting in any effort towards our relationship. Recently I’ve started to notice that she doesn’t text me first (feels like I’m chasing her) and most of the texts she sends me are 1 one word replies (ok, cool, idk, ig,). I’m trying to start conversation over texts but I can’t start anything if she only is sending me 1 word replies. Is there a right way to start a conversation?

Another example of her not putting in any effort would be her not ever asking me to hang out. And in general, we are never hanging out often. (Once every 2 weeks if that) I’m the one who always has to ask if she wants to hang out and when I do, she’ll come up with an excuse to not hang out. She would say her mom won’t let her or she has homework which is completely ok but it feels like she is not making any time for me at all. How can I plan to ask her to hang out more often? Also when we do hang out it’ll be for An hour max. She would give hints to me that she wants me to leave. It might be that I’m a boring person? Is she cheating on me? I can’t understand why my own girlfriend doesn’t want to hang out with me. Any advice would be helpful Thank you TLDR: girlfriend is not making time for me, not putting in effort



Submitted March 30, 2020 at 12:10AM

First and foremost, I hope everybody is healthy and safe during this time.Anyways, I (M18) have been dating my girlfriend (F17) for about 1 year and it seems like she is not putting in any effort towards our relationship. Recently I’ve started to notice that she doesn’t text me first (feels like I’m chasing her) and most of the texts she sends me are 1 one word replies (ok, cool, idk, ig,). I’m trying to start conversation over texts but I can’t start anything if she only is sending me 1 word replies. Is there a right way to start a conversation?Another example of her not putting in any effort would be her not ever asking me to hang out. And in general, we are never hanging out often. (Once every 2 weeks if that) I’m the one who always has to ask if she wants to hang out and when I do, she’ll come up with an excuse to not hang out. She would say her mom won’t let her or she has homework which is completely ok but it feels like she is not making any time for me at all. How can I plan to ask her to hang out more often? Also when we do hang out it’ll be for An hour max. She would give hints to me that she wants me to leave. It might be that I’m a boring person? Is she cheating on me? I can’t understand why my own girlfriend doesn’t want to hang out with me. Any advice would be helpful Thank you TLDR: girlfriend is not making time for me, not putting in effort
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