Boyfriend doesn't see sexting as cheating.

We're together since 2013. Some years ago I (27f) confessed my boyfriend (35m) that I'm bisexual ("error" number one, even if it was just because I wanted to be honest). Then we started to talk sexually about other girls (error number two) and how I'd like to do a threesome (it was just fantasy!) and I let him sexting sometimes (massive errors number three and four). Since then all our sexual life revolved around me being bisex and talking about these things...

And honestly it was funny initially, but he would talk about this every time we made love and I ended up being jealous and insecure. Now he wants all this back again and I don't want to. Every time he tries to convince me to be like that. Sometimes I caught him sexting with other women and we fought a lot because of this.

Now he blames me and tells me that he does it because I initiated it to these sort of things... And he says he doesn't see anything bad in sexting since he doesn't have sex for real with those women. I don't know how I should feel... Exhausted maybe.

I don't know what I should tell him to stop it. We fought a lot. I even told him that we'll break up and I'll move back to my town.

Why does he do it? He knows how bad it makes me feel now. How can we resolve this mess?

tl;dr At one point in our relationship I decided to tell him that I'm bisex and we would talk a lot sexually about other women, at the point that I was bored because he'd talk abouth this every time.

Now he wants to continue to chat sexually with other women, because years ago I was okay with this. He doesn't see it like cheating and I honestly don't know what else should I say to him to stop it, because I discover a new woman that he sexts to every 5-6 months. I've already told him that I'll leave and we already fought a lot because I caught him sexting in the past when I wasn't okay with this anymore.

Submitted March 29, 2020 at 11:47PM

We're together since 2013. Some years ago I (27f) confessed my boyfriend (35m) that I'm bisexual ("error" number one, even if it was just because I wanted to be honest). Then we started to talk sexually about other girls (error number two) and how I'd like to do a threesome (it was just fantasy!) and I let him sexting sometimes (massive errors number three and four). Since then all our sexual life revolved around me being bisex and talking about these things...And honestly it was funny initially, but he would talk about this every time we made love and I ended up being jealous and insecure. Now he wants all this back again and I don't want to. Every time he tries to convince me to be like that. Sometimes I caught him sexting with other women and we fought a lot because of this.Now he blames me and tells me that he does it because I initiated it to these sort of things... And he says he doesn't see anything bad in sexting since he doesn't have sex for real with those women. I don't know how I should feel... Exhausted maybe.I don't know what I should tell him to stop it. We fought a lot. I even told him that we'll break up and I'll move back to my town.Why does he do it? He knows how bad it makes me feel now. How can we resolve this mess?tl;dr At one point in our relationship I decided to tell him that I'm bisex and we would talk a lot sexually about other women, at the point that I was bored because he'd talk abouth this every time.Now he wants to continue to chat sexually with other women, because years ago I was okay with this. He doesn't see it like cheating and I honestly don't know what else should I say to him to stop it, because I discover a new woman that he sexts to every 5-6 months. I've already told him that I'll leave and we already fought a lot because I caught him sexting in the past when I wasn't okay with this anymore.