So I’m not a therapist, but I am a female social worker in my 20s who has worked in mental health for the past 4 years (as a case manager) and I can’t tell you how many young male clients thought they were in love with me. As other people here have said, it’s not unusual to think you’re in love with someone who is kind, listens to you, and wants to help you. I’m sure you’re not the first client who has developed feelings for her, and you won’t be the last. Tell her and she will know how to handle it professionally. I hope you don’t think I’m being rude by saying this, since your feelings are valid and I can’t know what’s in your heart/head, but I think it’s important to keep in mind that you don’t actually know her. You may like her, and love how she makes you feel, but you know her only as client and therapist. You don’t know what she is like out of work, or who she really is as a person. You don’t know how she spends her free time, what she is passionate about, or other details tha...

It's the newfound confidence my dude May 10, 2019 at 06:31AM

Idk I guess being polyamory still fits in between straight and fully gay. May 10, 2019 at 06:31AM

Idk, while I agree about their incorrect assumptions, I don’t think this is it. For most people, dealing with sexuality and romance is huge. It is, for most, this juggernaut of a thing in the human experience, something assumed to be universal. That and most people don’t know about us, which is kinda nice since the harassment isn’t there but for romantic aces that can suck absolute ass, however to say to someone that sex and sexuality is just not part of their life would be, to them, as absurd as finding a duck that can’t swim. “But that’s s huge part of what ducks do, how is this working for it” I highly doubt it’s causing any sort of moral crisis. May 10, 2019 at 06:28AM

I think you got the right idea. What do you fantasize doing with this person? Do you want to kiss them, make out with them, move in with them? That's a romantic crush. Do you want to make them smile? go out for drinks? hang out with them? That's a platonic "squish". The main reason I decided I was aromantic, was after I realized that all my crushes throughout my life, were actually squishes. May 10, 2019 at 06:27AM

that IS a panic attack. if, in theory, you'd still like to have sex with men, you should seek professional help. trauma is not something to ignore, it's something to work on so you can move on from it. May 10, 2019 at 06:24AM

Fuck yeah, can you make a whole dragon? May 10, 2019 at 06:04AM

It’s only happened to me a handful of times, but it feels different. I do love my friends, but it’s not the same way. For me, at least, there’s an element of exclusivity. That doesn’t happen with normal platonic feelings for me. I also want to spend time cuddling with them, hugging, maybe even kissing — which also doesn’t happen with normal platonic feelings for me. It feels like becoming best friends wouldn’t be enough. May 10, 2019 at 05:54AM

I have just spent too much money. :) May 10, 2019 at 05:52AM

I tried to “un-Ace” myself for many years, actually. Figured out I was asexual 7 years ago when I was 17, but I was afraid that meant I’d be alone forever so I totally hid that about myself. I used dating apps and went on quite a few dates without ever mentioning that I was asexual. I tried to become a sexual person, but I’m sex repulsed and hate kissing so it never went well/very far. I’ve tried out several other labels (told my family I was gay, identified as bisexual on dating apps, and told myself I was queer). It wasn’t until recently that I finally embraced that I was asexual (and aromantic). I say we all have to learn and grow in different ways, so do what you need to do to make yourself happy and learn more about who you are/what you want in life. If the label of asexual isn’t working for you right now, then stop using it and see what happens. You may find you’re better off without it. I would just caution not to push yourself too far and do something that makes you really un...

I do. May 10, 2019 at 05:47AM

"All of you, fight for my amusement!" May 10, 2019 at 05:30AM

Basically do you end up viewing pornographic materials out of curiosity when it is mentioned, referenced, or memes about. May 10, 2019 at 05:27AM

Arsenic gang Arsenic gang May 10, 2019 at 05:09AM

I just imagine that it's for the same reasons sexuality is so bewildering to me. We're all bumbling confused people foreign to each other. May 10, 2019 at 05:08AM

😂😂😂😂 May 10, 2019 at 05:02AM

As a person that is sensually attracted to skeletons, I 100% agree! May 10, 2019 at 05:01AM

Nah, YouTube comments are dumb May 10, 2019 at 04:37AM

Nah. No reason. Can't force yourself to be attracted to someone. I've been rejected by almost every woman since I've started mentioning I'm Ace. I've just resigned to being alone. May 10, 2019 at 04:31AM

Labels exist to make things easier for you/to make you happier. If they don't do that, then you're free to stop using them or change them. That's not betraying who you are, it's staying true to it when a label may not capture your experience fully. At the same time, it's important that you're not sacrificing your own well-being in the interest of making your partner(s) happy May 10, 2019 at 04:30AM

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year. And the thing is, my boyfriend has depression and anxiety too. He's gotten suicidal before, and it breaks my heart. He knows what this is like. However, I am suicidal a lot more than he is, and I used to cut myself. I've since stopped after he gave me an ultimatum about it. Anyways, when I tell him about how I feel like killing myself or that I'm just depressed, he used to stay up and talk to me and make sure I'm okay. but nowadays he doesn't say as much. he'll tell me that he's sorry and that he loves me and I appreciate that, honestly, but I fear that maybe he's just tired of dating someone so mentally ill. we've actually had this discussion before. he says it can be a little taxing but that he loves me and wants to be with me. I can't help but still feel bad, though. I wish he'd still care as much as he used to, but at the same time I hate burdening him. I wish he didn't have to d...

So to jump right into things, I (20F) met this guy D (22?M) through a friend of mine a couple weeks ago. I was originally just supposed to meet with my friend, but she texted me last minute asking if she could bring a friend with her. I said sure because I (incorrectly) assumed it would be another girl. I was wrong, it was this guy D, but it wasn't too big of a deal to me. ​ The three of us hang out at a cafe for a bit and it's okay. D is nice but I don't know if I see myself really becoming friends with him. ​ Skip to the next week and my friend asks if I would want to grab dinner. She also asks if D could come along for a reason that made sense but could identify us. I decided to give him another chance, see if I liked him better the second time around. Well, my friend had to back out kinda last minute and asked if I'd be okay meeting with D on my own. Now here's where I think I made a mistake: I said sure, that's fine with me. ​ We eat dinner and it...

My friends (21 F) and I (21 F) are about to move into a house. This past semester I’ve been out of school and my friend texted me pretty early on in the semester asking about us getting a house for senior year. Well that grew into five of us finding a house, with two of us out of abroad. The three that were in the area worked tirelessly going on tours, applying and looking until today we finally found one! Yay! The only issue is the price. The house has two bedrooms upstairs, a sun room and two “bedrooms” in the basement. The three people that were in LA at the time claimed the two bedrooms upstairs and the big bedroom in the basement. The other girl abroad and I were left to claim the remaining. I was fine with the basement room, although small, and the other girl claimed the sunroom (also small). I asked if I could pay a little less on my rent because 1. it’s the smallest room and 2. I am in the basement. The three girls told me while they’d be willing to have me pay 10-15 dollars ...

She is moving 3 thousand miles away across the country - USA - and doesn’t want to do a long distance relationship. I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with her. She has said she has thought of the same and having a family with me. We’ve both thought of the future together. She needs to move back home because she is homesick and mental state is better At home. She truly hates it here and can’t see herself ever living here in the future. I hate that i can’t give her what she’s looking for here. I hate that I’m not enough for her to want to stay I said let’s move somewhere we can both agree on and she said she has to be home. We are on good terms she still loves me and I still love her but she knows the long distance will kill both of us and end things badly. I want to be angry at her but i know she’s right. She says she wants me in her life so she wants to end it on good terms. I know the only way I can be with her Is to move to her state. That’s the only way it will wo...

I'm 18F, guy in question is 29M. That's obviously the main issue here. We met on the internet (through a common interest, not a dating site) and we have a very specific hobby shared by very few other people. We talk all the time - texting and voice chatting. We have a similar sense of humor and never run out of things to talk about. We've also met up in real life 3 times - this last time he asked me if I would consider being in a relationship with him. I gave a noncommittal answer because I *do* need to think about it - which is why I'm here. I know how weird it seems, and we both know that we wouldn't be able to publicly be in a relationship for at least 5 years as I'm in university and am in a career field not accepting of things like this. I love spending time with him and he's never ever pressured me into anything. He and I are both virgins. I just don't know what to think. I have more relationship experience than he does and in some ways I feel ...

*TL;DR; : My girlfriend and I broke up a while ago, she plays mind games with me, which is why I can't get over her and move on. What do I do?**. I have never posted to this platform before so give me a break about my ignorance. Super long and detailed. Give it to me straight, what the fuck do I do? I am stuck between moving on from my ex and holding on to the thought of being together again and I will tell you all why. We will call my ex Sarah. Sarah and I started dating in high school. We dated for approximately 2 years throughout high school and college. After high school graduation, I moved a couple of hours away from home for college and she stayed at a local university at home. I would make a trip home at least 2 or 3 times a month for the weekend to see her and be with her. We had the best relationship, so I thought. Me and Sarah are like literally the same person, we have the same interests, same hobbies, we could talk about anything. She was literally my best friend...

We have been dating for ~4-5 months and i just feel love for him. Idk how to say it or when. I guess im scared he wont say it back but i want him to know how much i do. Is there even a right moment? Anytime im w him and think about saying i just cant bring myself to say it. We have both said we care about eachother and have strong feelings and see us long-term, but i also went through a lot in my past so i just dont feel confident saying it i guess. Anyway i appreciate any advice or insight from you all Tl;dr dont know how to tell my bf i love him Submitted May 10, 2019 at 04:35AM We have been dating for ~4-5 months and i just feel love for him. Idk how to say it or when. I guess im scared he wont say it back but i want him to know how much i do. Is there even a right moment? Anytime im w him and think about saying i just cant bring myself to say it. We have both said we care about eachother and have strong feelings and see us long-term, but i also went through a lot in my past...

She has a few account on ig (instagram) and she let me follow 2/3. I asked her to accept the request for the 3rd one like 3 months ago but she said she has to "clean it up" before she accepts. I asked her what she means, and she said she has some embarrassing pictures. I then just flat out asked her if it has something to do with other guys and she said no and reassured me it's just stupid stuff. If it's stupid stuff I don't care, she acts goofy and does seemingly stupid things around me all the time so I'm a bit confused. The relationship is kind of new (4 months) and she's constantly expressing how much she likes being with me and has always been open with everything besides this ig account. I trust her but you never really know. So like I said, it's been a few months and I don't really want to bother her about it but it's always in the back of mind. I really, really like this girl and I hate assuming the worst like this. I want to figure o...

In the beginning of our relationship, (It’s been about 10 months now) the topic of a threesome came up, and my boyfriend said it would be cool if we could have one someday. At the time, I was still extremely insecure and jealous since we had just started dating so I was opposed to the idea and became upset. Well, fast forward 10 months now, I’m not jealous anymore (I feel secure in the relationship) and I wouldn’t mind having a threesome. I think it would be a spicy thing to do and I’m not longer opposed to it. However, it’s my boyfriend who’s feelings have changed. When the topic came up again in conversation, I revealed to him that I don’t mind anymore and would be down for a threesome. He looked visibly upset at my answer but didn’t say anything. The next night, he confronted me and asked if I still had feelings for him and or if I had feelings for someone else, because why else would I suddenly be ready for a threesome when I hated the idea before. I said no, I told him I just was...

As many of you know, it’s May which means most college students are taking their finals, and I’d figured that he’s been busy because of it. But I realized over the past 2 weeks he’s stopped texting me as frequently, and he doesn’t even open the snaps I send regularly anymore. And I don’t even like Snapchat. I only started using it actively again bc he likes to. When I tell him how cute or sweet he is, he doesn’t seem to react the way he used to. He used to blush and laugh and turn it around on me somehow, but the last time I joked about him being hot, he went on like I hadn’t made a joke. And when i tried to clarify that I did he just said that he knew. He doesn’t really initiate our conversations anymore, and he hasn’t tried to arrange a time for us to go on a date or see each other in a while. I’m not sure about an exact date but we only had our last 4 dates because I initiated them. We’ve been dating since February and he’s called our involvement a relationship and had even discu...

I don't feel like typing out the whole situation again so I'm just going to briefly explain it. -Moved in with guy I met on tinder on march 22nd. -He wanted a relationship with me. I didn't have mutual feelings. -He asked if I could spend the night at my moms house for a day so he could bring a girl over. -I spend the night at moms house and the girl spends the night. -I move out the next day, April 29th out of anger and jealousy even though I never wanted to date him anyway. -I live with my dad now. -Me and tinder guy become friends again. -He tells me he loves me. -Tuesday night i come over his house and we have sex. -He tells me that things between the girl and him probably won't work out because she has kids. -We send flirtatious text messages. -Today before work, he picks me up on his way to go get his check. I give him a bj. - I'm moving out of my dads house saturday and he says he wants to help me move out into my new apartment. - We talk on the phone and i...

Alright, so some context, my ex girlfriend and I were together for a little over two and a half years. I really thought this girl was the endgame for me. She was incredibly witty, funny, cute, and caring. She really did a lot for me and I appreciate her still a lot. Our breakup was not mutual. I studied abroad the entirety of last summer, and basically watched my relationship crumble away, as my ex girlfriend would get frustrated with Whatsapp dropping our calls and decide we were just done talking for the day. This combined with the fact that she was stuck in our college town with a handful of new friends she'd made the semester before, she would go out with these new people or some of my friends. However, she got into a really bad habit of leaving the bar with people she didn't know/didn't know she could trust. She would text me and let me know about the cool group of people she left with, and how she walked with them and barely made it home, or how one of the guys in ...

I need advice, obviously. My girlfriend and I have been together for 7 months. I got accepted into a grad program out of state and we are going to move together. A big step. We have lots of cats, the stereotype is real y’all. So we’re moving across the country with all these cats (4) and then add in her best female friend living in the same city and going to school for the same thing I’m going for. The financially smart decision is to have roommates and who better than a person that my girlfriend and I already know and better yet my partners best friend? I love her friend and I am very grateful to have her helping me through my acceptance process (advice about internships, essays, resume, etc) but I am totally against it us all living together. Here are my reasons: 1. She has two cats and they are not as well kept as ours. They aren’t well behaved either. That’s also 6 cats in a small space. 2. High maintenance 3. Major personality differences (partying, smoking weed inside, having ...

A quick (kind of) summary: I met this girl a few years ago and once we started talking immediately hit it off. We were both people who were coming off of badly ended recent relationships and it was a breath of fresh air as we connected perfectly. I just finished school and begin as a paramedic soon and shes on her way to her PhD in virology, so we're on the edge of being independent but still dependent on family. Here's the issue: she comes from a traditional Pakistani family, and I'm from a not-so-traditional Indian family. For those who aren't familiar with the cultures, they're fairly similar and both our families follow the same religion. Her parents are sticklers for old fashioned rules such as caste, country, skin colour, religion, etc, and lost their shit upon finding out about us. Family means a lot to her but so do I, and she is torn between the two. My family is fully accepting of the relationship. If she is unable to sway her parents the decision will ...

I've been talking to this girl that's in a couple of my classes at school, I'm pretty sure she's interested in me. But I can't understand her, she seems so fickle. Like I'll be talking about my elective class and she'll go "I wonder if I can switch into that class with you..." then when I agree, she's like "Actually nahh". Or when I said I was going to a make-up-work class after school that she at first said she wasn't going to, "I wanna come too!" then right after, "Actually, I think my grades are good enough. Nah". Then today after school I asked if she wanted to spend some time with me, she thought about it, then went "Well I really gotta get going to my exercise class". She's grabbed lunch with me and hung out and seemed keen before so IDK if she's just started to lose interest. TL;DR: Girl I've been talking to is fickle, ex. says she wants to go somewhere with me then changes her ...