My newlywed husband [M 29] of less than 1 year, is just not that into me [F 27]

I am recently married [F 27] (less than a year) and my husband [M 29] is just not that into me. I am a strong 6/10. I say that with humility, obviously everyone will have their own opinion - but I am definitely not that girl that girl that guys drool over, I also do not look repulsive (I know that is a wide range, but I am somewhere in there). I have a lot of self confidence, and I know looks aren’t everything. I have a lot going for me including a strong personality, good morals, good job, pretty innocent simply girl and easy to please. Somehow, by a miracle of life, my husband saw past my average looks and saw who I really am and loved me for that. Which is incredible, mind you - he is a strong 9/10 looking guy. 10/10 girls would be lucky/happy to be with him. He is gorgeous spontaneous, loving, strong willed, and his confidence alone makes most girls swoon. I was insecure when we were first dating. He has an extensive sexual history (literally banged every girl he wished in college). I on the other hand had sex with one other person before we met. He was clearly way more sexually experienced and within the first few months we had explored more than I had ever imagined sexually (things I thought only existed in porn). He swept me off my feet when we first met it was like a dream that could not be reality. It was sure to end quickly, I was a rebound or a lapse in judgement or he was actually insane - I couldn’t decide. Then almost a year in he proposes. I was so surprised and taken aback. I am pretty sure I asked him a million times, are you sure you want to marry me? Like actually me? So here we are one year in and all my fears have come to fruition. He literally doesn’t even touch me. We didn’t event have sex on our honeymoon. Sexually he has completely no interest in me, and I am totally aware he only fucks out of basic needs. I often worry he is cheating but that could just be insecurities, I honestly feel like he does love me. I am sexually down for whatever and am the only one in the relationship that initiates sex. And when he responds I typically feel it is out of pity. He never voluntarily comes onto me without provocation. I am just like “this is the punishment that comes with marrying out of your league”. He is literally just not that into me. I often think he views me as a ‘work horse’ that makes decent money, keeps his house clean, does his dishes and laundry end of story. I am naturally a very sexual person, and would literally bang on command. Honestly I love to please - I will be whatever he wants me to be, but I do not feel wanted in that way. Please help. How can I make my husband sexually attracted to me?

TL;DR? My husband and I have been married for less than a year and he doesn’t want me sexually.

Submitted May 10, 2019 at 06:06AM

I am recently married [F 27] (less than a year) and my husband [M 29] is just not that into me. I am a strong 6/10. I say that with humility, obviously everyone will have their own opinion - but I am definitely not that girl that girl that guys drool over, I also do not look repulsive (I know that is a wide range, but I am somewhere in there). I have a lot of self confidence, and I know looks aren’t everything. I have a lot going for me including a strong personality, good morals, good job, pretty innocent simply girl and easy to please. Somehow, by a miracle of life, my husband saw past my average looks and saw who I really am and loved me for that. Which is incredible, mind you - he is a strong 9/10 looking guy. 10/10 girls would be lucky/happy to be with him. He is gorgeous spontaneous, loving, strong willed, and his confidence alone makes most girls swoon. I was insecure when we were first dating. He has an extensive sexual history (literally banged every girl he wished in college). I on the other hand had sex with one other person before we met. He was clearly way more sexually experienced and within the first few months we had explored more than I had ever imagined sexually (things I thought only existed in porn). He swept me off my feet when we first met it was like a dream that could not be reality. It was sure to end quickly, I was a rebound or a lapse in judgement or he was actually insane - I couldn’t decide. Then almost a year in he proposes. I was so surprised and taken aback. I am pretty sure I asked him a million times, are you sure you want to marry me? Like actually me? So here we are one year in and all my fears have come to fruition. He literally doesn’t even touch me. We didn’t event have sex on our honeymoon. Sexually he has completely no interest in me, and I am totally aware he only fucks out of basic needs. I often worry he is cheating but that could just be insecurities, I honestly feel like he does love me. I am sexually down for whatever and am the only one in the relationship that initiates sex. And when he responds I typically feel it is out of pity. He never voluntarily comes onto me without provocation. I am just like “this is the punishment that comes with marrying out of your league”. He is literally just not that into me. I often think he views me as a ‘work horse’ that makes decent money, keeps his house clean, does his dishes and laundry end of story. I am naturally a very sexual person, and would literally bang on command. Honestly I love to please - I will be whatever he wants me to be, but I do not feel wanted in that way. Please help. How can I make my husband sexually attracted to me?TL;DR? My husband and I have been married for less than a year and he doesn’t want me sexually.