What to do when feeling bored in a relationship?

My boyfriend (m24) and I (f23) have been dating for 3 years and have been living together for almost 3 years and have a puppy together. I love him very much and I know he does too, but do you ever feel like love is just never enough itself?

I feel like I’m starting to get bored in my relationship and want to fix it. It’s always the same routine, we get home, I make dinner, he plays his games, we ate while he watches stuff on his phone and I’m watching Netflix then I play with our dog and sometimes he joins us and then he goes back to his games or whatever until the end of the night and then tries to be all lovey doves for a tiny tiny bit before touching is phone and falling asleep. I love playing games, however most times he wants to play games without me. I feel seriously neglected, and I know you guys are going to say, “did you talk to him yet?” Yes and no, however I want to find out ways to bring it up and solutions before I go in. I’ve brought this up in the past a bit, but it wasn’t as bad as it is now.

By the time he wants to be all lovey, I don’t want it after all the hours of being home with him while he chooses to do something else. I usually let him do whatever because he can, but also because I want him to relax since his work is mainly all physical. I’m not blaming him 100% for all of this, I take the blame too-but I just feel bored and need ways to fix it. Everyday my motivation to get through the day is so I can hurry up and be with him and our pupper. At home I always try to give him my utmost attention, but he never wants it. Am I doing something wrong? What can I do?

TL;DR! What to do when feeling bored in a relationship? I want to work on our relationship and provide solutions before speaking to him about this-also want to know if I’m doing something wrong too and what I can fix myself. Thanks!

Submitted May 10, 2019 at 05:16AM

My boyfriend (m24) and I (f23) have been dating for 3 years and have been living together for almost 3 years and have a puppy together. I love him very much and I know he does too, but do you ever feel like love is just never enough itself?I feel like I’m starting to get bored in my relationship and want to fix it. It’s always the same routine, we get home, I make dinner, he plays his games, we ate while he watches stuff on his phone and I’m watching Netflix then I play with our dog and sometimes he joins us and then he goes back to his games or whatever until the end of the night and then tries to be all lovey doves for a tiny tiny bit before touching is phone and falling asleep. I love playing games, however most times he wants to play games without me. I feel seriously neglected, and I know you guys are going to say, “did you talk to him yet?” Yes and no, however I want to find out ways to bring it up and solutions before I go in. I’ve brought this up in the past a bit, but it wasn’t as bad as it is now.By the time he wants to be all lovey, I don’t want it after all the hours of being home with him while he chooses to do something else. I usually let him do whatever because he can, but also because I want him to relax since his work is mainly all physical. I’m not blaming him 100% for all of this, I take the blame too-but I just feel bored and need ways to fix it. Everyday my motivation to get through the day is so I can hurry up and be with him and our pupper. At home I always try to give him my utmost attention, but he never wants it. Am I doing something wrong? What can I do?TL;DR! What to do when feeling bored in a relationship? I want to work on our relationship and provide solutions before speaking to him about this-also want to know if I’m doing something wrong too and what I can fix myself. Thanks!