Chemistry and emotional availability

Hey all,

Something's been niggling at me for a long time, it's a kind of interaction that happened a couple times in my life. Basically, I'd be with a girl I have been starting to become intimate with, but she'd become hesitant about being together and say something like "I can't feel that you like me" or "I can't feel your emotions". I'm surprised by this because I consider myself caring, attentive, delicate, and often passionate, like I've got nothing against PDA. I didn't think it was possible to intuit someone else's emotions, aside from body language/facial expressions.

I've felt lust and infatuation before, mostly when I was in middle school and high school, but I don't tend to feel it now at 25. I've had some sexual experiences but no proper sex (vaginal). I've had no real relationships, I loved once deeply I believe at 16 years old. Girls just can't seem to find chemistry with me, but I'm always naturally myself and invested in the other person. My actions indicate interest and care, but others seem to perceive something lacking I don't really understand.

Does this have to do with emotional unavailability? I don't really see myself that way, though I have been accused of manipulation, I don't think I was consciously trying to manipulate.

Anybody get what I'm trying to say?

--- **TL;DR;** : What does it mean when a girl says she can't feel that I like her? Is this related to emotional unavailability on my part? 

Submitted May 10, 2019 at 05:14AM

Hey all,Something's been niggling at me for a long time, it's a kind of interaction that happened a couple times in my life. Basically, I'd be with a girl I have been starting to become intimate with, but she'd become hesitant about being together and say something like "I can't feel that you like me" or "I can't feel your emotions". I'm surprised by this because I consider myself caring, attentive, delicate, and often passionate, like I've got nothing against PDA. I didn't think it was possible to intuit someone else's emotions, aside from body language/facial expressions.I've felt lust and infatuation before, mostly when I was in middle school and high school, but I don't tend to feel it now at 25. I've had some sexual experiences but no proper sex (vaginal). I've had no real relationships, I loved once deeply I believe at 16 years old. Girls just can't seem to find chemistry with me, but I'm always naturally myself and invested in the other person. My actions indicate interest and care, but others seem to perceive something lacking I don't really understand.Does this have to do with emotional unavailability? I don't really see myself that way, though I have been accused of manipulation, I don't think I was consciously trying to manipulate.Anybody get what I'm trying to say?--- **TL;DR;** : What does it mean when a girl says she can't feel that I like her? Is this related to emotional unavailability on my part?