My (F16) boyfriend (M16) might not be over his ex.

We’ve been dating for over 2 months. He broke up with his exgirlfriend (someone he still is best friends with) in November, and I got out of a relationship in September. I’d like to mention that I am 100% over my ex and was ready to move one when we started dating. Going into this relationship, we both agreed it was nothing too serious but more about gaining experience and having fun with each other. We both also agreed we were exclusive, we would act like a normal relationship, and we were NOT each other’s rebounds.

However, today we were asking each other random questions from this list when I got to “Do you miss someone from your past” and “Your best friend of the opposite sex likes you, what do you do?”. He told me that if we weren’t together, he would date her. He said he was joking, but I’m not so sure.

Later, he looked away and started crying. It was awkward, and I asked him if I made him uncomfortable or if I said anything wrong. I didn’t feel like I should pry, so I just asked him if he felt like there was something he should tell me. I’m honestly fine with him being friends with an ex or with a lot of girls, because I’m pretty confident with myself and I really do think he likes me. But, I’m just so confused.

How can I approach this? Do I leave it alone?

(Also please don’t say the generic we’re too young, the relationship is too new, etc, I already get it. However, I still feel like I should treat this as any other relationship I might or might not face in the future. This is as much of a relationship as anyone else’s, and I’d appreciate the help. Thanks!)

TLDR; My boyfriend, who is still friends with his ex, might not be over her. Asked him a question, then noticed he started tearing up.

Edit: Omg she’s gay... so he was joking... but why did he cry....



Submitted May 10, 2019 at 05:43AM

We’ve been dating for over 2 months. He broke up with his exgirlfriend (someone he still is best friends with) in November, and I got out of a relationship in September. I’d like to mention that I am 100% over my ex and was ready to move one when we started dating. Going into this relationship, we both agreed it was nothing too serious but more about gaining experience and having fun with each other. We both also agreed we were exclusive, we would act like a normal relationship, and we were NOT each other’s rebounds.However, today we were asking each other random questions from this list when I got to “Do you miss someone from your past” and “Your best friend of the opposite sex likes you, what do you do?”. He told me that if we weren’t together, he would date her. He said he was joking, but I’m not so sure.Later, he looked away and started crying. It was awkward, and I asked him if I made him uncomfortable or if I said anything wrong. I didn’t feel like I should pry, so I just asked him if he felt like there was something he should tell me. I’m honestly fine with him being friends with an ex or with a lot of girls, because I’m pretty confident with myself and I really do think he likes me. But, I’m just so confused.How can I approach this? Do I leave it alone?(Also please don’t say the generic we’re too young, the relationship is too new, etc, I already get it. However, I still feel like I should treat this as any other relationship I might or might not face in the future. This is as much of a relationship as anyone else’s, and I’d appreciate the help. Thanks!)TLDR; My boyfriend, who is still friends with his ex, might not be over her. Asked him a question, then noticed he started tearing up.Edit: Omg she’s gay... so he was joking... but why did he cry....
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