How much should I (21M) tell my girlfriend (22F) that I want to break up without it seeming like I only waited for this other girl (22F)?

3 days ago I had a serious talk with my girlfriend (been together a little more than 1 year). I suggested that we should take a break from each other since I have not really have had the motivation to work on improving our relationship because of my own mental problems at the moment and don’t really see a future togheter. She didn’t like this Idea, so we decided to try and work on it more actively for a while.

Well yesterday night I met an old friend (22F) with whom iv’e been friend with for about 4 years. I have always liked her but have told myself that it whould never work between us because we were in the same class and I thought she wasn’t intrested. Well yesterday I found out she is and have always been intrested. So we talked about it and both felt like it is important to try a relationship otherwise we will regret never trying it.

And I don’t know what to do, iv’e been thinking if this means it’s time to break up? And if so how do I do it? I can’t lie to her and I know if I go through with this she will ask more about why. So how can I tell her about the other girl in a way so that it doesn’t sound like our relationship has been me waiting for her?

This has been the best relationship I could ever wish for, but also my first. I don’t want to hurt her more than necessary.

tl;dr: Me and my girfriend is haven’t a rough time. I’m very unsure if I can se a future with her. On top of this I met an old friend that I have always been intrested in and found out she has always been intrested in me. What to do? I don’t want it to seem like I only have waited to find someone else before breaking up.

Sorry if there is misspelling, english isn’t my first language



Submitted May 10, 2019 at 06:50AM

3 days ago I had a serious talk with my girlfriend (been together a little more than 1 year). I suggested that we should take a break from each other since I have not really have had the motivation to work on improving our relationship because of my own mental problems at the moment and don’t really see a future togheter. She didn’t like this Idea, so we decided to try and work on it more actively for a while.Well yesterday night I met an old friend (22F) with whom iv’e been friend with for about 4 years. I have always liked her but have told myself that it whould never work between us because we were in the same class and I thought she wasn’t intrested. Well yesterday I found out she is and have always been intrested. So we talked about it and both felt like it is important to try a relationship otherwise we will regret never trying it.And I don’t know what to do, iv’e been thinking if this means it’s time to break up? And if so how do I do it? I can’t lie to her and I know if I go through with this she will ask more about why. So how can I tell her about the other girl in a way so that it doesn’t sound like our relationship has been me waiting for her?This has been the best relationship I could ever wish for, but also my first. I don’t want to hurt her more than necessary.tl;dr: Me and my girfriend is haven’t a rough time. I’m very unsure if I can se a future with her. On top of this I met an old friend that I have always been intrested in and found out she has always been intrested in me. What to do? I don’t want it to seem like I only have waited to find someone else before breaking up.Sorry if there is misspelling, english isn’t my first language
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