I (20f) feel like things are about to end with my bf (21m) but I’m afraid I’m overthinking

As many of you know, it’s May which means most college students are taking their finals, and I’d figured that he’s been busy because of it. But I realized over the past 2 weeks he’s stopped texting me as frequently, and he doesn’t even open the snaps I send regularly anymore. And I don’t even like Snapchat. I only started using it actively again bc he likes to.

When I tell him how cute or sweet he is, he doesn’t seem to react the way he used to. He used to blush and laugh and turn it around on me somehow, but the last time I joked about him being hot, he went on like I hadn’t made a joke. And when i tried to clarify that I did he just said that he knew.

He doesn’t really initiate our conversations anymore, and he hasn’t tried to arrange a time for us to go on a date or see each other in a while. I’m not sure about an exact date but we only had our last 4 dates because I initiated them. We’ve been dating since February and he’s called our involvement a relationship and had even discussed doing some of the things I’d said I’d only do if I was in a committed relationship ship w/someone. So I thought and felt like everything was good. But the last time I slept over he seemed to be in a hurry to get me out the door, and on another night when I just wanted to see him he told me that I couldn’t stay over, since he “wanted to sleep in his own bed alone” when I’d had no plans or intentions to since I had to be up very early the next morning. Which I’m totally fine with btw! I understand that it’s hard sleeping next to someone else sometimes and it’s generally easier to sleep alone, it just kinda hurt for some reason.

I think maybe I’m falling in love with him, and things are getting hard because I can see that the level of caring that I have for him probably isn’t the same. I’m terrified that he just wants me for my body, which has happened to me before. I wouldn’t go as far as to say I’m ugly, but I’m the classic “before” picture if my life were a movie, (curly headed, glasses wearing, t-shirts are my go to unless I’m trying). So I’m definitely not conventionally attractive. EDIT: the reason he might possibly be using me for my body is bc despite my face I really have a nice figure that some kinds of dudes like. I’m skinny and on the shorter side of average but I have fairly big breasts for my size and a tight little bubble butt.

I have never felt for anyone what I’ve felt for him. And I don’t mean to be stupid “OMG BUT MOM I LOVE HIM!!!” But really, I’m kind of highly selective as far as talking to a guy goes, and most men I’ve interacted with never get a first date, so it’s a big deal that I liked him enough to date him, tell him how much I like him and go out of my way to see him.

It’s just that I feel like he was doing a lot more effort wise in the beginning,and I don’t know if that lack of effort is because he’s busy with finals, or if I did something wrong or if he’s losing interest in me. It’s also entirely possible that I’m just overthinking because I’m pmsing really bad and whenever I’m hormonal and about to start my period I cry, feel insecure and think no one really likes me, etc.

TLDR; worried I’m about to get broken up with or ghosted completely. He’s texting less, not opening my snaps, doesn’t initiate conversation as frequently, hasn’t asked me out in a while, seems in a hurry for me to go when we are together. But he might be busy bc of finals. Idk if I’m overthinking and being insecure

Submitted May 10, 2019 at 04:41AM

As many of you know, it’s May which means most college students are taking their finals, and I’d figured that he’s been busy because of it. But I realized over the past 2 weeks he’s stopped texting me as frequently, and he doesn’t even open the snaps I send regularly anymore. And I don’t even like Snapchat. I only started using it actively again bc he likes to.When I tell him how cute or sweet he is, he doesn’t seem to react the way he used to. He used to blush and laugh and turn it around on me somehow, but the last time I joked about him being hot, he went on like I hadn’t made a joke. And when i tried to clarify that I did he just said that he knew.He doesn’t really initiate our conversations anymore, and he hasn’t tried to arrange a time for us to go on a date or see each other in a while. I’m not sure about an exact date but we only had our last 4 dates because I initiated them. We’ve been dating since February and he’s called our involvement a relationship and had even discussed doing some of the things I’d said I’d only do if I was in a committed relationship ship w/someone. So I thought and felt like everything was good. But the last time I slept over he seemed to be in a hurry to get me out the door, and on another night when I just wanted to see him he told me that I couldn’t stay over, since he “wanted to sleep in his own bed alone” when I’d had no plans or intentions to since I had to be up very early the next morning. Which I’m totally fine with btw! I understand that it’s hard sleeping next to someone else sometimes and it’s generally easier to sleep alone, it just kinda hurt for some reason.I think maybe I’m falling in love with him, and things are getting hard because I can see that the level of caring that I have for him probably isn’t the same. I’m terrified that he just wants me for my body, which has happened to me before. I wouldn’t go as far as to say I’m ugly, but I’m the classic “before” picture if my life were a movie, (curly headed, glasses wearing, t-shirts are my go to unless I’m trying). So I’m definitely not conventionally attractive. EDIT: the reason he might possibly be using me for my body is bc despite my face I really have a nice figure that some kinds of dudes like. I’m skinny and on the shorter side of average but I have fairly big breasts for my size and a tight little bubble butt.I have never felt for anyone what I’ve felt for him. And I don’t mean to be stupid “OMG BUT MOM I LOVE HIM!!!” But really, I’m kind of highly selective as far as talking to a guy goes, and most men I’ve interacted with never get a first date, so it’s a big deal that I liked him enough to date him, tell him how much I like him and go out of my way to see him.It’s just that I feel like he was doing a lot more effort wise in the beginning,and I don’t know if that lack of effort is because he’s busy with finals, or if I did something wrong or if he’s losing interest in me. It’s also entirely possible that I’m just overthinking because I’m pmsing really bad and whenever I’m hormonal and about to start my period I cry, feel insecure and think no one really likes me, etc.TLDR; worried I’m about to get broken up with or ghosted completely. He’s texting less, not opening my snaps, doesn’t initiate conversation as frequently, hasn’t asked me out in a while, seems in a hurry for me to go when we are together. But he might be busy bc of finals. Idk if I’m overthinking and being insecure