I (27F) think I should breakup with my bf (36M)

I know there's an age gap, but the issue is that he has total lack of ambition and motivation. I'm writing because sometimes I want to inspire him to go after his goals, but it's really hard to get him to try, with anything. I had times I appreciated someone giving me a boost when I was down, but I don't think he sees himself going after what he wants because he's afraid to. He fights me so much about getting up. I just feel like we're not getting any younger and he rather talk down on making moves to advance because he's afraid. It's hard to start letting go, but it's been 3 years of this.

EDIT: I just want to add that he's one of the sweetest people I've met, but it just speaks so loudly that he won't hold himself in the same regard that he holds me. It makes me feel like I have to pull both our weights.

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**TL;DR;** : I want to do my best in life and keep trying and he has a contentious lack of motivation.

Submitted May 10, 2019 at 05:30AM

I know there's an age gap, but the issue is that he has total lack of ambition and motivation. I'm writing because sometimes I want to inspire him to go after his goals, but it's really hard to get him to try, with anything. I had times I appreciated someone giving me a boost when I was down, but I don't think he sees himself going after what he wants because he's afraid to. He fights me so much about getting up. I just feel like we're not getting any younger and he rather talk down on making moves to advance because he's afraid. It's hard to start letting go, but it's been 3 years of this.EDIT: I just want to add that he's one of the sweetest people I've met, but it just speaks so loudly that he won't hold himself in the same regard that he holds me. It makes me feel like I have to pull both our weights.---**TL;DR;** : I want to do my best in life and keep trying and he has a contentious lack of motivation.