I understand why you might doubt yourself and start looking back at your own actions to see what you did. However, you didn't need to do anything for this to happen. You could have said you were asexual from the very beginning and he still might have thought he had a chance. In your position I would be very careful to avoid being around him in the future or claims he makes that he's sorry and is actually ok with being friends. July 11, 2020 at 11:56PM

I guess it depends on the context of the kissing? Like the type of kiss, the feelings behind it. It's a grey area straddling romantic, sexual, and sensual attraction. Personally, I consider myself a highly romantic ace, and I am super into like face kisses and short kisses, but longer make out sessions are not for me as I get bored and I find them kind of gross honestly Disinterest/dislike for kissing can maybe be a sign of aromaticism, or it can just be disliking the specific action, so I would suggest looking for any other signs before settling on the label July 11, 2020 at 11:55PM

thanks so much :) My friends have already had quite the chat with him and have asked that he don't come back unless he's willing to treat everyone with respect. They also warned him that if it happens again, it won't be just an apologize and move on scenario. I really appreciate your input and everyone else here :)) July 11, 2020 at 11:48PM

I’m so sorry the majority of your family members reacted so doubtful. You are incredibly brave to come out to them, congratulations on that! I‘m only out to five people, none of them family so I’m afraid I can’t understand your situation as well as others. Still, if you are open to any suggestions, maybe talk to your mother about how you are feeling if you haven’t already. Explain it to her, if she has questions, answer them, questions show that she is at least trying to understand you. Your sisters viewpoint is surprisingly narrow (I don’t know how old she is but how can she not know at least about homosexuality?). I guess the best you can do is talk to her about it and maybe inform her a bit. However, you cannot force change and it’s only a suggestion, I’m sure others could offer you better advice. Regardless, I wish you all the best and I hope your family will come around! Stay safe c: July 11, 2020 at 11:46PM

Unfortunately, there are hateful people everywhere, including inside minority communities. One of the most transphobic things I've ever heard irl was from a gay man. Some people just suck, and being a minority doesn't change that. July 11, 2020 at 11:46PM

sounds like you probably are on the ace spectrum. I would say you sound asexual. I feel kind of the same way but with both men & women I think. I feel a little more romantically attracted to women, but I'm not actually sure July 11, 2020 at 11:45PM

Y'all are saltier than /r/childfree , and that is a sub about being living salt mines, i dont think you're in any position to tell anyone to calm down July 11, 2020 at 11:42PM

I don't know how much useful advice I (a 18f aro/ace) can offer but I'll try my best. Have you considered that you might be greyasexual? Here's a link to the definition: Grey asexuality I can't tell you how far your vaginismus controls your enjoyment of penetrative sex. Have you asked your gynaecologist about it? That seems like the best place to ask. As for a "healthy" sex life. I don't think it actually exists. If you want to find sexual encounters enjoyable that's understandable but if you're trying to measure your experiences with those of "normal" people you won't find closure. There is no normal. There might be an average but if 9 people have sex once a week and one person has sex 20 times a week the average person has sex 3 times a week. Don't measure yourself by others' standards. Lastly, your fantasies don't say anything about reality. Netflix has "sex explained", a documentary with a great episode

No problem. It's a very complicated and confusing sexuality. July 11, 2020 at 11:33PM

Because I feel a lot of people in the LGBT+ community subscribe very strongly to the Geek Social Fallacies (Especially the first) and the "Unwritten Rule of the social exiles". (We stick together no matter what.) July 11, 2020 at 11:33PM

Okay, thank you for helping me figure it out :) July 11, 2020 at 11:31PM

Ok, you're definitly asexual. And you also are homoromantic. July 11, 2020 at 11:30PM

I don't know, it's paradoxical to think the A stands for ally, either you're part of a community or you're an ally to it, you can't be a part of the community because you're an ally to it, it makes no sense. July 11, 2020 at 11:29PM

I’m not sure if I experience sexual attraction at all? I’m not really sure what it is, like i’ve never felt sexual impulses for people i’m attracted to but I still think they’re romantically attractive and good looking.. it’s just not sexual to me I don’t think, because I don’t feel any desire to have sex from it. And I know I only find males romantically and aesthetically/physically attractive July 11, 2020 at 11:28PM

You’re a genius July 11, 2020 at 11:26PM

Fr though like I've seen way more hate from inside the lgbt+ community than anywhere else it's crazy July 11, 2020 at 11:24PM

You know, maybe if "Virgin" wasn't an insult and men weren't shamed for being a virgin, incel would be less of a thing.... Just saying. July 11, 2020 at 11:23PM

she is even wearing the wrong colour. July 11, 2020 at 11:23PM

Do you feel the same level of sexual Attraction for men and women? If yes you're asexual, If not you might still be on the asexual spectrum. July 11, 2020 at 11:23PM

Lmaoooo calm down dude. Allosexual people think aces are strange too. And also, screw normalcy. No one is normal. July 11, 2020 at 11:19PM

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