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http://bit.ly/2ViYjP1 Submitted May 13, 2019 at 01:21AM http://bit.ly/2ViYjP1

Maybe you just can’t take rejection?

http://bit.ly/30goMAc Submitted May 13, 2019 at 01:40AM http://bit.ly/30goMAc

cue video of erron black saying "im flattered"

http://bit.ly/2ViYgTl Submitted May 13, 2019 at 01:51AM http://bit.ly/2ViYgTl

Found on instagram vine page. We all swoon over the f-boys

http://bit.ly/30hOLrg Submitted May 13, 2019 at 01:51AM http://bit.ly/30hOLrg

Would you like to power level m’lady

http://bit.ly/2VjvrpC Submitted May 13, 2019 at 01:53AM http://bit.ly/2VjvrpC

Made a reddit account for this. We had two dates. He gifted me a pretty cool knife. I actually have suicidal tendencies so I wasn’t really about it. I broke things off due to some bad vibes: told me in confidence his mum puts money in his account when it’s low, paid for our Japanese food with it.

http://bit.ly/307cUjY Submitted May 13, 2019 at 01:59AM http://bit.ly/307cUjY

These nice guys are really starting to get out of control.

http://bit.ly/2ViYfif Submitted May 13, 2019 at 02:11AM http://bit.ly/2ViYfif

Break up with BF and threatens to sue me, says I owe him money from him spending money on dates and stuff 😂

http://bit.ly/307cTMW Submitted May 13, 2019 at 02:33AM http://bit.ly/307cTMW

Any GoT fans here?

http://bit.ly/2VnbGxH Submitted May 13, 2019 at 03:18AM http://bit.ly/2VnbGxH

Texts from my ex's "friend", who a couple weeks before this decided to randomly start messaging me to tell me all the dirty thoughts he had about me. In the same convo, he also thought it appropriate to tell me he'd masturbated onto a pair of my underwear while house sitting a few years ago.

http://bit.ly/30cSAxI Submitted May 13, 2019 at 03:28AM http://bit.ly/30cSAxI

You apparently can't harass people if you're attractive

http://bit.ly/2VjiYCy Submitted May 13, 2019 at 03:37AM http://bit.ly/2VjiYCy

This guy is counting down the days through Instagram videos until this girl “falls in love with him.”

http://bit.ly/30gsM3B Submitted May 13, 2019 at 03:54AM http://bit.ly/30gsM3B

I suggest the girl runs

http://bit.ly/2VjzpOU Submitted May 13, 2019 at 05:21AM http://bit.ly/2VjzpOU

Smh...accurate

http://bit.ly/30oj3sm Submitted May 13, 2019 at 05:34AM http://bit.ly/30oj3sm

Og post said “I need a thoughtful boyfriend like this”

http://bit.ly/2VlKW0e Submitted May 13, 2019 at 05:52AM http://bit.ly/2VlKW0e

Made an account just for this. Went out for 3 weeks, broke it off cause he wanted to move things too quickly.

http://bit.ly/30c0szr Submitted May 13, 2019 at 06:43AM http://bit.ly/30c0szr

When a nice guy thinks he’s in the right...

http://bit.ly/2Vf56sQ Submitted May 13, 2019 at 06:49AM http://bit.ly/2Vf56sQ

How Nice Guys expect girls to react when the open the door for them.

http://bit.ly/30fneXd Submitted May 13, 2019 at 07:01AM http://bit.ly/30fneXd

What Should I Expect With This Girl?

So, I met this girl at my university. We actually met because we are coworkers at a dining hall on campus. We were both just freshmen coming into this university. Anyways, I quickly make a move on this girl and we end up chatting a bit and becoming friends. She's quite a lively girl and she's also really damn pretty. Eventually, I get up the nerve to ask her to hang out with me and my friends because we were all gonna go to the football game. I thought it would be nice because it would be a pretty casual get-together and it wouldn't be too romantic. However, another guy who was also into her ends up going with us. She asked me before we met up if it would be okay if she "brought a friend." I honestly assumed it would be another female friend of hers but, to my surprise, it was not. I know the guy had sensual intentions with her because she recently told me he was super perverted with her, was just creepy, etc. It was around after the football game that I realized...

What does it feel like to go on a date?

So I like frequenting this sub and other that have to do with dating, women, seduction, sex etc. Mostly because I never did have the chance to do anything with a woman before as I never had any woman consider me attractive enough to ever date or do anything romantic before. I notice a lot of people talk about first dates, bad dates, fantastic dates etc. and I'm currently on a boat traveling with a friend and (for like the 1000th time lol) I just can't stop thinking about what it feels like. Dating, holding hands, kissing etc. is that all part of a complete "date". Or is it more reserved, does it depend more on the connection? I guess I'm asking a vague question but I love love love hearing about people's experiences with romance or romantic situation as I kinda can live vicariously through them and imagine what it would be like to go on a date with a woman or have a woman find me attractive and all that. Anyways, how would you best describe the experienc...

Just a question for everyone, why are there so many "Country girls" on dating websites?

Ive cued up a couple of dating websites (pof,bumble,ect...) And it seems there are TONS of women who are "Country" girls, drinking beer,hunting,must like dogs ect.. Did I miss something in the dating world where country is a terrible type of girl to be dating? I mean im not looking for a "Country" girl but that seems to be a great majority of my results. Is this just my luck or is there something else im missing? Submitted May 13, 2019 at 03:51AM Ive cued up a couple of dating websites (pof,bumble,ect...) And it seems there are TONS of women who are "Country" girls, drinking beer,hunting,must like dogs ect.. Did I miss something in the dating world where country is a terrible type of girl to be dating? I mean im not looking for a "Country" girl but that seems to be a great majority of my results. Is this just my luck or is there something else im missing?

Highschool Pressure

15 M Freshman, going into Sophomore year introverted but I love to be an extrovert, but im really bad at it, never seem to do anything right when it comes to females or forming relationships, i get complimented on looks but nobody ever seems to actually like me as a person. not exactly sure what questions I have but would love to be reassured that im not alone in this hormonal hell hole. Submitted May 13, 2019 at 04:06AM 15 M Freshman, going into Sophomore yearintroverted but I love to be an extrovert, but im really bad at it, never seem to do anything right when it comes to females or forming relationships, i get complimented on looks but nobody ever seems to actually like me as a person. not exactly sure what questions I have but would love to be reassured that im not alone in this hormonal hell hole.

Multiple dates - when do you go exclusive?

So I'm [early 30sM] relatively new the whole app dating thing. I've been chatting with two wonderful women and have had 2 dates with each of them. I could honestly see myself with either of them. My problem is that I'm feeling kind of uneasy about the whole situation - it feels a little bit dishonest. I'm honestly dreading this decision a little bit - I don't want to lead anyone on. So I guess my question is, when do y'all go exclusive with a woman? Also, how to end things when it's going well? It's easy to say "I don't think we're compatible" when you're not, but I don't think that really works in my current situation. Submitted May 13, 2019 at 04:08AM So I'm [early 30sM] relatively new the whole app dating thing. I've been chatting with two wonderful women and have had 2 dates with each of them. I could honestly see myself with either of them. My problem is that I'm feeling kind of uneasy about the whole si...

Contradicting date behaviour

Hey Reddit, I'll try and keep this short and sweet. I met a girl on tinder a couple weeks back. We hit off instantly and decided to meet up, which we did soon after. We spent the whole day together walking, eating pizza in a park and biking home with all detours possible so we could get to talk more. After the date she texted me that she felt very comfortable around me. During this time we texted a lot together, and she seemed head over heels, showing a LOT of interest. Second date was even better, we went to the zoo and had a fantastic time together. She wrote a really sweet card which she gave me there and we laughed all the time and no silent moments were present. We also talked about a lot of 'taboo' subjects, in which we found a lot of common ground. After the zoo we had dinner at my mother's, which was something she wanted to do. After that date she nervously asked if my mother liked her, and asked me 'what's next, if you're not tired of me yet'...

As a guy, how do I come to terms with settling for less physically attractive women than my ex?

It's been 5 years for me since my last relationship and although there have been some opportunities to date, the women have all been less physically attractive. For this reason any of the women I dated, I always broke it off with since I wasn't attracted to them in the same way and didn't want to lead them on. I feel like unless I can somehow come to terms with dating a less physically attractive woman I am doomed to be single. Is this a problem more common to men perhaps? Submitted May 13, 2019 at 04:13AM It's been 5 years for me since my last relationship and although there have been some opportunities to date, the women have all been less physically attractive. For this reason any of the women I dated, I always broke it off with since I wasn't attracted to them in the same way and didn't want to lead them on. I feel like unless I can somehow come to terms with dating a less physically attractive woman I am doomed to be single. Is this a problem more co...

Girl is perfect but sex is not

Found a nice girl. On paper looks really good. But I cant really enjoy/finish with her. She’s a little too loose, me a little too slender. It’s not enjoyable and makes me feel insecure too. I’m turned off and want to find someone else. Is sex really that important that it needs to be good to be with someone? Because all the feelings I had for her are gone... Submitted May 13, 2019 at 04:17AM Found a nice girl.On paper looks really good.But I cant really enjoy/finish with her.She’s a little too loose, me a little too slender.It’s not enjoyable and makes me feel insecure too.I’m turned off and want to find someone else.Is sex really that important that it needs to be good to be with someone?Because all the feelings I had for her are gone...

Advice on approaching groups of girls

I (24M) usually find girls in groups all around my town. I'm not intending on hitting on the entire group but there's usually one person that I want to try to talk to. What I'm concerned about is one of the girls trying to interrupt or cancel the interaction. Any advice? Submitted May 13, 2019 at 04:36AM I (24M) usually find girls in groups all around my town. I'm not intending on hitting on the entire group but there's usually one person that I want to try to talk to. What I'm concerned about is one of the girls trying to interrupt or cancel the interaction. Any advice?

Gaslighting and Petty GoT Spoilers

So as a semi practical dater, I like to think I’ve been very fortunate with the men I have dated, especially the older I get. Well last month I was seeing this man who actually piqued my interest for a few weeks. We where getting along quite well, a bit too much . Until about a few days ago he attempted to gas light me. I haven’t actually ever had it done to me and was very surprised and irked by it. I don’t like to deal with drama, let alone mental manipulation. Well as a person who is very abrupt, I was done with the whole ordeal anyway. He attempted to reach out via text and further continue to gaslight. Since today is Sunday I know he goes and watches the show with some friends. I sent him a funny twitter meme about the new episode tonight. He responded he had not seen it since he was out of town. I responded “so what you’re saying is send more” He then responded with “please please don’t”. I proceeded to send him another GoT spoiler meme with Pikachu. I am horrible and petty. I...

What is up with this guy?

He’s 24. He idolizes certain types of women, especially black women. He says he wants a kid with curly hair when he’s older. He makes jokes about me for being biracial and not black enough or too white. He is obsessed with trans porn and seeks out trans women for sex He thinks kissing men is gross but says he’d fuck a guy ? He likes his ass eaten He loses his boner during sex often, especially while giving me oral He doesn’t last and rarely finishes He called me gross when I had to buy tampons He never ever uses tongue when we kiss He barely touches my boobs He never sucks or kisses my neck or boobs This last one is a bit weird. He does this thing where if we’re just chilling or cuddling he will get on top of me and aggressively dry humps me while breathing heavy and fast and fake moaning with his eyes closed for absolutely no reason. He’s not aggressive during sex. And he never moans or breathes heavy like that during sex either, so I’m not sure why he does that weird reenactment...

Ghosting hurts more than any rejection I’ve ever had

I’ve been dating this guy for three months. He went away this weekend and he hasn’t answered my texts at all. I know he got home tonight so I called him to make sure he got home okay and he didn’t answer. I just don’t get it. We established exclusiveness. He’s introduced me to his roommates, he’s affectionate when we hang out, we talk during the day to update each other, he kisses me on the forehead, tells me about his future and past, cooks me dinner, spends the night, spoons me when we sleep... And then ghosts me? I mean, how am I supposed to trust guys after this? We’re in our mid-late twenties, how is this acceptable behavior at our age? I’m so hurt by this. I know we haven’t been dating for long, but this hurts so bad. And I know two days isn’t a long time, but we talk frequently. This is definitely a direct attempt to ignore me. I feel hurt, used and hopeless when it comes to dating again. I mean, what’s the point? Submitted May 13, 2019 at 05:00AM I’ve been dating this...

Please let me know if this experience is actually seems as bizarre as it seems to me

I (19M) met probably one of the most beautiful girls (22 F) I had ever laid eyes on sitting at this table with me in this networking event at my college. My buddy that went with me both joked about how pretty she was after it was over but yet not to the same level because I was honestly starstruck. Not only beautiful but very, smart, poised and foreign. Plus, the whole time we were at the table I kept noticing what looked like her stealing glances at me. Great! Thought I would never see her again though. But it gets better.... I kept joking with my buddy about amazing that girl was and couldn't get her off my head. Later on, it hit me like a ton of bricks when another very attractive girl at my part-time job who i saw every now and then, wearing geeky bookbags I thought was cute, was actually the same girl from earlier! I realized it as I saying a joke to a freind on the way out and she overheard and chuckled. Like a movie, time seemed to slow down as i put two and too together a...

Happy Mother's Day...

On the holidays such as today, As I see guys who are constantly in my DM make these beautiful posts about the special lady in their life, is it wrong that my first thought is, "oh, so that's who you're cheating on?". LOL Submitted May 13, 2019 at 05:25AM On the holidays such as today, As I see guys who are constantly in my DM make these beautiful posts about the special lady in their life, is it wrong that my first thought is, "oh, so that's who you're cheating on?". LOL

When should I assume that a person is sending me signals of interest?

I remember a recent question on r/AskReddit , entitled "Women of reddit, what's the most obvious hint you gave to a guy that he didn't pick up on?" It got several interesting responses, many of which did not read to me like obvious signals of interest: From u/paige120 : "I literally wrapped my arms around him from behind and told him how cute I though the was." If a woman did that to me, completely out of the blue, I would assume that she was making fun of me. I'd be really embarrassed. From u/Honey_Pot77 : "I told a few friends I had tried to flirt with a guy for a while and he was in that group of friends. He asked about the guy in question and I described him. Absolutely zero recognition on his face." Why would I assume that she was talking about me when she was explicitly referring to somebody else? Even if he sounds physically similar to me, there's plenty of other guys in the world that she's far more likely to be talkin...

sending "superlike" on tinder = extremely low hit rate

I've been on my new tinder account for 31 days and keeping notes of everything I do(I recommend you keep notes too so if you reinstall it you can use the data to improve). I have sent 24 superlikes and only 2 hit (8% strike rate), 1 hit for every 12 superlikes, extremely poor. superlike is useless, how about you guys? Submitted May 13, 2019 at 06:04AM I've been on my new tinder account for 31 days and keeping notes of everything I do(I recommend you keep notes too so if you reinstall it you can use the data to improve).I have sent 24 superlikes and only 2 hit (8% strike rate), 1 hit for every 12 superlikes, extremely poor.superlike is useless, how about you guys?

Are festivals, sporting events, or any big public event good places to meet girls?

There's plenty of girls to choose from but it's crowded and I'm usually trying to enjoy the event. I actually find it really hard to make a connection unless a girl is standing right next to me and we find some bond relating to the event.i dunno, i feel myself trying to just have fun instead of hitting on girls. I honestly think those type of places are terrible to meet girls because everyone isn't there for that. I'm usually stressed worrying about other things but I do feel pressure because this is like the only time you'll see so many options. Submitted May 13, 2019 at 06:35AM There's plenty of girls to choose from but it's crowded and I'm usually trying to enjoy the event. I actually find it really hard to make a connection unless a girl is standing right next to me and we find some bond relating to the event.i dunno, i feel myself trying to just have fun instead of hitting on girls. I honestly think those type of places are terrible to me...

I’m [19M] going on my first ever date

After we’ve gone to the restaurant and had a walk on the beach (at night) I’m going to invite her over to my place to watch Netflix & maybe have some drinks. I need advice on how to keep my cool (she’s soooo hot) and potentially seduce her? (Not the ultimate goal though, just wanna have a great time) Submitted May 13, 2019 at 06:42AM After we’ve gone to the restaurant and had a walk on the beach (at night) I’m going to invite her over to my place to watch Netflix & maybe have some drinks. I need advice on how to keep my cool (she’s soooo hot) and potentially seduce her? (Not the ultimate goal though, just wanna have a great time)

Where best place in interenet to find cutre adorable subcultural asian waifus?

Just be white, they say, and I am white, but have no interest in ordinary feamels from village. As gentleman of culture, need waifu of culture, and being subcultural is one of ways to achieve it. So where is dating site with cute adorable asian girls who punk, emo, metal, and would like to meet with white gentleman of culture? Have no yellow fewer, any color of waifu ok for me, but must be cute adorable and petite, and so asians are interesting because can be like that easier than others Submitted May 13, 2019 at 06:51AM Just be white, they say, and I am white, but have no interest in ordinary feamels from village. As gentleman of culture, need waifu of culture, and being subcultural is one of ways to achieve it. So where is dating site with cute adorable asian girls who punk, emo, metal, and would like to meet with white gentleman of culture?Have no yellow fewer, any color of waifu ok for me, but must be cute adorable and petite, and so asians are interesting because can be li...

I can’t get over this guy that doesn’t like me back

I’ve liked one of my really good guy friends for a long time now and it’s gotten to the point where I don’t know what to do anymore. I know he doesn’t like me and I also know that he’s not interested in starting a relationship with any girl that’s in our friend group because he enjoys our company too much to ruin it. To give some backstory, I became friends with him over these past couple of years. It wasn’t until this year that I started to really like him and before I knew it a couple of his friends and my girlfriends became this group that we all really enjoy to hang out with. Saddest part is that instead of me, he liked one of my friends for about two weeks (which none of us are supposed to know but we forced it out of one of his friends lol) and he told his friend that he decided to get over her because he likes hanging out with the group and would sacrifice his crush for it. So long story short, he wouldn’t make any moves with me no matter what I do given that we’re all about to...

Lying...

Anyone else’s SO lie about small stuff and have it undermine your trust in your partner? Like the cliche “if they’ll lie about this?” My SO lied (at least I think she did) about getting our moms cards for Mother’s Day. We were out last night and she picked up a couple of cards for our moms and I mentioned “what happened to the cards you already bought?” Her response, “I can’t find them”. My wife hates wasting money. So I don’t see her dropping money on extra cards when she could just find them. I don’t know if it’s in my head or not.... Submitted May 12, 2019 at 09:10AM Anyone else’s SO lie about small stuff and have it undermine your trust in your partner? Like the cliche “if they’ll lie about this?” My SO lied (at least I think she did) about getting our moms cards for Mother’s Day. We were out last night and she picked up a couple of cards for our moms and I mentioned “what happened to the cards you already bought?” Her response, “I can’t find them”. My wife hates wasting mon...

Need some help, what to do next

I have been dating my wife for 12 years, we have been married for 6 years. The first 3.5 years of our marriage were great, I felt in love. We had our first son, and although times were sometimes hard, i felt we were in it together. My wife got pregnant with our second child and a month later, things fell off the tracks. This girl messaged my wife on facebook saying I dated her in the first couple years I was dating my wife, so like 3 or 4 years before we were married. I was 24 at the time, no excuse but i was young and dumb. My wife already knew that i talked to girls back then, but because this girl said we dated she thought it was more. I tried to explain that yes i talked to her, but we never kisssed and certainly never dated. I took responsibility that I was dumb and I was wrong. Every sense then things have been different. My wife stopped wearing her wedding ring while she was pregnant with our second child and hasnt put it back on sense. Hes 18 months now. When i ask she claim...

Did any of you have a list of traits you wanted your future spouse to have and if so, does your spouse fit them?

I know it’s common to have ideas or even standards in your head about what kind of person you eventually want to marry and I’m just curious how many of those things ended up being important (Could be personality traits, physical appearance, hobbies, etc.). If your spouse doesn’t have these traits you desired when you were younger or dreaming about your future spouse, do you ever find yourself wishing they did? For clarity, I’m not really talking about things that would be considered dealbreakers or non-negotiable, more like strong preferences. Submitted May 12, 2019 at 01:33PM I know it’s common to have ideas or even standards in your head about what kind of person you eventually want to marry and I’m just curious how many of those things ended up being important (Could be personality traits, physical appearance, hobbies, etc.). If your spouse doesn’t have these traits you desired when you were younger or dreaming about your future spouse, do you ever find yourself wishing they...

Love is a verb.

Love is not a feeling; love is a verb. Love is not equalivant to liking one person more than you like other people. To love is to act lovingly toward another person - to treat them with compassion. To make the daily choice to understand them as fully human without idolization or judgment. To be present for them and to take actions that make their day more enjoyable to the best of your ability. But you can't fully love another person without loving yourself. Do for yourself all of the above, and more. When you fill your bucket with loving actions, your capacity to love others will overflow. Submitted May 12, 2019 at 03:30PM Love is not a feeling; love is a verb. Love is not equalivant to liking one person more than you like other people.To love is to act lovingly toward another person - to treat them with compassion. To make the daily choice to understand them as fully human without idolization or judgment. To be present for them and to take actions that make their day more...

Marriage counselor in Atlanta, GA

Any good recommendations? I am lost as to how to find a good one... Submitted May 12, 2019 at 04:56PM Any good recommendations? I am lost as to how to find a good one...

How did you and your significant other have your marriage talk?

I'm 25M, just wondering how couples have gone about having the marriage talk Submitted May 12, 2019 at 05:16PM I'm 25M, just wondering how couples have gone about having the marriage talk

Feeling so unappreciated

Throwaway account for privacy reasons. So my husband 26M and I (28F) have been together 4 years, married for less than two months. Over the years I have felt unappreciated by him (especially after we moved in together 3 years ago), but honestly the last week or so it’s at another level, Before you suggest communicating it, I have. Sometimes he says he’ll be better and others he says he doesn’t need me to do all the things I do for him (cook us dinner every weeknight and most weekends, prepare his breakfast for the week every Sunday, remember whose birthday is when etc.). I’ve even talked to him about mental load more than once and he’s basically blown it off. For context, we both work full time and part-time, and I make slightly more than he does. I’ve tried stopping doing things for him so he can realize everything I do, and he does complain. For example, sometimes I won’t make his breakfast for the week because he chose not to eat it the prior week and it went bad or because he w...

What's your definition of love?

Married 14 years. My faith has changed quite a lot recently, and as a result, I no longer believe that I am obligated to remain married unless my husband is abusive or unfaithful. My husband says that this means I don't love him. That love is committment, and committment means that divorce is simply not an option ever, no matter how miserable a person is or for how long. He says that he will never feel really happy with me unless he can have the security of knowing that I am "committed" to him according to his definition of committment. He says that he believes that this is the point of marriage; the security that the marriage vows provide, and being able to know for sure that your spouse will never leave. Of course I agree that committment is a big part of marriage, and an important aspect of marital love. But to me, committment means sticking it out through rough times and putting in the effort to make the relationship better, not promising to stay forever, no matter...

I keep falling for him over and over.

He woke me up this morning with some sweet kisses that led to a nice romp around the bed :) led me downstairs to the most beautiful flowers, coffee and a delicious breakfast. Something I had mentioned weeks ago that even I had forgotten about. The kids gifted me the most beautiful handbag that I’ve had eyes on for a while. We finished breakfast and he carried me back to bed while he drew me a warm bath. I can only imagine what the rest of the day will bring. He’s so amazing 😍 Submitted May 12, 2019 at 07:17PM He woke me up this morning with some sweet kisses that led to a nice romp around the bed :) led me downstairs to the most beautiful flowers, coffee and a delicious breakfast. Something I had mentioned weeks ago that even I had forgotten about. The kids gifted me the most beautiful handbag that I’ve had eyes on for a while. We finished breakfast and he carried me back to bed while he drew me a warm bath. I can only imagine what the rest of the day will bring. He’s so amazin...

im gay

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Ideas for first-year paper-themed anniversary trip, after rough year of hurricane recovery?

Background: It’s been a rough start! My husband and I married in November ... only three weeks after Hurricane Michael devastated our area in the Florida Panhandle. Even now, seven months later, hurricane repairs are ongoing. We’re living in a house under construction (roof, windows, walls, floors!) with nearly all of our possessions in storage - and it’s not been easy dealing with insurers. Our entire community is rebuilding and will be for long after this year; nearly everyone is displaced or rebuilding so our friends are stressed and busy, too. (Frankly, we don’t have things nearly as bad as many here do.) Access to counseling and other services is still extremely limited. To top it off we’ve personally had other unforeseen difficulties like a car accident that caused a minor injury and totaled his car (other driver ran a stop sign). We know the first year of marriage is not always easy, but this has been quite the first year! We’ve been through a lot - together - and I want to pl...

Brother and wife......my trust is broken

Just found out my (m41)brother (m44) (also my best man at my wedding) and my wife (f40) spent the night together (in my bed) prior to us dating, i wanted to be with her at the time this happened. I had asked my wife before we were married if anything had happened at all that night she said no. So she lied and my brother also kept it from me. Pretty much everyone knew but me. This would have been a marriage deal breaker for me. After confronting her she says they fooled around but she is "pretty sure" they never had sex. Not sure i beleive either of them. Should i be upset and what would you do to deal with this? I am embarrassed and extremely hurt. Submitted May 13, 2019 at 03:16AM Just found out my (m41)brother (m44) (also my best man at my wedding) and my wife (f40) spent the night together (in my bed) prior to us dating, i wanted to be with her at the time this happened.I had asked my wife before we were married if anything had happened at all that night she said...

Giving her an ultimatum..

My wife (25) and I (27) have been together for 7 years and married for the last 3 years. We have no kids. We have been going through some serious stuff. She found out her dad was not her biological father in November. We had a failed IVF cycle in December. She has been emotionally drained after all this. I found out today that she has been messaging a male coworker and the things that were said are not okay for a married woman to be saying. She claims that nothing else has happened, I do believe that. I work away all week and only see her on weekends or every other weekend. I earn 85% of our income. The ultimatum I gave her was that she can quit her job and travel with me to spend more time together to rebuild this marriage or we can start the divorce process. She says she wants to be married to me and wants our marriage to work. She has admitted she messed up. I feel like it’s harsh but I’m not okay with leaving for a week or two at a time due to the lack of trust between us now. Any...

I recently had a thought

I recently had a thought...what if I find a good partner that makes a good match for me but train myself to never fall in love with her? My last relationship taught me something and that is that if I dont care too much for the girl aside from trying to maintain the relationship, I can handle her drama. Once I catch feelings, I get needy and my brain stops being able to handle her drama well which causes the relationship to end. So here is my thought, I'll find someone who seems good for me and refuse to truly love her. This way, I wont get hurt and I will be able to deal with her drama. 25 M. My alternative is to keep looking for true love, someone who will put up with my flaws, constantly falling, and being forever alone. Thoughts? Submitted May 13, 2019 at 05:58AM I recently had a thought...what if I find a good partner that makes a good match for me but train myself to never fall in love with her? My last relationship taught me something and that is that if I dont car...

It seems that platonic relationships are much more simple. Who else can relate ?

It seems to me that frienships are much more simple then romantic relationships and marriages. In a marriage or relationship, you have to meet your partners standards and fulfil their expectations and sometimes it can be tiring. Marriage in general is hard but it's even harder for a man. Before you even get married, you must be fairly wealthy and have a good paying job. Which is reasonable enough but the other things that makes it hard is that you have to look your best, be strong and have the best physical appearance. It's like a competition almost. You have to perform really well in bed, work out and exercise a lot because you don't wanna get fat or otherwise your partner may still be friends (which is a bad thing because romantic partners are not met to be friends) but she may lose attraction and stark seeking attention outside of the relationship. Exercising is great and all but when I know that I kinda have to do it for the sake of my wife, it makes me hate sometimes....

love of life

If i thought for a moment that this would be my last breath, I'd tell you that I'll love you forever even beyond death. If i thought for a moment that your face would be the last I'd see, I'd take thousands of picture & save them for me. If i thought for a moment that your voice would be the last I'd hear, I'd listen attentively & promise not to shed a tear. If i thought for a moment that your touch would be the last I'd feel, I'd embrace you & know that this has all been real. If i thought for a moment that my heart would beat its last beat, I'd thank the god for allowing us to meet. Submitted May 12, 2019 at 08:11AM If i thought for a moment that this would be my last breath,I'd tell you that I'll love you forever even beyond death.If i thought for a moment that your face would be the last I'd see,I'd take thousands of picture & save them for me.If i thought for a moment that your voice would be the l...