Contradicting date behaviour

Hey Reddit, I'll try and keep this short and sweet.

I met a girl on tinder a couple weeks back. We hit off instantly and decided to meet up, which we did soon after. We spent the whole day together walking, eating pizza in a park and biking home with all detours possible so we could get to talk more. After the date she texted me that she felt very comfortable around me. During this time we texted a lot together, and she seemed head over heels, showing a LOT of interest.

Second date was even better, we went to the zoo and had a fantastic time together. She wrote a really sweet card which she gave me there and we laughed all the time and no silent moments were present. We also talked about a lot of 'taboo' subjects, in which we found a lot of common ground. After the zoo we had dinner at my mother's, which was something she wanted to do. After that date she nervously asked if my mother liked her, and asked me 'what's next, if you're not tired of me yet' (in a joking manner).

Shortly after this, she started barely responding to my texts. Most of the time she either left me on read for hours or didn't bother opening up the texts at all. So, a week or so passes and I ask her if she's lost the feelings, and if so to tell me so we can both move on. She explained that this is common behavior for her; she talks a lot to new people she meets but once she gets to know them well she isn't on top of it anymore.

Anyways, third date comes around which was a short 'let's see each other for a bit' date. It was nice, nothing special, just a good time. The late texting thing ensues, and a week or two later she texts me that she had a great time but she misses that 'extra feeling', and that she always crushes hard but for short times, but would love to remain friends because she did feel so comfortable around me.

To clarify, we're both pretty young (she's 18, I'm 22) and she's never had a 'real' relationship before.

The friend text happened two weeks ago and I genuinely need some sort of wake up call. Over time I've been getting more and more feelings for her, and lately it's been hard not to think about her. I told her I'd love to remain friends but I'll need some time to get over my feelings first, which she understood. We barely text now.

So I can't help but wonder what happened. Why did she suddenly switch from the excited 'what's next' to a flatline in romantic interest? She has been so nice and genuine all the time, and even the friend text was so friendly and well written. I'm hoping one of you lads or ladies can bring me any advice what to do next, because the constant thoughts (and even dreams, recently) are getting to my head.

Submitted May 13, 2019 at 04:10AM

Hey Reddit, I'll try and keep this short and sweet.I met a girl on tinder a couple weeks back. We hit off instantly and decided to meet up, which we did soon after. We spent the whole day together walking, eating pizza in a park and biking home with all detours possible so we could get to talk more. After the date she texted me that she felt very comfortable around me. During this time we texted a lot together, and she seemed head over heels, showing a LOT of interest.Second date was even better, we went to the zoo and had a fantastic time together. She wrote a really sweet card which she gave me there and we laughed all the time and no silent moments were present. We also talked about a lot of 'taboo' subjects, in which we found a lot of common ground. After the zoo we had dinner at my mother's, which was something she wanted to do. After that date she nervously asked if my mother liked her, and asked me 'what's next, if you're not tired of me yet' (in a joking manner).Shortly after this, she started barely responding to my texts. Most of the time she either left me on read for hours or didn't bother opening up the texts at all. So, a week or so passes and I ask her if she's lost the feelings, and if so to tell me so we can both move on. She explained that this is common behavior for her; she talks a lot to new people she meets but once she gets to know them well she isn't on top of it anymore.Anyways, third date comes around which was a short 'let's see each other for a bit' date. It was nice, nothing special, just a good time. The late texting thing ensues, and a week or two later she texts me that she had a great time but she misses that 'extra feeling', and that she always crushes hard but for short times, but would love to remain friends because she did feel so comfortable around me.To clarify, we're both pretty young (she's 18, I'm 22) and she's never had a 'real' relationship before.The friend text happened two weeks ago and I genuinely need some sort of wake up call. Over time I've been getting more and more feelings for her, and lately it's been hard not to think about her. I told her I'd love to remain friends but I'll need some time to get over my feelings first, which she understood. We barely text now.So I can't help but wonder what happened. Why did she suddenly switch from the excited 'what's next' to a flatline in romantic interest? She has been so nice and genuine all the time, and even the friend text was so friendly and well written. I'm hoping one of you lads or ladies can bring me any advice what to do next, because the constant thoughts (and even dreams, recently) are getting to my head.