Tl;dr should I buy my partners side of the family gifts, or should i leave it up to him and have them go giftless? My fiancee and I have been together almost 8 years. We have a 6mo baby together. On my side of the family, we have 5 nieces and nephews. My partner has 4 nieces and nephews on his side. Years ago when things got serious, I said that I want him to be in control of buying his side of the family gifts etc. Buying and sending gifts on time honestly, really stresses me out. Cut a long story short, he never gets around to buying his family gifts. I make sure I always do for my side, it's important to me to let the kids know I think and care about them. I feel really bad his side never receive gifts from us. Especially the kids. (They don't send us any either). Should I be biting the bullet and getting them gifts? Or should he stop being lazy and do it himself? I have gone to in the past, but his families interests and the type of gifts they like, are different ...

Hi everyone, I (21F) have been having lots of issues with my roommate (21F). I think it’s to the point where she is trying to make me sick/ crazy by stealing my things. We’ve been living together for two years and I stopped talking to her, because I realized/think she was making me sick and rummaging through my things. To begin, we were close friends in first year of university, I met her through a friend and we use to all hang out. My whole life I’ve never really gotten sick, and when I did it was about once or twice a year and a mild cold at most. But, looking back to when I started getting extremely sick and experiencing weird things it all happened when I was with her. First, when we got close I realized how clingy she was, always wanting to be together, texting me all the time and asking why I won’t respond or why I wasn’t in my normal spot in the library for the day even when I didn’t make plans to go with her. This roommate appears really sweet and caring but she was so clingy...

I am pretty conflicted right now. I have known both of my best friend’s since 7th grade and we all just graduated together. I’m so pissed and hurt about what happened and I never thought that they would backstab me like this. So, we usually have sleepovers at my place since I am the only one with a pool, and we hang out like this almost every weekend (fridays and saturdays). I knew that they found my brother attractive (everyone does) because they had told me before, but I did not expect them to mess around and actually pursue him. We usually all sleep in my room on the floor during the sleepovers , and my brother does talk with us or hang our with us sometimes but I kick hik out because I know he is just trying to get at my friends. This barely happened. I had woken up at night to use the restroom, and I noticed that not only one, but BOTH pf my friends were not sleeping and I kind of looked around the house for them. I checked my brother’s room and they were in there having sex wi...

He's been my step dad since I was 7. We're only 16 years apart. Through most of my life I felt that he was taking me under his wing and giving me a better life than I would have had otherwise. My mom had a lot of mental illness as I grew up and I was almost my little sister's mother because of it. But things started getting really weird when I got to high school age. Step dad was a marine officer, post 9/11, so he deployed a lot. Mom sank into depression and anxiety and was emotionally unavailable, though we used to be very close when she was a single mom. When I was 17, my step dad left the Marines bc his contract was up. We moved to Louisiana, where my mom is from. Our home had no furniture and I owned only the most minimal of clothing - only men's jeans and some blue or green sweaters and tshirts. My hair was in a low pony tail, held back by a scrunchie. Mom wouldn't let me wear anything else. Gradually, leading up to college, my step dad became more and more ...

Hello, I find myself in an interesting position where I am dating two women, both of whom I like. I am wanting to start a serious relationship with one of them but there is some complications. The first girl (24F), I have been casually dating for a couple months now. She has made it known that she just got out of a serious relationship and she is not ready to commit to another right away. However, I am very attracted to her emotionally and physically. We are still dating and I think there is a chance that she will eventually want to date me seriously. The second girl (23F) seems to be ready to commit to a serious relationship (at least in comparison). I have been on three dates with her, and I like her quite a bit too (and I think it's mutual). I think I have a better personal connection with (24F), but there are things I really like about (23F) that (24F) lacks. The obvious answer is to commit to (23F). Yet I am still conflicted in that I seem to, overall, have a better connect...

Throwaway because duh. He's always hated putting on clothes (would rip off his clothes whenever mom wasn't looking since he learned how) and in recent years whenever he's at home from school, three times out of five he strips naked and watches tv/plays on his phone sprawled on the couch in the living room regardless of if someone's there or not. Sometimes he touches his penis during this as well, which he does even on the occasion when he has his pants on. I don't have a problem with casual nudity, but it still makes me uncomfortable from family members because it's a level of intimacy i'm not comfortable with when it comes to them. I try not to look at his crotch but he always sits in a way that makes it clearly visible, or I register movement and automatically look only to see him touching his penis. He is starting puberty and it's getting real fucking awkward. Everyone except for me dismisses it as just him being a child, but I feel like it's g...

He seems really anti phone which I respect, I remembered that about him from years back. But we’ve started talking recently. He texts me a couple times a day every couple days or so. 2 nights ago we went out on an impromptu date and it went really well. We stayed at the restaurant well past closing (sorry..) because he said he was enjoying talking. He was really nice and texted me that night and said he can’t wait to hang again. He didn’t make any moves or anything which is a nice change of pace from other people I’ve dated. Just a hug. Also, he is genuinely extremely busy with work right now and moving. I don’t know if it’s that he’s not that interested or texting in general just isn’t a priority. Which is fine with me, I’m just not used to it. Does it sound like he’s interested? Tl;dr title Submitted June 24, 2019 at 11:53PM He seems really anti phone which I respect, I remembered that about him from years back. But we’ve started talking recently. He texts me a couple times a...

We've been together 15 years, married 9. No kids. Burial honesty here, our relationship started out poorly, I lied about my life course and goals, she found out but stayed with me anyways. I've been stagnate working the same dead end job for ten years. Resentment, justified, surfaced and I'm now working on education to further career goals, nine years late. She knows about my coursework and that it's real this time. I've been researching jobs but the schooling and experience will take minimum a year to get on track to get a better job. My circle of friends had withered a bit due to moves and neglect and I've spent most of my time with my wife. I think I've been overburdening her emotionally by keeping her as my only friend. I'm not a social outcast but usually I'd rather spend time with her than coworkers or friends. I think I've become boring and less interesting. Most of my interests have become hers as well so I have nothing new to share wit...

This will be quite long, so skip to the TL;DR if you do not wish to read all the details! ​ I met this guy recently, let's call him R, and immediately began crushing on him primarily due to his physical appearance. I've been recovering from my previous break-up which has hit me quite hard, and honestly I haven't completely recovered from. It's been nearly a year since my break-up and I later meet R and we've been communicating via Snapchat the past 2-3 weeks. ​ I have major trust issues with guys due to personal experience. I've been naive in the past, fell for charming guys and the sweet things they've said, only to know it meant absolutely nothing and they turn out different than what they've initially led on. I have the same reservations about R. ​ R can be very dry when communicating via text. When we first started texting, it was quite difficult to really enjoy chatting with him because of his texting style. Eventually, we voice chatted and t...

We broke up a few months ago, things were fine. We handled the breakup maturely and we've both moved on. He's seeing someone else, I'm just kind of seeing what's out there before I make any big decisions. The past week or so, my ex has got very rude. It started with him blocking me on social media. I was confused, so messaged asking why. He said that I'm crazy, would mess up his new relationship, stalk him. I don't do any of these things. I've checked his Instagram maybe once or twice a month just to see. I don't make a habit of it. I'm not crazy either. We argued. He called me a liar, said I talked about him behind his back, left him with insecurities, was awful, he never knew me. I never lied, I never talked about him behind his back, and I (to the best of my knowledge) didn't do anything that could cause insecurity. I was 100% in the relationship from the second we started dating, and if he had any issues I would have been willing to work o...

This is a throwaway account, as one of the parties involved (Sam) knows my main handle. Ok, bit of backstory. Late 2015/early 2016 I was sharing a house with my friend Leonie [25F, as mentioned in title, 22 at time of these events]. Our other housemate was interstate for a few months, so we bring in this subletter - we’ll call him Sam [27M, 24 at this point]. Leonie joked that she’d matched with him on Tinder. He was VERY good looking and, it proved, a pretty warm and interesting guy. He and I got along well. I had a very small crush which I didn’t fan the flames of, as I was in a (ultimately not great) LTR. Around late January these two started hooking up. Leonie was pretty into Sam; not so much the other way around (my perception at the time of events was that he was just a more passive guy, and that he was ok with everything but not pushing for it). I don’t know exact details but I think they had sex a few times, plus some public making out. He moved out when our old housemate mo...

Nice. What flavors are black and gray? Lol June 25, 2019 at 12:15AM

Hey! it’s been a bit but I figured you deserved an update with how you helped me so much and all. I’m in a much more comfortable place emotionally and I can’t thank you enough for the advice you gave in helping that, I’ve kept good on leaving the house everyday and have no intention of stopping, I’m better for it as well as I’ve even lost some weight!! Doing a lot of self reflecting and even coming to this community more has planted me more comfortably in knowing who I am. And I’ve taken an approach of taking this time for me, I’ve decided until i am someone I’d be proud to present To my peers I’d rather keep to myself if that makes sense? I found some ace colored stuff in my local clothes stores!! And have decided to go to my cities pride next month. I sill get sad some days. And certain nights I feel like I’m not worth it, but I do my best to be a confrontational prick to the little weirdo in my head who can’t find something better to do than call me fat lol. When it comes to me and...

Essentially. I can recognise when something is erotic but I have never felt compelled to act on that. I get checking someone out but I don't get feeling like I want to have sex with that person because they're hot. June 25, 2019 at 12:05AM

Oh June 25, 2019 at 12:03AM

*the whoops my b June 25, 2019 at 12:03AM

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That’s okay. I will stick to the wholesome ones. And if I really want to see more bad enough, I could always make my own June 24, 2019 at 11:59PM

Bad joke is bad joke, sorry to get your hopes up friend. Trans pikachu memes can be wholesome though! June 24, 2019 at 11:54PM

So shouldn't we explain this to teenagers as they grow up? June 24, 2019 at 11:54PM

Oh for sure, being a guy made it much harder to accept certain things about being ace things like feeling wrong or like i can’t connect with my peers and especially my sex obsessed dad. Luckily though I’ve met some of the most understanding people to help me be where I am now. AND OMG YES, I know exactly what your saying and even to that point I’m a bit behind the curve, people showing me what is supposed to be super attractive females and it’s always yeah but like, whatever right? However it’s made making friends with girls and “hot” people super easy so it kinda made me semi popular? Which was mad cool June 24, 2019 at 11:54PM

So what do you mean when you say she looks hot? Just aesthetic attraction and not sexual? June 24, 2019 at 11:53PM

Yay! June 24, 2019 at 11:51PM