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Tips for when you've been single for awhile and feel a bit hopeless?

I recently turned 30! I have a pretty great life overall and love my friends, family, and job and feel really fortunate. However, the one thing that's missing is that I've been single for coming up on two years. I'm pretty independent and am making the best of my life, but I feel so ready to find a partner I'm excited about to build a life with, and dating hasn't been going great. It's been a while since I have met someone I clicked with and got excited about... I know it's better to be single than in the wrong relationship... and I've had two boyfriends in the past, so I know I'm not totally unlovable.... but it's just starting to feel like I might never fall in love or find a partner, and it feels hard seeing all my friends find their person and tell me it will happen for me too when it just feels like most people are partnered up... I know I'll have to be okay if I never find someone to love and have kids like I had always hoped, but woul...

Unsure as to when I should ask her out and how exactly

Little background about myself- I'm an INFJ male aged 27. I've been single for about 6 years now why could be a whole story but the most prominent one being that I've usually worked long hours and consciously never thought of dating women at work. I'm not socially awkward however I'm definitely not someone who could go and start a conversation with a stranger. Once you've made me comfortable, I am pretty open and you'd most likely feel that I'm a good conversationalist so no real issues there. I've moved to a new country recently. I'm pushing myself to do stuff that I wouldn't normally do. I've joined meet up groups and gone out with strangers for hikes and to play football. Similarly, I've gone to a couple of Bachata classes (second one was today). There is this girl in the class that I REALLY like. I wrote like 3 paragraphs and deleted them but in short, I tried my best to talk to her and today she too seemed to make attempts to ...

Is it normal to boast about how many girls you’ve had sex with

I (20) have been talking to this guy (23) and he says he wants to date me seriously. Everything was going well until he started telling me his past sex stories completely unprovoked. He always goes into detail and makes sure to tell me how beautiful the girl was, with a detailed description and everything. And he’s talked about a Lot of different girls. I only recently started going on dates but this has happened with a few men. I always leave because it’s a huge turn off and it makes me feel weird. I’ve never had a long term relationship so I don’t know if this is just something that comes with them. edit: to clarify i have never asked Submitted September 28, 2022 at 12:02AM I (20) have been talking to this guy (23) and he says he wants to date me seriously. Everything was going well until he started telling me his past sex stories completely unprovoked. He always goes into detail and makes sure to tell me how beautiful the girl was, with a detailed description and everything...

should I change my likes to be in a relationship?

Hello new here and first time posting. Also currently in mobile sorry for formatting issues. I( f27) have been dating N(M28) for over 4 months. I like N he is a good guy and after the 3rd month of dating I started questioning why we haven't made it official. When friends ask why he always says we are taking things slow and there is no rush. We honestly have good chemistry. My suspicion was that maybe he was concerned about our income difference. He makes way more money than me. I work at a daycare which I love. He never said anything about my job but since our connection is really good that's the only thing I could think of. Well today I heard the real reason why he won't ask me to be his girlfriend. I wasn't feeling very well so I left work early. While driving I felt light headed and since N apartment is closer to my job I decided to rest there before heading home. I have a key and I have done this in the past with Ns permission of course. As I was opening the door I...

Please help Reddit. (Relationship advise)

Hi Reddit community. I am 21 years old and have been in a coming up 2 year relationship. I am needing some genuine and honest advise weather it be harsh or not. My partner and I recently went to a party and it was all going well, until... This guy that was there kept saying to everyone how he hadn't kissed a girl or had any action in 6 years, and felt a bit lonely. My girlfriend was the first one to stand up and say "I can kiss you!" She then went over and grabbed him on the shoulder and asked me in front of everyone if she could kiss him. I instantly said no, and felt embarrassed and like I was jealous. The reason this upsets me is because she has done things like this multiple times throughout our relationship, and I have never done anything disloyal to her or broken any boundaries. She has very strict boundaries for me and she won't even let me meet any new female friends as an example let alone kiss another woman. Her reasoning for this is because it was "Ju...

More Bumble matches all of a sudden

My (33M) best friend (straight woman) recommended I change my info to seeking casual instead of relationship and write about how I'm busy with work/grad school with limited free time. I made the changes and used some spotlights (like tinder's boost) and now I'm getting about 4 or 5 likes per day from women instead of 4 or 5 likes per week. I didn't change any profile pictures either. I'd say my profile pics are 6/10 quality and generic. Just thought I'd throw that out there since it seemed pretty surprising! Submitted September 28, 2022 at 12:11AM My (33M) best friend (straight woman) recommended I change my info to seeking casual instead of relationship and write about how I'm busy with work/grad school with limited free time. I made the changes and used some spotlights (like tinder's boost) and now I'm getting about 4 or 5 likes per day from women instead of 4 or 5 likes per week. I didn't change any profile pictures either. I'd say ...

What’s the perfectly cutting thing to say to the older man who has played me like a fiddle?

I spend six months of the year in a small town in a foreign country. During the last few days of my stay, I slept with a much older man (I’m a 27 y/o woman, he’s in his late 50’s). We’ve had chemistry for a long time but I never thought he’d actually make a move on me - this town loves drama and gossip and you kind of have to keep a low profile to uphold your reputation. It’s silly but it’s the truth. To make a long story short, I began to get the hunch he had a girlfriend because of his strange behavior afterwards. For example, the last night I was in town, he comes over but leaves at 9:30pm, saying he wants to come back first thing in the morning at 6:30am and get in bed with me while I’m waking up. That morning when he comes over, I ask him what the deal is/where his head is at. Perfect opportunity to tell me he has a gf. He says nothing about it. Just generic shit that men think women like to hear. I leave the country. We talk every few days. He reaches out, he’s very responsive...