“Half the blank” is a saying not an exact percentage. I’ve gone through and tallied posts on an ace Facebook page many years ago and most were sex positive or neutral and every single post that leaned towards sex repulsed had comments saying not all aces are repulsed. Almost every single thing I’ve seen describing what asexual is tends to make sure to point out that some asexuals can like sex but rarely states the other way. July 17, 2021 at 12:51AM

The term escaped my mind while I was writing, but I've also been reading about aesthetic/visual attraction and I think that may be more accuate for how I see women physically. Not "I want to have sex with this person" but moreso "I find these physical characteristics appealing." But not in an artistic way - it still feels sexual to an extent. Can aesthetic attraction apply to secondary sexual characteristics? That seems sexual to me. Cuddling is appealing, and kissing to a lesser extent. Physical intimacy is still desirable but I don't think physical intimacy is inherently sexual. I don't know if demi is quite right. I'm not neutral to appearance until having a strong emotional connection with someone. I think some people look beautiful before getting to know them. It's just that the beauty itself doesn't make me want to pursue a relationship with them. There are also people much older than I am who I'd consider beautiful but would nev...

No I'm not aromantic. I have always experienced romantic attraction. I'm just not currently seeking a romantic relationship, as I don't have time for it. In my head, it doesn't make sense for someone who isn't sexually attracted to anyone to not enjoy having sex with every gender. But that obviously doesn't make it a fact, either. So I don't think its fair to say that you think sexual attraction correlates with sexual pleasure, especially with no scientific backing and just saying "it speaks for itself." July 17, 2021 at 12:49AM

I'm not much of a poster here, but I lurk a lot and see vast waves of posts swaying from one end to the other. I feel like this happens with a lot of subs, though. For instance, I also follow the /r/Fantasy sub and I really like grimdark books, but you'll see so many posts all at once being like, "Not ragging on grimdark, but I'm so tired of seeing the genre being posted every other day! Like, there are other genres out there. Let's hear it for my fellow epic fantasy readers!" or "I feel like we've lost the idea of what fantasy is all about and where it started. It's branched out into so many avenues, so let's get back to the high fantasy with serious magic, complex world building and intriguing characters!" It is what it is. It's going to keep happening and it'll never stop, in all things in life. They come in waves. I, myself, am sex-repulsed, but it's hard to really hit home for every 'branch' of ace individuals...

Inordinately relieved that I'm not the only person who feels this way! July 17, 2021 at 12:45AM

I think sex positive/neutral people don’t realize that memes are not support and when every time we speak up we get comments about how some aces like sex thrown at us, that isn’t a supportive space. July 17, 2021 at 12:44AM

I don't see any scientific studies that have been done on this topic since it kinda speaks for itself, lesbian women enjoy sex more with women than with men, for example, but yeah. Also I wanted to point out earlier (but I forgot to include it in my reply) that it sounds like you're aromantic? My friend who is aromantic almost describes sex the same way you do, but that might just be a coincidence, so I might be way off base here. July 17, 2021 at 12:44AM

I'm not talking about enjoying, i'm talking about initiating and seeking out sex. Having sex to keep a relationship, and incidentally enjoying it, is another thing. Also the analogy is dumb tbh. By that you could argue that most sexual people are actually asexual. That is if you don't horribly stereotype them as shallow animals looking for sex at first glance. July 17, 2021 at 12:43AM

I can see why you are antisocial, at least, at this point. I wouldn’t want a hypocrite in my social circle either. You want support and advise but hate people and take back your own words if you don’t like the response. Enjoy your life being an asshole. BTW you aren’t an asshole for being neurodivergent or being sex repulsed but asking for support and then actively rejecting ideas about support. I never said you didn’t have friends but that close friends are the best and most likely way to get support and explained why social media is bad for that. Including citing my sources. July 17, 2021 at 12:41AM

Buddy why are you purposefully trolling and shaming at this point. I would like to know. People who are unable to handle environments with others can still have friends. At this point you’re just trying to force your opinion and shame people who don’t think the way you believe they should think. Just stop. You e entirely derailed the conversation to attempt making a point that never was part of this conversation in the first place. I’m finished commenting to you because it’s clear you just want to insult and attack and take away from the point I originally made. July 17, 2021 at 12:40AM

Yes, but that’s because I am definitely gay. Got all the romantic parts, just not the sexual July 17, 2021 at 12:39AM

You can literally look through the sidebar of this community. Here I looked through for you because I have a feeling you wouldn't want to do it: here and here . We also have this love example here with analogies for you to properly understand sexual attraction: here . If you don't believe in or support other people that are supported under this reddit community I suggest you either 1. make your own post explaining your reasonings and convince the community otherwise or 2. make your own gatekept asexual community. There's nothing else to be said here, enjoy your evening. July 17, 2021 at 12:38AM

Hi guys I’m a 20 year old girl and lately I’ve been seeing this girl. I’m really into her and it feels like it’s the first time I’m really falling in love. However whenever we start kissing (and grinding and everything that goes with it) I ejaculate. It doesn’t feel like an orgasm and it isn’t even particularly pleasurable. It just kinda happens. But it does mean I lose my erection. Because of this we haven’t sex yet because when we’re leading up to it this happens. I’m really frustrated and this has never happened to me before. I’m also not a virgin so it’s not my first sexual experience. Would really appreciate some help and/or advice. Submitted July 16, 2021 at 11:35PM Hi guys I’m a 20 year old girl and lately I’ve been seeing this girl. I’m really into her and it feels like it’s the first time I’m really falling in love.However whenever we start kissing (and grinding and everything that goes with it) I ejaculate. It doesn’t feel like an orgasm and it isn’t even particularl...

I had sex with this guy and he decided to moderately choke me. It wasn't super hard and didn't hurt. I just thought it to be weird. Plus he made a comment that I belonged to him and that he wasn't just talking crap neither. Is this normal or a red flag since it wasn't something we talked about first? Submitted July 16, 2021 at 11:41PM I had sex with this guy and he decided to moderately choke me. It wasn't super hard and didn't hurt. I just thought it to be weird. Plus he made a comment that I belonged to him and that he wasn't just talking crap neither. Is this normal or a red flag since it wasn't something we talked about first?

I'm (M26) in a relationship with my boyfriend (M27). We live together. Basically I get things ready in the morning while he sleeps, as I work a couple hours before him. I have his coffee ready for him when he wakes up in a thermos. I decided to let him take a look at my porn drive and showed him one of my favorite videos, Ethan Slade is going to work, some dude nuts in his coffee, he drinks it, and then gets fucked on the counter (ugh such a good video). My boyfriend became really into the idea of not knowing if there is cum in the food I make for him. First it started as a joke and after a couple weeks, we were sexting and he told me he basically wants me to bust into his coffee. He doesn't want to know when I do it and when I don't, the possibility he says is exciting. I hate this idea IRL and it honestly is so fucking gross to me. I really don't think I can do this, it's just too weird. I'm surprised I find the idea so repulsive, but I really do. I mean...

ive been with my bf six years and our sex has been better and worse we've had really great sex one day and maybe the other not so much with I guess is normal but I think I just wish my bf was more leading in bed...hes more shy and although we've been together for a long time I feel like hes not so confident or whatever. there's been times where he has been freakier but like hes not consistent. he always wants me to hop on top and when hes horny hell just try to pulll me on top. like its annoying I feel like he doesn't initiate it as much or isn't as aggressive. my ex was super freaky and dirty and I know I shouldn't compare but I do like a more leading man in the bed...any girls have advice on changing this or what to do Submitted July 16, 2021 at 11:52PM ive been with my bf six years and our sex has been better and worse we've had really great sex one day and maybe the other not so much with I guess is normal but I think I just wish my bf was more le...

I (21M), relatively sexually inexperienced(but not a virgin), have been considering getting a female vibrator for when I have a girl over at my new place. There’s so many to choose from and don’t know what kind I should get if any at all. I just want to ensure a girl has a good time when she comes over. Additionally, I’ve been considering getting stuff like makeup wipes and tampons. What vibrators would you ladies consider getting? Something that hits the G spot, the clit, or both? Help would be appreciated :) Submitted July 16, 2021 at 11:52PM I (21M), relatively sexually inexperienced(but not a virgin), have been considering getting a female vibrator for when I have a girl over at my new place. There’s so many to choose from and don’t know what kind I should get if any at all. I just want to ensure a girl has a good time when she comes over. Additionally, I’ve been considering getting stuff like makeup wipes and tampons. What vibrators would you ladies consider getting? Someth...

So I’ve always felt like this is kind of weird and that maybe it only applies to me. The situation is, I really like to give BJs to a point where I tend to think about it more often than I think about myself having sex. As he fucks me, my mouth is empty and I begin to think about BJs again. I basically what a dick to fill my mouth while another dick fucks me. Now sex with him is great and I don’t see myself doing a three way anytime. I’ve considered the idea of sucking on a dildo while we do it but that idea just doesn’t really appeal to me as much as it appalled me. I need some things that maybe I could do to fix this. We tried to kiss but physically doing that would mean he needs to be in missionary and really strong so he doesn’t crush me since I’m not a fan of girl on top. Frankly other than the him on top one, the other positions which fit that need don’t feel so great to my vagina. We’ve tried having him penetrate me with a dildo while I sucked him off in 69 but the dildo just ...

My (24 F) Boyfriend (26 M) is (IMO) super vanilla. He’s never used a toy, or any additional items in his one past relationship. I on the other-hand have many fetishes/kinks compared to him (he literally can’t name a single one, we’ve looked at porn categories and he just says he only looks at the front page) which largely he can accommodate but the issue I’m running into is with physical items. I like light bdsm play, handcuffs, light rope use, sensation deprivation play, etc. I asked how he would feel if I did that to him, he wasn’t into it, ok no problem (although I wish). But when I asked if he could do that to me he was resistant. This makes me sad because it’s a big chunk of what I like. I, of course, don’t want him to have a bad time with me but I would like him to give it a chance. He voiced that he wouldn’t be able to verbally roleplay along and I told him thats fine, I’m don’t need him to say kinky stuff, I just really wanted someone who could tease me and spice things up phy...

I am dating a conservative guy that wants to wait with sex until marriage. I respect it. I'm 22 female and I have had relationships, had sex and lived with a boyfriend already. I'm curious to hear what your opinions and experiences are? Where do you think the line goes? What is okay to do and what isn't? I know I have to talk to him directly to know what his thoughts are, and I'm planning to do that. We have vaguely talked about it already, but I'm still trying to do my own online research. It's still pretty early in the dating relationship. Submitted July 17, 2021 at 12:19AM I am dating a conservative guy that wants to wait with sex until marriage. I respect it. I'm 22 female and I have had relationships, had sex and lived with a boyfriend already. I'm curious to hear what your opinions and experiences are? Where do you think the line goes? What is okay to do and what isn't? I know I have to talk to him directly to know what his thoughts are,...

Hey. I’m 21(F) and my mom found out that I have a dildo. She started crying, telling me that she’s disappointed. My big sis (26) told me that I’m a slut, that I’ll most probably start doing drugs or become a stripper. That she’s disgusted with me and she doesn’t know who I am anymore (wtf). I told them it’s smthing normal, that it’s something private, intimate. Then, my sis asked me in a mocking way if I tried to insert it up my ahole or suck it ( this shocked me… a lot…. Wth…). She made it seem like I just killed someone tbh. Why…? It’s something normal. Then they both began crying, telling me to throw it away. Of course I didn’t do it, I pretended to throw it away, but still. They just insulted me for almost 3 hours because of a frcking toy… wow. I know I didn’t do anything wrong, but could someone tell me why they acted like this? I’m sure the insults were not for making me feel better -.- Jesus Christ… Submitted July 17, 2021 at 12:19AM Hey. I’m 21(F) and my mom found out th...

On the night before my birthday me and my girlfriend are getting a hotel, tonight she told me I can choose anything I want to happen on the night. I’ve told her I don’t wanna do anything I know may hurt her, so I want to keep it within limits. She’s pretty much open to anything anyways and if it’s something to extreme she’ll say no. Anyways I’ve been into the idea of cuckolding for about a year and she’s keen on doing it eventually, we’ve not done it yet though, so I said so even next Friday you’d fuck someone else in front of me, and she said ‘absolutely anything you want’ so that’s one idea, she’s also my Dom. Anyways does anyone have an idea of anything I could ask her? I’m open to try anything so any idea would be great! Doesn’t have to be cuckolding or being a sub… any idea would be great and if we’re both up for it we’ll potentially try it. Submitted July 17, 2021 at 12:21AM On the night before my birthday me and my girlfriend are getting a hotel, tonight she told me I can...

Question to y'all: Do you feel like a king when you look to and see your girl going down on you on her knees while you enjoy a drink or a game on the couch? This is literally what my bf told me when I asked him what would be his biggest fantasy that did not involve anal, if I were to do it. Apparently this has been on his mind since he was a teenager and that really surprised me. Why do you all love to see a woman on her knees or blowing someone so much. Not getting a blowjob, that's fun, yeah, but the visuals, you know? Especially if she is undressed. Apparently that's also a thing. Submitted July 17, 2021 at 12:23AM Question to y'all: Do you feel like a king when you look to and see your girl going down on you on her knees while you enjoy a drink or a game on the couch?This is literally what my bf told me when I asked him what would be his biggest fantasy that did not involve anal, if I were to do it. Apparently this has been on his mind since he was a teenage...