So I've recently started having sex and I feel like I'm doing basically nothing. I run my hands over his body, wrap my legs around his waist, and kiss him wherever I can reach but I still feel as though he is doing all of the work. While riding I also cannot go as quickly as he can when he just grabs my hips and goes at it. I understand I am learning and this will take time, but how can I make myself feel more involved? tl;dr what can girls do to make it feel like you're fucking a human and not a dead fish? Also dick riding tips are appreciated pls and thanks. Submitted April 21, 2020 at 11:18PM So I've recently started having sex and I feel like I'm doing basically nothing. I run my hands over his body, wrap my legs around his waist, and kiss him wherever I can reach but I still feel as though he is doing all of the work.While riding I also cannot go as quickly as he can when he just grabs my hips and goes at it. I understand I am learning and this will ta...

What quirky, unusual, or disruptive sexual behavior have you experienced in the act with a partner? Submitted April 21, 2020 at 11:20PM What quirky, unusual, or disruptive sexual behavior have you experienced in the act with a partner?

just tried out my new vibrator. holy shit. i have never came so many times and so hard before in my entire life. i went like 7 rounds. i think i blacked out during the last 2.... LOL. i have been missing out. Submitted April 21, 2020 at 11:29PM just tried out my new vibrator. holy shit. i have never came so many times and so hard before in my entire life. i went like 7 rounds. i think i blacked out during the last 2.... LOL. i have been missing out.

My girlfriend and I have been having threesomes for a few months now. Its something we've both wanted for a couple years but we really got serious about doing it about 4 months ago. We are both in our lower 20s , workout on a daily basis and have no problems finding women to join us on dating apps. Lately we've been talking about all the things we want to try. She's really been coming out of her shell since the first time she got with a girl (who was awesome in bed and gave her a great first experience). She really isn't interested in other men. So no real interest in swinging however she's open to the idea of having sex in the same room as another couple. I like the idea of us using someone's wife/ girlfriend as our third. I guess it would be considered cucking not sure if there's a different term with a couple. I cant really seem to find alot of posts about this anywhere. My issue is that I wouldn't really consider myself a "bull". I'm ...

So after having to reorder my very first toy I’ve ever purchased (yes, someone actually stole my package containing a vibrator off my front porch) it finally arrived and I got to it before the neighborhood thiefs could. I haven’t used it by my self yet because I was more into using it while my boyfriend and I have sex since I previously could only orgasm from penetration. (Unfortunately, that alone doesn’t do the trick anymore) I’ve never used any kind of toy before and I’m worried about bringing it up to my boyfriend that I want to use it while we have sex. I don’t want him to feel bad or self conscious but I haven’t orgasmed in so long and I really need this😫 how do i nonchalantly bring it out and into the bedroom as to not hurt his feelings? Submitted April 21, 2020 at 11:44PM So after having to reorder my very first toy I’ve ever purchased (yes, someone actually stole my package containing a vibrator off my front porch) it finally arrived and I got to it before the neighbor...

We’ve been together for about 8 months and the sex is way better than I’ve had in the past, but he’s just not that into foreplay which sucks for me because I definitely am. I’ve never really been a fan of being eaten out, but I love being fingered. Like a lot of people with vaginas, I can’t cum during sex unless there’s clit action. He just doesn’t seem as into is as I’d like for him to be. We’ve talked about it, and he has told me he much prefers PIV and just wants to get to that part ASAP. Which is fine, but that sucks for me because it takes me on average 20 minutes to cum by myself and I very rarely cum when I’m with him. I think part of me not being able to cum is me being scared that he’s not enjoying the part of sex that is just focusing on me and pleasuring me, and him telling me he just wants to get to PIV quickly kind of confirms that fear. Once he was fingering me and when he moved his hand I moved him back and told him not to stop. I repeated that a couple of times befo...

I'll start. I have a bra and bra strap falling fetish, so I enjoy when my partner wears her bra and the straps are falling. I enjoy running my hands around her bra, and playing with the straps (pushing them down and pulling them back up) as we have sex Submitted April 21, 2020 at 11:45PM I'll start. I have a bra and bra strap falling fetish, so I enjoy when my partner wears her bra and the straps are falling. I enjoy running my hands around her bra, and playing with the straps (pushing them down and pulling them back up) as we have sex

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So I (m37) have been seeing a woman (f32) for a couple months. I really enjoy her company but the sex for me has been very underwhelming. I haven't finished a single time yet. This has been an issue for me occasionally in the past but it seems to be getting ridiculous. I dont know what to do... the last few times I have been marathon multi hours session and I haven't even come close. She seems to really be enjoying herself and gets off multiple times but I know its starting to bother her that I haven't. I dont know what to do. Because it is beginning to feel like a huge burden I've avoided the opportunity to have sex a couple times. I'm feeling very stressed about this. When I'm alone I can get there so I dont think it's a medical thing and I tried to avoid masturbation for a few weeks and it made no difference. Any advice would be appreciated. Submitted April 21, 2020 at 11:52PM So I (m37) have been seeing a woman (f32) for a couple months. I really ...

The title basically covers it, but here’s a little more detail. My husband is the only sexual partner I’ve ever had, so I don’t have any experience kissing anyone else. He’s more experienced, but when we were chatting about this he said he thinks he’s always been a bad kisser. We basically just decided we’re both terrible at it. I enjoy the act and want to do it more, but I think it could be so much better. It basically just feels really clumsy when we get our tongues in each other’s mouths. How do we get better when neither of us can teach each other? Submitted April 21, 2020 at 11:54PM The title basically covers it, but here’s a little more detail. My husband is the only sexual partner I’ve ever had, so I don’t have any experience kissing anyone else. He’s more experienced, but when we were chatting about this he said he thinks he’s always been a bad kisser. We basically just decided we’re both terrible at it.I enjoy the act and want to do it more, but I think it could be so ...

My girlfriend told me that she would rather not have sex anymore because it's painful and is very uncomfortable for her. We have tried many positions and places, but there are very few times where it's been enjoyable for her with most times being painful. I'm not against us not having sex because I don't mind going without it. It did hurt to hear that from her because it made me feel somewhat incompetent. I think I have a rather large package and that seems to be contributing to the problem. I can make her orgasm with my hand and by oral rather easily, but when it comes to actual sex there doesn't seem to be any chance. She says that it's not me and tries to reassure me, but there is no way to know because I'm the only guy she's had sex with more than once and her first time was horrible. I just want to know if anyone else has gone through this and if they ever found a solution because I feel like absolute crap about this and don't have anyone to...

Im a virgin (19f) and my girlfriend (19f) and i wish to have our first time, how do i get ready? do I just let her take over (shes top) ? and where would be a good place to lose my v-card? Submitted April 22, 2020 at 12:01AM Im a virgin (19f) and my girlfriend (19f) and i wish to have our first time, how do i get ready? do I just let her take over (shes top) ? and where would be a good place to lose my v-card?

This is actually more of a fun post, that came to mind because of a problem I have that I can't really fix. I speak three languages fluently, and find it kind of frustrating I CANNOT dirty talk in my native language. Something about it just makes it seem ridiculous. It's never sexy or flirty, to me it sounds like those old creepy guys online who can't flirt. This probably stems from me knowing how dirty talk works with the other two languages, and I always feel that by comparison English and Spanish are way easier to do it. But I can't just stay switching between languages in the middle of sex (expect with my ex, who spoke five languages). It kind of sucks because I am often taken by that weird guy who doesn't say anything during sex. Since this is a silly frustration I can't solve, I thought it might be interesting to see if anyone has an expression/dirty talk they use in their native language, but when translated just seems ridiculous Submitted April 22...

I [F26] managed with a guy [M26] on Hinge at the beginning on March and we got on straight away. We exchanged numbers but pretty much straight away my country went into lockdown. Since then we’ve had 3 video calls, several phone calls, and we’ve watched a film together. We now text everyday but it’s often just a few texts to checkin in the evening. We’ve spoken about meeting up and it feels flirty and nice without being intense. I feel myself becoming quite attached to him. I really look forward to our video/phone calls and his texts. Realistically it could be at least a month before we get to meet and I’m worried about becoming too attached. Occasionally a thought creeps into my head that he could be calling loads of girls, whereas I’ve stopped talking to people on dating apps just because I’ve lost interest in persueing other people. I also have no idea what he’s looking for, I’m only assuming he is looking for a relationship. Does anyone have any advice on how to control my atta...

Pretty much title, it’s hard to feel like I’m ever going to be worth somebody investing in. I’ve lost 80 pounds, I go to college, I’ve held down a job, I have decent clothes, and people enjoy being around me but none of this has ever helped me. I have had tinder for 8 months and obviously I haven’t been very active lately but still yet I have had 0 dates and like 6 matches in that time. Girls that I’m friends with don’t want me either, Anything beyond a platonic friendship isn’t possible. I don’t blame women for not wanting me and I don’t really feel bitter or angry about it, I wouldn’t want me either. I’ve realized that I have nothing to offer anyone that would make them want me in a relationship. Im so fucking ugly that I can’t even look at myself in the mirror, my mom and sister both told me that I’m a solid 2/10 and I have always been the center of jokes regarding my appearance. My therapist asked me to try and find something that I’m grateful for about myself and I can’t do it....

I am 21F, straight, and I seek your wisdom. I have always been very emotional, so it can be very obvious when I like someone. The problem is that some people have taken advantage of this, and have hurt me deeply. So, I have tried working on controlling my emotions to protect myself. Yet there are limits to how much can be done (I have the composure of a 9 year old). As a result, I have simply become increasingly shy. Well, it’s more than that. Now, I am essentially terrified to make a move on people I like. Here’s the latest example to date, which still saddens me: I met a guy at a party in January, he was lovely, we ended up talking all night. I was delighted to wake up to his friend request on Facebook the next day. I would regularly bump into him at uni (we’re students), and my attraction to him grew everyday. Meanwhile my friends grew frustrated at me, prompting me to “ask him out for God sake”. Yet, the thought of it terrified me. So I kept making excuses to avoid asking him ou...

I havnt been on a date in 4 years. We want to meet on Friday, I know there’s a pandemic but phase 1 opening is Monday and I start work Monday so I figured a few days before shouldn’t be a big deal. Please no judgements. What could we do that would still be fun so we could talk and not feel awkward? I live near Denver. We are meeting at around lunch time most likely. Any suggestions welcome! Oh and he’s a police officer which is a new on for me Submitted April 21, 2020 at 11:54PM I havnt been on a date in 4 years. We want to meet on Friday, I know there’s a pandemic but phase 1 opening is Monday and I start work Monday so I figured a few days before shouldn’t be a big deal. Please no judgements. What could we do that would still be fun so we could talk and not feel awkward? I live near Denver. We are meeting at around lunch time most likely. Any suggestions welcome! Oh and he’s a police officer which is a new on for me

My roommate always wants to sleep with me overnight in my bed and it’s getting kind of annoying. I am a 25 yo male and I have a 23 yo old female roommate and when it’s nighttime she always comes into my room and wants to cuddle and sleep over with me overnight on my bed. We haven’t had sex or kissed or anything so there’s none of that going on, only cuddling. At first I allowed it because I thought it was only going to be a quick lay down and cuddle and I didn’t want to be rude and say no which might make things awkward, but then instead of a quick cuddle she stayed and slept with me overnight and now every night she’s been coming into my bed and cuddling and sleeping with me without even asking if I was okay with it. My lease doesn’t end until another 6 months and I don’t want to tell her to stop in fear that it might make things awkward between us and cause tension when I can’t move out until 6 months, what should I do? Submitted April 21, 2020 at 11:56PM My roommate always wa...

I was just thinking of all the information I have read about the coronavirus..can we become chronically ill after covid19? Is this what was hide from us? The WHO said yesterday that only 2-3% of the world population was infected 😯 and so it’s too early to reopen but maybe they create the virus not to kill us but to make us chronically ill..that’s a bigger income compared to the vaccine... some scientists out there finds pieces of HiV in the genome of coronavirus so practically if you got infected you will be forever ill, the same like hiv patients... Submitted April 21, 2020 at 11:58PM I was just thinking of all the information I have read about the coronavirus..can we become chronically ill after covid19? Is this what was hide from us? The WHO said yesterday that only 2-3% of the world population was infected 😯 and so it’s too early to reopen but maybe they create the virus not to kill us but to make us chronically ill..that’s a bigger income compared to the vaccine... some s...

So basically, I [25 F] matched this guy [29 M] on a dating site and we talked a bit before the lockdown. We were going to meet but cancelled it due to the pandemic. We usually replied back and forth every other day or so, and found we had lots in common. During the lockdown, we are still messaging but the messages from him are once a week and just checking in. See what I’ve been up to, and he says ‘I’m really looking forward to meeting you when we can meet up.’ Now I’m suddenly worried that the fact that he only messages once a week is a bad sign. He apologises and says he’s not much a fan of texting before we’ve met. What do you think? Submitted April 22, 2020 at 12:04AM So basically, I [25 F] matched this guy [29 M] on a dating site and we talked a bit before the lockdown. We were going to meet but cancelled it due to the pandemic. We usually replied back and forth every other day or so, and found we had lots in common.During the lockdown, we are still messaging but the mess...

I'm the newest edition to my girlfriend's polycule--she's been dating one man for 11 years, the other for 5 years. I had an abusive childhood that culminated in murder/suicide and me ending up in foster care (I aged out and was never adopted). I've dated a string of almost exclusively abusive NPD men (mirroring my dad) and much of my adulthood has really just been struggling to survive with zero familial support and a host of mental illnesses and trauma from growing up. I've been in therapy for over a decade and found anti-depressant meds only a year ago that really help. At 27, I'm realizing that I'm probably gay, and this girl is... really, really fuckin' great. So great, in fact, that I'm kinda scared shitless. Obviously, I know the existing relationships aren't perfect and everyone struggles. But they talk about doing all these really sweet things for each other. She bakes these awesome custom cakes for her partners' birthdays, plans lo...

i'm sorry for how long this is and thank you for taking the time to help me. i (19F) have really bad trust and commitment issues. it started when i was young with no relationship with my dad, to when i was raped last year, to a couple months ago when i found out my ex boyfriend raped my best friend in MY house when i was ASLEEP. i've never had a great relationship with men to begin with, my father was an alcoholic and was never around, i used to be really bothered by it but i've come to peace with it so it doesn't bother me anymore. everyone was surprised when i got my first boyfriend (20M) and we were together for almost 3 years. we did everything together and i truly thought he was my soulmate even when we took a break in June of last year, during that time i was sad as hell, he still came around because he was friends with my family and it was summer so we were always at my moms friends lake house, during that time i had downloaded tinder, met up with someone and g...

She either responds to my snaps after like 10 minutes and talks to me. Or it’s like 15-30 hours which to me seems ridiculous. My senses are telling me she’s just a tease and wants the attention. She’s constantly active, I know this because she always posts on her stories. Weirdest thing is her messages aren’t blunt and boring she plays along with convo but she will suddenly stop messaging me and then go on a 15-30 hour ignore period. She isn’t leaving me on read just delivered. Lads and lady’s what do u think. Is she playing mind games/hard to get. Does she not want to seem to needy. Is she testing me to see how I would react, to see if I would start behaving needy. Or is she just a attention seeker. Part of me wants to be petty and just ignore her for like a week. Other part says just let her go she ain’t worth the time and effort thinking about it all. Submitted April 22, 2020 at 12:12AM She either responds to my snaps after like 10 minutes and talks to me. Or it’s like 15-30 ...